Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following e-mail from a reader whom we’ll call “Filippa.”
I’ve been reading Lovefraud for years. I’ve also been in a legal battle with the ex that has been clinically diagnosed as narcissist, OCD, paranoid that has a father of the same, with millions who loves to be in legal battles for sport, and whose motto is, “I’ll show you how to screw over an ex-wife.”
Yesterday, seven years later, we finally went to trial. Yesterday, I figured it out ”¦ releasing all his obligations to me, means I free myself of him ever having any more control to manipulate the legal system to harass me or my children. I gave up $150K for full legal and physical custody. He cares only about the money. I care only about our children.
I won!
What I have learned is that I’m smarter and more resilient then I ever realized. For the past seven years I’ve survived this lunatic and his toxic family system and their use of the legal system by proxy to haunt, harass and assassinate my character as well as our children’s, alienating them from even their grandparents. Now that I don’t have to deal with them anymore, I am free to use the same power and energy creating abundance.
Even though, temporarily, I often can’t buy food, and struggle to pay my rent, I am already blessed with abundance; all of my four children are responsible, compassionate, hard working, perceptive, self-driven, loyal, and protective of each other. No typical teen rebellion, or out-of-control behavior. They are filled with wisdom, grace, forgiveness, and humor, so beautifully hard-working, and talented.
Thank you for your insights and willingness to commit yourself to bringing these brilliant people together to share their heartache. Their profoundly transparent stories kept me sane all these years. I wasn’t alone. I didn’t even have to share, though I did under an alias. Reading their stories was like reading my own. I didn’t have to explain, but when I did, the support was profound. I’ve been to therapy. Nothing compares to the healing and support I’ve felt from this site.
She is a wonderful girl and I pray for her all the time.
I think you are going to really like the book.
You are right: if anyone deserves to have a successful book, it’s that WONDERFUL girl!
Happy Sunday to you Star.
And to you too, Dupey! I have only read the first 20 pages or so, and tears are leaking out of my eyes the whole time. What an inspiration she is.
She is a very strong girl.
We all have a lot to learn from her about strength and resilience.
There is no amount of justice that can repair what had happened to her.
I am so happy she is back home with her Mom. Back to her life. That poor girl had her childhood stolen from her by monsters. And, she still was speaking nice and gently.
It took me a long time to work up the courage to watch the whole interview with Dianne Sawyer. It struck such a deep nerve in me. When I finally did, I could so completely understand her. I pray for her always and wish her the best.
What an absolute and complete inspiration she is.
Dupey
Star and Dupey,
I looked at the book online and started to read it. I felt I was going to vomit and had to stop. I can’t read anymore of it.
Her description of her abductor laughing and saying, “I can’t believe I got away with it.” sent chills through me. It opens a window into how these creatures think. He knew he’d likely get caught but he didn’t care. Those 18 years were a cherry on top for him. There is no punishment severe enough for him, because he can’t feel. The only appropriate punishment is to lobotomize him and send him out into society as a warning to others like him.
sky: I thought HE died in prison from cancer and the wife is still loose. That’s what I heard. I could be wrong. I try not to follow these things too closely because they completely screw me up when I hear about this crap. But that’s what I thought I heard, that HE died in prison and the old witch is still free.
He stole that little girl and ruined her life.
But that’s how sick predators like that are.
A lot of them get away with it.
Isn’t that scary to think?
Skylar,
Respectfully, I am reminded of a saying my parents taught me…..
He who laughs last, laughs longest.
She is free, despite the horror that she has undergone.
He will rot…
yeh, F*”K him I say
Dupey,
no he is still alive. they are both in prison.
Strongawoman,
I know you are right, Jaycee has been vindicated. What is frustrating is that I know he still doesn’t get that what he did is wrong. He is living in his own fantasy like he always did.
In a sense, he lobotomized himself. He doesn’t use the part of his brain that would allow him to see reality and feel remorse for what he did.
That’s why it is impossible to punish him. The only use for a spath, is as an example of how not to be.
What was wrong with his wife that she knew and helped him? Way I see it, he had her controlled and manipulated too.
I don’t know, I could be wrong, but I think she is a free bird.
If she is, she certainly doesn’t deserve to be.
What prevents her from doing this again to someone else?
Aren’t we, as a law abiding society, with some morals and humanity, to be insured safety, no matter if the harm is done psychologically and/or physically and/or financially. Sometimes the non financial is the most devastating.
I wish I could take Jaycee in my arms and tell her that everything is going to be alright. That the monster is gone. But she is so resolved that she doesn’t need my hugs, I am sure. Resilience. She never forgot who she was. That is the point to it all; isn’t it? Just like us, we can’t forget who we are in all of this. We know who we are and everything about us. We know what we are made of and what we stand for and believe in. People can take away a lot from us but they can’t take that away.
He is rotting, strongawoman and that is where deserves to be, no matter Jaycee’s extreme graciousness and gentleness.
I wish I could be like her. She is one of my heroes.
Dupey
sky: thanks. I did not know.
Good: they both deserve to be where they are, for sure!
Somehow prison time doesn’t seem to justify the wrong
that has been done in this situation. Just like I know I
will never seen any justification or recognition for what
has happened to me, although it certainly has. I just
don’t think that there are enough punishments befitting
some crimes and this is one of the lowest, in my estimation.
Thanks skylar for updating me…
May they both rot in hell.
Dupey
Dupey,
you are like Jaycee. You survived. You, like this incredible woman, said “No, my life is not going to be defined by a monster”
Here in the UK it has been the tenth anniversary of the horrific murder of two girls, Holly Wells and Jessica Chapman. The evil being that perpretated that act is behind bars for 40 years at least. But my point is I watched a documentary to commemorate the ten year anniversary and Holly Wells Mum said she wasn’t going to let the murder of her child destroy her. She said it had taken a large part of her life but she was moving forward.
You know dear friends, that had a massive effect upon me. What bravery, what courage. Words cannot convey my total admiration for that woman.
You’re right Sky…..what use is the spath? Even the most reviled creatures in nature have a purpose. Wasps….they eat maggots I believe. What eats spaths?