This week the Connecticut Medical Examining Board restored me to the full practice of medicine. Due to the fact that my ex-husband Barry Lichtenthal impersonated a physician and examined female patients in a clinic that I directed, my license was restricted. I am not going to retell the full story today but I am going to comment on some things I have kept silent about. For more details of the story you can read Barry Lichtenthal: Sexual predator ruins the career of Dr. Liane Leedom. Donna Andersen is an excellent journalist and did her own investigation in order to report the story. She uncovered details even I was unaware of.
I want to address the question of whether or not I was Barry’s “accomplice” and the question of what I was aware of in terms of the goings on. The precise answer to the question is that I was an unwitting accomplice. I knew that he told people he was a retired doctor and that he called himself “Dr. Taylor.”
This behavior on his part began shortly after the clinic opened. The first I was aware of it was when I was negotiating a contract with an insurance company. He got on the other line and started schmoozing with the executive. I do not remember exactly what he said but he told the man he was a retired doctor and proceeded to tell funny and entertaining stories. Although I laughed, I was disgusted at this because it seemed infantile on his part and a waste of time. I did not understand this was his “foot in the door” with me and these stories.
I correctly recognized these stories as being pathological lies (pseudologica fantastica). However, I did not understand that all people who are pathological liars are predators. I am now sure that this is the case, though if you read the Mask of Sanity by Dr. Hervey Cleckley, he says that not all pathological liars are psychopaths.
I thought Barry told these stories because he has an ego problem and was threatened by his wife’s status. Again that interpretation was correct, but again I missed the significance of it. I let it go because I thought his pathological lies were harmless entertaining stories that no one really believed any way. Several patients indicated to me they were aware that the stories were entertaining fabrications.
I never told anyone Barry was a doctor. In fact I told every patient I was the only physician at the practice. I realize now this must have been very upsetting and confusing for some people who were being told one thing by me and another thing by Barry. Since he is a professional con artist who do you think was believed?
Because of this terrible judgment on my part, I deserved all the punishment that I received. Since I was part of other people’s victimization, I sought to do everything I could to make amends. The victims were compensated by my malpractice insurance carrier after I provided hours of truthful testimony regarding what happened. The officials of the insurance company believed my explanation that I never intended any fraudulent or criminal activity. I made the wrong decision regarding coping with my husband’s story telling.
Shortly after Barry’s arrest, I had the good fortune to speak with Annie Mcguire from fraudaid.com. It was she who made me aware of Donna Andersen. She and I also had a discussion of the unwitting accomplices of psychopaths. She said this is very common and pointed out that psychopaths could not do what they do without witting and unwitting accomplices. She has written step by step instructions for what to do if you are the unwitting accomplice to financial fraud.
I am speaking out about the fact that I was an unwitting accomplice to fraud to help to bring attention to this phenomenon. Psychopaths con and manipulate people into helping them do their dirty work and sometimes also into doing their dirty work for them. If we can raise public awareness of psychopathy and stop non-psychopaths from helping psychopaths we will be able to do a great deal of prevention. Do not ever help a psychopath in any way or you will be tricked into becoming an accomplice.
Now that gets me to telling the rest of the story. You might be wondering, “What ever happened to Barry Lichtenthal?” It is no surprise that he went to Connecticut State prison where he continued to tell his pathological lies. Prison staff members became his unwitting accomplices when they too did not prevent him from calling himself “doctor” or “doc.”
A law enforcement official told me that it was not illegal for Barry to call himself “doctor” in prison. He said this after I verbally reprimanded him for allowing this to go on. I told him I believe prisoners like Barry need to have a special designation “psychologically dangerous” so that prison staff will not be psychologically harmed by them. It seems odd that if a prisoner is more physically dangerous than average, staff members are warned, but there is no appreciation of the concept of psychological dangerousness.
Now enter another set of accomplices, family members. Even after they knew that Barry is what he is because I told them while also fully explaining the concept of psychopathy; and even after they witnessed his destruction of my life, members of his family participated in his seduction of his next woman. They sent her flowers on his behalf while he was incarcerated. They also did nothing to warn her even though I begged them to.
I was told by inside sources that the prison nurse who married Barry at one point believed he was a doctor. But I have not spoken with her myself to verify this. Donna and I have known about Barry’s new relationship because we both received letters from him while he was incarcerated, and the letters were not all stamped with the prison stamp. I received several letters addressed in a woman’s handwriting and postmarked “Hartford, CT.” Upon seeing the letters I knew that he had yet another person manipulated. I did my own investigation and found out he married a nurse who worked in the prison.
Donna and I did not write about our investigation of Barry and his marriage to the prison nurse because although I have all the documentation of the events that went on in the prison, we have no proof Barry and the nurse were actually married. Donna is a very good journalist and you can trust that she will not tell a story without possessing proof. For more information regarding Barry’s recent activities see Probation department wants access to sex offender’s computer
I pray every day that Barry, now in his 60s has mellowed and become less predatory. I believe that the best person to deal with him is an experienced prison nurse so I hope that situation is going well. I also pray there will be no more victims and no more accomplices.
Congratulations on your reinstatement to the good graces of the Connecticut Medical Examining Board, Dr. Leedom.
At least one more thing that was wrong, made right.
And much appreciation for all you do in your pursuit to help raise public awareness, my personal crusade, as well.
Dear Liane,
First off, congratulations on finally getting the lisense issue completely cleared up.
Secondly, congratulations on moving on with your life, and for reaching out to help others move on with theirs.
I disagree with you in one instance, I don’t think that “experienced prison nurse” is in any better or even as good a shape to deal with Barry than any one else, possibly worse. If she was “running on all cylinders” or with a “complete knowledge” of what she is dealing with (even though she may know some FACTS she couldn’t know the REAL story and still have married him) Unfortunately, I think BECAUSE she is a prison nurse (or was) she THINKS she knows more than she actually does, and that makes her even much more vulnerable to Barry’s lies and manipulation.
It doesn’t surprise me though that he did cozy up to her while he was in prison and marry her—I can almost see my own son doing the same thing. I know my P son had an affair with a female Major on one of his units once, and she was quite attractive and bright. I even saw them in the visiting room together once when I visited, and you could feel the sexual tension between them as they looked at each other. I am actually surprised that they didn’t get caught. She was risking a felony charge as well as losing her career for the affair since he was a prisoner and “under her control”–why for goodness sakes would an intelligent and attractive young woman with a husband and family RISK IT ALL for sex with a convict? My P-son isn’t even that good looking any more, but I know he can be CHARMING. I just don’t understand it unless it is the HIGH FROM THE RISK TAKING!
No, Liane, I think that nurse has got to be either a very naive woman victim, or she’s not much better than he is. As you have said and I believe well know, many times they will “hook up” with people almost as bad as they are and then you get a real explosive human BOMB! Gasoline and Fire! I don’t think Barry has any more chance of staying out of trouble after his release than my P son would. A few months at most before he goes back to prison for another crime!
If nothing else, though, Liane, you’ve paid your “tuition” to the University of Hard Knocks, and the lessons you have learned, combined with your medical credentials and license will give you a “bully pulpit” on which to stand and to be HEARD and RECOGNIZED as the expert that you are in this field, both professionally and personally. You understand the view of a psychopath from BOTH SIDES now. For my “money” that makes you TOP OF THE LINE to teach about, to spread the word about, and to be a credible witness against their EVIL!
TOWANDA for you, Liane! And, I want to say a personal thank you for your articles and support here at Love Fraud. God bless you and spread your message of THERE IS HOPE AFTER A PSYCHOPATH.
Dear Liane,
I have read many of your entries here on L.F. and they have given me great strength and insight. I too have suffered from having a “legal” issue because of my ex. I know ONE day it will be over, but in the meantime I’m still struggling to rectify it.
I am happy for you that you have been reinstated.
We all need to remember, “And this too, shall pass”.
Peace Sisters.
Dear Dr. Leedom,
Your news is good – yeh! You have been down a LONG ROAD, one that you didn’t deserve to be on. I am happy for you, being “restored to the full practice of medicine” by the state of Connecticut. I won’t say anything about your ex-husband because my comments would not be nice, ladylike. May you just move forward, receiving many blessings from above.
Liane,
I know what a long, hard road it’s been for you to be restored to the practice of medicine. You have reached a milestone, and you are to be acknowledged and congratulated for it.
In my view, not one “expert” in psychopathy knows more than you. All those academics sit cozily in their ivory towers, evaluating psychopaths based on written reports, or sitting in a prison interview room, with the big red panic button nearby, just in case things get a little tense.
You have been directly subjected to a psychopath’s manipulation. You have suffered greatly due to his predatory deception. You know what it’s really like to tangle with these creatures.
Now, based upon your experience and you academic study, you are in a position to really inform the world about the true nature of the disorder. I am sure you will take your place among the great educators of the mental health field.
Liane,
I asked this on another thread, but wanted to get your thoughts on this. Donna is right about the fact that your “perspective” is UNIQUE and offers GREAT value here.
So this is what I wrote.
Is anyone else like me and KNOWS all we have learned here on LF”UNDERSTANDS how these snakes work and YET something inside us thinks that maybe, just maybe something will change and that our ex is just a borderline case and he’ll be able to work on fixing his issues”..I have one who talks about being aware of his “problem—”goes to counseling ”.YES I KNOW—What I’m saying is that DESPITE what I know and I could talk about endlessly and DESPITE what I would “advise” anyone else with my situation, I have a tough time accepting that he is a hopeless case. That he TRULY can’t love. That he truly has NO remorse, blah, blah
Anyone else like me?
Dear Dr. Leedom, thanks for sharing your victory! A great moment in life getting back what never should have been taken away from you! Your first hand experience, vey dearly payed for gives you the power of teaching this so neglected field of psychiatry.
I have been to an exhibition about Picasso, a classic Psychopath (in my opinion), as he was expoiting all his women and moving effortlessly to the next, creating a new style with evrey “new love”. (his famous quote is: “Women are either goddesses or doormats”). He was also famous for his stare and charms.
C.G. Jung did an analysis by “reading” his paintings as psychiatrist. He did draw the right conclusion, that Picasso was choosing the dark side of his soul and chose evil and went to the “dark side of life” to show it, but then he diagnosed him as having “Schizophrenia” what is not true of course. Picasso heard no voices, had no inner world hermetically closed he lived in, and he was perfectly integrated in “our” world and a famous artist even at that time. C.G. Jung got very harsh critics for his “diagnosis”. I read numerous articles about that topic, but no author connected the dots. They all mocked C.G. Jung for his dislike of the new art, talking the language of the “old establishment”.
Your work of education is of most importance! Congratulations.
Dr. Leedom, congratulations!!! This is really great news!
Thank you for being here to help us with your wonderful articles.
Dr. Leedom,
What strikes me most about your story is your willingness to take responsibility for your own part, even though you were very clearly conned. I admire this very much. I feel that it is not until we take personal responsibility for our own actions that we can move on from feeling victimized, no matter how egregious the crime. Even if we are not responsible for what another person does, we are responsible for how we respond and how we recover. I really admire your strength after everything you have been through, and I’m glad you got your license back!
As for the conman pretending he’s a doctor in prison….well, I’m sure there are a lot of inmates there who would love to play doctor with him. *evil laugh*
Thank you Liane for sharing the story, it’s amazing. That is 1 of the most frustrating things to see People continuing to assist the psychopath in his cons. Perhaps this is where we should focus our area of study. If we can figure out how to cut off the psychopath supplies, We will achieve more progress than if we try to stop it psychopath individually. This method applies the model we use in medicine when trying to the eradicate a virus or parasite. Rather than try to cure each individual infection we use of vaccine or profilactic to prevent infection.