By Ox Drover
In the last few years the national media have picked up several stories of psychopaths using their children as weapons to inflict severe emotional damage to the nurturing parent. In the “Clark Rockefeller” case, the man posing as a member of the Rockefeller family kidnapped his daughter from a supervised visitation and held her hostage for several days before he was found.
Another case featured here in a Lovefraud article was about Dr. Amy Castillo’s three children being murdered by her husband to inflict punishment on her after she had warned the judge that her ex-husband had made this very threat. In spite of this, the judge let the psychopath have unsupervised visitation with these children and the he carried out the threat.
Baby Gabriel
In December of 2009, I saw on Fox News the story of baby Gabriel Johnson, reported missing by his father, Logan McQueary, after the mother, Elizabeth Johnson, had fled with the baby.
Gabriel’s mother, in typical psychopathic style, tried to inflict emotional pain on the baby’s father by threatening in phone calls to McQueary to kill the child. Later, Johnson called the baby’s father and told him that she had smothered the infant to get back at him. This call set off a search for her and/or the infant. Johnson was captured several days later, but there was no sign of the baby, Gabriel. McQueary was granted, after the fact, custody of the missing baby by the courts.
In custody, Johnson told various contradictory tales of what happened to the baby. A person she had met on Craig’s List who had been hired to watch the baby during her flight from law enforcement was contacted and interviewed and indicated the baby appeared ill and may have been drugged during the short time she babysat with him.
Finally, Johnson came up with the story that she had given the baby to a couple in a park and she did not know their names or where they were from. Subsequent evidence seems to back up this story and the child may indeed be in the illegal custody of a couple, who surely by this time, know that they have a kidnapped child, but have not come forward to return the child.
No love for children
While not every psychopathic parent of a child with a nurturing parent goes to the lengths of the above referenced psychopaths to torture the nurturing parents, it is an indication that psychopaths have no love or concern for their children. Psychopaths will use those children to emotionally torture the nurturing parent, who does care about the welfare of the children.
Many parents here on Lovefraud have indicated the emotional torture that they have experienced in concern over their children when the children are in the custody of their psychopathic co-parent. Children are frequently alienated from the nurturing parent, child support is frequently uncollectable, and at best, children are left wondering “Why doesn’t my (parent) love me? What is wrong with me that my (parent) doesn’t come see me?”
It is apparent from the number of times that judges decree that a child should be given visitation with a psychopathic parent, or given into custody of the psychopathic parent, that the family court system does not understand the danger to the children involved in the contact with these destructive people.
It will only be with education of the lawyers and judges about psychopathy that there is even a chance this current situation may change and children may be protected from the violence of emotional and physical abuse by these disordered parents. Parents, in my opinion, should have no rights, but children do and should have “rights” to be protected from abuse from any source, especially psychopathic parents.
ErinBrock,
My daughter is 16 years old. I wrote an e-mail to my attorney about daughter’s thoughts. I am seriously disturbed. I gave my attorney all bank statements on Thursday last week. (included were taxes and wealth statements)
I will call her therapist and let her know my daughter’s thoughts. I pray that they remove him from the home, it has all been in the gray area so CPS haven’t been called. Husband is at home so I will call as soon as I’m out of the house.
He is a sex addicted freak, but hides it and won’t admit it. Kind of like Verity’s ex. When she discribed her ex, it reminded me of my husband.
Thanks for the advice, I take it all seriously, I just wish it were easy to get him gone! I really feel paranoid with him here.
Ox,
Thanks. It gets more bizarre daily.
I wish I could comrehend it, but I just can not.
There is so much in the world and I just can not.
I can just say, it was his choice. He made this happen.
For whatever reason he saw fit.
I will never know what is true other than its been rough on me and taken so many moons to get nowhere.
Cluster is relevant as a word here, isn’t it???
Dear Silvermoon,
Pardon my being crude but “cluster” is relevant if you add the F-word after it! You know, actually it is almost humerous if it wasn’t so TWISTED, this is probably the only place in the world on the net or maybe in real life that the people here would BELIEVE your story WITHOUT QUESTION! LOL ROTFLMAO even my therapist and my new attorney had to have PROOF THAT MY STORY WASN’T A DELUSION!!!!! Sheesh! I can look back and laugh at that now, but at the time I was irrational but my story was TRUE!
Someone famous (cant remember who) once said that an ABNORMAL response to an abnormal situation is normal, or something to that effect anyway! CRS! In any case, if you were not bumfuzzled by all this you would not be normal, so I think that proves you are normal, whatever that means!
I guess I’m just getting to the point that I don’t give a chit about much of it any more (what is past is past) it no longer frames or defines WHO I AM. I’m no longer “that crazy woman with the crazy sons and the crazy story” any more, I’m no longer the “poor woman whose husband burned to death” and I’m no longer “that woman that …..” I am simply “the Ox Drover” now! Or that “mouthy old woman who lives back in the woods” or “that woman with the big jackasses and the hat with all the feathers!” or any number of things that are MUCH MORE DESCRIPTIVE OF ME than “that poor woman that…” or “that crazy woman that….”
It’s been a long time getting there, in DEFINING who I am now, and through the years I’ve had lots of definitions of WHO I am or was, but none of those earlier things apply any more….just like I am not that “Young girl that….” any longer, I am no longer “that poor old woman that…”
UPDATE ON BABY GABRIEL CASE:
http://www.kpho.com/news/25361989/detail.html
Notice that this woman says She’d rather stay in jail than let her son go back to his biological father.
This woman sounds to me like the woman in the story of King Solomon who wanted to “cut the baby in half” if she couldn’t have him.
Thanks for the update. She is just horrible.
I hope the baby does get back to his father.
The mysterious couple in the park never found…
that’s weird. “The truth is stranger than fiction”.
Here’s an interesting case.
Recent news……
http://www.tahoebonanza.com/article/20101013/NEWS/101019978&parentprofile=search
Things are not always what they seem…..
It seems this womans local news and community has this story, but national news is reporting a ‘solved’ parental kidnapping of 25 years….not much ‘behind’ the ‘kidnapping’.
I’ll tell ya……I’d of done the same thing to protect my kids!
EB,
I agree, the woman came forward because her daughter wanted to get married. What sociopath do you know that would do that? it wouldn’t even occur to them to do something that would benefit someone else – ridiculous!
LIke King Solomen, who tested the 2 women who claimed to be the baby’s mom, you can tell who is the sociopath EASILY, they will never do anything to benefit anyone else. They will only do what will cause the most pain to everyone involved – Except for their narcissistic little selves.
As for baby Gabriel’s mom, who knows. She does seem guilty because she said he was dead, but then, when a person is dealing with a P, we will do or say anything to escape. That’s why it’s so important to know and understand every little nuance. it could make or break your case in court. the S’s are so slick and slimey. they spend their entire lives brown nosing cops and judges, so of course they know how to get their way.
I believe the mother and I would have done the same thing myself.
Skylar:
It will be interesting when/how this case unfolds in the NJ courts.
I believe this case has the potential to shed bright light onto the courts, (if handled correctly) and how they award custody to abusive parents and continue to put our kids in danger.
Apparantly, this woman has spent the past 25 years protecting her daughter, participating in their community, volunteering and ‘hiding’ in the open.
In another news report it said, she went to her sisters house initially……in Ca. then fled with daughter when ex came to get the girl.
Her sister and husband were prosecuted and aquitted by the jury.
The whole family has been through hell. I’m sure the mother gave up everything, all family support etc….to protect this child now adult.
I guess we can stay tuned…..