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Psychopaths everywhere?

I have heard it suggested that there may be those who “attract” psychopaths.  It does not matter what the relationship.  Some feel that there are people who are simply prone to involvement with individuals with psychopathic features.  Is this true?  Maybe.  Maybe not.

Why do they feel this way?

Talk to victims.  There are many who have been involved with psychopaths who feel that they are “everywhere.”  The same story keeps happening over and over.  It’s like Ground Hog Day or Fifty First Dates.  Perhaps these victims have had several romantic experiences with psychopaths.  Perhaps they feel many of their family members are psychopaths.  Others report experiencing a variety of different encounters in various areas of life.

On the surface, it may seem like an easy conclusion to come to.  I, on the other hand, believe that we have not even begun to understand just how complicated an issue this really is, which may be influenced by many different factors.  Here are some of my thoughts.

A psychopath “behind every bush?” 

Among the general population, there are not “psychopaths behind every bush.” However, psychopathy does occur along a continuum.  It is a spectrum disorder of sorts.  In other words, one person may exhibit only a few traits of psychopathy.  Another may exhibit some or all.

Therefore, the numbers of troubling individuals may actually be higher than once suspected.  If we only count those who are affected by the disorder as those who fit the criterion for a clinical diagnosis, we are leaving many troubling individuals out of the statistical equation.  That does not mean, however, that they are not present in our lives, wreaking havoc.

What do we do about all of the sub-clinical folks who may be just as troubling and dangerous as those amongst the prison population or those who have created enough of a stir to warrant in-depth assessments?  We may need to take another look at how we decide who is “psychopathic enough” to gain our attention, as many routinely “fly under the radar.”

Once we know about psychopathy and the other Cluster B disorders, we may begin to recognize those with the disorders or a number of their features.

How is psychopathy assessed and why do we care?        

To briefly explain, one of the instruments available for measuring psychopathy is the PCL-R, which was developed by Dr. Robert Hare.  Only trained mental health professionals are to diagnose using this tool.  However, if we look at the checklist items, we are able to decide  for ourselves if we know individuals who exhibit the various behaviors.  If these occur frequently and/or consistently, over time, we may know someone with psychopathy.

With this measure, professional evaluators are able to assign a score ranging from 0 to 40.  Time is beginning to show that this assessment is more successful among some groups of offenders than others.

Non-psychopathic individuals tend to have scores of about a 4 or 5 on the PCL-R.  Survival dictates that we must all possess a small number of traits which allow us to act in our own best interests.  However, do not be confused.  Higher scores likely do not correlate with what is being argued may be adaptive behavior.

The motivations of non-psychopaths are very different from those of psychopaths or those with elevated features.  Disorder and adaptation are two different things.

Understanding the psychopathy “numbers game” is helpful so that we do not become too attached to a score, accepting it as the only thing that matters.

Does the number matter? 

A score of 30 has been established as the cut score for psychopathy, acknowledging a score of 20 as high, and of possible potential concern, but still sub-clinical.  But what about those with scores of 15 or 18?  Not exactly psychopathic, but not  “normal.”  We must acknowledge that we need to look at the facts of cases involving these individuals collaterally.  These individuals may be of great concern as well.  Ask anyone who has dealt with them.

It is also worth noting that how the score was attained may be of importance.

The real world 

So, even if they are not “behind every bush,” understanding the disorder and how these features tend to present should be of great  importance to the general population.  The chances are good that most of us will be at least superficially involved at some point.

The extent of our involvement may vary, depending on many outside variables.  However, I do not think it is safe to suggest that there may be some who  “attract” psychopaths.

Granted, we may need to examine some of our vulnerabilities, train ourselves not to ignore red flags, and control some of our behaviors and responses, but we should not internalize our involvement too much and no one should lay blame on anyone for their involvement.

I have said it before, and I will say it again; we did not choose these people.  We chose the persona they pitched us.

What about the frequency among family members?

Among families, however, the “psychopaths everywhere” concept may be somewhat different.  Science continues to examine whether psychopathy is genetic or environmental.  While it seems that both may play a role, research strongly supports that a genetic component exists.

As a result, it is possible that there are many psychopathic individuals in a particular family.  This does not mean that everyone will be afflicted, but it may mean that there is an over representation of the disorder in a blood line.

Therefore, it is likely that a non-psychopathic family member may feel “surrounded” by psychopaths.  Simply put, the numbers may be far greater than in a family without a predisposition for the condition.  It can be a difficult situation to navigate regardless of the causes.

In the end

Ultimately, it does not matter if psychopaths are “everywhere” or not.  To those involved, even if they are only “somewhere,” the problems tend to be significant.  Whether we are simply more in tune to human behavior, we “attract” them, or we live among more than others due to genetics or rearing tendencies, without an understanding, they can be the most trying people we know.

They have the potential to create problems in our homes, at work, or in our own backyards.  The good is that once we understand their behavior patterns, we can better help ourselves and those we love.


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Zenobia

Hi, There are millions of Co-Dependents everywhere that are easy prey by such personalities like that of very aggressive Carnivorous creatures that hunt passive Omnivores creatures. The Hunters only appear greater in number due to the abundance of more prey available today for such aggressive Beings to branch out further even more across our Society.

Imara

Hey Z
I close to near fell off my chair when I saw your name!!! It is a very familiar cultural name for me!!! I belong to a very small religious group called the Zoroastrians… any affinity with them? My name Imara by the way is the word in Swahili for strength!!! Got it because our local zoo got a baby Rhino and they named her Imara!!!
With regards to your comment, I would say that rather than call all victims co-dependents I would like to rephrase that and say all victims have been deliberately groomed to be compliant prey. It then becomes our job as “Normal” humans to consider what it is about us that allows that predator to enter our lives. Once we embark on that healing journey then our Co-dependency on the predator seems to fall away… It is a terribly hard and arduous journey…and as the wise ones say,the healing is not a destination but rather a process.

Tea Light

Lovely names both, Imara and Zenobia. Co-dependency is a concept I fear pathologises victims of abuse. It is still popular amongst psychoanaysts of various schools to theorise that abuse victims unconsciously chose abusive partners or experiences to satisfy masochistic leanings or because they “gain” from their victimhood in some ways such as enjoying the role of saintly sufferer and so on. This pathologising of those who are subjected to complex manipulations and patterns of abuse which change brain function over time , it does concern me.

Imara

Well Said!!!

I so agree Tea Light! I hate the term co-dependency for the reasons you mentioned…it makes it seem that we chose our course;our being victimized!

fightforwhatsright

Absolutely. It’s a catch all word the puts blame on a victim. Victimizing the victim.

Zenobia

Hi Imara,

Zenobia is my Aunt’s name, and it means “Warrior Queen”. I’ve not studied about Zoroastrians. I’m a practicing Jain. I do agree with how you rephrased my comment:) Thank you!

behind_blue_eyes

My problem with the Hare Checklist is its emphasis on overt or “caught” criminality. Throw in parasitic lifestyle and fully 20 percent of the score may not be applicable to a “white collar” sociopath. Thus, I prefer differentiating psychopaths (classic per the Hare Checklist) vs. sociopaths — those who do not have a criminal history in the classic sense, but may for example violate SEC regulations in the name of “business” or say sell a used car with the clock rolled back… Or may not be criminal at all.

More important, as mentioned in the article, all Cluster-Bs are toxic and they may represent 15% of the general population.

I know this is a touchy subject but speaking as a gay man, both my observation, personal experience and statistics show that the gay community is particularly full of Cluster-Bs. In fact, my relationship with a sociopath was bookmarked by shorter ones (obviously) with Borderlines…

Virtually every time I go out, I experience what is at the very least “toxic” behavior. For example, recently this guy at a bar introduced himself to me. He was not really my type but after talking a bit he seemed like a nice guy. After two hours, I told him that I needed to go home and suggested that we exchange phone numbers — that is when he tells me that he has a boyfriend…

fightforwhatsright

BBE: Your observations about gay men may provide insight about the nature versus nurture discussion.

I believe the scientific research shows that people are born gay. Unfortunately, many cruel and judgmental people in our society do not believe scientific research or what the gay community tells us. These people don’t believe all love is equal and they tend to be ignorant of science. They also refuse to listen.

So many gay people, especially in certain areas of the world, are maligned and bullied and abused. So, perhaps all of that abuse and shaming about who they are, loss of support often when they are ready to tell who they are and whom they love causes some gay people (especially those who lose family support also) to end up with the types of toxic mental illness you feel you experience more often than non-gay people. Let me know if I am not understanding you correctly. But, it sounds like you are frustrated because you feel you are running into more people with personality disorders in the male, gay community. I think abuse from others simply for being gay might play a role in the fact that too many in society do not nurture gay people. Is it possible that might make it more difficult to find a gay person who has been able to become safe and whole inside?

behind_blue_eyes

Fight;

I think it is not only due to society’s shaming of gays, at least historically, but it seems that biological factors that predispose an individual to sociopathy (i.e wonb testosterone levels) also predispose an individual to an individual to homosexuality.

myowngirl

First, I have to say that I love this sight, and I have told so many people about it. I rarely post anything, but today, I do want to add a thing or two. I am finally on the other side of a 50 year saga of being run and ruined by sociopaths. I was raised by a sociopath, but of course, no one knew that was what she was way back then. It took many years and many awful experiences with her before I knew there was something wrong with her. I always knew I couldn’t trust her, that she didn’t really care about me and that I was pretty much on my own. Thankfully, she worked full time, so I was with babysitters and other non-spath relatives most of the time . I had wonderful grandparents,and I had my dad’s personality, not hers. I grew up with love and am able to love, I have a conscience and empathy, so I know I am not a sociopath.

But, before I knew what they were, I married one. My husband and my mother hated each other on sight, because they were the same. Each one wanted control over me, yes I was letting them. It was all I knew. It felt comfortable, it felt right. I am a very intelligent person(or I used to be before peri-menepause started)but kids learn what they live. It seemed right that someone had control over me, ignored me until they wanted something. So I married my mother and had a wild 5 year ride. He cheated on me the whole time, but denied, denied, denied. He tried to make me think I was crazy for questioning him. The make up on the shirt?? Someone brushed against him on their way by, the Virginia Slims cigarrette in the car ashtray, his buddy borrowed them from his mom. Yadda Yadda Yadda. Our first pregnancy, he told me to abort, I said no, leave if you want . He stayed, and continued doing whatever he wanted to do, while threatening me, if you gain 1 more pound, I’m divorcing you.

Then baby number 2 ,2 years later, He really didn’t want that one. He told me he could not do what he wanted to in life with a wife and 2 kids, so as soon as the baby was born, he was leaving. He slept on the couch for the remainder of the pregnancy. But, he stayed, and kept doing whatever he wanted. I kept desperately trying to make our marriage “work”. When the girls were 1 and 3, he didn’t come home for 2 nights in a row. I was sure he was with another woman, but when he came home, he insisted that he had spent the nights in his boss’s basement, there was no other woman, I was crazy!!

Ok, great. I don’t really remember anymore the exact sequence of events, it was 29 years ago, but he had met someone while he was working on a street outside. This person saw him, and brought him a glass of lemonade. He told her he was divorced, his ex was a fat , ugly b****, ect. So, they began dating. She was a stewardess(that’s what they were called back then) She could afford to buy him cowboy boots and gold necklaces. He saw a greener pasture, so he left me and his daughters. It was hard, I fell apart for awhile. Then after a month, he wanted to come back. I agreed to try to reconcile for the girls sake. We spent a weekend together(stewardess was out of town), it went ok. So the next weekend, he told me he was going camping. I balked, we are in a crisis situation here and you are going camping??? Of course, the stewardess I didn’t know about and that he was living with was home that weekend. So the next weekend, same story. That’s when something clicked in me, some shred of self preservation, and I said , we are not getting back together , I am filing for divorce. And I did.

He freaked out, came over and started screaming at me, why?? why won’t you stay??? I was afraid of him, but he didn’t hit me, just started to, then stopped. We had already gone through that in the first year, I fought back, so he quit doing that. He just stuck with the controlling my every move and the emotional abuse to keep my in my place.

The stewardess found the divorce papers and realized he had lied to her about everything, she called me and asked me if it was true that we were jsut divorced a month ago, not a year ago. I told her it was true, she had the court papers in her hand. She said, oh my, it’s like he has a split personality, but I am staying with hem, i’m going to marry him and he will never do to me what he did to you. She did confirm that he cheated the whole time, she even told me where he had gone to pick up women. She was a nice person. Of course, he did the same to her, they divorced. But she kept trying to fix him and spent the rest of his life trying . Get together, split up., over and over. he died of brain cancer right after their daughters wedding. They had reunited that weekend, a month later he died. She put up a FB page for him and says he was the love of her life. ok.

I tried to learn from my mistakes, he had love bombed me, we married 4 months after we met, I never met any of his family, he kept me from my friends, and when he did meet my family, my mother hated him on sight, as much as I had loved hiim at first sight. I started working on myself, read every book I could, Women Who Love Too Much, Smart Women, Foolish Choices. I triedto figure out why I was so needy and would just accept any fool that came down the pike that said ” I love you ” to me. It took another bad choice, for 13 years and 1 son, but he didn’t cheat on me, he wasn’t emotionally abusive, he was just emotionally unavailable. Because of his childhood, alcholic father, etc, he was apit head, and he treated me like a piece of furniture. He only noticed me when he needed clean socks. I stuck with it, because, it was way better thatn the last one. But eventually, I realized I deserved more, that my son deserved at least one parent that was happy and emotionally healthy for his sake. I asked for a divorce, he agreed, it was pretty much drama free until about a month later, when he was awakened from his emotional stupor and wanted to come back. I refused. He backed down, and got together with an old girlfirend.

So, Here I am 13 years later, married to a good man that loves me totally and wildly. It’s been so amazing , he is a true partner. Not perfect, but neither am I. I am whole, happy and enjoying my life. I choose to not have a relationship with my so called mother, a few years ago we found out that she has been cheating on my dad for their whole 50 year marriage, which wasn’t really a 50 year marriege because she secretly divorced him after a seperation. He asked her what about the divorce papers? She said, I’ll take care of it. And she did, she divorced him and kept the final papers from reaching him. My sister was living with them because her husband of 7 years had an affair with a neighbor. So my sister took theri 3 kids and moved into my parents huge house. She knew the signs of a chheating spouse and saw them in our mother. She started investigating and foud out about her fling , she was 73 years old. My dad had no clue, but we found out where they were meeting, and we got proof on video.. Then he believed it. He ordered a copy of their divorce decree because he couldn’t believe that she had fooled him ( and all of us) for 30 years. But she did. Then he remarried her, we begged him not to, but he didn’t have the energy to stand up to her. He never has. He was the perfect cover for her, he worked hard, gave her everything she wanted and never questioned her wherabouts.My father is a very intelligent mand , but no match for her. Her boyfriend was a perfect patsy too. He believed her story of abuse from her husband and was there for her over the years wheenever she wanted him. And there werre other affairs over the years. I used to wonder why she would get so dressed up to go grocery shopping.

So now that I know what she is, my childhood makes sense.. I used to jolingly say I was raised by wolves. Not too far from the truth. So,, yes, a smart person can be taken in more than once by a spath. There all different levels of spaths. I know how to pick them out of a crowd now. I wouldn’t wish my life on anyone, but I lived and learned and decided to not be a victim, but a victor. I’m reading Dr. Phils book, Life Code on my kindle. Most of it I knew, up a refresheer is always good. He got dooped, him of all people, it’s an amusing story as he tells it.

Take heart all of you beautiful ones that have been spathed, there is a wonderfu life that is just waiting for you to create it!! Go and do that for yourself and your loved ones. You deserve it. You can live mostly hapily ever after. (Life is still hard) I should really write a book, there is so much more, but enough already!!

Tea Light

Myowngirl welcome! And what an incredible life you have had, please continue to share with us you have such insight and clarity into your experiences. I have to say, your mother secretly divorcing your father was quite a jaw dropper even after my 6 months now on LF. Peace and love to you and your loving husband.

My own girl – thank you so much for sharing your story. I am glad that you have finally found happiness.

fightforwhatsright

Another very informative and thought-provoking article. Also, very interesting posts.

I believe being shown a false personality in the beginning is the major hook and I can’t fault myself for not knowing yet that there was a large group of people in the world who do that routinely.

However, I do see how I was then drawn into what should have been “deal breakers” after the love bombing and only being shown a normal person. I loaned money to both men in my life whom I can say fit into the range of Sociopath as I have looked at the list of character traits many times. One needed work clothes and it was a loan. The other was much more rude and almost demanded to borrow my credit card for a car emergency. For me, it then became a plan to get my money back and then decide.

Oh no! Another emergency? Well, I’ll get my money back and then decide.

Oh yes! Love bombs. Affection. Dreaming together about a future together. That feels good.

Dad was an abusive, gambling, narcissist and Mom was slave to keeping an eye on him and making his every thought her goal to keep him happy. We were all told that was our goal, too! Make Daddy happy and all will be well….until he brings out the belt or tells you at age 11 that only bad girls paint their finger nails as you paint your little fingers a light pink.

This guy thinks I’m great. He isn’t lowering my self esteem. He is raising it. Oh yes! I like that. Go, endorphins, go!

Uh-oh! This guy is raging and name calling and openly flirting with other women. Bye self esteem. No one will want me now. Dad said if I had sex with any man I wasn’t going to marry the first time (at age 24!) that no other man will ever want me. Dad was right. This guy is right. Bye self respect. Bye self love.

Now I need him. I need to wait for a crumb of kindness like a fish waiting for feeding time. Just swim around in life and wait…in between rages and other women and low self esteem Dad said I should have.

That’s my circle of life over 52 years. Two sociopaths and one Borderline Personality Disordered (which isn’t as bad, but not good) later, add in a few sexually harassing and demanding misogynistic bosses over time, and you have someone who doesn’t trust anyone anymore.

But, you also have someone who is trying, reading, learning, finding this web site, and starting to do a better job at taking care of herself. Who now walks out during a fit. Who won’t loan more than five bucks to another man ever again. No more crumbs.

I think they are attracted to us. Both of my sociopaths chased me and I live in a place where the women chase the men….which I refused to do. I wasn’t born in this part of the country. Where I cam from, males pursue. Where I was moved to as a teen, females will do anything to get a man. Anything. I’m not like that. I do have some standards. So, both sociopaths had to pursue me. By the time the first one went after me, I was almost 30. I had given up on finding a real man around here. My family and career were enough…I thought. Until the first love bomb…I guess.

They are able to zero in on the hopeless, the overly empathetic, the helpful and kind, and those of us with lowered self esteem. We don’t know any better…sometimes repeatedly. Now, we know. There is the internet. There are books. There are mental health sites. We can learn how to deal with them if we have to have them in our lives for some reason….usually money or kids.

I am going to stay here on lovefraud and keep reading the articles and the comments and encourage and be encouraged. No more love bombs for me. No more insecurity to the point of loaning money to a grown man. Thank you lovefraud.com.

Tea Light

Good work fight. I agree. If there is any spare money lying about after you’ve taken care of you and your dependents, give it to charity, don’t loan it to a grown man. Or woman.

4Light2shine

Thank you Linda for another well written article. It’s really important to me to continue to develop my radar and tweak my instincts toward reading people. While the terms to describe them are relatively new to me, I definitely had some of these personalities around me since the beginning. When I discovered narcissism and NPD a few years ago I immediately saw that these were definitely the traits I was dealing with in my new wife. I was also pretty sure I had seen most of this in my grandmother on my mothers side. She was some piece o work. Unique, and always entertaining, but also shallow, dishonest, hot tempered, vindictive, and unreasonable. She had some redeeming qualities. She seemed to have some kind of affection for us kids. She could be generous, and she was usually fun to be around. Then there was my dads mother. Just a bizarre person. I never could quite figure what her deal was. Manipulative, deceptive, immoral, perverse, I could go on. Her demeanor to me often gave the impression of a overblown actress like in an old soap opera. Bottom line, she was evil. Not Hitler evil, but small time evil. I’m sure now that she was a sociopath. Right now I still live in the same home with my pseudo-wife but I try to keep interactions to a minimum. I suspect she is the same. She certainly is the most unethical person that I’ve had to deal continuously with, and toxic to be sure. I found out she had 2 exes that had complete mental breakdowns. I came close enough, trust me. For a time I had a convergence of several people in my life that showed themselves to be wolves of sorts. My Mngr at work quit after 5 years of snake in the grass behavior toward me. Every day for 5 years I knew he was gunning for me to get me fired. Lying, threatening in my face. The owners love me. I’m still here. Then there was my musical director in my band & so called friend. The charm, the charisma, and always the drama. Got burned like just about everyone else who worked with him long enough. A pseudo-shepherd at my place of worship. This one really did a job on me because of his position. Of course she flirted with all of them. Who knows maybe more than flirting. I think now I can spot the larger than life charismatic types . I seem to have developed an allergy to arrogant people. Keep the haughty far from me or I might vomit. Myowngirl can you share any insights on your ability to spot them in a crowd ? Maybe you should write that book. Hang in there Fight. Don’t let him suck you in.

Tea Light

4light loved “small time evil”. Great shorthand for subclinical cluster b personalities. Catchier, too!

myowngirl

Again, I love this sight, it helped me so much to know that I was not the crazy one, that there are more people out there trying to figure out what in the heck happend to their life?? I left out some major happenings in my life, that weren’t necessary to the big story. But, to answer how I can spot them I will have to give a little more of the early years. My so called mother kept me from dying, she gave me to her younger sister much of the time to care for me, my aunt loved me and we still have a good relationship. But, when children are not loved or wanted by their parents, even if they are not overtly abused in any way by them, the bad people know it. We almost have a mark on our forehead. It is easy to see that mark if your a pedophile, the child’s clothes aren’t clean or are too big or too small. Their hair is dirty or messy, their fingernails might be too long and dirty or bitten off. Anyway,if their is a predator in the vicinity, they will spot the child and begin their grooming. In my family, my father’s younger brother turned out to be a pedophile, I call him my child molesting alcoholic uncle, now deceased. He lived with us for a short time when I was under 2 years of age. No one knew he was a child molester at that time, but his grandfather was a molester, so it gets passed down. That was the first person to molest me. I had visual memories, but it was pre-verbal so they didn’t make any sense to me when I was older. But I knew they were there. When I was about 4 I drew a picture of a naked woman tied up, urinating and deficating. I proudly showed it to my mother. Instead of asking where in the world had I seens oomething like that,(this was 51 years ago way before internet) she told me that nice girls didn’t draw pictures like that. ok, I’m not a nice girl.

We lived next door to a large family of 9 children, the youngest was my age and my best and only friend. Her mother ended up babysitting me when I started school, I could just walk over there in the mornings. The father of this family had disapeared years before and was neveer found. He was a bartender and his wife thought that he overheard something he shouldn’t have and was killed. Among the older sibs, there were twins, one male and one female, teenagers. The female watched me at night on weekends when my parents would go out. Since my mother was bored out of her mind by staying home, this girl was at my house frequently. She was the next person to molest me. I remembered everything but as I got older, I thought it was my fault because I was a bad girl. I never told anyone. The twin brother was mean to me whenever he could be, he would pinch me really hard on the inside of my arm or pull my hair, call me names, but no one ever saw him do it, I was afraid of him and tried to stay out of his path.

One day he was really nice to me, he put me on the handlebars of his bike and rode up to a nearby drugstore and bought me candy. At the tiime, his family had a big tent set up in the back yard and I remember him taking me into it, one of his friends was smirking outside of it. I remember him getting on his knees and telling me to kiss him on his cheek, we were going to play house. I actually said no, he had acne and I did not want to do that. I know something else happened but my subconscience still feels that I am not ready to remember that. I’m ok with that.

So, if you go back into your childhood, and really try to remember things from your earliest memory on, most of us who have been a victim of spaths had something not so good happen to us, or many bad things. The book “The Courage to Heal ” was brought into my life at just the right time. I also did Healing YOur Inner Child and Becoming Your Own Parent. I could lnever afford professional help, but people were put in my life at the right times, and I did therapy with these friends and we helped each other. People that have been molested and otherwise harmed are naturally drawn to each other I think, we can see and feel each other’s pain. And Spath’s can see the opportunity to pounce.

Also, a major factor is that I was just dropped off at new babysitter’s houses with no explanation , I would just be in a new house with new people that I didn’t know, so I learned very quickly to be a chameleon and blend in , stay quiet, not cause trouble. In fact, that’s what my aunt tells me I was known for. I was the best baby, toddler, kid. I went anywhere without complaining. My aunt took me to her high school football games and her friends were amazed at how good I was and wondered why my mother would let me be out that late.

I’vee always been interested in psychology and did alot of reading on it from high school on. I kept trying to make sense of my life, my memories and experiences. I had a good many pieces to the puzzle, but there were things that I just couldn’t figure out. The missing pieces finally showed up 3 years ago. It is so nice to know that I was not a bad child, I had a bad parent, someone who should never have been a parent. And the other parent was never able to keep the bad parent in line.

I had to go through alot to get to the point that I can pick them out, they are the ones that have a group around them, all laughing at the funny stories. They come in all shapes, sizes, ages and levels of spathyness. I am so careful now who I let into my life. Anyone that was molested has that 6th sense about molesters, so I can combine that with my sensitivity to sociopaths and I have a really good radar system going. I wish I could download it and share it with everyone. Listen to your gut feeling, to that small little inner voice telling you this is too good to be true. But most won’t do that until they have had so much pain inflicted on them that it is truly a matter of life and death before they can get themselves away. And then they feel such a sense of anguish and longing to be back where it was comfortable and they knew what to expect.

That’s where this sight is so invaluable!!! I found it at the perfect time to help me not go off of the deep end when all of the ugly truth about my parent came to light. I still read most of the articles that Donna puts out. We all need regular reinforcement to stay healthy. Thank you to all of the commenters, you all made me cry today, it’s so great to be able to tell my story, I had to hide secrets for most of my life, but no more!! I wish you all the courage and strength you need to make your life what you want and deserve it to be.

Tea Light

Myowngirl I just want to thank you for your posts, for helping us understand your experiences. I found your openness and candour very moving as recently we were having a discussion here about how wary many survivors of sexual abuse can be about discussing this type of abuse, even anonymously, even here on LF which is in my experience a very safe and respectful community. So I just applaud your willingness to be so honest about the abuse you have encountered and found the resilience to overcome. I too read Becoming Your Own Parent, three years ago, after accepting I could no longer continue to avoid confronting growing up in a household with an alcoholic father who regularly attacked by mother, who became barely able to function after divorcing him, leaving me to parent my sister who I was unable to protect from being molested by my uncle after he became wary of molesting me after I sleep walked in my grandparents house to his room. That scared him apparently. A five year old standing at his door in the middle of the night just staring at him, asleep.
Anyway many of your points hit home. The hypervigilence about child abusers, potentially violent men. This is why being taken for a ride by my disordered ex was so devastating. I thought my boundaries were very strong. They weren’t.

MyOwnGirl and TeaLight – thank you so much for sharing more of your histories. I am so pleased that you are rising above the pain of the past.

Tea Light

Thank you Donna, this site has been so important for me in the past 6 months, all the support I’ ve been offfered here has helped me tremendously.

lost everything

I don’t believe that we give out signals to spaths or we are more vulnerable to their ‘game plan’. Anyone can be their target, depending on the spath’s needs of the moment. Everyone is a penetrable mark.

That does not mean in any way that we are ‘defective’. All real humans have chinks in our armor. The weaknesses leaves all real people, susceptible to their sociopathic blueprint for life.

There are as many different weak spots as there are different people. None of us are immune to all sociopaths nor are any of us a willing target for all sociopaths.

A ‘successful’ sociopath is a patient one. They size up absolutely everyone they come in contact with to see if that person has something they want or need and if that person is easily malleable, after all many spaths don’t want to work hard or even work at all. Additionally, the efficacious spath must always be on alert for someone that that can see them for what they are. All of this takes time, in many cases lots of time. Since the spaths have no life to spend their time living, time spent sizing up a potential target is time well spent. They must be masters of the ‘know when to hold em, know when to fold em’ philosophy of life. It’s not really that hard a life style for the spath, as they never have human feelings about others.

I was not the only victim of the latespath; he was very versatile. Here are 3 of his targets, very different people, from different backgrounds, at different places in their lives.

Target number 1 was mother’s stock broker. He had been in the stock sector for over 30 years and was with this major, international brokerage for around 30 years; having worked himself up to a senior level ‘client’ position without a black mark. The spath met him briefly in 1998 as my mother wouldn’t let the spath stay in the house by himself. The spath started to ‘work on’ the broker in early 2001 and moved in ‘for the kill’ in late 2003 after he felt the broker would never tell neither my mother nor I what the spath was doing. In order to accomplish his goals, the spath had to convince the broker that he actually cared about my mother, that my mother wanted him to control her stock account and that he was very knowledgeable about the stock market. Reality, my mother and the spath had no relationship at all; my mother never let anyone touch her money-even told the broker in 1998 that’it’s my money’ and ‘no one’s else’s name goes on the account’; the spath didn’t have a stock account, never took a financial class or showed any interest in the market. Small price to pay for getting handed 2 million dollars.

Target 2 was ‘M’ the escort. M grew up in different cultural area, different educational background, different religion, different family background, than the spath. She became an escort shortly after 9/11 at age 44 or so. M had 4 children ranging in age from grammar school to 20s. She was close to her parents as well as her estranged husband. By the time the spath met M in March, 2003 he had been an active john for 20 months having had several hundred appointments. M was looking for love, the spath was looking for a long term victim. M sealed her own fate when she cut her trip to the other coast short, to be with him on his birthday, 4 months after meeting him as a john in 2005. To ‘win her over’ he had to change his taste in music, be willing to lower his academic requirements in a ‘friend’, to become knowledgeable in a different religion, be willing to appear to care about her family, and most of all be willing to publicly profess his love for her. What he wanted was being attached to a gal who was ‘famous’ in the world of escorting; someone who would not question the obviously stolen and forged checks he gave her; someone who would put their name on an apartment so he would have some place to go 9 to 5; a gal who would never call me. A lady willing to meet his needs was worth the new mask he had to wear. He not only snagged her, but her entire family; parents, estranged husband and children.

Target 3 was Dr.’S’, the psychoanalyst, well she didn’t start off as a target. He did not make a choice to see a therapist; rather Dr. S was M’s psychologist. The latespath called her to let her know that M died. The psychologist suggested to him that he come to her for bereavement help; AH! By the time he called Dr. S, M had been dead a little over 2 weeks and the spath had received hundreds of posts, emails, and from what I understand, phone calls. He knew that the volume of tributes to his ‘love’ for M, would start to lessen. M was no longer there to feed his ego. Here was a ‘victim’ coming to him; yes, he had to pay her, but less than an escort’s fee. While he never met Dr. S, I am sure that M discussed her sessions with the doctor with the spath, so he had an idea of what to expect. Dr. S had been in practice around 35 years and attached to an educational institute. How does a spath, who never had experience with a psychologist, go about keeping his secret from a well experienced professional? M had seen Dr. S for a long time, so she was aware of the relationship between the spath and M, at least from M’s point of view. M really did love the spath and the spath knew that. Play up the ‘love’ angle was a start. He had that down pat, for not only did he convince M and her family, he convinced 2 escorting communities and his own mother that he loved her. He spent 14 months with Dr. S and she had no idea of the ‘real’ spath. I know, I and my therapist spoke to her.

While 3 very different people, they all had one thing in common – the willingness to keep the spath’s actions secret; the broker because he saw no need to contact his client, and he believed the spath; M because she was an escort and escorts keep secrets, also she was in love with a married man, and she believed the spath; Dr.S, psychologist’s sessions are secret, and she believed the spath.

In order to be truly accomplished, the spath needs the’help’ of and the ability to use, unwitting ‘real’ people as necessary; the ability to morph into how many different people he needs to, a true Chameleon; a silver tongue; nerves of steel; knowledge and time.

I was married to him for 33 years and knew him for 47, and I would not have recognized any of the ‘shells’ the machinating spath could mutate into; neither did his mother. More importantly none of his target recognized the real person the spath was.

I am not sure that that there are more spaths in the world today. Our experiences, left us more attuned to sociopaths. Unfortunately, our antennas sometimes see human imperfections as sociopathic behavior.

fightforwhatsright

Very helpful stories here and I am grateful for the sharing. So many of us were molested….and often my relatives…causes such mental anguish. It does help to share it here, be anonymous, but also to receive kindness, empathy, and validation.

lost everything: I am glad you wrote about how easily a sociopath can fool therapists. Too many therapists think they are above it all and they are not. They can be just as easily fooled as the rest of us. Maybe even more. They are making money by listening to their lies and “believe” they are helping someone. They have great incentives to believe their sociopath clients. It has been sickening to me to me to witness the spath talking about how he lied, fooled, and manipulated his therapists when forced to go to therapy through the VA. A waste of time for everyone involved. Today, I took the spath to handle some business involving his cell phone. I observed him in the store. He was Mr. Personality. Laughing, open to the workers, etc. He looked back me in my car through the window at one point…just seconds after his animated performance for these strangers. His smile was gone. His eyes were vacant. He looked away. I said out loud to myself, “Interesting.” That is how I must deal with him. I observe him like a science project gone awry….”Interesting….”

MyOwnGirl,
The thread that Tea Light was referring to was “Shining A Light on Emotional Rape”.

Your story and the way you’ve been able to heal,is just amazing and inspiring!

The part about drawing pictures~I did that too.But my mom never knew until just before I got married.

Tea Light

Bit of a problem with the older comments link in the thread – when I click on it to read Blossom only the first 3 comments come up, not all 20? Glad you’re here anyway Blossom though I can’t read your post at the moment!

Tea Light – The blogging software automatically opens to the most recent comments. To see previous comments, click the “Older comments” link above. Does this solve the problem?

Imara

Tea, I actually emailed Donna about that. I do not see the recent posts and the articles from today on my desktop. See them fine on a laptop and from the phone!

Tea Light

Hi Donna the problem disappeared last night but when I posted the above the Older Comments link wasn’t functioning , it brought up the first three comments that had been posted only, not all 20. I tried on my phone and laptop. But it’s fine now!

Sarah999

There are 3 reasons to believe the 1% psychopaths is totally false.
1) This statistic was created many years ago, before psychopathy was even recognized by most (clueless idiots) in the psychological profession.
2) Psychopaths hide their disorder (it’s a major characteristic).
(You can’t quantify what is hidden and not even acknowledged)
3) Fact – About 30% of women report physical/emotional abuse. (Those Abusers are psychopaths).
4) And many victims don’t report abused for shame/safety reasons etc etc. So that 30% stat is higher!
5) I’m tuned into this disorder and say IMHO that approx 50% of men are psychopaths and about 30% of women.

Delores

I think you are closer to the correct number than the so called experts. They are rampant in politics, the law and law enforcement professions. Just look for any position of power and you will find them sulking in the corners. And some cultures are purely psychopatic. I said, cultures, not races. So that gives you my opinion on multi-culturism.

fightforwhatsright

I agree that the “official” numbers are way too low. How many of us have known co-workers, neighbors, teachers, federal, state, city and county officials, or religious leaders who fit sociopath criteria….until they are caught and fit the sociopath criteria? They find the right “position” and charm people and ruin lives. Many of them never get caught and live their entire lives with 90% of the people who know them believing they are “nice” people.

Sarah999

Thank you betsybugs and fightforwhatsright for your validation and not being scared to “call it as you see it”. I have very little respect for those “so called” professionals that just mimic the 1% statistic.
They are PC idiots. That 1% statistic goes against all common sense and reality! They are being PC and scared to risk telling the truth. And YES, there are entire cultures that are purely psychopathic . . and “heaven forbid” . . you say it, they’ll kill you, cause you’ve “offended” them.

fightforwhatsright

Well, I do believe there is a a higher percentage of sociopaths in the world. However, I do not lump cultures into a sociopath category and do not believe entire cultures are sociopaths. I believe in humans/Humanism and that all people deserve human dignity, respect, and empathy. I believe sociopaths and wonderful people are found in every culture and all deserve human dignity, empathy, and respect unless an individual or a specific group of individuals ALL show the traits of a sociopath.

For example, I was moved to an area as a teen where a certain religious “group think” without the “group walk” has taken over in a very deviant path. I have been abused by some sociopaths in many branches of that particular religion. However, I have known a few in that religion who were very nice people and truly followed what they claim to believe. I can’t state that all people in that religious culture are sociopaths. That would not be “humanly correct.” I can only look at the traits throughout history of some individuals and some large groups of people in that religion whom have murdered in the name of that religion and see that there were/are sociopath traits in some of them.

Donna may have more information in this area pertaining to research. However, my educational background involves studying people and research and I have seen no evidence that entire “cultures” are all sociopaths.

So, while I agree with the general assessment that there are most likely more people on the sociopath personality disorder spectrum than some claim, there is no evidence that every individual in any specific culture is a sociopath simply by being born into that culture.

I also take into consideration that I have personality traits that can make me a target. Loaning money too easily has been one I’ve struggled with in the past. Being too nice to people who did not return it is another. Staying to long with people, and in situations, that were not in my best interest is another way I have remained the target/victim of sociopaths. Therefore, my traits may cause me to “feel” there are more sociopaths around simply because they seem to come my way when they see an easy target to meet their sociopath needs. I also believe that the experts only look at murderers and larger scale criminals as sociopaths. But, I know, as all of us whom have been victims of the smaller scale sociopaths, that there are a lot more of them at all areas of the sociopath/personality disordered spectrum. I live around several of them (two are in that religion I am discussing) and none of them have criminal backgrounds. The members of their church would say that they are great people. But, they don’t live next door to them and see the bullying they do to their neighbors. But, they are on the sociopath spectrum. The one with whom I am involved to a degree at this time is a pretty severe narcissist with most of the red flags waving. However, he also does not have a criminal background. Those are the ones that don’t get put into the statistics…and the ones most of us know make the numbers much higher. Not cultures. Individuals of all different races, creeds, religions, non religions, backgrounds, careers, etc. Some groups of them have developed a sense of “groupthink” if they all have the same beliefs and they egg each other on in their exploits, abuses, piety, ignorance, white and blue collar crimes, hate, etc. Not whole cultures.

Sarah999

Nobody is saying that ALL people of a certain culture have the same personality characteristics. Some dogs are bred to have certain sweet characteristics. But not ALL golden retrievers are sweet… on the other hand not ALL pit bulls are aggressive. But you can bet that MOST golden retrievers (collies, cockerspaniels etc) have easy going, sweet dispositions… and MOST pit-bulls (and rotweilers etc) are aggressive.
Personalities, i.e., aggression, sweetness, shyness etc are inherited and you most certainly “CAN” DRAW CONCLUSIONS ABOUT the NATURE OF A CULTURE (even though there are exceptions). I would rather be a a room with a bunch of Golden retrievers, than a bunch of pit bulls. How about you?

Sarah999

I forgot to mention (although it’s obvious) “we are animals”. We have DNA just like other animals (i.e., dogs). The same laws or inheritance (DNA) apply. Dogs, horses etc are bred for certain physical and emotional characteristics. We also, through years of evolution have acquired certain emotional and physical characteristics. This is obvious, and so are the conclusions.

fightforwhatsright

Sarah999:

One poster wrote above that there are “entire cultures” that are purely psychopathic. If you review your posts, you will find that you agreed, by writing the same phrase, with that statement.

I felt a personal need to post that I do not agree with that statement.

I do believe the statistics on sociopaths and/or psychopaths are low. I agree with that possibility.

However, I wanted to make it clear in my post that I do not agree that entire cultures are psychopaths or sociopaths. When people use code words about hating being PC or PCs are idiots as one person posted, that causes me to feel a need to make it clear that I only agree with the statistical assessment and not that entire cultures are sociopaths.

I also don’t consider dogs when thinking about people. I could be inaccurate, but my understanding is that human DNA and dog DNA are not the same.

As you stated above, I do call it as I see it. I am doing so now and I am not asking anyone to agree with me, or for permission to disagree with what I consider “loaded” statements against entire “cultures” and a problem with being “multi-cultural.” I do not have a problem with entire cultures or a multi-cultural population. I am making sure that is understood about me. I am doing that for myself…making it clear that I do not believe that some cultures are “purely psychopathic” as was written in the above posts.

I only agree with the possibility that researchers do not consider some people on the sociopath spectrum in the statistics. I listed some possibilities above as well. I just disagree with labeling entire cultures as psychopathic. I would have to see some kind of research about that. Otherwise, that phrase coupled with hatred for being “correct” and kind to people of all cultures individually is not something I agree with concerning the two posts above that have these statements.

raggedy ann

I have to agree somewhat with fight4right here.
I would also caution against overconflating biology and culture. How much is “over”? Hard to say, but just remember they are not interchangeable.

fightforwhatsright

Hi Raggedy Ann: Yes. It is very easy to get hypervigilent after dealing with any abusive person.

raggedy ann

Fight, imo hypervigilance is EXACTLY the right word for seeing them “everywhere.” I hadn’t identified it correctly, but I think I have seen it repeatedly here. I am probably more in agreement with the standard numbers myself, certainly moreso than “50% of men”.
You are the first person I have seen using the word this way. Thanks for crystalizing it for me.

fightforwhatsright

Hi Raggedy Ann,

I am glad the word solidified your reactions to things. It certainly describes mine also. Hypervigilence is a big part of PTSD. The Amygdala just takes over without my even being able to form a thought and it sees a sociopath behind every bush” as the article discusses.

I have to be very careful and educate myself to distinguish between real sociopath attributes according the medical information and people that are troublesome or maybe have a personality disorder that causes them to shift into sociopath behaviors when they are hypervigilent, but whom are capable of empathy, “being there” for others, and aren’t searching for victims. In my family, there tend to be Narcissists and their “feeding tubes” without complete sociopath brains. Still frustrating, but not complete sociopaths. They have empathy. The feel love to a degree. They just aren’t too deep.

lost everything

Because we have damaged by spaths in many different ways, we set our antennas on extra, extra, ultra, ultra high frequency pick up mode.

The damage the spaths have left us with can be a lifesaver but in some ways it can a lead weight.

People are just that-people, we all make mistakes, we all have weaknesses, That does not make us sociopaths, nor does it make the majority of people we meet spaths. It just makes people, human.

There are people that cheat, perhaps even serial cheat, that alone dose not make them sociopaths; immoral, weak in a moment of temptation, perhaps even unhappy, yes.
There are people that are moochers, that alone does not make them sociopaths; they are lazy, they are willing to take anything they can get for nothing, they are incredibly cheap.
There are people that believe they are God’s gift to mankind, that trait alone does not earn the sociopath diagnosis; egotistical, stuck up, over confident, yep.
There are irresponsible people, those who can’t keep track of when bills are due, the ones who are late for everything-time means nothing to them, even the people who never return emails or calls; but even if they do all of those things they are not spaths. Nor are the ones that fail to keep up with car maintenance or don’t mow their lawns.
Even a person that is always looking for a scapegoat is not a sociopath; they refuse to take responsibility for their actions; they can not accept that either they or their decisions are wrong; they are immature, but not a spath.

Any one item on the Hare list is that, one item, it is an indicator of sociopathic personality, but likewise it can just be simply human foible or an indication of something else, perhaps a problem that can be ‘fixed’.

If we live a life encased by walls, afraid of everything, the spath have won the ultimate victory, they have stopped us from having a life. They do not have a life and their damage has taken the life away from us; one point for them and none for us.

I am guilty of the walls, I built such thick high ones that I can not outwardly express emotions; no anger, no laughter, no tears. I couldn’t cry when my mom died or when one of my furries crossed the Rainbow Bridge. I am afraid to reconnect with my ‘high school sweetie’ face to face; the keyboard and telephone provide a safe barrier.

I am guilty of the rash ‘spath label’; during the course of the ‘law suit from hell’, I was introduced to someone that had the potential to be very helpful. In the course of talking with them, they told me they had an affair over 2 decades earlier; instead of seeing that are gainfully employed, currently married for over 10 years, and truthful enough to say they cheated; I only saw CHEATER; is this person a spath.

I know that I have to turn my antenna down to ‘very ultra high frequency sociopath alert’. In order to live and enjoy life, I have to see people as people, not as sociopaths; listen to my gut, look for the red flags and proceed accordingly; everyone is not the ‘sociopathic monster under the bed, in the closet, or in the drain’. Unfortunately with sociopathic baggage, it’s easier said then done.

fightforwhatsright

Hi lost everything: What a very well thought out post. It is so true about watching for our brain to see spaths everywhere after so much trauma. Your post is great and helps to see that hypervigilance is a very tricky trauma/PTSD brain difference that occurs.

Imara

Thank You Lost and Fight!!
I needed to hear this today.

fightforwhatsright

Hi Imara, I hope you feel more centered today. I find, with the majority of posts here, that wonderful people help me stay centered…Not stuck in hypervigilence and not too passive. Me.

Sarah999

You are certainly entitled to believe whatever you like (whether the facts support it or not).

fightforwhatsright

Yes, every person is allowed to believe whatever they want whether the facts support it or not.

It is very difficult for victims of sociopaths to discern between facts and beliefs sometimes. It is not our fault. Many here discuss something called Cognitive Dissonance in reference to belief systems that get skewed by having sociopaths (or other types of abusive people) highjack our brain chemistry.

Once we study this web site, Donna’s books, other books about sociopaths (and any possible disorders that our abusers may have), etc., we can become more centered and see that we can keep trying to feel safe in the general population. The fear and anxiety trail left behind by a sociopath who may have terrorized us and created Cognitive Dissonance can dissipate over time….sometimes a very long time as I’ve experienced in my brain differences created by PTSD and Depression.

one/joy_step_at_a_time

In my life I realize it is narcs everywhere: father, uncle, sib – at least. Suspicious of what all was wrong with my long dead grandfather – def. violent alcoholic philanderer.

what i am left with after the spath and the narc. lovers, and figuring out exactly WTF was wrong with my family is a knowledge of how attracted these folks are to positions of power (I am concerned for my country because our leader is a spath in my estimation (I am not in the US)), and how scary it is to realize that narcissism and spathic BEHAVIOR is rewarded in so many sectors – especially the public sector, banking, and large corporations – the more powerful the corp. is as a world leader, the more spathic the culture.

this lends a whole new meaning to the ideas of resistance and struggle against oppression – because ‘THEY’ really are trying to keep us down – not that it’s personal, we’re just collateral damage. (military terminology used intentionally.)

recognizing that it often ‘isn’t personal’ in our own love lives is a hard concept to grasp. we so want the things in our ‘love lives’ to be personal. some of us who make really great spath bait are the children of losers who have groomed us to be enablers. to us, EVERYTHING is personal. it has to be – that’s how our families and sig. others maintain control. and that’s one of the reasons we stay- and wail when we/ they leave: ’cause we don’t accpet that they don’t care AND it isn’t personal.

and the rage that being treated by an uncaring aka spathic system brings out in us is enormous – because, again we WANT it to be personal AND caring. i feel sometimes like i am being held by a giant, and i am kicking and screening and it doesn’t matter one f**king iota. i WANT them to care enough not to hurt me – but this is not possible for these people or the systems they develop and maintain. those systems are set-up for them to WIN in. we all, then, must lose in that equation. The ONLY way i can see myself clear of this struggle is to not engage – to remove my self from the struggle. which means to remove myself from society, or live on the edge of society, or build society with non spathic/ narc people.

i KNEW this when i younger – i just didn’t understand why i needed to remove myself. i just found the mainstream boring, uninteresting, and confining. i didn’t know who ran the world – still don’t, but i have a much better bead on those who seem to – and they are f**king dangerous. and my caring that i have a place in that world may bring nothing but disillusionment and a deep pain at the end of my life – for living a life which may have been one of falsity.

there are spaths everywhere that matters. they are our politicians and teachers, police officers, and parents, our lovers, our children, the jerk who ran the red light to prove his car was faster and who ran over 2 teenage girls in the process. but he won. and we ALWAYS lose.

so we need to disengage from the game. and i don’t know how to do that without ending up in abject poverty. and i didn’t like that much the first time. but maybe there is a way – that’s in building new communities with different values. I gotta get serious about changing myself, so that i can attract some folks who are serious about doing this – i see it as the only hope. it’s either that or be a f**king sheep.

my family is full of narcs. i wonder daily what my propensities are. my PTSD, and MCS certainly make me look narcissistic. I am frustrated and at times incredibly reactive and hot headed, and self focused because most places are actually dangerous to my health. i can’t really go under or around that – it’s my reality right now. so figuring out my own level of narcissism is hard to do. i am self centred due to injury and necessity – not chemistry. i come from people of very moderate means – but who had more relative to those around them. there was a sense of entitlement in my family – but my dad and sib are narcs and my mom comes from a very odd family. people believe the persona of entitlement i have cultivated out of those beginnings to protect myself in the last couple of years. the work force is brutal here, and if one doesn’t look like they have some power they just don’t get work. ahh, the game. this stupid town. so full of people walking around in their parents’ clothes.

peace. out.

fightforwhatsright

Hi one/joy: I am thinking of you. It must be a daily struggle to remain detached, or centered within yourself, with a whole family of them having caused such stress.

one/joy_step_at_a_time

i believe that some countries display more spathic traits/ are more spathic than others. this has to do with both the values of the systems of power within that country and the values of the people of that country.

i am not, however, saying that all people in any particular culture are spaths. i don’t think that is statistically possible. unless the country was very very small…yes, that was humour.

fightforwhatsright

I think many people from every country and/or culture is ethnocentric and gets skewed belief systems about other the people in other countries that is often untrue. If I watch different new stations in my country, there is a different slant on each subject. If I watch the BBC, I get news about my country that I don’t hear about in my own country. If I watch PBS News Hour, I get straight news without the hype for ratings. A previous President of the US goes all over the world all of the time promoting understanding, peace, and diplomacy with the people (and often the leaders) in countries we do not understand.

My country (the U.S.) is considered barbaric by a lot of foreign countries. There are a lot of people in my country murdering each other every day. That is the highest level of Psychopathic and Sociopath behavior. Many of my country’s leaders want me to believe that a lot of foreign countries are barbaric. I wonder which is right? Are they the barbarians because I do not understand their culture? Or are they just their own culture with problems like my country’s culture has?

I can’t know because I am not there talking to individuals like me who probably love their families and children, who may have married/dated a sociopath, and who want to seek education and knowledge just as I do.

Sarah999

NOBODY is saying “ALL” to anything!!!!!! For example, nutritionists agree that nuts, dairy, & seafood are healthy foods. But nuts, dairy & seafood are NOT healthy for EVERYBODY (some people are allergic and die from eating them).
When we say a “culture is psychopathic”, it does NOT mean EVERY SINGLE person in that culture is a psychopath. Just because there are SOME loving (non-psychopathic) people in that culture, it doesn’t mean that culture is NOT A PSYCHOPATHIC CULTURE. Again just because some people have a peanut, milk, shrimp allergy, doesn’t mean peanuts, milk, shrimp etc. are unhealthy foods. They are healthy! It is UNDERSTOOD & ACKNOWLEDGED (by intelligent people), that there are always EXCEPTIONS. Hence, the often quoted expression “EXCEPTIONS PROVE THE RULE”. The argument that NOT EVERYBODY in a culture is (a cannibal or a psychopath or evil) is old, hackneyed, and ineffective.

Sarah999

Cannibalistic cultures, that eat people still exist (deep in Africa). Even if a some of the people in those cannibalistic cultures DON’T eat other people . . . the culture is still cannibalistic.

fightforwhatsright

Well, I don’t think anyone considers that PC idiots as posted above are thinking cannibalism should be the next big thing. We have certainly had a few cannibal psychopaths in every country….a specific type of serial killer.

I am not super current with the cannibal culture. However, it is their cultural choice to be cannibals. I believe that is a very small population.

I don’t find a cannibalistic society any different than one where 30 human beings shoot and kill 30 other human beings every day. That doesn’t include stabbings and other forms of murder that occur in many cultures. Killing is killing. I suppose in most cultures, cannibalism would be higher up on the toxic sociopath scale. But, in other cultures, a country that allows 30 murders a day by shooting a gun at another human being, could also be called a “purely sociopath” culture.

Just about every “culture” could look quite sociopath oriented from the outside looking in. That is why I disagree with the statement that “many” cultures are “purely” sociopath/psychopath. I imagine even a few of the tribes of cannibals manage to escape their culture and find it upsetting. No entire culture is made up entirely of sociopaths. Some cultures seem to have a much higher preponderance to kill each other, not want to take care of the children, allow household terrorism, etc.

I have my views and beliefs and as I was earning my degree, I was introduced to the fact that all people are “biased” in some ways based on gender, race, religion, or just that they don’t like how somebody else looks. I was taught to try to recognize my biases so I would treat all clients equally OR if I knew there was a bias I could not overcome, to be prepared to refer some personality types difficult for me to deal with.

I can only stay on one subject at a time. When discussing human sociopath behavior around the world, I can’t discuss nuts and seafood and dogs. I can discuss the behavior of cannibals as something I find distasteful (pun intended). I know there are a few of those tribes left. However, I don’t believe that is what people are talking about when they say things like ‘PC Correct Idiots’ and ‘I don’t like multi-culturalism.” I see code words for not loving all human beings. I see code words for hating some human beings who have skin that is of color, or different religious beliefs than the poster….and I also find that quite distasteful.

If you and the other poster are referring to cannibals, OK. But, I don’t think that was the case. However, if you are going to say that you were thinking only of cannibals, I will accept that you are saying what you meant and meant to discuss that only cannibals are a “purely psychopathic culture” that someone seems to believe would be considered “politically correct multi-culturalism.” Quite a stretch to make a point about one culture.

I prefer to talk about individual sociopaths we have dealt with personally in our own countries and read the articles about those in the news as well as the personal stories people share here. If your psychopath was a cannibal, that would certainly be an article I would read.

Tea Light

Oh fight. You do make me laugh. Lol.

fightforwhatsright

I think comically. Therefore, I must write comically. If I made you laugh, you made my day, Tea Light!

Sarah999

Read Plot’s republic . . The allegory of the cave! “You can lead a horse to water . . . “

Sarah999

and also Sam Harris . . “The Moral Landscape”

fightforwhatsright

Sarah999: No, thank you. Are you speaking of Plato’s “Cave?” I’m not sure how the “Allegory of the Cave” fits into what you are trying to say. It seems as if you are arguing with yourself. Are the people seeing the illusions in the cave the cannibals, the politically correct, nuts, multi-cultural lobsters, or horses?

The other book may be interesting, but I am sticking to other books that are helpful to me right now.

I like the politically correct, multi-cultural, landscape of humans.

I also believe that I can learn to better protect myself from sociopaths.

I do not believe that there are entire cultures that are politically correct that are all sociopaths.

The only position on which we agree seems to be that the statistical number of sociopaths is probably higher than many researchers may know. I do not, however, consider them clueless idiots as everyone can be fooled by a sociopath.

I don’t believe that in reality there is a sociopath everywhere I look. I know that my hypervigilence sometimes causes me to feel afraid when there is nothing to fear.

I don’t like seafood. I am allergic to dogs and horses. I didn’t know we were talking about cannibals until we were well into the discussion. I have no empirical evidence that dog and human DNA are equivalent. And, unlike most of the threads on this site, this one has become very similar to having a discussion with my Narcissistic father with dementia.

I am on this wonderful site with a large majority of wonderful people to share and care. Have a good day.

Sarah999

Same to you!

lost everything

No blanket statement about a person or group of people will/should correctly cover them all; there is no ‘one size fits all’ whether it’s clothes or people; I am not even sure the new labeling ‘one size fits most’ is correct. Nor am I sure that anyone can make can make ‘absolute’ statements about a defined person or group of people based on said person or peoples background.

If encompassing statements were true, I would not be here at here right now. Given my druthers, I would be spending this weekend in Chicago watching the White Sox and the Athletics live at US Cellular Field and seeing a game at Wrigley, the Pirates and Cubs; at this moment I’d be at United Center for playoff hockey, the Kings and the Blackhawks, yum deep dish pizza in the city that invented it; of course wearing the bracelet my dad gave me for high school graduation and my mom’s wedding band and dad’s school ring on a chain around my neck. I would not be at Lovefraud at all. I married a brilliant, multi-lingual, Ivy League lawyer, from suburban NYC, that I knew since we were kids. What could be wrong, he had all the right markers for success. At this point I should be comfortable, doing what I want, enjoying life, with no money worries whether married or divorced, especially given that my family was financially comfortable.

Well I am here at Lf, thanks Donna and all of you; I will see the games on TV, eat a DiGiorno; watching what I spend, coupons have become my friend; of course my neck, wrists, ears and fingers are naked. Why, because the latespath was a sociopath, there were no visible markers to let me see. Who would have ever imagined that a sociopath could have gotten into law school and graduated with honors; that a person who had the world at his fingertips would choose to be unemployed and die with an estate valued at ‘less than $99.00’ (that’s what my state values a deceased’s worth who dies with no assets); that the little boy with the red bike would steal from a lady who lost her sight, the same lady that always made sure she had Nilla Wafers or Vienna Fingers at home, because that little boy didn’t like chocolate.

The latespath failed to fit the perception of a gifted professional because he was a sociopath. So much for those lovely generalizations.

Now lets talk about the ‘Nation of Attorney’ and how we see it’s inhabitants. Lawyers are smart people; we willingly go to them for advice; we pay them, money we worked hard for and perhaps even got messy or dirty earning, to sit, well dressed, behind a desk and dispense their knowledge. Lawyers are pillars of the community, they show up at all sorts of fund raisers; they sponsor little league teams or other youth activities; some do pro bono work for those that can not afford quality legal representation. Lawyers are those rich people; the ones who drive the nice cars or take limos instead of taxis if they are in a city; are dressed well, conservative but expensive; lawyers are the ones that belong to the Country or other private clubs. Yes, we get angry when their bills come, but we will go back, if the need arises. Lawyers are the ones that not only us, but CEOs and people in the world of entertainment and sport go to when they need help.

What we don’t always see or acknowledge only with s shoulder shrug, is what else sometimes goes into the make up of the residents of ‘Nation of Attorney’. Lawyers get divorced, the profession has a very high rate; they drink, some are even alcoholics; some do drugs; some cheat, some even visit prostitutes; hell, a few steal, well technically embezzle, funds that were entrusted to them by clients. Even this ‘evil’, morally wrong, behavior make do not mark all lawyers as sociopaths.

Scoiopaths are from a whole different world. On the ‘Planet of Sociopathia’ all residents have a variety red flags, that is a given. Many have several of the same; others may have a just few in common with their fellow population, with their make up consisting of the rarer ones. The spath world has no rules, no patterns to follow. It’s all about each individual’s wants. How they accomplish satisfying themselves is as unique as they are.

I have no idea if the latespath would have ensnared any of you, or if he did, how he would have gone about doing it. I know, from the writings, that he knew how to ‘love bomb’, but he never ‘love bombed’ me. I have heard from people in the real world that he was very charming; but as my son said ‘he never was with us’. He got me by his academic intelligence.

Unlike traits shared by an group, ethnic or otherwise, sociopaths are chameleons, as their wants change, so do they. That’s what make so ‘successful’.

Walls are good, they protect us from the spath and they help us to heal when the spath is gone; but if we don’t chip away at the walls we will forever stuck in the molasses the spath laid down for us, seeing everyone as the evil troll under the bridge, not allowing ourselves to grow as the human people.

fightforwhatsright

lost everything:

Well said!

Your story is so upsetting, especially with the added information that this man was a childhood friend you had trusted for so long. But, I agree with you that no group of any kind is 100% bad/sociopath. I liked the way you stated, the “nation of attorney” making it clear that a profession can be a culture and there can be some bad apples in the group. But, not all are bad and some can be quite good. Thank you.

4Light2shine

Fight, you’re ok with me. You really cracked me up. I’m a fan of intelligence, humanity, and biting wit when they’re aimed in the right direction. Nice insights on the different news sources and how that can skew our perceptions btw.

fightforwhatsright

Thanks, 4Light2Shine:

I just can’t help it! I know about gray rocking. But, I just can’t ignore those psychedelic rocks sometimes! They are so colorful and I become entranced in the kaleidoscope of transitions as their rocky “theories” truly unwind.

Sarah999

We all AGREE and have “EXPLICITLY” stated “MANY TIMES” and with “WITH EMPHASIS” that not EVERYONE in ANY culture has the same personality/character.

4Light2shine

Sarah, I’m with you there girl. High five. On the grey rocking I usually do pretty well with that one. I eventually figured out that engaging her was not going to change her in any way and typically will be used to reinforce her subtle slanderings, so I usually swallow it, internalize it, but not with everything. I pick my battles, usually. Sometimes I’m playing my guitar and I really start feeling it and start pouring myself into it( I’m not that great, but entertain myself ) and I realize I don’t look as lethargic and damaged as I usually do. She doesn’t miss anything, so I’m aware that if I show too much strength there will be repercussions. Yesterday I think it was, she realized she had not locked the back door and was commenting on it when I informed her that she has forgotten several times lately to lock the front door. All this is extremely out of character for her as she is usually on top of all these things. Of course the idea that She had made a mistake, let alone several was unacceptable, and she began her usual assault as she always does on Any idea that she could be wrong or off in any way shape or form. I very calmly, and slightly condescendingly said – ” Well, I guess the door must have magically closed itself. Very strange. ” I just sort of rose above anything she said and rather aloofly held my resolve. I didn’t dare make eye contact. I can tell you she was ticked off. She mumbled something under her breath as she left the room. It felt good to stand my ground , but I suspect I’ll probably pay for my insurrection. I try to stay in character as much as I can around her. Be the rock, the grey one.

fightforwhatsright

4Light: Did you mean to address your last statement to Sarah or to me? Since your previous comment to me was supportive of multi-culturalism and humor, I think you meant to address your last one to me.

Sarah: Read through your own posts and the post you agreed with towards the beginning of this thread. You agreed in writing that entire cultures were purely psychopathic. I disagreed with that statement you repeated from another poster. You agreed with that poster’s slam at politically correct (IE: Any policy to correct segregation of all cultures)multiculturalism. It is not possible to agree with every post here after that post and you have ended up slamming politically correct multiculturalism, comparing the human race to dogs and plants, etc., and then writing that you agree with the opposite…what I wrote. The two belief systems are the opposite of each other. Read what you posted.

The subject of the article is “Psychopaths Everywhere?” and someone made it into a slam at PC multiculturalism which is negative and very polarizing. You agreed with the slam even quoting from that post. I disagreed with that slam and wanted to make that clear once I realized that the possibility of inaccurate statistics wasn’t the only thing in that post and you posted a comment to me thanking me for “calling it like it is.” I do call it what it is is, but there was another message thrown in there with which I didn’t agree.

If you agree that the negative PC multiculturalism statement is bigoted and does not fit with reality, you might want to edit your own specifically worded agreement with it. If you agree that being PC and that multiculturalism has nothing to do with the sociopath population, then you might want to edit your written posts. I think you are arguing for and against bigoted beliefs at the same time…if you look back through your posts.

If not, your posts are very crazy making as hatred of politically correct multi-culturalism, comparing multiculturalism to animals and then bringing up cannibals all have nothing to do with this article or the mainstream reality of 99.9% of our world. Do you agree with what you and another person wrote or do you agree with what I wrote? Or do you have beliefs that fit in between?

4Light2shine

Yes Fight most of my post was in response to yours, but just wanted to give credence to the adjusted course being more on track with our fellow poster. Baby steps. Sometimes we need to soak in the sauce a bit longer to get the right flavor.

fightforwhatsright

Here are the descriptions of symptoms of Hypervigilance (which I think I have spelled incorrectly several times):

– Feeling vulnerable, fearful of lots of people, places, or things,and unable to feel calm in safe places.

– Fear of repetition.

– Anticipating disaster everywhere, such as needing to sit in a corner of the room with one’s back to the wall while looking for exits or places to hide. Always fearful of an unknown future disaster or danger. Expecting the worst.

– Rapid scanning, looking over one’s shoulder.

– Keeping a weapon, or several weapons.

– Being overprotective or overcontrolling of loved ones.

– Exaggerated startle response.

– Physical symptoms may include:

Elevation of certain stress hormones in the blood
Elevated heart rate
Elevated blood pressure
Hyperventilation
Tight chest or stomach
Jaw clenching
Numbness
Light-headedness
Tingling, cold, or sweaty hands

Thanks fight!
I had many of those symptoms…and I still can’t get the vision of myself in my gynecologist’s office,out of my head!I don’t know how often he’s seen something like that,but being a doctor,a professional,he handled it compassionately,for which I’m so thankful!

I think I have posted about that visit before.But,unknown to me gyns are trained to recognize abused women.Not only that,but there are questions pertaining to abuse,in the paperwork.I nearly walked out of his office that day!Thankfully,I did stay,but I had an anxiety attack while waiting for him to come into the room.Darn those paper sheets!When he saw me,I probably looked like a trapped wild animal,lol! 🙂

fightforwhatsright

Hi Blossom: I think a lot of people go through things in doctor’s offices and it is good when you have a good one. One person I know had an attack while they were drawing blood and she pulled the needle out and had an attack. Luckily, the doctor came in and took her out to rest. I am glad you had a good doctor. Having a gynecological check up is already such a vulnerable feeling.

I have such bad PTSD from many different traumas that I have to be hypervigilant about being too hypervigilant!

Sarah999

Hi 4light2shine,
What is “grey rocking”?

fight,
Years ago,when I was about to have a child and was being shown the delivery room;after noting the medical equipment and feeling a little nervous,I looked out the back entrance~down the stairs to the tree in the court.I was told a true story of how a young woman in labor,upon feeling the pains become intense,ran down the stairs,down to that tree!I had forgotten that story until now.Doctors must have alot of stories that they tell each other! 🙂

It’s terrible when one has to try to calm themselves so they don’t startle too much!I know the feeling!

fightforwhatsright

Wow! I don’t have children. I had Endometriosis from a young age. It runs in my family. My mother had it about 10 years after her last child. She told me the pain of Endometriosis was like the pain of childbirth. I would get such pain, I would nearly faint. I couldn’t imagine being able to run to a tree in that kind of pain. That’s more proof of what adrenaline can do!

fight,
My sister has endometriosis,so I’ve heard the pain is terrible!Sorry to hear you’ve had to cope with it.I couldn’t imagine running to a tree when in pain either,lol!

fightforwhatsright

Thank you, Blossom. I had a hysterectomy at 31 because I couldn’t take it any more. I had already had one major surgery on it at age 24 and told I’d have no kids. Luckily, I didn’t really want kids, so that was not as upsetting as it can be for some young women. Now, I just have a lot of scar tissue and some organs that are stuck together from the endometrial tissue I had so much of it. I just had a lung x-ray today at my new allergist because I could just tell I had something strange going on for a while now. She said it looked like my diaphragm was stuck to one lung. She was sending it to a radiologist. But, there isn’t anything to do about it. It just is.

I know there are a few more treatments for it than there were when I had it. Believe it or not, my Mom finally figured out that just taking simple aspirin the minute the pain started could avert the most intense pain. It was because of the inflammation. I had constant pain in some of the worst areas where there were implants and organs and my colon, etc. were messed up. But, on the days when I could feel it begin to hurt and the pain beginning to spread, an aspirin really helped more than you would think.

I feel for your sister. There used to be an Endometriosis Newsletter I subscribed to that was also very helpful to me at that time.

Sarah999

I found “grey rocking” . . good idea!

MLK2013

Linda, Thank you for doing this important work here. It’s very helpful for those that are impacted by these creatures.

First – about me – I’m the youngest 4th child of a P and my mother his co-conspirator – a 100% partner. I guess I’m the target. To figure this all out so late in life is sad.

I have never spent time in therapy. Everything I read made it seem as if the problem was me. That I needed to ‘work’ on me to deal with ‘them’. I always knew our family was off. I could find no examples of any healthy dynamics in our family – Only millions of examples of dangerous cruel dysfunction. I also saw the results with my siblings – who with 2 of them would have long periods of absence in our family. But then there was the ‘golden child’ – who never left – who would even stay at their house when they were gone. My P-daddy’s buddy – always a good soldier.

So – now I have 1,000,000% clarity. With that clarity comes 2 specific understandings.

1) The characteristics of the P are misguided when they use behaviors to determine the character. I believe that first the P is born without empathic capabilities and then their upbringing takes it from there. If they are raised with basically law abiding, responsible, kind, “normal” people, they will look more “normal” – they will not be so inclined to commit crimes. They will succeed and probably thrive without that. (That’s my Dad – EVERYBODY LOVES him) But there are also the ones that have other genetics that are violent, no matter how they are raised. That’s another problem. And of course if they grow up lacking in a more normal societal structure, maybe surrounded by crime, or drug abuse, etc. They will move in that direction. We are just animals. Learning from our environments even before we learn to speak.

2) I am always wondering why it seems that I keep ending up with P friends. Intimate friends. I do blame myself, and then I excuse myself. So here it is. Are they everywhere? yes, for me they are.

As humans we are constantly, instinctively, seeking a connection with other humans. Everywhere we go, at work, at the store, in school, with family, parties, bars, in waiting rooms. Everywhere.

And we CHOOSE people.. and .. they CHOOSE us.. we make connections. Sadly, I choose what I am most familiar with, what I am most comfortable with. Someone else on here said, it just feels right. And, they (the P’s) choose me. You see, I have learned how to schmooze them. Even though I was the target, it was very subtle. He rarely was specifically mean to me. Au contraire. His method was basically displaying kind behaviors and actions towards ‘others’ to me – the types of kindness that he would not give me. NEVER

So, throughout my life, I learned to ‘take it’. And keep plugging along. Keep trying. Keep proving that I was worthy. Worthy of parental love. At least parental acceptance.

But man, he hated me. So, I also learned to be comfortable with hate. Animosity. I can take it. I’m strong. (yea, right.. dying inside)

So, I say yes, we are active players. We run across them, then romance them and then keep them. Keep trying to get what we think we can get.. even though it’s impossible. We bring them into our lives. I don’t believe they are everywhere – I believe I gravitate to them. (I even set it up with my neighbor to rent the unit next door to me to my ‘best friend’. ug.. of course now the mask came off of him – i confronted him – and now i’m a target again .. yuck – my safe space is compromised)

Also, an important feature of the P is once they see they can’t manipulate you.. omg.. how they will destroy you. So, I also believe that when they know you see them – and this is on a very instinctive level – it’s like micro-expressions (see Paul Ekman) They are on high alert. You now become a target – so now you really see them.

It just feels like they are everywhere. But they are not easy to see. The ones I have chosen recently are the ones everyone says.. oh she’s so sweet, he’s so nice… Wolves in sheeps clothing…

Now, my goal is to find a way to be discerning. To chose ‘real’ people for friends. It’s a new game now.

fightforwhatsright

MLK 2013: Thank you for sharing your story. It’s very familiar and you make some great points here. I could especially relate to “choosing” what we “are familiar with” over and over. I hope to educate myself enough to spot them and choose a goodness I am unfamiliar with. I hope you will, too!

Donna has devoted her life to making sure people like us can support each other and stay informed. I read her story a couple of days ago and she was put through the ringer and still had the guts to tell others about it and write books and start this website.

Welcome MLK2013,
Thank you for sharing your story!No doubt the reason that you “gravitate” towards Ps and have put up with their behavior is because that is what you became accustomed to as you were growing up.

Keep reading and keep posting;you sound like you’re well on your way to understanding what has happened in your life.Now you need to learn about healthy relationships!Print out the list of red flags and memorize them~~~and start looking for the opposite!

cherith10

I flew to this site tonight because I knew I
could find sanity. I must type this letter by letter very slowly on a mobile phone that won’t move any faster. It shames me to admit that am married over 30 years to a person who must test surely test high on the sociopathic continuum. I had nine children with him and finally separated 8 years ago. As he has receded more in my life and as I have struggled to free myself more fully from him, an old childhood friend emerged. He found me through the Internet and called me. He spoke so gently, said that he could see through photos on FB that I was a wounded soul. His heart “bled” for me. He wanted to hear all about my life but was unwilling to talk about his own life. He just “wanted to be there for me.” I was living alone for the first time in my life, was lonely, and took the bait. Even after having read from this site extensively, I was lured in by this man’s keen interest in me. Immediately he was gushing that he just loved me and extolling my virtues. These “supportive” conversations in which I was confiding in him lasted over six months. There would be intervals when he would be absent due to business trips to NYC, London, China, and various other places. He told me that he was Vice President of Marketing for Fang clothing line. He drove a Porsche, was a millionaire living in Hollywood, was in fact Paris Hilton’s neighbor. But he was always evasive when asked specific questions about himself. He was a single gay man without a partner for 18 years, had no friends, and was out of touch with his family. I couldn’t find any reference to this man with Fang Clothing via Internet checks. I realized that this utter lack of a frame of reference was a red flag. I also found his unwillingness to talk of himself disturbing. When I called him on this via a Facebook message, he called and left me a voicemail message. That kind voice had abruptly changed. He called me pathetic, mentally disturbed, a “sad sack”, and another lewd comment. I felt suddenly assaulted by a person who’s mask was off. It was a chilling experience. The call was followed by an equally damaging Facebook message. It leaves me with the question of why I attract this sort of person? Why such incredibly bad luck? Perhaps I will learn to be more discerning next time. One thing I know: all that glitters is not gold. In fact beware of someone who glitters at all. This note was typed painstakingly slow, but I needed to say it.

Tea Light

Cherith I went cold reading of your chilling experience, a classic case of a predator zoning in on someone vulnerable online. Thankfully you saw the process ( lovebombing, which can be non-sexual of course; blatant fantastical lies) and pulled his mask off, but very upsettingfor you to be subjected to the typically nasty discard. Block him cherith! You know the drill! Unfriend him, report any cyberstalking and let’s hope he simply disappears back into the disordered swamp. Take care. 9 children btw?! Wow that must have been a journey cherith.

bluejay

cherith10,

Try not to let your former friend get to you, being hurt by anything he’s said or done. At work, I have female spaths that I deal with. If you can look at these types from a clinical, neutral way of thinking, it helps. Every one of them is full of b.s., lying every step of the way. Once you realize that someone is disordered, you refuse to get close to them, cutting down on the chances of being pulled into any drama that develops (and they ALL create drama, not having met one yet who doesn’t create headaches). Take care of yourself and know that spaths are everywhere. Over time, you learn to recognize them, who to let into your life and who to keep at bay. It’s good that you figured out that your former friend is a spath. Now, you know what to do. Peace.

fightforwhatsright

Cherith10: Thank you for reminding us that it can happen again and again. Congratulations for checking up on him and remembering to check the Red Flags when you did. Your experience also shows how easily they can go form wonderful to horrible when they know someone is on to them. I consider it a complement when a spath gets angry when I call them on their nonsense. Many go their whole lives with no one ever recognizing that they are truly a Sociopath. You caught him and he felt stupid. That is why he had to call you names in trying to bring you down. Stick around here and you will find that you will feel better each day.

cherith10

As soon as I got home, I went to Facebook, took a last look at this handsome profile pic of a man wearing sunglasses, and hit “Block”. In spite of his fury, he had not blocked me. In fact I could see that he was tuned in via mobile phone probably holding his breath, hoping for some defensive response from me. He will never get the sadistic pleasure of some hurt and wounded response. His words were calculated to wound, using all he knew of my struggles and vulnerabilities. I do wonder why he sought me out in the first place. As a nurse, I make a modest, though steady, income. But certainly not enough money to stalk me for. And nine children, even grown children is a lot of baggage. Although he would occasionally slip with sexually allusive remarks, I’m hardly sexual prey. In fact, he took pains that we should never meet, probably because theses so-called trips to NYC near my home never happened. What did he want with me? What was he trolling for?
Thanks for your responses. The shock of confronting the real person still haunts me. To think that I wanted him to come to my home for dinner! Hollywood is far away. May he stay as far away in his imaginary home as possible! He has my number. I know he’ll call. I won’t pick up, but I will dread seeing that Los Angeles number flash on my screen as it did last night. Again thanks for offering “sanity”. I knew I’d find it here.

fightforwhatsright

Cherith: Congratulations. From what I have read here lately about people on line, that may not even be his real photo. I hope you do something super nice for yourself today…and keep letting us know how you are doing with this situation.

Tea Light

Cherith, he sounds highly disordered. Whatever his exact motives were / are , be sure to implement strict and total no contact, strong in your knowledge that the vile behaviour you encountered is about an unhealthy individual’s disordered brain, not about the truth of you. Put neutral space between “it” and you. You always have support here. We know how unsettling these people can be. Take good care.

cherith10

Thank you Tea Light, Blue Jay, and fightforwhatsright for adding truth to a bizarre experience. I expected some lingering devastation, but I’m at peace. I am not his victim. I don’t need his praise and I’m not at the mercy of his ruthless personal attack. He does not own me. There is great freedom in recognizing that. I can see now that my “childhood friend” who was bigger than life and full of high praise was a re-run of a previous experience. It seems that I needed to review the lesson.

Cherith – Thank you for recounting your experience – it is an important reminder for everyone. As to why he would do it – some sociopaths lead people on just to entertain themselves. Disgusting, but true. I’m so glad you got rid of him quickly.

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