Last week I introduced the Dunedin study a 30+ year look at the lives, behaviors and personalities of a group of New Zealanders born in 1972. We learned that a small percentage of males and females in the study population were responsible for a high percentage of the antisocial acts reported by the group. Next week, I will discuss the personalities and early histories of this group of people.
This week I want to tell you about the one exception to the observation that men were more antisocial than women. In the realm of intimate partner violence, women were as antisocial as men. Furthermore, a general tendency to be antisocial was found in both men and women who were violent toward their partners.
The results of the study support the contention that sociopathy leads to intimate partner violence.
At age 21 participants reported about partner violence over the past year (83%) or as part of their dating experience (8%). They were assessed by a structured interview that included questions about perpetration and victimization. The researchers also conducted identical interviews with partners of the study participants. They used the:
• Physical Abuse Scale- 13 items
— Physical twisted arm
— Pushed grabbed or shoved
— Slapped
— Physically forced sex
— Shake
— Throw
— Thrown object at
— Chocked or strangled
— Kicked, bit, hit with fist
— Hit with something
— Beat up
— Threaten with gun or knife
— Use of gun or knife
The study found that 8% of couples had clinical level of IPV. In the 30 cases that involved justice system, 80% of the abuse lead to injuries. Both male and female perpetrators were involved. Women with a history of conduct problems were more likely to become involved in a relationship with an abusive man; being involved with an abusive man contributed significantly to woman’s perpetration. However, even after controlling or partners’ physical abuse, women with a history of conduct problems were still likely to commit violence.
The researchers also found that these aspects of the antisocial propensity contributed to intimate partner aggression in both men and women:
— Approval of the use of violence
— Excessive jealousy and suspiciousness
— Intense and rapid negative emotions
— Poor self-control
They concluded, “Among men and women IPV perpetration is but another expression of an earlier-emerging antisocial propensity.”
There were other studies my class and I read that concluded men more frequently perpetrated domestic violence. The authors of these studies suggested that dominance motives on the part of men were important. My class and I then set about to search for other research regarding dominance motives and intimate partner violence. We found a paper that explains it all, Dominance and symmetry in partner violence by male and female university students in 32 nations by Murray A. Straus, Ph.D. of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire.
This paper addressed three questions:
1. Is partner violence primarily perpetrated by men, as compared to women, and as compared to both partners engaging in physical violence?
2. To what extent is dominance by the male partner associated with partner violence, as compared to dominance by the female partner?
3. In short is the risk factor male dominance or dominance by one partner, regardless of whether it is the male female partner?
Their first finding was that female university students around the world more frequently perpetrated partner violence, the gender gap was about 30%. They then set out to examine whether male or female dominance in the relationship was related to IPV.
Dominance by the partner who completed the survey was measured by the Dominance scale of the Personal and Relationships Profile. Examples of the items are “I generally have the final say when my partner and I disagree” and “My partner needs to remember that I am in charge.” The response categories are 1 = Strongly Disagree, 2 = Disagree, 3 = Agree, and 4 = Strongly Agree. The scale score is the mean of nine items.
The nation with the highest score for Dominance by male partners was Tanzania, which is also the least modernized of the 32 nations in this study. The four national settings which are the next most male dominant are Russia, Iran, Taiwan and mainland China. The national setting in which male students have the lowest average dominance score is Sweden, which is a nation that has led the way in steps to promote gender equality. The other four of the five least male dominant national settings are Netherlands, Canada, Switzerland, and Malta.
In relationships where only men were violent. Male dominance increased the odds of violence by 2.29. Each increase of one point on the four point Dominance scale increased the probability of violence by male students 2.29 times. Interestingly, of the other four variables in the Male-Only panel, only one—length of the relationship—is significantly related to Male-Only violence.
In relationships where only women were violent, male dominance increased the risk of Female-only violence by 1.96 times. Again for each one point increase in the male dominance scale Female —Only violence increased 1.96 times. The only other significant relationship in the Female-Only panel shows that the longer the relationship the higher the odds of Female-Only violence.
What about male dominance and bidirectional violence (relationships where both partners are violent)? First, dominance by the male partner is associated with a three-fold increase in the probability of both partners being violent. This is larger than the increase in the probability of Male-Only or Female-Only violence. That is, dominance by a male partner is more strongly associated with bidirectional violence than with Male-Only violence.
Now comes the most interesting part”¦ dominance by women. This is for all you great guys out there who know that women are not always sweet, lovely, submissive creatures. Female dominance was actually common in relationships around the world!
Overall, the Dominance scale scores are higher for women than for men in 24 of the 32 nations, and in all 12 of the nations with the lowest scores for male dominance. Although the differences are small, they are not consistent with the large body of evidence showing greater male power in intimate relationships in most societies. But keep in mind the subjects of this study were university men and women.
Female dominance as reported by women is associated with about a two and half times greater probability of the Male-Only pattern of IPV. The probability of Male-Only violence increases by 3% for each additional month the relationship has been in effect.
Female dominance is much more strongly linked to Female-Only violence than was shown for the relation of male dominance to Female-Only violence. That is, when there is dominance by either partner, it increases the odds of Female-Only violence, but the increase is much greater for female dominance.
Female dominance also increased bi-directional violence, but the effect of female dominance on the odds of bidirectional violence tends to be greater than the effect of male dominance. Age is related to a decrease in the odds of bidirectional violence, and the longer the relationship the greater the odds of bidirectional violence.
I think the research in IPV gives us very important messages about love and life. First sociopaths who are obsessed with power and dominance are not good relationship partners. Secondly, although the human dominance drive is there to energize us to compete and better ourselves, this drive if out of balance, can be very destructive.
What say you?
Ox,
Just want to toss a little trivia in here about the terms “redneck” and “hillbilly”.
One origin/use of the Redneck term is what was used when talking about a union man in the coal fields. During the wars in which the “company” even dropped bombs from airplanes on striking coal miners. Many miners wore red bandanas around their necks. That is one common use and origin of the term and one I know I would be quite proud of seeing as they were fighting against power/corruption for basic human rights.
Another origin farther back in time is Scottish and was applied to those Scotts that fled persecution of the british crown to Ulster. They often wore red pieces of cloth around their necks as a symbol.
Hillbilly is also scottish (scotts/irish) thing. The supporters of King William were called orangemen and billyboys in Ulster and hence the term hillbillys was applied to them there and when many moved to the Ozarks in the US.
Dear Blogger,
Almost all of my forebearers can be traced back to the Scots from Northern Ireland (called Scots-Irish HERE by others, but not themselves) King James, who hated the Celtic (Catholic) Irish, started sending the low-land Scots (who were more racially identical to the British) and who were protestant into Northern Ireland to take over the farms of the outcast Celtic and Cathlic Irish. Of course, this war is still going on today. Because the Scots hated the Irish, there was VERY little intermarriage. I in fact, know a couple who LEFT IRELAND to come here to the US in order to be safe from both their families since they “inter”-married.
When I was growing up in the 50s and early 60s in this community, there was the same prejudice against intermarriage with Catholics (we also had an Italian community nearby) and until the 1970s and 80s, there was almost NO intermarriage between the Catholics and the protestants here, and even then there was great turmoil between the groups about intermarriage, otherwise they got along pretty well. When you consider that the Italians settled here in 1860 (that is eighteen 60) that was almost 100 years that they stayed seperate and there was no intermarriage to speak of, due to the prejudices on both sides.
We still maintain a great many of the words and customs of the Scots-Irish here…A good book on the customs of the various groups which settled the US colonies is Albion’s Seed. It gives an overview of different groups and is pretty accurate.
Thanks for the triva. I will use it and start a debate with the guys tonight at supper! Our “debate” is usually pretty loosely “documented” and mainly suppported by PUNS as “proofs.”
The thing about the Scots is, that if they could have quit fighting among themselves, they could have ruled the WORLD. LOL Even in our local Scottish society, they fight among themselves like the skermishes between the clans! LOL
On a more serious note, I think a great deal of the propensity for violence, both within and without the family, and many of the customs that are so deeply ingrained, such as, the “What would the neighbors think?” are part and parcel of both genetics and family training that goes back a thousand years.
To those who have also encountered this, almost like their own language but not really dyslexic but more of a compete transpostion of words and phrases that make no sense whatsoever, as I have seen in some exes and family members, I’m no professional or expert so this is just a hunch from what I’ve read that psychopaths attempt to mimick our language as well as the pseudo emotions, fake empath, mirroring and so on…This link is actually a page from Cleckely’s “The Inner Landscape of the Psychopath, Mask of Sanity” 5th ed. which explains this phenomenon far better than I can.
http://www.angelfire.com/zine2/narcissism/Cleckley1.html
Dear steelgreyeyes,
Welcome to LF, glad you are here and thanks for posting the link.
It is difficult sometimes to tell the psychopath from the “simply” dysfunctional, flawed human beings, and the latter, I am one of, but working hard to dig myself out of the abyss and old patterns socially inherited from my dysfunctional ancestors….
Sometimes the Ps are able to mask themselves pretty well, other times they are unable to do so. The trick is that if we live a functional life of our own, we will distance ourselves not only from the Ps, but the “simply dysfunctional” as well as soon as we start to see “red flags” in either of them. I am no longer so “tolerant” of even “simple dysfunction” in my intimates, but am requiring at least as much moral compass as I have.
Thank you for your kind welcome and words of wisdom OxDrover. I appreciate your experiences and insight in dealing with people who exhibit any red flags or diminished moral compass and whatever red flags we need to pay heed in order to be protect ourselves. How true that psychopaths do blend in so well that it’s scary, but hopefully in time I will also learn to detect them more easily and learn to trust that gut feeling when people seem off. I am learning so much on this site and am relieved to have found such a safe haven of learning healing and validation. Thank you all for being here. Hopefully one day I will be as far along as you are.
My experience, Steelgreyeyes, is that the further along the “road to healing” that I get, is that I realize it isn’t about THEM, it is about ME. Making myself P-Proof as much as anyone can be. To learn to protect myself, listen to my intuition. After encounters with many Ps, on many levels of “evil”, some in my family, others in the business world, and one “dating experience” I am realizing that MY OWN sense of “owing” others to “make them happy” (at my own expense of course) is a good deal of why I ever got “taken in.” Now I am learning to be much MUCH more selective about people I let close to me and any sign of dishonesty, ANY sign…whether it is a lie, or “taking advantage” of someone else, or anger management, or any other red flag, those people go OUTSIDE MY “CIRCLE OF TRUST” FOREVER. Even if what they did was not TO me, or even about me, if they will misuse anyone else, they will eventually misuse me.
Learning to set boundaries for people, and then ENFORCE those boundaries is difficult for me, but I am learning. Again, it isn’t about what they did, it is what I ALLOWED. Doesn’t excuse their bad behavior at all, but only I can DIS-ALLOW IT once I see it.
OxDrover, thank you for sharing your invaluable experience and advice. I appreciate what you write so much. This whole site has so much to process it’s a little overwhelming, but in a good way. I can see intellectually that you are right about how it isn’t about what others have done. I can relate to your difficulty in setting healthy boundaries and enforcing them, especially when it is a new behaviour. I’m happy that you can do so now and be happy with the close people who have earned your trust. Hopefully, down the road I will get to where you are in this process and stop making excuses for people or trying to be nice no matter what the cost. Thank you for giving me hope and some things to strive for.
“quest says:
one last question . Do psychopaths have any physical defects that would give them away . Now you may wonder where the hell I am coming from with this . Well , all the psychopathic women that I am aware of have been good looking and have looked way younger than there age . I can think of about 12 that I know . 3 of these women had rather unusal feet . The rest of them I did not get to see there feet or if I did it did not dawn on me that there was a pattern . My X’s feet were a bit defective in that the toes were not alined with the foot , in fact they veered quite badly out wards . At the time I did not really think anything of it untill just recently when I met another psychopathic woman that I was attracked to and she had the same kind of defect in her feet . When I saw the feet it actually startled me as at the time all the alarm bells were going of as far as her being a psychopath and then I saw the feet . Well then I got to thinking and then I remembered another problem woman that I had had a relationship with about 15 years ago and she to had the same feet . Well I can’t wait till summer cause I will be on a foot mission
Wednesday, 25 March 2009 @....... 12:15am”
Well, I’m finally catching up, but I really had to laugh at this gem! Feet!
Old story. I had just become involved with my x-tox a few months before. I was travelling in Iowa….stopped at a truckstop restaurant in the middle of nowhere…and on the little “special” holder….a little sign about women’s feet! The gist of it was…if a woman’s middle toe (of the five) was longer than the rest, she would prove to be a domineering woman. Well, I got back, and guess what? I told her about it and she laughed! Later, I noticed her mother’s feet…same deal (apparantly an aunt had six toes…no reference for that one). Fast forward 25 years…I missed some important wisdom on a little sign in an Iowa truckstop!
Yup, summer is almost here…life will be easier. Flip-flops and foot exposure! Reminds me of Oxy and the jail JELLY FLIP FLOPS…maybe they already know?
ROTFLMAO!…Who’s checking their toes?
TOWANDO! Wisdom grows!
Quest,
Yup unusual feet, for sure, highly calloused like I’ve never seen, for some reason… skin on arms, and legs was thin too,rough, dry. Very attractive otherwise. Basically threw herself at me from the first day, and that was the best con day, best first kiss(of death) I ever had… downhill from there. Ever see Marnie? well pretty much covers it to a tee, horse lover and all. Except she didn’t need to rob safes. Much easier, and safer, to con it. Touching her was bad, but, while asleep was a huge no no… exploded in anger. Mornings were peculiar as well. Avoidance of contact by instantly springing out of bed, never to return until time to fall asleep again (That’s all beds are for, right?)
So maybe you see her power center, it was all about withholding.
Broke
Dear flat Broke,
Thanks for bringing up this great article again. I hadn’t read it in a long time and it was interesting to re-read it and to see the old comments, (some mine) and to remember some of the posters who used to post frequently. A few still here from time to time or regulars.
Thanks for bringing up this very interesting article from the archives.