Heroin and oxycontin belong to a class of drugs called opiates. Lovefraud recently received a letter from a reader that raised the issue of heroin addiction in sociopaths:
For nearly two years after my relationship with him ended, I was on the web researching heroin addiction because I assumed this was where all of his abusive behavior came from, but I stumbled upon information on sociopaths, and realized that he fits every trait”¦I know substance abuse behavior can mimic sociopathic behavior, but it is clear that the man I was in a relationship with is a sociopath, and was able to use his addiction as an explanation and excuse to further manipulate the many people who offered help to him”¦ The man I dated definitely went beyond the regular lying and stealing that takes place and went far into the realm of sadism- taking great joy in manipulation and emotional devastation of others. He was breaking into cars and taking great risks to his physical safety as a child/young man, well before his drug use started. It makes sense to me that people who are sociopaths and do not have a conscience would be more likely to become heroin addicts, as seeing others being hurt by their behavior would not be a deterrent. Whereas someone with a conscience would feel just as good when they take the heroin, they would be more likely to think about its effects on others, and stop the behavior.
I trained in three public urban hospitals where the prevalence of opiate addiction was so high that I treated countless numbers of these patients and encountered them on a daily basis. That nearly all were sociopaths was an inescapable reality. It did not seem possible that all these people were sociopaths prior to becoming addicted, so I have long believed that heroin especially makes people into sociopaths.
My beliefs have been confirmed by a number of scientific studies. One particularly thorough study was published in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology in 1998 (Vol. 107.p 412-422) entitled, A Typology of Antisociality in Methadone Patients by Dr. Arthur I. Alterman and colleagues of the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine.
These researchers studied 252 men in methadone maintenance programs. Their average age was 40. The researchers looked extensively into the backgrounds and histories of the subjects and had them complete a number of personality tests. They also interviewed them using Robert Hare’s PCL-R.
The study identified 6 groups of subjects, each with a unique psychological profile. 72 percent of the sample were sociopaths. That means that only 28 percent were not significantly antisocial. The researchers believed that in perhaps 17 percent of the sample the sociopathy was due to the addiction. The take home message though was that 55 percent were highly psychopathic as measured by the PCL-R. About a quarter of the total sample were married and we can assume the rest had relationships of some sort.
Government statistics indicate there may be as many as 2 million opiate addicts in the US. There are only 650 methadone maintenance programs in the US with an estimated 120,000 clients. These clients are likely similar to those of the reported study, but it is reasonable to believe that non-sociopaths are over represented in treatment programs, so the 28 percent figure may be an over-estimate with regard to the total addict population.
One of the most interesting findings of the above study was that Machiavellianism was high in the 55 percent of methadone clients who were sociopaths. Machiavellianism was measured by the 20-item MACH-IV which measures egocentricity, a lack of concern with conventional morality, and interpersonal manipulativeness. These symptoms would predict a great deal of distress in the spouses and romantic partners of the subjects- not to mention the children born to these parents.
The results of the study raise other important points I have made on this blog. First, among the very antisocial and manipulative opiate addicts there were a range of PCL-R scores. This means that you should not be concerned with trying to decide if the person who is hurting and manipulating you meets some magical cut-off score. Instead look at the list of traits Donna has posted and see if the description more or less fits.
Also, childhood and teen problems cannot always be identified in people who are very psychopathic. Things happen in late adolescence and early adulthood that change people. Furthermore, just because we can’t prove a given person had antisocial tendencies early in life, doesn’t mean they weren’t there. The other implication of this is that at-risk young people require careful, loving, hands-on parenting even if they seem OK. Addiction may be an event that tips at-risk individuals into the realm of psychopathy.
The brain opiate systems are central to love and attachment in humans. This fact may account for the propensity for sociopaths to use heroin. It may also be that opiate drugs specifically poison a person’s ability to love, making him/her egocentric, grandiose and manipulative.
Dear Readytolearn – (I like that one) Im glad you found Lovefraud. Im sorry for you pain you are going through and for the legal battle ahead of you. While the outcome is yet to be determined, I understand you already feel so defeated. Your inner strength, conviction and belief is something that will get you through this. You dont mention the age of your son or if you have joint custody but if his father isnt “clean” – it will only take a matter of time before that becomes apparant. I hope you gain insight and strength from finding Lovefraud and sharing your journey. Hold on to want you want for your sons future, let that encourage./inspire you.
DEar REadytolearn,
Welcome to LoveFRaud, and I am so glad that you are here in this healing community of support, but so sorry that you qualify for “membership.” It sounds like you have hell on earth!
Opening our eyes to the reality that they are what they ARE is difficult for all of us, but it must be doubly difficult with your son involved. You also mentioned your daughters.
How old is your son?
Yes, the “system” is gullible just like WE were gullible and fell for their lies and their abuse. The system also tries to “rationalize” the INSANITY OF IT, THE TRUTH OF IT AWAY.
I am glad that you have a counselor to help you through this terrible time in your life. Sometimes unfortunately, we do have to “cut our losses” and “let go” of people we love dearly because of the psychopaths. Sometimes it is because they ARE psychopaths and sometimes it is another innocent victim who is dueped by their lies. Children of any age are more “dupeable” than some outsiders because their lack of sophistication etc can be “bought” with “toys” and “things” that they think are more important than a parent who says “NO, you cannot have X, because it is not good for you.”
When we are in a situation where someone is abusing our children by giving them things we know are not good for them, and OUR HANDS ARE TIED, it is so painful we feel like we can’t go on, but for your son’s sake, you have to take care of YOU if you are not able (at this time) to take care of him. At some point in the future, he may need you to be there for him. From my own experience I can tell you I “lost” a son to him being duped by my mother, his P-brother (also my son) and my son’s P-wife at the time. It took almost 8 years, but I GOT MY SON BACK and our relationshp is better than it has ever been. He now knows the truth, that he was duped, lied to and abused by the Ps in our family. He sees the light, so NEVER GIVE UP on your son if he is duped by his father, that may change.
As long as you keep on “fighting” your son’s father, he will continue to drive wedges between you and your son, and when I quit fighthing my own family demons, the psychopaths, it wasn’t long before when they no longer had a common enemy (me) that they TURNED ON EACH OTHER.
Sometimes, by letting the psychopath “win” a battle, in the end WE WIN THE WAR! I can testify that happened in my case. God bless you and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Stay around here and read the back blog articles. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. God bless.
Hi all, I have been reading this site and was drawn to it from my experience, this site has really helped me, I am slowly getting out of a very manipulative realtionship (married in 2000) if you can call it a marriage, he loves me, needs me, controls me, and I keep running. Thought he was a phycopath but kept changing my opionion and watching him, kept leaving him, he would get so sick I could not live with the guilt of what I was doing to him. It wasn’t fair he manipulated me into marriage, it didn’t seem like a real marriage, anyway folks I have a story and this site is really helping me, and my story is also so unique like yours…
ok here goes, I think that antisocial behaviour is developed by the enviorment surrounding the person, and can be changed with a better enviorment and situations, education etc. Narcissists is developed from a lifestyle so negative for many years, and it is hard for a person to trust and be happy, because they have been worried about survival and so very worried all their life, if conituned in a negative envoriment yes it could develop into something more serious and the person could become eventually Sociopath. People are like plants they need to be feed love, good food, good thought, good surrondings and good people, good faith.
Wboyle: Welcome. I like most of your theory, I too believe it’s environmental … but, I believe they perceive situations dysfunctionaly, believing in what their egos tell them than to listen to wisdom by an elder in their environment … whether that elder be a family member, school system, church, family friend.
Because they only listen to their own egos … there is no room for wisdom. I believe they refuse to go back into a humble state of mind. I believe they perceive being humble as a weakness and society seems to go along with this theory. Oh, yeah, everyone likes when someone is nice … but, if you are a nice loving person, society just walks all over you … like, you’re easy to con.
Peace.
Ready to Learn,
How old is your son?
You may find yourself with custody again after a few agonizing years. Try to get your own life back on track. Here’s why. Drug addicts rarely break free from their addictions. Chances are your X will spiral downward again, leaving your son in need of a home. You need to be waiting with a good home when that day arrives.
I know women who have lost the custody battle and perception battle on every front. Their S/P/N ex spouses have successfully convinced the courts and all their mutual acquintances that the wife/mother was crazy, spiteful, delusional and even dangerous.
Then the mother pulled herself together in subsequent years, while the father fell apart. Remember, they’re the cluster Bs. Falling apart is what they do.
You are a wreck right now because you were in the frag pattern of one or more of those explosions. Apart from him, you’ll heal. After he leaves the “stage” of the courtroom and his legal triumphs over you, he will act out his illness again. It’s only a matter of time. Just be ready when he does.
Elizabeth Conley:
Good advice to Readytolearn.
Your points about drug addicts rarely breaking free from their addictions and cluster Bs falling apart are true. I needed to be reminded of that.
Last night I was out having a drink with friends who were in from out-of-town and I saw S swanning around the bar — he looked worse than the last time I saw him 4 months ago. It’s obvious he’s back on drugs. And it’s obvious that he’s going to have to find the money somewhere to pay for the drugs. His life is on a downward spiral.
I always say I want to be sitting in court the day he is sent back to prison. When I saw him last night, I realized that it’s no longer a question of IF he gets sent back to prison, but a question of WHEN he gets sent back to prison.
Well Matt,
I’ve seen this play out, only the mother involved was so upset that she engaged in some really self destructive behavior after the messy divorce and loss of child custody. At the time it was easy to believe she was a nut. Her behavior was startling.
Then she pulled herself together, her S ex fell apart, and she got her daughter back. The daughter is 5 years older and badly emotionally damaged, but she’s back with her mother. This is less than ideal, but better than nothing.
I think this mother would have been happier if she hadn’t fallen apart quite so messily after the loss of her marriage and child. She did some very dangerous things. She had no support. I certainly didn’t understand, and neither did anyone else. Education is key.
Elizabeth Conley:
I’ve seen it play out, too. At the time I saw a friend’s mother unspool I thought “what the hell is wrong with her? If she doesn’t grab the reins, she’s a goner.”
Fact of the matter in divorce court she was a goner. From the word go.
By the time my friend and his siblings were returned to her all I remember thinking is “the murder took place 5 years ago, only the bodies haven’t yet hit the ground.” Still, their mom was able to right their ships. But, what a cost everybody paid because of the sociopathic husband/father.
I didn’t understand then. But, boy do I understand now.
I’m really glad the family reunited and healed.