Editor’s note: Lovefraud welcomes Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach. In this article, she reminds us that this too shall pass. Read more about Liberty.
By Liberty Forrest, PDHom
Recently, a very dear friend was confiding in me. After a tremendous shock some months ago that left her reeling, she’s been having a pretty bumpy time. She’s been feeling stuck. Very, very stuck, and wondering if she’ll ever see the light at the end of the tunnel (when it’s not the train coming at her).
One of the most difficult bits of her troubles has been that she’s had no control over the situation. Finding herself in a toxic relationship that had suddenly turned violent, her life blew up and there she stood, holding the charred scraps of it in scorched hands and wondering what on earth to do now.
It’s bad enough when Life lobs stuff at us that we can fix – even if it’s going to take a while. But what do you do when it’s completely out of your hands and you don’t know the next step to take?
You wait. You feel powerless. Helpless. It’s agonising. But it’s all you can do, so you wait.
I’ve certainly been where my friend is – well, in general terms, of course, because we can never really know exactly what someone else’s experience is. And I’m sure you’ve been there, too. I told my friend I understood how she’s feeling, explaining that it’s as though your life’s been ticking along, like a little pond with its smooth bits and its ripply bits, the odd strong wind whipping up a bit of a wave here and there. But the storms pass and the surface of the water calms as it seeks to find its level, and balance is restored.
And then one day, something tears into your life like a meteorite thundering through the heavens and crashing into that lake, causing an almighty disturbance. The enormous splash creates violent waves that scatter and unsettle everything in their path.
But soon the shock passes. The traumatic waves subside, naturally seeking their level again, seeking balance as they make their way to the shore, gradually becoming smaller, ever softening, gently rolling, until they are mere ripples dissolving into the sand.
And so it is with the great shocks and disturbances of Life, those events that turn you inside out when you’re right smack in the spot where the meteorite comes thundering into your soul. But your spirit will survive it, even if sometimes, it feels like it won’t. Your spirit will find its level; it will seek balance. Those early difficult moments, slamming into you one after another, intense and frequent like ominous, rolling waves, will gradually dissolve into the gentle ripples of easier days.
And one day, the last little ripple caused by that initial, thunderous shock, will quietly tickle its way onto the sand and balance will once again be restored.
Wherever you are in that lake, whether fighting to keep your head above water in those horrible first waves, or whether you’re somewhere along the more gently bobbing ones, just keep your eye on the shore and know that you are a little closer to it today than you were yesterday. Just know that this too shall pass and one way or another, you will move on from this place. It is inevitable.