11 brazen lies from my sociopathic ex

All sociopaths lie. They tell big lies, little lies, stupid lies. They lie when they would be better off telling the truth. But what’s really shocking is the brazen lies — lies so big and dramatic that you would never suspect anyone would have the nerve to make such statements if they weren’t true. Ha! Today, I offer you 11 brazen lies from my sociopathic ex.

If you’re new to Lovefraud, you may not know my personal story. I learned first-hand about sociopaths and their brazen lies when I married James Alwyn Montgomery. 

I met Montgomery online back in 1996. This was when online dating was in its infancy. Everyone was using “Love at AOL,” where you could post text but no photos or video. Montgomery described himself as a “Sean Connery look-alike,” which was his first lie. But this was two years before Google launched, so there was no real way to check out his story. 

11 brazen lies from my sociopathic ex

The lies kept coming. Unfortunately, it wasn’t until later that I learned they were lies.

“I won the Victoria Cross serving in the Vietnam War”

Montgomery was originally from Sydney, Australia, although when we met, he lived near me in New Jersey. He said he served several tours in Vietnam. During one nasty engagement, his platoon came under enemy fire and several soldiers were wounded. But Montgomery fought the enemy bravely and cleared a landing zone to evacuate the wounded. For his heroism, he was awarded Australia’s highest military honor, the Victoria Cross. He sent me the “Mention in Dispatches” document that described his valor.

There was one problem — Montgomery was never in the military. The “Mention in Dispatches” document was forged.

“I’m a Hollywood scriptwriter”

Montgomery was supposedly working on a deal to make an action movie starring a former pro football player turned actor. He also wrote the “bible” for Star Trek Voyager, which outlined the backstory for the series. When I met him, he was peddling a script called The First Casualty, a love story set during the Vietnam War.

Well, the action movie never materialized, although Montgomery scammed another woman out of $200,000 to fund its development. He never wrote an episode of “Star Trek,” and attempted to con another woman into sharing her scriptwriting credits. And The First Casualty script was stolen.

“All this will be yours”

Shortly after Montgomery proposed, he invited me to his townhome for a tour. From the patio, I walked into the living room, tastefully decorated in a classic style, with a dark blue sofa, plaid chaise and custom drapes. Montgomery stood in the center of the room, raised his arms and said, “All this will be yours.”

Except it wasn’t his to give me. The townhome belonged to his previous wife who died two months before we met — he didn’t tell me that either. Everything went to her parents and they sold the townhome. Montgomery never explained what happened to it.

“I’ll never need another woman”

As our infatuation began, Montgomery admitted to me that he had cheated on previous women in his life. That would all stop, he said. “With you, I’ll never need another woman.”

That was a lie. He continued a relationship that started five years before I met him — more on that soon. In fact, he kept seeing her throughout his marriage to the wife before me. He also kept in touch with multiple other women that he’d already swindled. And, he was online throughout our involvement, searching for new targets. He never stopped.

“I’m in the desert in a location embarrassing to our government”

Just before I met Montgomery in person, TWA Flight 800 took off from JFK airport in New York, flew for 12 minutes and exploded, killing all 230 people on board. Montgomery said it was shot down by terrorists. Since he was still “attached” to U.S. Special Forces, he was called away on a mission to find the bad guys who did it. He’d be gone for a couple of weeks but would fax me when he could.

Well, there were no terrorists — investigators eventually found that the plane exploded due to a mechanical problem. So where was Montgomery? In the townhouse, entertaining the woman he’d been seeing for five years, who eventually became his baby mama.

“Not a gay bone in my body”

Early in our relationship, Montgomery asked if I had any questions for him. I thought a bit and asked, “Have you been tested for AIDS?”

“That’s a very good question,” he answered. “I get tested all the time because of my work. And I don’t have a gay bone in my body.”

After Montgomery and I split up, I searched his documents, trying to separate the truth from his lies. I found his emails negotiating with a gay male prostitute, sent after we started seeing each other. And no, he never had an AIDS test.

“I want to look after you when I’m gone”

Shortly after we met, Montgomery invited me to visit Australia. One evening before we left, he said he wanted to make sure I was taken care of when he was gone. Soon, Australian military benefits would no longer be paid to foreign spouses. But if we got married right away, I would be able to collect his pension. 

So we moved up the wedding and got married at the Registry Office in Sydney, like a courthouse wedding. Montgomery, of course, had never been in the military. The whole story was a ruse to marry me so he could quickly access my finances.

“I’m flying to Nassau with Geoffrey Rush”

Montgomery was out of town, supposedly meeting movie executives and the Australian actor Geoffrey Rush about his First Casualty script. Suddenly he called and said Rush had invited him to the Nassau Film Festival. A few days later, he called and said he was being presented with an award at the festival. When he got home, he showed me the award. “It looks like a bowling trophy,” he complained.

In reality, he went to Paradise Island in Nassau with his baby mama. There was no Nassau Film Festival. And yes, it was a bowling trophy. Montgomery bought it for himself at a local trophy store.

“I have no wives hiding in the closet.”

I was running out of money, so Montgomery needed another woman to swindle. He met “Sylvia,” as I call her in my book, Love Fraud. To prove that he was single and available, he sent her the death certificate of the wife before me, proclaiming, “I have no wives hiding in the closet.”

He convinced Sylvia to do work for him and invest in his business schemes. She wanted to know who Donna was and suspected we were married. No, Montgomery said, I was just an employee, and a lousy one at that.

“She was a lesbian and I did her a favor”

Montgomery finally came up with a business plan that looked like it was going to work — a Titanic exhibition. While we were in Florida to get the show going — which was another lie — I discovered that Montgomery had a baby daughter, conceived and born during our marriage.

While Montgomery was out of town, I packed up and drove back to New Jersey. My soon-to-be-ex kept calling. He wanted to talk. He wanted to explain. When I finally called him back, he said, “It’s not what you think.”

“No?” I asked. “What is it?”

“The woman is a friend of mine and a lesbian. She wanted a child, so I did her a favor.”

This time, I knew immediately that Montgomery was lying.

“It was a secret government program”

When I divorced Montgomery, the court awarded me a judgment for the money he took from me. Years later, I finally found him living in Australia with his baby mama and daughter. 

By this time, I’d remarried and was ready to tell my story on Lovefraud. I sent information about Montgomery’s military claims to an organization in Australia that exposed military frauds. They investigated — Montgomery’s claims about his military service were all lies, and stupid lies at that. 

The local tabloid newspaper printed a story about Montgomery called, Meet Major Fraud. The reporter called Montgomery, who admitted that he was never really in the military. 

He said he was actually part of a secret government program to prove how easy it was to impersonate a war hero. The information was never supposed to go public, but his diabolical American ex-wife (me) released it. 

In the meantime, Montgomery had joined the Returned and Services League (RSL), which was like the American Legion, in Australia. Shortly before the newspaper article was published, he marched in Australian veterans’ parades wearing his “medals.”

But according to Montgomery, it was all my fault.

The whole wild story

So those are 11 brazen lies from my sociopathic ex. There are many more lies that he told to me and his multiple other victims. He lied about everything. 

I tell the whole wild story in my first book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. The story reads like a cross between a true crime novel and a spiritual journey. In the end, there was a reason for my experience, as there is a reason for whatever you are going through. On the other side of the tribulations are healing and wisdom.

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