How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

Co-parenting and Interactions with the Sociopath After the Divorce

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by Quinn Pierce I sat on the edge of the stage watching the teams race up and down the court. It was the first game of my son's basketball tournament. I knew my ex-husband was there, because I saw his car when I pulled into the parking lot.  I wasn't surprised that he was there, even though he said he wasn't going.  He often changed his plans last minute, or lied entirely just to avoid giving a difinitive answer and to keep others off balance. When I saw him standing by the players, I felt a mix of annoyance and disgust that he continues to play the 'Father of the Year' role, despite the cruel and un-fatherly behavior he practices behind closed doors.  At least I knew he would not try to …

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Marissa Alexander out of jail after being sentenced to 20 years for a warning shot

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In August 2010, nine days she gave birth, Marissa Alexander fired a warning shot to keep her abusive estranged husband, Rico Gray, from attacking her. The bullet hit a wall. Nobody was hurt. Rico Gray admitted that he threatened to kill Marissa Alexander. But she was prosecuted for aggravated assault with a deadly weapon, convicted, and sentenced to 20 years in prison. Alexander was awarded a new trial because of a procedural error. In the retrial, the prosecutor a woman wanted to go for a sentence of 60 years. So Alexander took the plea deal of two years of house arrest, wearing a GPS ankle bracelet. She got out of jail last week. The outrageous case sparked widespread protests, …

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The Cost of a Sociopath

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I've been writing my next book and decided to share a piece of it. Here it is: All my life, I've been surrounded by facts and figures about how many years you lose if you do certain things. Like smoke cigarettes. Or do drugs. Or drink too much alcohol. People like to threaten and motivate each other with scary statistics that encompass not only dangerous behaviors but also self-neglect. Like failing to exercise. Or skipping stress-reduction techniques. “For every year you smoke, you take a year off your life.” Something like that. But I don't think anyone knows how many years you lose to a psychopath. Not even counting the years you spend going crazy before you finally figure out …

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I couldn’t believe he was so harsh and cruel

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Trina." Names have been changed in this tale. I dated "Samuel" for three and one half years. I knew he had a criminal past and supported him changing and turning his life around. We were penpals and he wrote me beautiful letters and poems declaring his love. He was amazing at first and so perfect for me, we clicked on every level and I had never met someone more right for me so I moved to the United States. At first he was still very loving although a little dull if I'm honest. After a while we began arguing. One argument was on New Year's eve. A woman from his work called him before midnight. I …

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Telemarking call saves woman from domestic violence

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A call center representative in Las Vegas placed a call and heard a woman on the other end of the call pleading, "please don't kill me." The telemarketing company called authorities in Linn County Oregon, who responded to the scene. Walter Warren John Ruck, 33, was arrested and charged with fourth degree assault, menacing and strangulation, according to 8 News Now in Las Vegas, Nevada. Local call center hears attack, saves Oregon woman, on 8NewsNow.com. …

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He admitted to being a sociopath

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "DamnItHappenedToMe." I went on an online chat and began a relationship through Skype with a man in the United States who was, as I was, a dual citizen -- Canadian/American. This was in October, 2012. He informed me he was divorced for three years. We met in the United States for a day and then I found out on Facebook that he was married. He admitted it and I said I wanted nothing to do with him. He pursued me and told me he was getting a divorce. After he said he was divorced (filed) in March, 2013, he flew me to spend ten days with him in the United States where I met his family. I flew …

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Help pass the New Jersey law to deter ‘sexual assault by fraud!’

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By Joyce M. Short Author, Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator's Lies Became Rape Sex fraud has defiled the lives of many Lovefraud participants! We are very fortunate that Donna has built this wonderful healing community that enables victims to exchange supportive ideas and promote healing. Here, we can escape the invalidation we often confront in society, and gain the tools we need in order to heal. We now have the possibility to deter this heinous crime. Sociopaths don't stop behaving badly because we need or want them to. They stop because they'll be exposed or because they'll suffer consequences. Creating a law to make Sexual Assault by Fraud a crime in New Jersey is a good …

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Former Russian cop accused of raping at least 9 women to give them HIV

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Ephraim Izmailov, 36, a former police officer, prowled the streets of Kaliningrad in western Russia, looking for women. When he saw a woman alone, he stopped, showed his police ID, and offered them a ride home. Then he raped them intentionally infecting the women with HIV. Ismailov has been arrested. At least nine women have come forward, but police suspect many more women were victimized. Policeman with HIV accused of raping 9 women to deliberately infect them, on Mirror.co.uk.   …

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Confronting the psychopath

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Last month, Bob Bashara, 57, of Grosse Pointe Park, Michigan, was sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole for the murder of his wife. Jane Bashara, 56, was beaten and strangled in January 2012. Her body was discovered in her Mercedes SUV parked in a Detroit alley, far from the family's upper-class neighborhood. While Jane Bashara worked, earning four times as much money as her husband, Bob Bashara acted like the civic-minded "Mayor of Middlesex," which was the name of the street they lived on. But he had a secret live of BDSM bondage, discipline, sadomasochism and had sex with multiple women in a basement dungeon. Prosecutors alleged that Bob Bashara lured his mentally …

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Boy Scouts settle sex abuse lawsuit, keeping ‘perversion files’ secret

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A lawsuit against the Boy Scouts of America in a sexual molestation case has settled, precluding the public release of the organization's "perversion files." The plaintiff's attorney had won the right to use the files, officially called the "Ineligible Volunteer Files," to prove that the Boy Scouts organization was negligent. The victim, now 20, said he was molested in a Christmas tree lot when he was 13. Former volunteer Boy Scout leader Al Stein pleaded no contest to child endangerment charges. The victim testified in court that after the incident, he became a "recluse." Boy Scouts settle sex abuse case, sealing years of "perversion files," on NYPost.com. Plaintiff says Scout …

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