Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Lois." I have no one to turn to, as I have never spoken to anyone regarding my friendship with the narcissist apart from the narc, which suited him perfectly. This friendship was in person but I live in a different city so it was mostly on the phone and a few face to face meetings during the year. However, I was also dropped and put in the box as needed, and picked up as soon as he would leave his families' or friends' home and work. And I had to be there when he was ready to make contact. However, the same did not apply to him. Many times when I needed to lean on him he was not contactable. I have gone …
Woman charged with murdering her children’s father posts $35 million bail
Tiffany Li, 31, of Hillsborough, California, is charged in a murder-for-hire scheme in the death of Keith Green, 27, the father of their two young daughters. Li was released from jail yesterday after posting an unprecedented $35 million in bail. Li comes from a wealthy Chinese family, and her mother, along with family friends and associates, raised $4 million in cash and pledged 15 properties valued at $62 million. (In California, twice the bail amount must be met if property is used in lieu of cash.) Li and Green were in a custody dispute. Friends of Green said he feared for his life. Millionaire Chinese real estate heiress accused of ordering the murder of her ex is freed on $35 million …
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Widow loses $1 million to con man she met on Match.com
Six months after her husband died, and after her own treatment for breast cancer, the 75-year-old widow wanted to take her mind off of everything she'd been through. She joined Match.com. "Edward Duffey" liked her photo. They started talking, one thing lead to another, and soon, even though they had never met, the woman started liquidating her assets so he could "invest" them. Needless to say, she lost her money — over $1 million. The woman certainly isn't alone. A 2015 study by True Link Financial estimates that American seniors lose $36.48 billion per year to elder financial abuse. How a phony online boyfriend scammed a 75-year-old widow out of $1 million, on Time.com The True Link …
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With a sociopath, the promise “I’ll change” is just another con
Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 43A: No Way Out At the end of the summer, before Jessica’s first year of high school and Daniel’s first year of middle school, I took them with me to spend four days in Vermont with my parents. I needed the weekend away from Paul to try to know my own mind. I did not tell Paul this, only that I wanted to take the kids to see my parents. When I had done this in the past, there was …
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Wall Street Journal explains that anyone can be conned
Sophisticated readers of the Wall Street Journal beware: You can be conned, just like the rest of us. The following article, by Susan Pinker, appeared in last weekend's edition: You can't be fooled by a con? Don't count on it, on WSJ.com. The Journal doesn't provide articles for free, so I'll provide a summary of key points: 35 million Americans fall for scams each year, according to the Federal Trade Commission. One reason we fall for scams is because we are biologically programmed to trust and cooperate. Research shows that we can detect a lie only about 50 percent of the time. The unconscious mind may be better at detecting lies than rational focus. So if you've been conned …
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Before I felt angry, now I feel sad – I need advice
Editor's notes: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as "Kaki Pants." I just came out of a relationship, a year long relationship, which I think the guy might be a psychopath after telling the whole story to my male friends, female friends never would have thought he could be a psycho btw. Men and women think very differently. So I met this guy a year ago, last April through an online dating app. We met for several times, dinners, lunches, coffees, I took it slow, cuz I didn't want to get myself attached too soon before knowing who this guy really is. Obviously, I didn't take it slow enough in the end. We got together; everything seems well. He runs a startup …
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Why her happy marriage did not exist
Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader: I was not in a disastrous relationship with my S. Our relationship was less than three years, our marriage less than two when he openly cheated and decided to leave me, then played games of false reconciliation, which in hindsight were so he could have two sex partners. The short end of my question is ”¦ How do you reconcile the basically happy marriage, the illusion of a man you married with the horrible monster he has become in trying to create turmoil in your life and use your greatest love (your child) to hurt you? Range of behavior One reason why it's so difficult to spot sociopaths is because they are not all the same. …
Woman allegedly shoots boyfriend, tells cops ‘Don’t worry about it’
Paula Lynn Hobbs, 51, or Orlando, Florida, has a history of forgery, fraud, theft and battery. She spent seven years in prison. Now, she has been charged with murder. She is accused of shooting her boyfriend, Everett Leslie Humble, 63. A passer-by saw his unresponsive body on the porch of their apartment and called police. Woman facing murder charges asks Orlando cops to 'Tell me he is dead,' on OrlandoSentinel.com. …
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