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New Zealand woman steals $170,000 from her mother — and loses half to love fraud

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Irakau Ada Pehi, 60, who lives in Taranaki, New Zealand, was supposed to manage her 86-year-old mother’s finances. Instead of paying expenses according to her mother’s wishes, the woman stole $170,000.

Of that money, Pehi made for bank transfers, totaling $81,000, to an overseas bank. It turned out to be a Nigerian love scam.

Pehi pleaded guilty and was sentenced to a year of home detention and 200 hours of community service.

Fraudster loses half of $170k she stole in Nigerian love scam, on stuff.co.nz.



One trait or behavior does not make a sociopath – look for a pattern of traits and behaviors

sexy man and womanI once heard from a man, whom we’ll call “Jeff,” who wanted to know if the woman he was involved with, “Amanda,” was a sociopath.

It started as a friendly involvement, with Jeff trying to help Amanda out. Amanda, who was from a foreign country, called Jeff her “best friend.” Jeff eventually started to have feelings for her. But then came a series of unsettling experiences:

  • Amanda made pornographic videos, which were posted on the Internet.
  • Amanda worked as an escort. Jeff offered to pay her rent, so she wouldn’t have to be an escort, and Amanda agreed—and continued being an escort anyway.

The sociopath’s “discard” is soul destroying — you learn your “soul mate” is pure fabrication designed to con, exploit, and hurt

Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

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Buzzfeed reports R&B star R. Kelly keeps a “cult” of women

R. Kelly in a photo posted on his website, r-kelly.com

R. Kelly, a music superstar who has won multiple Grammy awards and sold more than 40 million records, allegedly keeps six women living in his properties in Chicago and the Atlanta suburbs, according to a report on Buzzfeed.

The mother of one of the women, a 21-year-old aspiring singer, says her daughter is “being held against her will” in a “cult.” The daughter says she’s doing fine.

Buzzfeed writes:

Is a tumultuous relationship love or exploitation?

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Part 1: Recognizing the exploitative relationship and its impact on the intimate partner — available on demand at Lovefraud CE.

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When someone is involved in an abusive relationship, the most prominent warning sign is likely to be confusion, explains Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT. People who are involved with abusers can’t figure out what is going on — and sometimes counselors misinterpret their clients’ confusion.

Sociopaths and sexually explicit photos


My sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery, had a collection of photos of naked women. The photos were not of me.

I discovered the photos one day while he wasn’t home and I was looking for a phone number. I opened his desk drawer, and there they were — no faces, just pictures of certain body parts.

Stunned, I threw the photos in the trash. When Montgomery came home, I confronted him.

“I found your photos. Who are these women?” I demanded.

Montgomery was nonchalant. “They’re from my past. Nothing for you to worry about.”

“Why do you have them?” I demanded.

Pawns: How psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists view their kids

Raised by narcissistPsychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists are incapable of love — even for their own children. According to Business Insider, Perpetua Neo, a psychologist who specializes in these personality disorders, says:

“Narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths do not have a sense of empathy. They do not and will not develop a sense of empathy, so they can never really love anyone.”

Neo says that some of her clients were told by their disordered parents that, “The only reason I had you was so you could take care of me for the rest of your life.”

Why psychopaths cannot love their own children, according to a psychologist, on BusinessInsider.com.

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Beautiful Liar — I confronted him with screenshots and he denied it all

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as “miaxo.” Names have been changed.

Three years wasted. I met my ex 4 years ago. At a friend’s house. I wasn’t into him or attracted to him. But grew to be friends with him.

A year later I get a text from him saying he likes me and wants to take me on a date. I was so tired of dealing with disappointment after disappointment from the dating scene so I took his offer. He took me to the movies, was attentive and the night went well.

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