I am not sure if I will continue to post each week. Many of the stories carry the same theme and I think most of you on this site know what a sociopath is capable of, how much destruction they leave in their path and how we all felt once we discovered the truth.
For me, it’s really about the road to recovery. The first and most helpful tool I was given was Martha Stout’s book The Sociopath Next Door. It helped so much to see it in writing, the same behaviors, manipulation and the different types of sociopaths. Lovefraud provides the best resource I have found to date (thank you Donna). Then it was all about acceptance. I needed to accept that my father never loved me. That one took a while, but I began to understand that “he couldn’t give me something he didn’t have”, which was love. Once I accepted this it was easy to forgive him, another key for me.
I have had other sociopaths in my life; in fact I think I was attracted to it as a result of being raised by one. Only now I recognize that uneasy feeling I get from being around someone I cannot trust. It’s like background noise, almost unnoticeable, but it’s there. Today I trust those feelings and do what I have learned from others and books. I cut my losses and move on. It has been my experience that the only option is to remove yourself from any and all unnecessary contact with a sociopath.
Someone once told me that the past is for inspiration, not limitation”¦and I believe that today. I started to focus on the things in life I was grateful for, not where I thought I was “cheated”. Experience in this life is the thing of supreme value if we are willing to learn from it and then use it to help others. It then becomes a gift. That’s how I see it today. As odd as it may sound I would not change my experience for anything. I wouldn’t want to do it again I assure you, but today I am grateful for it.
akitameg
I guess OJ got 15 years today. I say Towanda– b/c it gives me hope that their past does catch up with them. That truth does come out.
akitameg
My heart goes to you Janet. I am rather new here myself– but I can relate with your post.
I have lost a ton of friends/fam b/c of the S in my life–and I grieve for them as well as the sweet guy he pretended to be.
the people on this site are wonderful– you have come to the right place!
Wini
akitameg: All on God’s time frame. There is a reason for everything.
Peace.
akitameg
How about a reality show called, “The Psycho In My Life”- it gets their attention.
It would be survivors like us– telling our stories to the world- blah, blah. Then the people who were under their smear campaigns could see the truth/our side of the story if they watched it.
WE can talk about how this experienced has changed us– gosh– maybe younger people would learn something. Somehow– my sweet Catholic parents never taught me that, “People Lie!” I ended up trusting everyone cuz I thought everyone were worth trust like my parents, family, other trusting Catholics. Why am I just learning NOW– at 38– bible versed like “Be gentle as a dove, but wise as a sepent.” Oh– if I had only had that ingrained on me at a young age.
akitameg
I hope so Wini. Thanks
Wini
akitameg: Who on here still believes anti-social personalities don’t cry? OJ cried during his sentencing!
Time heals all wounds … and time wounds all heels.
Piece of marble cake, piece of blueberry pie.
Wini
akitameg: I guess you didn’t catch Oprah’s show yesterday … they were talking about con artists … all the different scams … along with victims of love scams.
It’s all over TV today … look at all the shows that are purposely showing the average Jane and Joe citizen that scams are prevalent today … watch yourself with the too good to be true bravado!
Peace.
Ox Drover
On the OJ thing, I get a NY Times e mail each day and that story was on there about how he said “sorry” 4 times and tear-ed up. LOL ROTFLMAO But the judge didn’t buy it! Bless her heart! She didn’t fall for his crap. Supposedly he will be inside for 9 years. I hope so cause he will be an old and broke man when he gets out.
KARMA BITES!!!! TOWANDA!!! TOWANDA!!!! TOWANDA!!!!
Wini
I have to correct you on one part of your statement Oxy … OJ is already old and broke … and I wouldn’t call him a man … I’d call him a child … a very OLD CHILD!
Hey, maybe he’ll finally open the Bible3 and read it while he’s incarcerated … and when he comprehends scriptures … I hope he gets down on his knees and prays to God that he will find the strength to apologize to everyone who’s lives he’s destroyed!
I pray that peace comes to all who had this spoiled child’s presence impact their lives
Ox Drover
Well, he has obviously got enough money to hire VERY EXPENSIVE LAWYERS and live the “high life” and the Goldman’s haven’t collected a dime. The article said that possibly they might be able to get some of his assets now that he has kept hidden, including some of the stuff he was trying to “rob” these people of. So “broke” is relative after all. LOL Compred to me, he’s not broke! LOL