I am not sure if I will continue to post each week. Many of the stories carry the same theme and I think most of you on this site know what a sociopath is capable of, how much destruction they leave in their path and how we all felt once we discovered the truth.
For me, it’s really about the road to recovery. The first and most helpful tool I was given was Martha Stout’s book The Sociopath Next Door. It helped so much to see it in writing, the same behaviors, manipulation and the different types of sociopaths. Lovefraud provides the best resource I have found to date (thank you Donna). Then it was all about acceptance. I needed to accept that my father never loved me. That one took a while, but I began to understand that “he couldn’t give me something he didn’t have”, which was love. Once I accepted this it was easy to forgive him, another key for me.
I have had other sociopaths in my life; in fact I think I was attracted to it as a result of being raised by one. Only now I recognize that uneasy feeling I get from being around someone I cannot trust. It’s like background noise, almost unnoticeable, but it’s there. Today I trust those feelings and do what I have learned from others and books. I cut my losses and move on. It has been my experience that the only option is to remove yourself from any and all unnecessary contact with a sociopath.
Someone once told me that the past is for inspiration, not limitation”¦and I believe that today. I started to focus on the things in life I was grateful for, not where I thought I was “cheated”. Experience in this life is the thing of supreme value if we are willing to learn from it and then use it to help others. It then becomes a gift. That’s how I see it today. As odd as it may sound I would not change my experience for anything. I wouldn’t want to do it again I assure you, but today I am grateful for it.
Wini
Good for you StarG … that’s the way to do it.
Piece of cake, piece of Pecan pie.
Wini
Iwonder: Maybe his cat kissed him before he went out with you … ya never know (LOL).
Just got back from seeing all the Christmas lights in our downtown. This year they are using energy efficient lights. They still look the same.
Beautiful.
Peace.
Indigoblue
Hahahahahaha
I am not Gay My boyfriend is !
Bigdude I like you too! Thanks! I know it may seem to the hetro world that all the Hot guys like me are gay but to me it seems like all the hot guys are straight! Go Figure!?
I like people ! I dont have to be anything! We don’t walk up to some one and say whats your favorite position for sex ! Come on! Lets start a conversation and see where that goes ? I am defffinately strange! so fore someone to like me it is because of what I look like! Did I shave? Did I brush my tooth!:)~ come on lets stay real! I aint no spring chicken but I am on my second virgenity! :)~ LOVE JJ
hens
I want to go dancing – two steppin to Alan Jackson – music loud – energy in the air!!! who’s going with me?~~~?~~~?
Wini
Henry & Indie: You’ve got mail.
P.S. Henry … I love Alan Jackson … LOL.
Piece of cake, piece of Pumpkin Pie.
Indigoblue
Win
My mom actualy suprised me with that she is not Happy with me! and her first responce was not good ! I did’nt expect her to take any time to find that ! LOVE JJ
Indigoblue
Henry
Delete that earlyer mesage ! I don’t know if I can do Country! :)~
I was Rock & Roll
Now I am Just an Old Fart! :)~
Wini
Indi: I’m glad she gave the info to you. You’ve got mail … did you check?
Oh, I hope your mom is OK … that was a doozie of a spill.
Piece of cake, piece of Creme pie.
Indigoblue
Oh By the way I am Haveing that Darkchocolatepecanpie as we type :)!
Wini
Indie & Henry, Henry & Indie: All music that comes from the artist’s heart and soul is good.
I’m all over the board when it comes to good music.
I’ve got jazz on right now.
Piece of Angel Cake, piece of Chocolate Pie.