I am not sure if I will continue to post each week. Many of the stories carry the same theme and I think most of you on this site know what a sociopath is capable of, how much destruction they leave in their path and how we all felt once we discovered the truth.
For me, it’s really about the road to recovery. The first and most helpful tool I was given was Martha Stout’s book The Sociopath Next Door. It helped so much to see it in writing, the same behaviors, manipulation and the different types of sociopaths. Lovefraud provides the best resource I have found to date (thank you Donna). Then it was all about acceptance. I needed to accept that my father never loved me. That one took a while, but I began to understand that “he couldn’t give me something he didn’t have”, which was love. Once I accepted this it was easy to forgive him, another key for me.
I have had other sociopaths in my life; in fact I think I was attracted to it as a result of being raised by one. Only now I recognize that uneasy feeling I get from being around someone I cannot trust. It’s like background noise, almost unnoticeable, but it’s there. Today I trust those feelings and do what I have learned from others and books. I cut my losses and move on. It has been my experience that the only option is to remove yourself from any and all unnecessary contact with a sociopath.
Someone once told me that the past is for inspiration, not limitation”¦and I believe that today. I started to focus on the things in life I was grateful for, not where I thought I was “cheated”. Experience in this life is the thing of supreme value if we are willing to learn from it and then use it to help others. It then becomes a gift. That’s how I see it today. As odd as it may sound I would not change my experience for anything. I wouldn’t want to do it again I assure you, but today I am grateful for it.
Wini
Indi: I was right? Go figure. He looks young … what are you masochistic thinking about a young guy? Roller coaster city.
No thanks. I’m mentally built for comfort now… ha, ha.
Indigoblue
Yupers
Dad is the most sucessfull person in the entire family
Mom Got him through U of Florida and He did the rest of course you know what they say behind every great man is an AWSOME woman! And It’s TRUE! My Grandfather was scary! he wanted to take a splinter out of my finger with a Knife! My folks once left Christmass dinner because He would not let me as a child eat off a adult size plate! :)~
Indigoblue
I dont talk or correspond with him ( Kerry ) I just think he is the chit!
Indigoblue
Win just didapeared when she found Kerry HuH? :)~
Stargazer
Wini and Wonder Woman, My snakes kiss me every day. Nothing like a little tongue flick in the ear to get me ready for a hot date!!! I don’t think you can top that! LOLOL You guys are cracking me up.
Wini
No Indie: I was doing work for you! Daaaaaaaaaaaa. Can’t be in 2 places at one time. Maybe I can be like Burt … does anyone remember “Mary Hartman, Mary Hartman” … or am I dating myself again?
Peace.
Wini
StarG: That was a cute story about your snake. Did you ever take them on a date with you? Freak the poor guy out (LOL).
I’ve got 2 little ones in cages as we blog … ready for SNIP, SNIP tomorrow.
I feel sooooooooooo bad, they have no clue why they can’t get out of the cages tonight … cause they’ve got an early a.m. appointment at the VETS and I don’t have time to chase them all over the house. Boy, oh, boy … they’ve got more hiding places than you can imagine … I haven’t see so much of my house than when these little goomers came to live with me.
2 down, 2 more to go.
Peace.
quest
Holly crap what happened to Lovefraud . I just read the blog and it almost sounds like this one turned into a dating service or something . Good to see a little humour though . So when are we going to have a lovefraud convention and where . Maybe we can get some psychopaths to come along and have competitions to see who can pick them out first . So heres a question . How many psychopaths do you thiknk there are on this site or at least reading it
quest
So does anyone know any psychopath jokes . Or are there any for that matter . I think we need to make some up . Nothing like a bunch of jokes to draw attention to an issue
quest
I did have a T shirt made that says on the front PSYCHOPATH VICTIM . I was just thinking we could make up a whole line of psychopath merchandise . T shirts coffee mugs whatever