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Explaining dysfunctional relationships as codependency

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UPDATED FOR 2025. When we face difficulties and hardship in life, we try to find meaning in the experience. This is certainly the case with all of us who have tangled with sociopaths. We ask, how did this happen? More importantly, why did this happen? Many people have answered the questions by explaining dysfunctional relationships as codependency. In fact, for some people, explaining dysfunctional relationships as codependency is comforting. This is the point of a study entitled, The lived experience of codependency: an interpretative phenomenological analysis, by Ingrid Bacon and colleagues. The research was based on in-depth interviews with eight people who identified themselves as …

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Psychopath brains are smaller, research shows

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Psychopaths have more than an attitude problem. They are cold, uncaring, manipulative and aggressive due in part to their biology. The overall volume of gray matter in psychopath brains is less than normal. And new research shows that specific areas of their brains associated with skills such as behavior control are smaller.  What does this mean? Psychopathic traits and behaviors are baked into their heads. Changing their behavior means changing their brains, which may not be impossible, but it is certainly incredibly difficult. Magnificent brain The human brain is magnificent. It’s what sets us apart from other living creatures. The outermost layer is called the cerebral c …

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Games sociopaths play

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Perhaps you’ve been making yourself crazy, trying to understand your relationship. No matter what you do, you can’t seem to make your partner happy. You feel confused, dismayed and, thanks to your partner’s complaints and accusations, guilt-ridden. Well, there’s an easy way to clear up your confusion. You just need to understand the games sociopaths play. Here’s the bottom line: To the sociopath, the relationship with you is nothing but a game.  What’s a game? A game, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, is a “physical or mental competition conducted according to rules with the participants in direct opposition to each other.” When you’re in a relationship with a sociopa …

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7 signs of psychopathy in James Craig, on trial for allegedly poisoning his wife’s protein shakes

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James Craig, 47, a dentist from Aurora, Colorado, is accused of killing his wife, Angela, 43, by giving her poisoned protein shakes. Prosecutors allege that Craig Googled “Top 5 Undetectable Poisons” and gave his wife arsenic, potassium cyanide and tetrahydrozoline. After three visits to the hospital, Angela died on March 15, 2023. The couple had been married for 23 years and had six children.  James Craig was immediately arrested, based on a tip from his business partner. Craig’s behavior, as described by the police and in news accounts, appears to show 7 signs of psychopathy. Police affidavit The most complete account of what happened is probably in the arrest warra …

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Manipulative woman explains, ‘How I would take advantage of men’

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“If I used my powers for evil instead of good, I would take advantage of every single man. It would be easy, and this is exactly what I would do.” That’s how Elise Michaels begins her “dark psychology” Instagram reel entitled, How I would take advantage of men. She proceeds to explain how she can manipulate men to get what she wants.  Here’s the process, according to Elise: Elise Michaels is explaining a step-by-step outline of sociopathic seduction. Her words are frightening — and absolutely accurate. Let’s take a closer look at some of the steps. Identifying vulnerabilities The key is identifying the target’s vulnerabilities. All sociopaths do this. They figu …

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LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Lured and caught by a sociopath

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following article from a reader called "Makemenew2012." She describes how she was lured and caught by a sociopath. The Lure I met my second husband, an African immigrant, on a social media site. Mr. C (as I'll refer to him) connected with me through a mutual acquaintance and began sending me e-mails every day. At first, his messages seemed rather innocent— Mr. C asked how my day was going, what the weather was like, etc. But after a few days, he began fishing for information, inquiring about my husband and children. The first time, I ignored his question and responded on my own behalf. The next time, I replied that I didn't have a husband or childre …

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10 reasons why the fireworks of a romance with a sociopath are duds

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UPDATED FOR 2025. In honor of July 4th, let’s talk about fireworks — the really dangerous kind. These are the fireworks that you feel exploding all around you early in your relationship with someone who later turns out to be a sociopath. Unfortunately, the fireworks of a romance with a sociopath are duds. Here’s what you see and experience, and what it really going on. 1. You see: Nonstop texts, emails and social media postings Reality: You’re not the only one receiving them. The Internet and social media make it easy for sociopaths to work multiple targets at once, and they do. 2. You experience: Conversations that last for hours Reality: The sociopath is pumping you for information, which h …

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Real hope, false hope and sociopaths

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Sociopaths promise to make your hopes and dreams come true. It’s their most insidious seduction strategy. Yet when their promises crash and burn — as they inevitably will — real hope is the emotional force that can help you overcome the betrayal.  Real hope Hope isn’t just wishful thinking. New research shows that hope is a powerful emotional force that directly fosters a sense of meaning. After you discover the lies, when you’re trying to escape and recover from a sociopath, hope is the sense that a better future is possible. Traditionally, psychology researchers have tied hope to goal-setting and motivation. But Megan Edwards, lead author of the University of Missour …

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9 reasons why you can’t spot the sociopath’s lies

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All sociopaths lie. Lying is their most basic and common manipulative behavior, and they are very good at it. But research shows that people can usually identify a lie only 53 percent of the time. Here are nine reasons why you can’t spot the sociopaths’ lies. Most of the reasons relate to them, but a few relate to you. 1. Everything is a lie Once you realize that you’re dealing with a sociopath, you must understand that absolutely anything he or she has ever said to you could be a lie. Sociopaths lie like they breathe. If you don’t have independent verification of what he or she has said to you, it may be false. This may be really difficult for you to grasp. When normal people lie, i …

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10 Crucial strategies for leaving the sociopath

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Escaping sociopaths (or antisocials, narcissists, and psychopaths) can be tricky. Some disordered partners are violent, but even when they’re not, they’re typically skilled at controlling you through emotional or psychological intimidation, making it hard for you to leave. If sociopaths sense you are pulling away, they will either charm and love bomb you until you change your mind or lash out and make your situation worse. Therefore, your objective is to escape before your sociopathic partner realizes what you are doing.  10 crucial strategies for leaving Here are 10 crucial strategies for leaving the sociopath that will help you get away — and stay away. 1. Keep your mouth s …

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