Perhaps you now know that you're involved with a sociopath or other disordered individual. You've been Googling "sociopath" "psychopath" and "narcissist" like crazy, and found that a lot of what you read matches the behavior that you see. So now what? What do you do? That's what I will explain in Part 3 of the Lovefraud Recovery Series. The webinar takes place Thursday, June 30, at 8 pm Eastern time. Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life Here is some of what I will explain: What NOT to do when you learn of your partner's betrayal Do you fight or cut your losses and run? Tips and strategies for lawsuits, divorce and child custody battles What can help when your …
The high cost of rape – in pain and dollars
Editor's note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader, "Jennifer in NYC." The New York Times OP-ED article, “What One Rape Cost Our Family” (Friday, June 24, 2016), by the California-based, freelance journalist, Laura Hilgers, chronicles the years of devastation her family faced after her daughter was raped by a fellow student while attending a college in Washington D.C. . A freshman at the time, her daughter, Willa, waited one year before she reported the crime. However, during this time she developed “...post-traumatic stress disorder, panic attacks, depression, and an an addiction to alcohol. And while she chose not to file criminal charges—out of fear of being traum …
Orlando shooter Omar Mateen – he’s a sociopath, not a jihadist
Like all of America and civilized people around the world, I am heartbroken and sickened by the 49 people slaughtered and 53 injured in an Orlando nightclub early Sunday morning. The shooter was Omar Mateen, an American born in New York of Afghan parents. In a 911 call to police as the dead lay around him, Mateen swore allegiance to ISIS. But as authorities try to figure out how Mateen became radicalized, I'm not so sure that he shot up a gay nightclub for Allah. To me, it looks like Mateen was simply an evil sociopath, and pursuing Islamic jihad was a convenient excuse to get a gun. Ex-wife Sitora Yusufiy The first clue comes from how Mateen's ex-wife, Sitora Yusufiy, described him. …
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How to recover from a sociopathic partner
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/ivfmgtYTLWo" title="How%20to%20recover%20from%20a%20sociopathic%20partner"] If you've discovered that your partner is an exploiter, and you don't know what to think and what to do well, I totally understand. I've been there. That's why I developed the Lovefraud Recovery Series. These three webinars, each one hour long, will help you comprehend what you are dealing with and figure out how to move forward: June 16 - Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed (If you missed it, watch the recording) More info June 23 - What Did They Want? Psychopaths, antisocials and other exploiters in romantic relationships More info June 30 - E …
Therapists: Here’s how to help clients leave a toxic relationship
Clients may know that they are unhappy, anxious and depressed because of their relationships, but they can't seem to leave. In fact, they become confused just by thinking about leaving. How can you best serve them? The Five Step Exit model will help. This program, developed by Dr. Amber Ault, is specifically designed to help you help clients in a structured fashion. You guide them to evaluate their circumstances, create an exit strategy, put together a support team, move forward with the plan, and then reclaim their lives. Dr. Ault will teach you exactly how to do it in an online webinar on Wednesday, June 15, 2016, from 2 -4 p.m. Eastern time. You will be able to ask questions of …
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I was dying inside, trying to keep her happy
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a man whom we'll call, "Timothy." I knew her from over a decade ago. I guess you can say we started as friends with benefits. Back in those days I should've remembered the times we fooled around, even while she was with someone when he went out of town. Over the years she married this person, and I went on into other relationships myself. In 2013 we had an encounter at a motel in her hometown, I happened to be working in. In 2014 the person I was in a relationship with left the state. The woman from a decade ago then contacted me and invited me to a casino/hotel she was staying in. I went and spent a couple of nights with …
Online webinar series: How to recover from a relationship with a sociopath
If you're like most people who find Lovefraud, you've already tangled with a sociopath and want to know how to escape and recover. That's exactly what I explain in my upcoming Lovefraud CE program. I'll be teaching three one-hour webinars: June 16 - Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed June 23 - What Did They Want? Psychopaths, antisocials and other exploiters in romantic relationships June 30 - Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life All the programs are at 8 pm Eastern time. If you can't attend at the specific date and time, no worries the programs will be recorded, and you can watch them whenever you want. However, if you participate in the initial …
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After a year of No Contact, she saw the sociopath and felt – nothing
A year ago, Lovefraud posted an email exchange that I had with a reader, whom we called "Alana." Alana dated a man who at first love bombed her, was obsessed with her and then turned ugly. She tried to leave him many times, and he threatened to kill himself. She finally managed to break it off. Then six months later, he sent her an email from a new email address, begging for her to return. Alana wrote back out of guilt and shame and then felt sick about it. She asked for reassurance that No Contact was the right approach. Read the story here: After 6 months of No Contact, the sociopath wants to begin again I just heard from Alana again. Here's her latest email: It has been a …
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Donna Andersen explains why we don’t know about sociopaths on Mental Health News Radio
Donna Andersen was recently interviewed by Kristin Sunata Walker of Mental Health News Radio. They had an in-depth conversation about why we don't know about sociopaths, why we fall for the exploiters, and how good can come from the experience. Here's the blog post Here's the interview on Blog Talk Radio …
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Catfishing – sociopathic behavior, or a phase?
I was recently interviewed for an online magazine article called Confessions of a catfish. When I communicated with the author, Aris Apostolopoulos, I had no idea that he was going to admit that he, himself, once engaged in catfishing. Quite a few Lovefraud readers have told me about their experiences being catfished. This means they met someone online who fabricated a complete false identity, including a fake name, fake history, fake friends and fake crises. Target almost died One woman contacted me in 2012, before the word "catfishing" had entered the lexicon, to tell me her story. She was involved with a person for almost three years, entirely on the phone and social media. …