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School shootings: Understanding patterns is great, but doesn’t prevent murder

School shootings: Understanding patterns is great, but doesn’t prevent murder

Dimitrios Pagourtzis confessed to the shooting in the Santa Fe high school. (Galveston County Sheriff’s Office)

Another school shooting — in Santa Fe, Texas. Ten dead — eight students and two teachers — and 13 wounded.

This one wasn’t like the Parkland, Florida shooting, where everyone knew that the perpetrator, Nikolas Cruz, had serious psychological problems. No, this time, when 17-year-old Dimitrios Pagourtzis opened fire, people were shocked.

There was only one mention of a possible motive mentioned so far. One of the students killed was Shana Fisher, 16. Shana’s mother, Sadie Rodriguez, said that for four months, Pagourtzis kept making advances on her, and she kept refusing. According to the Los Angeles Times,

Posted in: Cases, Donna Andersen
A sociopath claims, ‘We are evolution’s next step’

A sociopath claims, ‘We are evolution’s next step’

Do sociopaths know what they are? Many, many Lovefraud readers ask me this question. The short answer is that some of them do and some of them don’t.

The man who sent me the following email certainly has insight into his own personality:

 
Parental Alienation: What you need to know and how to fight back

Parental Alienation: What you need to know and how to fight back

Battling Parental Alienation: What to do when your ex convinces your children to hate you
Wednesday, May 30, 2018
8-9 pm ET • $25

Susan Shofer always had a great relationship with her two children. But as she was going through her divorce, one of her children started to hate her — for no reason at all.

At first, Susan was totally confused. “My child didn’t want to be with me,” she says. “And the reasons were miniscule.” But after doing research, she realized that her kids were being subjected to parental alienation.


Martin Larney kills his girlfriend over the outfit she was wearing

Martin Larney kills his girlfriend over the outfit she was wearing

Martin Larney (Phoenix Sheriff’s Office)

Martin Larney, 22, of Arizona didn’t like the outfit his girlfriend, Alina Duwyenie, also 22, was wearing. So he shot her in the left eye. At the hospital, the young woman was pronounced dead.

Larney told three different stories about the incident, finally admitting he shot his girlfriend. It wasn’t his first domestic violence incident.

Jealous boyfriend ‘fatally shoots his girlfriend in the EYE after becoming upset over the outfit she was wearing,’ on DailyMail.co.uk.

 

Posted in: Media sociopaths
 
Book Review: ‘Miracle in the Madness:’ All real therapy is release from the past

Book Review: ‘Miracle in the Madness:’ All real therapy is release from the past

The Miracle in the Madness — Grateful to be the son of a murderer, by Travis Vining

Review by Donna Andersen

The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery.

Travis Vining is the son of a sociopathic serial killer. His father, John Bruce Vining, killed four people, and coerced Travis, as a young man, into helping him escape prosecution.

How does anyone cope with that?

What do we do when sociopaths experience no consequences?

What do we do when sociopaths experience no consequences?

Lovefraud received the following email from a reader who posts as “Salvation2012.”

Thank you for helping me decide when I needed to cut my losses during my divorce. I did cut my “losses,” yet the total I received tallied up to a number similar, just not in all cash. Because I settled in his eyes, he told everyone I was just proving how I was the guilty one and didn’t want to risk being exposed. To the end he will deny permanently injuring me and bleeding me of money, and cheating on me (which I only later found out about the extent).

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free call-in support group 5/20/18 at 5 pm EST

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free call-in support group 5/20/18 at 5 pm EST

  Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, May 20, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it!  Hope to meet you there!

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New Yorker story paints NY Attorney General Eric Schneiderman as a complete psychopath (although they don’t say it)

New Yorker story paints NY Attorney General Eric Schneiderman as a complete psychopath (although they don’t say it)

All the signs are there, if you know what to look for. Physical, sexual and emotional abuse. Entitlement. Threats. Alcohol abuse. Hypocrisy. Unbelievable hubris.

New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman cast himself as a champion of women’s rights. He filed a civil right lawsuit against Harvey Weinstein’s former company — that’s what he’s talking about in the above video. He was also leading an investigation into why the Manhattan district attorney failed to prosecute Weinstein for harassment and assault.


Battling Parental Alienation – a new Lovefraud CE webinar, coming May 30

Battling Parental Alienation – a new Lovefraud CE webinar, coming May 30

  • “Your daddy (or mommy) doesn’t love you.”
  • “I don’t have any money because your mother (or father) took it all.”
  • “If you want to go see your mother (or father), you must not love me.”

I can’t tell you how many times heartbroken mothers and fathers have called me, distressed about the lies that their former partners were telling the children they shared.

Some disordered parents are so vindictive that they want to do the most hurtful thing they can to their former partners — so they actively try to turn the children they share against the ex.

After the sociopath, managing how my brain manages trauma

After the sociopath, managing how my brain manages trauma

By Eleanor Cowan

I felt heavy as I awakened this morning. A toxic punch followed by a few slaps of self-recrimination are tossed with tuning forks—all delivered by myself to me.

“No!” I say as I have for the past thirty years. I swing my legs out of bed and onto the solid oak floor. My gold filigreed daily planner is right where its supposed to be.

I will never erase my actual history of having married a pedophile who molested first his siblings and then our children. His crafty, conscienceless siphoning of my time, energy, money and support for fourteen years can never be expunged. I can never, ever erase his small daily cruelties that sadly, I got used to tolerating, little by little, more and more.

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