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The paradox of psychopathy, non-psychopathy, and evil

April 10, 2008 //  by DrSteve//  30 Comments

The blogger, Sir William, has a post ”˜What is evil? which employs what is a very common way of talking about psychopathy and evil. Psychopaths do exist but they are not fully human: they are animals who lack one of the qualities which defines our species. This is a very comforting explanation for those who have been on the receiving end of psychopathy. It seems to answer the question how could someone do something like that? Answer, because they're not really a ”˜someone'. They're actually and animal, not a human being. How does this line of thinking account for evil committed by non-psychopaths? When an ordinary person does bad things to another person they must, on some level, belie …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

On psychological head games and “Nookie” the turtle

April 10, 2008 //  by Donna Andersen//  19 Comments

Editor's note: This post was submitted by the Lovefraud reader Aloha Traveler. Sociopaths often use subtle methods to intimidate their victims. One of the funniest and most absurd manifestations of this tactic came to me in the form of a small stuffed turtle. I had been on Maui for about six months and was able to get a cheap ticket home to California for a visit with my friends. I was already deep into an abusive and confusing nightmare with the Bad Man. He was twisting up my reality and I needed to be in a place where I knew who I was, with people that knew me well. The Bad Man agreed to take me to the airport for my departure. As I finished packing and was about to zip up my suitcase, …

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Category: Media sociopaths

Woman sentenced to 99 years for murder

April 6, 2008 //  by Donna Andersen//  5 Comments

Last week, Mechele Linehan, 35, of Olympia, Washington, was sentenced to 99 years in prison for the murder of her fiancé, Kent Leppink, back in 1996. She was accused of convincing another fiancé, John Carlin III, of New Jersey, of killing Leppink. The crime and trial took place in Alaska, and Carlin was found guilty of murder. Under Alaska law, Linehan was ruled equally guilty, so she got the same sentence as Carlin. "I can find no principal distinction between the puppet who pulls the trigger and the puppeteer who pulls the strings," said Judge Philip Voland. "In my judgment, Ms. Linehan was the puppeteer who pulled the strings." Crime based on murder movie The case sounds just like a …

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Category: Female sociopaths, Media sociopaths

Sheep can teach us about love and it’s pretty scary!

April 4, 2008 //  by Liane Leedom, M.D.//  52 Comments

Last week I picked my daughter up from the Agriscience High School she attends and was greeted with a sure sign of spring. There are dozens of new baby lambs who have all just been born. They are very cute but they also look exactly the same to me. My daughter tells me that they look alike because although there are many ewes there is only one ram, so all the babies have the same dad. Even though the babies look alike and to me they smell alike, each one is unique and special to its mother.   Sheep live in herds and unlike some other mammals they do not care for each other's babies. A mother sheep must bond to and learn to identify her baby among the vast herd of lambs who are …

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Category: Recovery from a sociopath

“The conscience is a vital organ”

April 2, 2008 //  by DrSteve//  110 Comments

Isn't it strange how the mind works? I read with approval Dr Leedom's latest post. In it she manages to be at once hard-nosed, realistic, and still keep positve. There are very real differences in the brains of those with psychopathic traits, she writes, but the brain is plastic and therein lies just a sliver of hope. For some reason the opening lines of Martin Amis' novel House of Meetings came back to me. It is set in the Soviet Union: Dear Venus If what they say is true, and my country is dying, then I think I may be able to tell them why. You see, kid, the conscience is a vital organ, and not an extra like the tonsils or the adenoids. Amis has also written a stunning nonfiction …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Recovery from a sociopath

BOOK REVIEW: Legal Abuse Syndrome

March 31, 2008 //  by Donna Andersen//  99 Comments

"Victims are created in two ways: by violence or by deceit. Either type of assault immediately renders the victim hostage to the perpetrator." So begins the book Legal Abuse Syndrome, by Karin Huffer, MS, MFT. Lovefraud strongly recommends that anyone who has been victimized by a sociopath read this book, whether you have faced your perpetrator in court or not. The book explains how people who have suffered injury at the hands of some type of predator often face further injury inflicted by lawyers and the courts, who can be, at best, disinterested, and at worst, corrupt. Legal Abuse Syndrome, Huffer says, is a form of post traumatic stress disorder caused by prolonged contact with the …

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Category: Book reviews, Laws and courts, Recovery from a sociopath

The Moral Brain

March 28, 2008 //  by Liane Leedom, M.D.//  12 Comments

Scientists are actively working on solving the mystery of what is different about the brains of people who have traits of sociopathy/psychopathy. Notice that I say “traits” because virtually none of the studies only include subjects who score above 30 on the PCL-R. These studies then by definition are about sociopathic traits and not psychopathy (see my post from last week). When I first realized that I had to understand sociopathic traits in order to properly raise my at-risk son, I studied the traits and organized them according to what I understood about human motivation and the organization of the brain. In my opinion, sociopathic traits form three categories, I call The Inner Triangle. T …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Scientific research

The Borderline Personality as Transient Sociopath

March 27, 2008 //  by Donna Andersen//  106 Comments

Editor's note: This article was submitted by Steve Becker, LCSW, CH.T, who has a private psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and clinical consulting practice in New Jersey, USA. For more information, visit his website, powercommunicating.com. It is not unusual in my clinical experience to see, sometimes, some quite chilling sociopathic activity from my “borderline personality-disordered” clients. When someone has a “borderline personality,” it's quite likely, among other things, that he or she will present with a history of emotional instability; a pattern of chaotic interpersonal relationships; and poor coping skills under stress, reflected in self-destructive/ destructive acting-out and a tendenc …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

“He is the lie, from hello to good-bye”

March 26, 2008 //  by DrSteve

Donna Anderson's important latest post reminds me that one topic which will never be worn out is that of the psychopath's lies and their impact on others. This week I want to very briefly introduce yet another take on this inexhaustible topic. Everyone lies, but there's something else at stake in the case of the psychopath's lies. To illustrate: you might say about any regular (non-psychopathic) person, "Things would be better if s/he was to lie less often. Her/his soul or psyche would be healthier as would her relationships." That's true. Now try this on for size and notice how wrong it seems: "Things would be better if the psychopath was to lie less often. His soul or psyche would be …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

Humans are lousy lie detectors

March 24, 2008 //  by Donna Andersen//  122 Comments

An article in last week's New York Times magazine contained the following amazing statement: "Repeating a claim, even if only to refute it, increases its apparent truthfulness." Although the article had nothing to do with sociopaths, the statement made me think of my ex-husband, James Montgomery. Among his many lies, Montgomery claimed to be a member of the Australian military, a decorated Vietnam War hero, and a member of the Special Forces. None of this was true, but from what I can tell, he'd been making the claims since at least 1980 (we met in 1996). They'd been repeated many times, for many years—which apparently enhanced their believability. Like most of us here on Lovefraud, I f …

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Category: Scientific research, Seduced by a sociopath

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