Kevin Dutton, Ph.D., is a fabulous writer. Unfortunately, in his new book, The Wisdom of Psychopaths—What saints, spies, and serial killers can teach us about success, he uses his prodigious skill with words to promote a fundamentally flawed thesis.
What is the thesis? That psychopathy, “in small doses,” is good for us. Here’s what Dutton writes in the preface of the book:
Psychopathy can also be good for us, at least in moderation. Like anxiety, depression, and quite a few other psychological disorders, it can at times be adaptive. Psychopaths, as we shall discover, have a variety of attributes—personal magnetism and a genius for disguise being just the starter pack—which, once you know how to harness them and keep them in check, often confer considerable advantages not just in the workplace, but in everyday life. Psychopathy is like sunlight. Overexposure can hasten one’s demise in grotesque, carcinogenic fashion. But regulated exposure at controlled and optimal levels can have a significant positive impact on well-being and quality of life.
In the pages that follow we’ll examine these attributes in detail, and learn how incorporating them into our own psychological skill set can dramatically transform our lives. Of course, it’s in no way my intention to glamorize the actions of psychopaths—certainly not the actions of dysfunctional psychopaths, anyway. That would be like glamorizing a cognitive melanoma: the malignant machinations of cancer of the personality. But there’s evidence to suggest that psychopathy, in small doses at least, is personality with a tan—and it can have surprising benefits.
Kevin Dutton has a Ph.D. in psychology. He’s a research psychologist and an honorary affiliated member of the Calleva Research Centre for Evolution and Human Sciences at the University of Oxford, England. In writing The Wisdom of Psychopaths, he interviewed all of the top experts in the field of psychopathy. Then he cherry-picked the information to present an incomplete and lopsided view of psychopathy, emphasizing the “positives” and ignoring the negatives, such as the fact that psychopaths live their lives by exploiting people.
Persuasive writing style
How did he do this? Dutton used tried-and-true techniques of magazine journalists and direct mail copywriters (both of which I am).
The difference between writing for magazines and writing for newspapers is that while news articles are supposed to be objective, magazine articles are unabashedly subjective. (By the way, there is no such thing as objective journalism, even in the newspaper business. Simply selecting which facts to include in a story is subjective. Complete objectivity is impossible.)
The purpose of a magazine article is to convince the reader of the author’s point of view. When I studied magazine journalism at Syracuse University, I was taught to not give equal weight to opposing viewpoints. I was taught to acknowledge opposing viewpoints, then present an argument to prove they were wrong.
For example, Dutton wrote above that he didn’t want to “glamorize the actions of psychopaths,” but then he goes ahead and says psychopathy can have benefits. He spends the rest of his book glamorizing psychopaths, and creating an illusion that psychopaths can be “harnessed” and “kept in check.”
The most dangerous thing Dutton does is employ a direct mail copywriting technique called verisimilitude, which is defined as “the appearance or semblance of truth.” (The comedian Stephen Colbert calls this “truthiness.”) For example, on page 11 Dutton writes:
Psychopaths are fearless, confident, charismatic, ruthless, and focused. Yet contrary to popular belief, they are not necessarily violent. And if that sounds good, well, it is.
The way Dutton describes psychopaths is technically true. But he neglects to mention the most salient characteristics of a psychopath, at least according to Lovefraud’s research: Deceitfulness and manipulation. He also doesn’t include traits like exploitative, irresponsible, aggressive and reckless.
So what would happen if he told the whole truth? Well, here it is:
Psychopaths are fearless, confident, charismatic, ruthless, focused, deceitful, manipulative, exploitative, irresponsible, aggressive and reckless. Yet contrary to popular belief, they are not necessarily violent. And if that sounds good, well, it is.
What do you think? If Dutton wrote the above paragraph on page 11 of the book, would you believe any of the rest of it?
Twisted research
He quotes a multitude of experts and research studies in support of his points, giving the impression that these experts and studies prove what he advocates. Which, in a way, they do. The problem is that Dutton tells only half of the story, uses the experts to support the half that he is telling, and totally ignores the rest of the story.
For example, on page 61, Dutton talks about the work of Scott Lilienfeld, who developed the Psychopathic Personality Inventory, a comprehensive questionnaire designed to work with both criminal and non-criminal psychopaths. Dutton quotes Lilienfeld as saying, “We reasoned that psychopathy was on a spectrum.” Then Dutton writes:
Lilienfeld’s notion of psychopathy being on a spectrum makes a good deal of sense. If psychopathy is conceptualized as an extension of normal personality, then it follows logically that psychopathy itself must be scalar, and that more or less of it in any given context might confer considerable advantages. Such a premise is not without precedent in the annals of mental dysfunction (if, indeed, psychopathy is dysfunctional, given its benefits under certain conditions).
So Dutton quotes Lilienfeld, and then transitions into the statement that more or less psychopathy “might confer considerable advantages.” I wonder if Dutton studied elementary logic, because one statement has nothing to do with the other.
On page 121, Dutton describes a conversation with James Blair, in which he asks, “Does it pay to be a psychopath?” Here’s what comes next:
Blair was cautious. It’s a dangerous road to go down. “It’s true that if bad things are happening the individual with psychopathy might be less worried about it,” he told me. “However, it’s not so clear that their decision making in such situations would be particularly good, though. Moreover, by not analyzing levels of threat appropriately, they might walk into danger, rather than away from it.”
In other words, if we could somehow defrost the reasoning a bit, take some of the chill out of the logic, then yes, psychopathic traits may well confer advantages. Otherwise, forget it.
I did not interpret Blair’s quote to at all signify that “it pays to be a psychopath.” But Dutton brazenly twisted Blair’s words around to suit his own argument.
Cavalier statements
This book is filled with cavalier statements that ignore the essential truth of psychopaths: They are lying, manipulating exploiters who cause considerable damage to almost everyone around them. For example, on page 106 Dutton writes:
Ironically, the rule-bending, risk-taking, thrill-seeking individuals who were responsible for tipping the world economy over the edge are precisely the same personalities who will come to fore in the wreckage.
Hello? Yes, research has indicated that the recent world financial collapse was likely caused by psychopaths. Dutton doesn’t consider this to be a problem?
Then there’s page 163:
Was psychopathy a “medicine for modern times”? Could taking it in moderation, twiddling those dials a little to the right on our respective psychopath mixing decks—at certain times, in certain specific contexts—actually be good for us?
And page 192:
Not all psychopaths are saints. And not all saints are psychopaths. But there’s evidence to suggest that deep within the corridors of the brain, psychopathy and sainthood share secret neural office space. And that some psychopathic attributes—stoicism, the ability to regulate emotion, to live in the moment, to enter altered states of awareness, to be heroic, fearless, yes, even empathic—are also inherently spiritual in nature, and not only improve one’s own well-being, but also that of others.
Regulate emotion? Has Dutton ever witnessed a psychopath flying into a rage? And by the way, this last quote was in the section of the book entitled “Saint Paul—the patron saint of psychopaths.”
Deja vu
I was married to a psychopath. My ex-husband, James Montgomery, personified the traits that Dutton extols: fearless, confident, charismatic, ruthless, and focused. He also personified the traits that Dutton ignored: deceitful, manipulative, exploitative, irresponsible, aggressive and reckless.
As I was reading The Wisdom of Psychopaths, I felt a disturbing sense of deja vu that mounted with each page. About a third of the way through the book, I realized why I was uncomfortable: Kevin Dutton’s writing was very similar that of my ex-husband.
Montgomery was exceptionally proud of his skill with words. Verbally and in writing, he could paint shimmering pictures with his words, glistening images of our lifelong happiness, his future entrepreneurial success, or whatever he was selling at the moment. Sometimes I’d be aware that Montgomery’s statements seemed a bit off, but I was distracted by his vivid descriptions or elegant turns of phrase. Or, there was enough truth in his words that I couldn’t say he was lying. Or, he had neglected to convey full and complete information, which I didn’t discover until much later.
Unlike when I was dealing with my ex-husband, I am able to reread, annotate, and analyze Dutton’s words. I find them to be full of holes, mischaracterizations, distortion and omission. This book is a disservice to society.
I feel sorry for anyone who reads The Wisdom of Psychopaths without a prior understanding of the disorder. Because of Dutton’s flashy writing and extensive references to scientific research, the uninformed reader might actually believe what he says.
Oxy,
I literally gasped as I read your words and then I gasped again and again as I kept reading. What a horrible man to treat animals that way.
I wish I could visit that walmart where he works.
I’d give him the old Nelson, “HAHA!”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX7wtNOkuHo
Yep, Patrick’s success depends on your cooperation. That’s the way it is will all P’s, they want our reactions. Once I figured this out, everything changed. It’s not always easy to control our reactions, but with practice it gets easier.
Katydid this dichotomy of a sociopaths thinking is really common and really confusing. It’s part of the brain disorder. It’s like they live in two, or more, completely opposite worlds at the same time.
Skylar the ASPD research is not by any stretch of the imagination in its infancy. Psychopathy was first documented in the 1800s, and it has been included in the DSM since its inception. To argue sociopaths are not impulsive because the DSM is wrong, is not gonna fly. Research has made some strong headway with brain scans, and its exciting because finding frontal lobe abnormalities gives hope towards a cure someday. It is well documented that people who have brain trauma of the frontal lobe can get the symptoms of ASPD which include impulsivity.
Sky, I haven’t seen him there in years now, I’m noot sure what happened to him or to his wife. She graduated from LPN school about 1993 or 4, about the time we moved up here. Egg donor had built a house up here by then and I sent son C up here to live with her until I could get them out of the trailer so he could take care of the animals. Then husband and I moved up here, rented out our home, and then built up here and moved into the house I live in now 11 months later. We moved in here in 1994 in the fall. I know he was still working for WM in 1998-ish, but I lost contact of any kind with the wife and so it may have been 10 or more years since I have seen him. I never tried to keep up with him really, just chance encounters. Once when the oxen and I were in a parade, on the way back to the fair grounds after going through the main part of town the parade was marched past his house and I saw him out on his front porch with his great dane dog and I guess that may have been maybe 2000 or maybe 2001 in that time frame. Guess it was the last time I actually laid eyes on his nasty face.
When I was cleaning up the mess of junk and trash he had stored in a shed on the place I found different IDs he had so I am not even sure what his name actually was. I also found dynamite (Old stuff, very unstable) and all kinds of trash.
I am glad his wife finally got away from him though, and what he did to my animals actually helped her to do so. She graduated the same time my son C did from that two year college and got her LPN so she could at least make a living. I’m not sure she is still in the area either, and haven’t tried to keep up with her either.
Well, bird, I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree.
Do tell us your story about your spath experience.
So far, you have told us your opinion:
I’d like to hear your story. If I don’t respond right away, it’s because I’m out in the garden.
Bird and Skylar, very interesting debate. I tend to agree with both of you. I so agree, Bird, that they live in the moment, are a product of their fantasies and grandiosity. I also beleive their narcissism makes long term intimacy terrifying, and, therefore, impossible. They thrive during the idealization stage and feed off supply. When we become disillusioned, and, disillioning, they bolt. Sponteneious? Sure. Could there be a more sinister plot to disappoint; to pull the rug out from under us and leave us devasted? Sure. Why not. The two points here, are not mutually exclusive. I think both are plausable.
I am a typical woman who loves psychopaths; I even have an advanced degree in the sciences, and I’m highly competitive (duh). Women who love psychopaths describes me to a T. About 5 years ago I was left 6 months pregnant by a psycho. I was madly in love with him before that time. The lies were abundant and the dichotomy of the man who didn’t think children should be raised without both parents, to the man who changed his mind about everything when i was 6 months pregnant and moved halfway across the country was overwhelming, to say the least. I found love fraud then, and OxD was my consistent form of support as I struggled through PTSD. Dr leedom gave me invaluable advice and I was able to get through it, somehow. Since then I have dated occasionally, some nut cases, and one boyfriend who lasted 2 years. Then I didn’t date for a year. The next man I met and dated lied to me about his marital status, his age, how long he was married, his children’s age, and countless others. He was the most romantic man I have ever met. His current wife went to Wharton and she is now unemployed and has a lean on her house. I havnt talked to him since New Years eve, and I miss him like crazy. I’ve gone no contact because I like him so much. If there weren’t good qualities about these guys, and they were repulsive, we wouldn’t have to go no contact; but they are as charming as they come. So according to women who love psychos, they are procreating with some of the smartest women in the world. What does the leave us with? Even smarter offspring with the DNA of a psycho in future generations.
Sky, Bird was here several years ago, she had a baby that I named Baby Bird, then she left the P sperm donor and was doing well for a while and I think (I may be wrong here) got hooked up with another one so she’s had plenty of experience with Ps.
I do think though that part of the differences in your opinions are semantics.
Spontaneous versus impulsive
Outgoing versus glib
etc. etc.
It sort of depends on who is labeling the behavior with what words. The different words can describe the same behavior and yet convey totally different meanings.
A lot of the research on psychopathy now is centered on scans and The DNA as well as chemical differences in their brains versus “typical” people.
The identical twin studies of twins raised in different environments shows that if one twin is a P, there is an 80% chance the other one will be….but my question is, on the 20% who are “NOT” Ps, is their PCL-R score a 29 or a 28 or are they “normal” with a score of 4-5
fMRI scans show different parts of the brain function differently in people who “score 30+” on the PCL-R, and most of these studies are done on criminals as “P’s in the wild” seldom come in or consent to be scanned. I have conversed with several of these researchers, and in fact, o ne of them told me that te AVERAGE score on PCL-R of all convicts is 22 which means that 50% of the convicts are higher and 50% are lower, so that means there are still a LOT OF DANGEROUS FOLKS who don’t quite qualify as “Ps” but are sure not people you’d want your daughter to marry or bring home as a pet.
In “Snakes in Suits, when Psychopaths go to work” Dr. Hare and Babik make the point that these people CAN and DO reach high offices as CEOs in banks, the military, other corporations and in politics and I’ve known some lawyers and doctors I think are psychopaths. So they are not all incapable of planning long term, or sticking to an educational program to get where they want to be. In fact, in some jobs like law enforcement, politics, and military it may be an advantage to them to be ruthless and without conscience. But some of them reach high office and then BLOW IT by getting caught cheating on their wives or like that military commander in Canada that got caught raping and murdering women. He obviously could PLAN, but he was also IMPULSIVE and could not or would not control his urges.
My son Patrick can plan for the long con by working to find a “friend” ex con who was not on parole and convincing him that if he would come here and take over, kill me and make it look like suicide Patrick would share the “wealth” with him.
In one letter to him Patrick advised him to check out the Russian bride web sites…and get his pass port and plan to go to Russia and get him a woman. LOL TALK ABOUT STUPID….LOL ROTFLMAO but the guy was doing just that plus, when I disappeared he decided to diddle my DIL instead. Oh, well the best laid plans of mice and men.
I also want to clarify that impulsive and lack of planning is not apart of the DSM definition for narcissism; perhaps that is where our wires are crossing. Sociopaths are much more impulsive then narcissists and they don’t need as much supply.
Thanks for your candour bird. I feel great shame at how quickly I fell for mine. But I don’t see his charm as positive. It’s just glibness and mirroring.