“I should write a book.” Many people have said this in describing their unbelievable, shocking and downright bizarre experiences with a sociopath to Lovefraud. Mary Turner Thomson of Edinburgh, Scotland, did just that.
Thompson’s book is called The Other Mrs. Jordan—A True Story of Bigamy and Betrayal. It will have you shaking your head in disbelief—and nodding your head in understanding. If you’ve been thoroughly deceived by a sociopath, elements of Thomson’s story will be very familiar to you.
Mary Turner Thomson was a 35-year-old single mother when the sociopath, Will Jordan, wormed his way into her life. Of course, at the time, Thomson did not know the guy was a sociopath. She thought she met a man who was “intelligent and accomplished, but humble about his achievements.” He played flawless piano (for real—Thomson heard him). He was an information technology consultant—they first met at his plush office. He acted like a perfect gentleman—opening the car door for her and attentive in conversation.
The relationship quickly became serious. Jordan met and adored Thomson’s young daughter—especially since he said he was infertile and couldn’t have children of his own. When Thomson and Jordan were together, his affection was readily apparent.
Yet often Jordan didn’t do what he said he would. He embarrassed Thomson by not showing up when he was supposed to meet her friends and family. Thomson got angry. But he always had a good excuse—usually his work.
Jordan even blew Thomson off after inviting her to a black-tie Christmas party with his biggest client. And how did he ask for forgiveness for that one? Jordan proposed and gave Thomson a diamond ring.
Still, Jordan continued to be erratic about calling and showing up when he promised. In fact, his behavior was odd. So Thomson took steps to check him out. She found an address for him and drove to the house. Jordan’s Corvette was in the driveway—and children’s play equipment was in the garden.
It looked like the guy was married with kids, and Thomson was shocked and angry. But then Jordan confessed the truth—he was actually a CIA agent, and the house was his cover story.
Jordan explained that his disappearances were a result of his dangerous work. For hours, he slowly and carefully told Thomson details of his work—at least the details he could convey without risk to her. She wrote:
“On the one hand, I couldn’t help but think that he fitted the description and personality of someone who’d do this kind of work, and he was telling me about it all without a hint of bragging or humor. He was deadly serious and matter-of-fact, while staring unflinchingly into my eyes.
“On the other hand, it could all be a lie and he could be married with kids. But that would mean he had been lying from the very first e-mail—that everything I knew about him down to the smallest and deepest detail was false and twisted. He was not the type.”
Jordan offered convincing proof that he was telling the truth. Thomson believed him.
As stated in the beginning of this post, The Other Mrs. Jordan is about Thomson’s experience with a sociopath, and we all know what that means—the guy was lying. Jordan was not infertile—he had two children with Thomson. He was married, and had five children with his other wife and two children with their nanny. And, Jordan took Thomson’s money—all of it. It got so bad that Thomson had to sell possessions to buy food for her children.
To find out the full extent of the deceit, you’ll should read the book. Let’s just say it’s a wild read.
The story received extensive media coverage in the U.K. For one saucy account, read Bigamist who masqueraded as CIA spy is jailed.
As Thomson, the author, was trying to make sense of what happened, she discovered Lovefraud. On the last page of the book she wrote, “I found www.lovefraud.com incredibly helpful, as it made sense of what Will had done to me and others.”
If you’ve been swindled by a sociopath, reading this book will help you validate your experience. Yes, you were targeted. Yes, they are that good. And yes, you can recover.
Lovefraud heartily recommends The Other Mrs. Jordan.