Navy veteran Sean Patrick Banks, 37, of Del Mar, California, was charged with raping a woman he met on the Christian Mingle dating site. Police are looking for other victims.
Calif. man accused of raping woman met on Christian site, on USAToday.com.
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Ox Drover
This story goes along with the FBI warning about on line dating sites. It is in my opinion just too dangerous to take a chance, you might pay with your LIFE.
The fact that it is a “Christian” site doesn’t make it one bit more “safe” than the “Hell’s angels looking for partners” site. By posing as a “Christian” they are likely to find wo/men who are unsuspecting.
Radar_On
Amen OxD! The online or otherwise, dating “services” i believe are just plain dangerous. The “christian” in the “mingle”, they are just pimping the christian theme for profits. It’s grevious to me to think how many unaware women, and men ate at such risk!
Truthspeak
Donna, THANK YOU for this article and I sincerely hope that other victims will come forward.
Online dating sites are BUSINESSES and not altruistic organizations devoted to arranging healthy, successful unions. If members keep meeting up with unsuitable dates, members continue to look and look and spend their dollars to maintain their membership profiles. Did anyone notice how many dating “services” the parent company has?
These ONLINE “services” are the MOST perfect trolling grounds for predators, as we have discussed. Sites specifically targeting “Christian” individuals are particularly dangerous because predators have exploited religion for aeons – “virtual” life simply provides an even thicker cloak of respectability and anonymity to assist predators in their efforts to secure multiple and widespread targets.
Online dating? Oh, absolutely NOT. No time to meet potential dates in Real Life situations? Then I don’t need to entertain the prospect, at all.
Again, thank you for this harrowing reminder of the DANGERS of online dating.
Brightest blessings
phoenix99
I definitely agree. I met my sociopath online in a chatroom. It was not a dating service nor had I intended to meet him. There were red flags which I stupidly ignored. Now, I’m three years out, angry, I never want to date again… and I’m sickened by all of the smug couples I encounter when I explain I don’t want to date again. I do know that not all people are sociopaths, but between my sociopathic ex and the other just your plain normal jerks I’ve dated, I just don’t feel like putting in the effort any more. It really is sad in the story above when sick people like that take advantage of people just looking for love. And heck, by chance you would think a Christian oriented website would be a good place to look.
Louise
phoenix99:
I have the same experience when I tell people I don’t want to date. I get looked at like I have three heads or something. After all, what normal person doesn’t want to date, right?…that is what society thinks…that we all must be “coupled” to be normal or feel worthy. I hate it. That’s me…too much effort…I am done with it. It’s just not worth it to me anymore.
kim frederick
Yep. I am happily single. For the first time, I can be all about me, with no apology, and I gotta say, I like it. A lot.
Louise
Yay, kim!!!! 🙂
MoonDancer
Yap, I surrender too. Maybe in my next life time.
Truthspeak
Phoenix99, I became acquainted with the second exspath in a chat toom, as well. He presented EVERYTHING that I craved because I gave him the information, myself! He produced the illusion with surgical precision. I still believed that MY honesty and good intentions would be appreciated and returned in like-kind because my system of beliefs was flawed and I was way, way damaged by the first exspath.
I don’t view other healthy and committed couples as being “smug” because I’m getting past the anger towards myself. I am pleased and grateful that there ARE healthy relationships – romantic AND platonic. This fact reminds me that the entire world isn’t disordered.
Brightest blessings
Truthspeak
As a strict aside, anyone who has been following the series “Walking Dead” might identify my interest in the character of Dale. This character spoke reasonably and truthfully, even when speaking the truth upset other characters.
It’s NEVER going to be about who likes me, approves of me, or accepts me, ever again. I provide my OWN validation and I’ll never need to seek it from another man, woman, or child.