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Con man kidnaps daughter from supervised visitation

It is already Friday and the daughter of Sandra L. Boss has been missing since Sunday when she was abducted from supervised visitation by her father a con artist. On behalf of other victims of love fraud, I want to tell Sandra that we are praying for her and her daughter. We also understand how an intelligent, loving, successful person can be duped.

Sandra L. Boss asks for return of daughter

Last night Sandra appeared before the cameras to ask that her former husband return the child, age 7. To see the video visit ABC News. She gave the following message: “Clark, although many things have changed, you will always be Reigh’s father and I will always be Reigh’s mother,We both love her dearly and have only her best interests and well-being in our hearts. I ask you now, please, please bring ‘Snooks’ back. There has to be a better way for us to solve our differences than this way. Reigh, honey, I love you and miss you so much. Remember you’re always a princess,”

Who was this woman who married and had a child with a con artist?

According to ABC News Sandra Boss, “is a senior partner in the London office of McKinsey & Company. She has done consultant work for New York Sen. Charles Schumer and New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg, and has ties to the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York and the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston.” According to the New York Post, Sandra met her husband when he dated her identical twin sister. Apparently a friend said, “There was nothing to suspect, really. He said he was a Rockefeller and he always seemed to have money,” said the friend. “Her parents loved him.”

Who is this con man father?

According to ABC News and America’s Most Wanted, Sandra’s ex-husband and Reigh’s father is a con man with no social security number or driver’s license. He used the alias Clark Rockefeller and claimed to be a member of the Rockefeller family. He also used other aliases. Police in Boston have said Rockefeller, who is believed to be 48, has used several aliases with variations on the names James, Frederick, Mills and Clark, as well as Rockefeller. Police are actively searching for prior school records.

According to ABC news, “Investigators also are unclear about Rockefeller’s education history, the official said, despite reports that he commonly told acquaintances he attended Yale and Harvard. Some people have told authorities that Rockefeller said that his parents died in a car crash when he was young; others were told he was homeschooled as a kid.”

People apparently continue to be fooled. One neighbor who knew Rockefeller is quoted as saying, “He had a lot to offer as a person,”

The divorce

Boss and “Rockefeller” divorced last year. All the documents were sealed so we don’t know if Boss was ordered to support “Rockefeller.” Several news agencies allege a custody battle. We know that he was granted only supervised visitation.

The kidnapping

The kidnapping was planned with malice and forethought. “Rockefeller” conned a livery driver into believing he was picking up the daughter from a gay lover who would resist. So when the male social worker tried to retrieve the girl, the livery driver sped off. Another unwitting accomplice was paid $500 to drive the kidnapper and the kidnapped girl from Boston to New York.

The public is confused- and so is Sandra

To give you the full story here I read a number of articles on this story. There is a commentary today in the Boston Herald by Peter Gelzinis, Amid hoopla little girl remains missing. In it he accuses Sandra of being “self-absorbed” and equates her to the con artist! He also points out that Sandra told authorities she did not believe “Rockefeller” would harm the little girl. Police issued the Amber alert though when they gained information that led them to believe otherwise.

One person commenting on the story wrote, “I’m confused if this guy is a fraud, why do they keep saying he kidnapped his daughter. They aren’t related right? This story is confusing me. It’s his daughter? THEN WTF ARE YOU BLABBING ABOUT HIS SECRET BS IDENTITY!!??!?! Stop it and find some real information. “Ohhhh i’m abcnews, here’s a bunch of fake information this guy tells everyone. Wooooh” Find this kidnapped girl.”

Lovefraud’s Mission

It is our job here at to end the confusion and ignorance. Thankfully, I found out about this story from an ABC reporter who contacted me through Donna. The reporter asked me if I had a message for Sandra. I’ll print it here then perhaps you who also understand will add yours.

Sandra, although you might have loved this man he appears to be a psychopathic con artist. You have to put your love aside and think with your head about what that means. He is dangerous! You also have to ignore family members and the public who say “A child needs her father.” The child does not need a psychopathic con artist in her life at all. I pray that the child will be found unharmed. I am sorry that the family courts failed you. Remember the judicial system has also failed others including Dr. Amy Castillo. We have to get the courts to recognize the plight of victims of love fraud and the children that result from these acts of psychological rape.


Aug 2 The Boston Herald reports that Boss paid “Rockefeller” over 1 million dollars in the divorce settlement. He was denied custody and placed on supervised visitation when he refused to reveal his identitiy. I wonder if anyone related to Boss really understood the nature of this man.

abc News story quoting Donna, myself and Trish.

Saturday, “Rockefeller” was captured in Baltimore, MD. The girl was found unharmed and reunited with her mother. To read about the capure on CNN

Tuesday, 8/5/08 GMA reported this AM that “Rockefeller” may be tied to a CA murder. Stay tuned. As we found out regarding Fred Brito there is no such thing as a benevolent con artist!

Aug 7 The evidence linking Rockefeller to the disappearance of a California couple is quite compelling see the Boston Globe today

Today a family who hosted a German High school student says they are 100% certain that Rockefeller is Christian Karl Gerhartsreiter who came to them from Bavaria at age 17. The family of Christian in Germany has also identified him. One of the aliases used by Gerhartsreiter links him definitively to the missing/dead CA couple. Reports of Christian personality indicate he had psychopathic traits going back to at least age 17. see Baltimore sun Story

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This is terrifying news.
To go through all the work of getting supervised visits, only to have them fail. Terrifying indeed.

Sandra, if you read this, I am so sorry.
My thoughts are with you.

Ox Drover

DEar Bird,

I am so glad that you read this and see for yourself how evil these people can be and why all of us here at LF were so concerned about Baby Birdie and the “father” having ANYTHING to do with Birdie. EVER. If you ever weaken in that resolve, come back here and reread this, and read about Dr. Amy CAstillo’s children murdered by their father to “punish” her. These people are SO EVIL and they have no care for the children, even their own children, except as pawns to beat the mother over the head with in a horrible attempt at revenge.

I am so glad that you are NO contact with your P and that Birdie is safe. There are so many people here who care about you and Birdie. (((hugs for Bird and Birdie))))


Birdie, this is exactly why I think you and other parents need to keep things as cordial as humanly possible with your ex. I know you want to keep him as far away from baby bird as possible, but the courts won’t support you on that most times.

And everyone with kids, if you talk down the other parent all the time, eventually the kids might turn on you. If you talk about them like they are great people, you are lying to your kids and also making it easier for the ex to woo your kids away.

The best thing to do is deal with reality, keep thing outwardly cordial if possible, at least polite, and tell your kids the blunt truth about their other parent.

My middle son, who is a lot like his father, just recently said to me, “I decided I’m’ going to believe you instead of Dad, because he always says bad things about you, but you just say honest things about him.” And I didn’t even know they were e-mailing each other!

Ox Drover

Kat, I’m not sure how much you have read of Bird’s situation, but they were not married and her P left her 6 months preg to go off with his “soul mate” so I’m not sure the courts would even support his visitation, plus the fact, that he would have to come up with the money to prove it is his kid (expensive) and then fight with a lawyer in court to get visitation rights, etc. so she isn’t in the position to have to (at least at this point) let him have any contact with the child and in truth, it isn’t even likely that he would be able to come up with the money to harass her for “visitation” much less custody.

Having been both the child of a psychopath and the mother of one, I can tell you for sure that I am glad that my P-bio father was out of my life when I was little and my step father was able to adopt me because my P-bio father never made any effort to pay support etc.

Hopefully at some point in time, Bird and Birdie will have a GOOD father in the picture for the Baby Bird and legally the P won’t be able to harass them. I just wish that I had been educated with the “truth” about Ps, as your son has been before I DID encounter mine.


They might not, but in the mean time she had better keep an eye on him, is all I’m saying. My first husband was out of my kids’ lives for many years, then he came back into the picture and took me to court for custody of one of our sons, and WON. These guys don’t like “losing” and they don’t like paying child support. I’m not saying the courts would take his side.. I’m telling her to be wary.


Oh and by the way the case was financed by his new source of money, a girl he had lied to about me. She talked him into taking me to court which he then had to do to save face with her.

Then followed a grief period like I’ve never known.

A few years after this I asked my son how his father was managing to keep his bills paid, as it was unusual for him to have the same phone number for over a year. And my son answered, “It’s called Erin’s (my exes new wife) credit card.”

After she finally left him as well, we found out she was actually a lesbian that was just using my ex for cover so she could keep going to church and have a baby. I guess it was “mutual usury”

Ox Drover

Dear Kat,

I agree, they can really be snakes in the grass and you never know where they will pop up their nasty heads. It never hurts to have an eye on them if there are children involved. I just am hopeful that he will leave Bird and her Baby Birdie alone.

“Mutual ursury” That is one that is worthy of Aloha, she always comes up with these great “terms” to apply for the Ps and the things they do! That’s a good one Kat!

newworld view

thank goodness… what about the missing caylee anthony in florida whose mom didnt report her missing until HER mother finally did 31 days after her being seen (that would be the nearly 3 yo childs grandmother who finally called police) very strange case indeed


So glad they caught this guy.


I agree that we have to send our letters to our local senators. I am sending mine today to NJ senator Jeff VanDrew. I have been in coorespondence with his assistant for a couple of months now (since I have been dealing with this violation of probation with the S). I told him at the end of my court hearings I would sit down and formulate a letter describing legislation that is need for change. Included in that list which in my case was about reforming plea arrangements, restitution arrangements, psychological evaluations for the criminal and other important issues. I encluded the lovefraud and ABC downloads and have asked for reform of psychological evalutions in the family courts. I talked about the Amy Castillio story. I firmly asked that if an evaluation comes back with Narcissist/sociopath/psychopath that the parent has supervised visits at all times no exceptions. And loss of custody/visitation with threats or severe behavior. Believe me I thought about “What is the point of supervised visits, really” with a N/P/S. The only reason I enclude it is our civil rights as Americans. To satisfy the numnuts out there that will fight for the civil rights of an N/S/P. Quite frankly, I am a victim and I know better! Our local to Federal Gov’t needs to know the seriousness of these individuals and that they cannot be rehabiltated! We have to start now sending our certified letters. I am considering organizing a NJ group on It will happen real soon and I hope others of you can do the same in your state. My group will discuss legislation change for victims of crime (murder, rape, robbery, fraud, and other) There is alot of reform needed and our legislator are not fully aware….let’s make a difference now!

After I send my letter this week I will let you know what comes of it. I am doing the research on how to hold successful meetings right now…because I want this to work. Any suggestions would be warmly welcomed.



Ox Drover

Dear Trish, I got a link that might be of interest to you


The first one is a national list for “grades” for various judges, court officers etc in “family court” situations by county in states. You might be able to contribute to that.

The IVAT is a national associatioon that has a yearly conference for professionals on family violence etc. They have an upcoming conference for a week in september in San Diego. I’d sure love to be able to go to that. Not in the budget this year though as my friend out there that I could have stayed with has passed away.

Apparently some progress is being made with this situation. Good luck.


Great news!!!!

They got him!!!!

Ox Drover

NEWS FLASH: Night line tonight says that “Rockefeller” is linked by fingerprints to a 1985 double murder of some wealthy people in california…at the time the murder happened the man whose fiingerprints were taken for a drivers license in california used a German passport.

Also, the photograph of the guy from california taken in 1985 looks almost identical to “Rockefeller”

Isn’t this a TWIST? Will be interesting to see what pans out of this one.

Ox Drover

Excuse my ignorance but where is the “ADDENDUM Section?”


The addendum section is added onto the bottom of this article.

newworld view

well it just keeps getting better….has anyone read about the formenr north carolina lady that went west and became miss wyoming….she disappeared for reasons youll read…..she has now surfaced as the women in all the photos who had her pit bull vloned for 53,000.00 in i think south korea…..these people cant get enough of themselves eh…….read her story, its close to the rockefeller debacle….and i love all the threats they throw out…..10,000,000.00lawsuit against the ap….just how “DUMB” read that out of touch with reality can one get….like john edwards being so arrogant he doesnt think hell get caught…..if it werent causing so much harm to so many, itd almost be funny……take a look at the names she used

newworld view

aloha…the newspaper article??…i dont seem to have an addendum area either…or that is just my “adumdum ” lack of computer literacy tks for any help
and if anyone hasnt seen the lady yet type in cloned dog story gives new life to old sex-slave case or try bernann/ joyce mckinney


Well, this doesn’t have anything to do with the above case, but I thought I ought to let the peeps at Lovefraud know that I tried dating again, a nice guy who I’ve known for a while, sweet guy, good daddy, lonely, etc. but I feel very bad about it now, because I know in my heart I’m not doing it because I want to be with him, I’m doing it because I have to drive those thoughts of J. out of my heart. I know this is not a good idea, but do I just squash him like a bug now that he’s liking me so much? And his kids are like asking me to be their new mom before we even went out to dinner! Help??


But I wanna know if I can have brownie points for NC.. and not checking my posts at dontdatehimgirl.. I’m trying to stop thinking about his arms around someone else, his lips on hers… siiiiiiiiggggghhhhh.


Kat- Don’t analyze this new guy so much. Just be honest with him and tell him your in no way ready for any kind of commitment. And the kid’s – well they are just kid’s, just laugh it off. I will give you a BoZo Button for NC. I can’t venture into any chat site right now. And Kat I too have a friend I am spending time with. we have great conversation’s etc. but I see red flags everywhere with him. He bought me a stereo to go out by the pool. He bring’s small gift’s. But I always have good food and wine. He is goodlookin guy and always talking about that and can’t pass a mirror with out admiring himself. I told him he was a narcissist and he agreed. But I am safe, I would never fall for him. I have him figured out but the company is nice. Yeah I know what you mean about thinking about him in her arms, i DO THE SAME THING and I hate it. But my X never (held) me, he just hung on to me, I did all the holding. My X need’s to be loved, too bad he can’t return the favor……

Ox Drover

Dear Kat,

After my divorce when my kids were small, I dated a REALLY nice guy, that I would never have been “in love with” because we just had too many things that were not “together”—he was sweet and kind, a good person to be around my kids for men things, etc. and he had custody of his own kids after a marriage with a P—but you know, I went with hi for 4 years and I grew to “love him”: but as a FRIEND not a lover. He continued to see me, HOPING AGAINST HOPE that I would eventually grow to love him because he was so good to me.


I eventually moved out of state, he knew I was going and he even helped me pack. I know it broke his heart. AFter I left I got a letter from his daughter who couldn’t understand why I had “deserted” him and her. She was 11.

He married about a year later to a lovely woman that is very happy with him.

But looking back, I realize I was CRUEL to this nice man by ALLOWING him to keep on hoping, even though I was TOTALLY TRUTHFUL with him. Even though I THOUGHT I was being totally truthful to him, I still led him on, and now I am very careful to make sure that I do not give off any signals to my male friends, and I have several that I care about a great deal and we go places together but there is no way it is considered a “date” in any way. No “kissy face” and no “friends with benefits” or anything that would mislead them about my intentions.

I still feel guilty about hurting my friend from so many years ago. He didn’t deserve that from me. I would have been kinder if I had punched his lights out or hit him over the head with my skillet!

How you change what you find “sexy” or attractive in a man? I’m not sure, Kat. I sort of have a list of things that I would want in a man as far as smarts, interests, moral compass etc. and if the guy passes those “tests” then there is of course the physical attraction or repulsion–and about the only thing that “repulses” me is if someone is morbidly obese or a “couch potato.”

Also, sometimes the husband, as in your X that you described, not washing, etc. is a symptom of depression in the man. Also it can be PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR too.

The man makes him self repulsive (and obviously he wans’t always that way or you wouldn’t have married him) then he gripes at you cause you don’t want to have sex. Double bind they place you in.

I am not sure about what is going on with the other marriage you were talking about. Obviously the marriage is not in “good shape” but at this point in time, you can’t “fix” a marriage if you (that is the Universal “you” not being specific to Kat-you) are not “fixed” yourself.


About the addendum … it’s right under your nose. Go to the top of this page. Read the post/article. Keep reading… keep reading… at the end of the post, there is a BOLD heading that says “addendum” where Dr. L is adding updates. It doesn’t stand out. It’s right before the first comment.




DDHG is the bain of my existence. They told me account was suspended but I have no idea why. And Iwould like to take my post down but there is nobody home. Myself and another reader have both had trouble trying to get our posts removed. Her post is on She has attempted to contact them over and over and no one is home.


Ox Drover

Okay, I found it—but it doesn’t say “addendum” it says PERMALINK right after Dr. L’s name as author of the post.

I’m glad that they found out who he really is.

The weapons thing is also a red flag with my P-son, who stole a gun from my step father at age 15 or so while living with them, after having fled from my home after he kicked in my ribs and I was going to turn him over to juvenile authorities, and my mother took him in AGAINST MY WILL.

When he was allowed to come back home, he almost immediately stole a gun from a customer of ours, took it to school to show off to the other kids, fortunately one of them reported this to the school cop, who came to our house and informed me. I seized the gun from him, and he fled again.

After killing his murder victim, he was so attached to the gun, that he didn’t even dispose of it as he took it home and kept it under his bed (even though it linked him to the murder). You would think a “criminal with an IQ in the top 99th percentile would be “smarter” than that, but he was SO attached to the gun that he just couldn’t give it up.

Growing up in the South where most men I know are hunters, and there are very few homes that don’t have one or more weapons in them, I know lots of “gun enthusiasts” who have them for their hobbies, their recreation, etc. but these men and women are NOT showing them off like my son or “rockefeller” did to “impress others” with how knowledgeable or tough they are, but they are responsible gun owners, with permits as needed and appropriate training, but not OBSCESSED with weapons or use them for vandalism or irresponsibly.


It says addendum. It looks like it’s the last section of the article. She has been adding things to it. You are going to feel so silly when you finally see it!

Ox Drover


Ya got me back for the dealie-o about the diaper, Aloha. ROTFLMAO (I needed that laugh, thanks!!!!)

Besides, you ought to be ashamed of yourself for laughing at a “poore ole ‘blind woman!” Ha ha

This case is rather “interesting,” that woman with the “cloned dog” thing was also “interesting” as well. Every once in a while some thing like this gets into the news where one of these “impostors” gets exposed and no one can “believe” how cunning they have been. Some are serial killers, like a guy in Alaska was years ago, he was keeping women in his basement for mnths, then killing them and flying their bodies out to the tundra, one woman finally escaped and he got caught, another one owned a cremetorium and was burning his victims’ bodies in his kiln. They never did pin a murder on him and he ended up only getting 4 years for trying to sell illegal corneas (cadaver eyes) for transplant.

It is amazing the things they do and the things they get away with, and makes you wonder how many DON’T get caught, and I would bet probably 50% of them or more don’t get caught even for murder—like this guy did for nearly 25 years. Sheesh!

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