Here we go again, another three children murdered after the family courts allowed a psychopathic parent unfettered access them. This is the story of doctor Amy Castillo (a pediatrician) as was told last night on Larry King Live. Dr. Castillo’s problems with her husband began in full force about two years ago when he began “staying out all night.” The couple had decided that he would stay home with the children and that she would practice. However, she was unable to go to work because he could not function in the caretaker role. Due to his behavior, she left him. After threatening to kill himself he was hospitalized.
According Larry King “court documents say that Mark was diagnosed with a mood disorder — narcissistic personality disorder, borderline and histrionic personality traits.” Please note these together are just synonyms for psychopathy. Furthermore, the pastor that knew Mark stated, “One of the things about Mark is that when he was being evaluated, he was an intelligent person. He was articulate. So he had a way of… Yes, he had a way of covering it up.” Please note this is another indication of psychopathic traits.
The courts initially restricted Mark’s visitation, then against Dr. Castillo’s wishes allowed unsupervised visitation. Dr. Castillo quotes Mark saying, “The worst thing I could do to you would be to kill the children and not you, so that you would have to live without them.”
Amy tried in vain again to restrict his access to the children and was in fact fined by the court this year for not cooperating with visitation.
Finally during his visitation time Mark drowned all three young children. A fund has been set up to help Dr. Castillo. I ask that all who read this blog donate a little something. Don’t think that because she is a doctor she is rich. Psychopathic men financially ruin women and now due to her grief she can’t practice. Please visit LoveFund4Amy.com to see pictures of the three children and donate through pay pal.
What exactly is wrong with our court system that this is happening to children? First there is a perverted view of what parenting is supposed to be about. Parenting is about taking care of children and providing them with a positive environment where they can develop to their fullest potential. Parenting isn’t about father’s rights or mother’s rights, it is about children’s rights. We shouldn’t let a disordered parent access the children because he/she is not capable of doing the job of parent so what’s the point. Let the parent recover completely first, then consider visitation.
Second, in cases where one parent is clearly functional and the other parent is clearly dysfunctional, the functional parent should decide what is best for the children. If that were in place, this would not have happened. The functional parent deserves to decide because he/she has to live with the consequences of the decision. The judges all go home to their children and grandchildren. While parents like Amy are either grief stricken or have to live with the daily pain of behaviorally and emotionally disturbed children who are traumatised by a psychopathic parent.
Third, the belief that a child needs both parents is a pie in the sky ideal that is not applicable in many cases. A child does not need a psychopathic parent anymore than anyone else needs a psychopathic individual in his/her life.
We got the first printed copies of our book Women Who Love Psychopaths yesterday. When Sandy and I were discussing the title she said, “It has got to have the words..inevitable harm.” So the subtitle is Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm. People with psychopathic personality traits are inevitably harmful to everyone who is unlucky enough to be in their lives. It is time we all accept that truth and protect the children of psychopaths.
Addendum
- Shame on Montgomery County Circuit Judge Joseph A. Dugan Jr. for denying Dr. Amy Castillo’s request for a full protective order.
- Shame on Dr. C. David Missar who wrote, “The acute risk of harm Mr. Castillo poses to his children is low, provided he continue with his psychotherapeutic treatments.” There is no real “treatment” for narcissism. Why doesn’t he know that? Furthermore Dr. C. David Missar failed to recognize the dangerousness of the combination of mood symptoms and narcissism which together basically equate to psychopathy.
- Shame on Circuit Judge Michael D. Mason who denied Amy Castillo’s emergency motion to end Mark Castillo’s access to the children.
To read more of the story of Amy Castillo and her brave effort to protect her children read Access to Kids a Big Issue.
at the very least, it should be required that as our knowledge that these creatures exist and the prevalence of their existence is becoming more and more “visible” ( despite their attempts to mask their true nature), that all those in positions that can affect control over these mutants, be educated as to the prevalence of their existence in society….this should be a MANDATORY CONTINUED EDUCATION REQUIREMENT
James, et al,
I am not sure why but this story went so deeply into my heart that I can hardly write about it now without tears flowing down my cheeks—it went so directly to my heart, and injured me so deeply that my biggest response internally is to reach out in hatred to these judges and other people who allowed this to happen.
I am so aware that the P is able to make plans on how to hurt his x-victim the WORST—they know just where to stickk the knife to take away what you value most, to leave you destitute. My X-BF knew that a previous GF of his who had dumped him valued her Victorian home filled with her grandmother’s antiques etc. so he burned it to get the maximum amount of pain out of his deed.
Amy’s X telling her that he knew that the most horrible thing he could do to her was kill their children and leave her alive…so he did it, speaks to an evil even I have a difficult time imagining. My heart breaks for this woman, though I believe her children are now safe in the arms of God. I believe that as horrible as what happened to them is, that somehow unknown to me, somehow there is good will come from this. “All things work together for good to those that love the Lord”—(KJV Bible)–I can only hope that this horrible event will spark a national hew and cry for JUSTICE AND SANITY in our child welfare courts and laws, just as the loss of that little girl AMBER has sparked the national “Amber Alerts” all over the country when a child is gone missing. I know that is not a great deal of consolation to a grieving parent when it is THEIR CHILD that has become the “poster child” for EVIL but maybe SOMETHING good will come out of this that can help save untold thousands of other children from enduring a LIVING DEATH by being forced by the courts to be with a psychopathic parent.
I know that there are prayers by the thousands going up for Amy in her time of unspeakable grief, self doubt, and anger at a system that in concert with a psychopath,, killed her darling children she fought so hard to save. God bless her and all the other mothers and fathers and children who are enduring this court-mandated LIVING DEATH.
OxDrover
Yes, this story gave a little to close to home. I experienced a hole prism of emotions. The reality that our court system is sham and just how much in their ignorance and lust for power, they do and will hurt individuals, family and children. This should never had happen and the judge must be held responsible for his decision in this case, but will he?
James, unfortunately, I doubt it. There is a story (myth or reality?) that in China a physician was held accountable for the death of the patient—by being put to death himself. I imagine it would keep down medical school applicants, but to me a judge should be held accountable for his rulings in cases like this. At the very least, removed from the bench, given mandatory training BEFORE he sits on the bench rather than just being a “lawyer” which doesn’t really give a judge any experience with PEOPLE. Many times judges are just political appointees, or are elected. Just knowing the law is NOT enough. The utter power that a judge has is unbelieveable and can have effects like this that cause death or worse (there are things worse than Death and I have a feeling that Amy’s state of mind is one of them. I pray for that woman every day that she may heal and move on over this most terrible loss, but I know that even with the comfort of God, she will never “get over it.”)
I know that you also had a horrible experience, as have many many other parents with personality disordered co-parents. One of my neighbors just “bought” his children back from his x-wife for $300. If it had been $30,000 it would have been worth it, but that a mother would “sell” her parental rights for $300 shows that she must be a psychopath at the best…and hard up for drugs as well. What a shame for those children that their mother cares of little for them,, but they are better off by far I am sure than if they were still with her. It makes my heart weep.
I almost deleted this copy of lovefraud but I am so glad I didn’t !! My daughter has been living this same nightmare with for 3 years. She has been separated from her husband since 2006. His psychological evaluation was very disturbing. He is in the ARMY, they won’t listen,eventhough his weapons have been taken from him..the psychologist says that he displays psychotic thinking, paranoia, problems with authority…the list goes on and on. I might add that the psychologist who performed the exam was one that was chosen by his attorney and all this was in the report, yet he recommends that the child be given unsupervised to her father for visitation and my daughter should go home and work on her marriage. the Judge agrees.
Child protective Services won’t listen, the Courts won’t listen, the military won’t listen…….my daughter has documentation to back up every allegation she has made. Aside from what I’ve said in the above statements, the child’s father has expressed interest in doing things of a sexual nature to his child as soon as she is old enough, this can be proven as well.
What does a terrified parent have to do to get the attention of someone who is supposed to be looking after the welfare and best interests of her children??!!! I am terrified that the same thing will happen to my granddaughter that happened to Dr. Castillo’s children!!
What has happened to this woman and her children is a horror!! how can we as a society start changing laws and protect the rights of defenseless children??
I will keep Dr. Castillo and her beautiful children in my prayers, and I will keep helping my daughter fight for the safety of her child.
Every child deserves good, decent loving parents, not psychopaths and perverts!! why does it take something this heartwrenching to wake people up?
Khoffman,
God bless you, your daughter and your granddaughter and keep on fighting. I will keep you and yours in my prayers as well. I pray for every child, man and woman in such a situation. Hopefully, the deaths of Amy’s children will spark a national backlash that will make people sit up and listen. I would suggest that you document as much about her case as you can as well, so that you can use this as an example to the social workers, judges, lawyers and courts.
Surely to God there is some social worker, some judge, some lawyer in the US that has the best interests of the children at heart! I’m beginning to wonder though. God bless (hugs)
Damned if you Do, Damned if you Don’t…
Another American woman also feared for her children’s safety, fled the United States and now faces prison.
Mark Collins’ sadistic abuse of Holly and her children is well documented: 4 year old Zachary’s fractured skull, the welts and bruises on 8 yr old Jennifer’s back, Holly’s dislocated shoulder, her many concussions and permanent hearing loss in her left ear, her miscarriage after Collins kicked her in the stomach while she was pregnant, as well as numerous witness statements, police reports and even judges’ statements acknowledging the abuse the father had committed.
Yet despite this overwhelming evidence the misguided family court ordered the children to live with their father.
After many thwarted attempts to get the system to protect her children via legal means, in 1994, Holly Collins took the courageous step of fleeing with her children in the hopes that she would be able to find safety for them somewhere, and save them from the abuses the legal system had ignored.
When she arrived in the Netherlands, authorities reviewed Holly’s documentation and granted her and the children refugee status. Three years later, convinced that Holly and her children would be in danger if they returned to the United States, they were granted asylum. Ms. Holly Ann Collins is the first American to have ever received human rights asylum in the Netherlands.
What a travesty that a citizen of Minnesota had to escape the United States to provide herself and her children with the human right to live free of violence! What an outrage that even now, Minnesota considers the father the victim, and wishes to prosecute Ms. Collins for depriving him of his parental rights!
Assistant District Attorney Elizabeth Cutter’s blind pursuit of this prosecutorial agenda harms victims of violence everywhere – sending a message that the legal system is indifferent to abuse and that the abuser’s claim to custody and visitation is more important than the safety of the protective parent and their children.
We have to stand up for parents who try to protect their children from violence… before it is too late!
http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ocean/host.php?page=520
Dear Childrenunderground,
I have heard rumors that there is an “underground railway” for battered parents and their children, just as there was for the run away slaves before the Civil War here in the US.
I am glad that Holland granted this woman and her children asylum. I am glad that she was able to afford the tickets to get there and managed to do so. So many parents are not able to get the money for a bus ticket to the next town because they have expended everything they had in legal fees. I think the legal-fee system here in the US deprives many parents of being able to protect their children. The poor are unable to do so, and even many “middle class” parents are paupers because of it.
Thank you for this story, at least one woman and her children escaped.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2025720/Missing-California-toddler-dead-father-kidnapped-custody-dispute.html
Another child dies as a result of anger against the other parent.
Tragic.