Kevin Dutton’s “The Wisdom of Psychopaths” is a strange, ultimately disconcerting book. Dutton is erudite and obviously fascinated with his subject—psychopaths. He references some cutting edge research and had access to many heavy hitters in the field of psychopathy experts.
Yet in the end, I find his book very troubling. His thesis is basically what the book’s subversive title suggests—that psychopaths have qualities of “wisdom.” That is, psychopaths, he asserts, have certain admirable, enviable and distinguishing qualities in greater volumes than non-psychopaths, qualities the non-psychopath could benefit from in greater quantity so long as (unlike psychopaths) the non-psychopath can regulate and express these “psychopathic qualities” appropriately, in the appropriate contexts.
Dutton seems to be suggesting that psychopaths (or many of them) are, by virtue of possessing these “psychopathic qualities,” in some respects advanced in their psychological, temperamental and even spiritual evolution. Audaciously, he draws analogies between psychopaths and the most evolved monks and Buddhist masters.
Dutton finally specifies what he regards as enviable, advantageous psychopathic qualities, the only caveat being that they should be expressed in good, balanced measure. They are ruthlessness, charm, focus, mental toughness, fearlessness, mindfulness, and the propensity to action/decisiveness.
When he describes psychopaths as being endowed with high levels of “mindfulness,” he is referring to what he alleges is their capacity to be present in the moment of whatever they are endeavoring. He asserts that psychopaths possess a distinct capacity to tune-out all sorts of inconvenient distractions such as depression, anxiety, fear, guilt, and anticipated remorse to achieve their ends with unique focus.
Even if this is the case, what Dutton fails spectacularly to appreciate, it seems to me, is the extent to which psychopaths deploy this alleged quality, and several of the other qualities he gushes over, in the service of exploiting, not enhancing, others. This is what, in essence, makes them psychopathic.
The psychopath is, at bottom, an exploitive, transgressive personality, a remorseless violator of others’ rights, boundaries and dignity. If you are not this, then you are not a psychopath.
But Dutton seems to be arguing that the key to being optimally adapted to our world is to master the capacity to be what he calls a “method psychopath,” meaning to develop and channel all the psychopathic qualities necessary to succeed in the particular contexts requiring them.
He then confuses, continually, the examples he gives of “method psychopaths” by basically referring to them as “psychopaths.” But they are not necessarily psychopaths at all—many of the men he describes may merely be endowed with certain of the “psychopathic qualities” he outlines, and deploy them in the service of performing jobs that require, for instance, fearlessness (or the successful suppression of fear), perhaps ruthlessness, certainly unblinking, sustained concentration under duress, and possibly a suspension of guilt.
He may be right that psychopaths are better suited for these jobs than non-psychopaths, but this doesn’t implicate all those who do these jobs well or even brilliantly as psychopaths. Yet this implication permeates the book, corrupting its discourse.
Dutton describes a brain surgeon who describes his work with chilling detachment and compartmentalization; thereby, on this apparent basis alone, he dubs him a psychopath. He describes men in the British Special Forces who undertake daring, violent work from which most of us would cringe or break, yet these men embrace their work with a rare coolness, and, apparently by virtue of their capacity to handle the intense risks and stresses involved in their missions without reflecting signs of disabling anxiety, agitation or guilt, Dutton regards them as “functional” or “method” psychopaths.
But a glaring question is left unexamined: Are these same men, in their personal lives, the cold, calculating clinicians, surgeons, rescuers or assassins that their jobs require them to be? (And incidentally, none of them are committing crimes: the surgeon is saving lives as, arguably, are the warriors he profusely admires.)
If the answer to the above question is “no,” as may be the case, then these men are not psychopaths. They are non-psychopaths with nerves of steel. But this basic question isn’t even addressed, superficially.
Dutton references research suggesting that psychopaths might be more likely to act heroically than non-psychopaths in certain dangerous situations. But even if this is the case, so what? So what if, in the event your house is burning down and there are two individuals on the street watching, the psychopath might be more inclined to run in and pull you out of the inferno than the non-psychopath? That may be true, and we can imagine reasons this might be the case.
But again, he’s not a psychopath unless he’s exploiting others audaciously and shamelessly in his life. Otherwise, he’s just a hero with nerves of steel. And if he is a psychopath, then his fearlessness, or lust for risk, in instances like these, confers a small benefit to humanity, which we will take without undo gratefulness given the incalculable suffering he imposes on humanity in the greater arena of life.
Dutton cites research suggesting psychopaths can feel empathy, maybe even more empathy than non-psychopaths. But the very concept of empathy is confusing and, to my mind, muddles the issue of psychopathy. What psychopaths really lack is “compassion” for their victims. Forget about empathy and how we define it. They lack compassion–real, true compassion. Compassion should be the benchmark measure here, not empathy. (My next article on Lovefraud will address “compassion” as the far more telling, missing deficit in sociopaths than “empathy.”)
And “victim” needs to be stressed in a book where it is woefully, incredibly under-stressed in Dutton’s need to virtually idealize psychopaths. Psychopath=Victims (that is my formula!). Psychopaths victimize people unconscionably. Psychopaths are victimizing, exploitive personalities. If you are dealing with an individual who is not remorselessly exploitive, you are not dealing with a true psychopath (or sociopath).
And Dutton pays scant attention to qualities like emotional shallowness and deep loyalty. The psychopath is a disturbingly shallow, disloyal individual. This surely doesn’t equate with spiritual advancement, yet Dutton absurdly seeks to find commonalities between Tibetan monks and psychopaths. He aims to recast psychopaths as misunderstood rebels, perhaps overly adapted to the exigencies of modern society.
Dutton writes, “”¦the problem with psychopaths isn’t that they’re too chock-full of evil. Ironically, it’s precisely the opposite: they have too much of a good thing”¦The car is to die for. It’s just too fast for the road.” (p. 186).
This gives you the flavor of the need Dutton has throughout his book to reframe psychopathy as a virtually enviable condition that is “too much of a good thing.” The chasmic inattention given, as noted above, to the immeasurable suffering psychopaths inflict on their victims is itself almost glib and callous.
One senses that Dutton is just a bit too enamored of the psychopath and too desperate to rehabilitate the psychopath’s well-earned reputation as an exploitative, emotional cipher to do real justice to his subject.
Which is to say that psychopaths, in the end, really have no wisdom to impart to us. As entertaining as his book is, neither, I’m afraid, does Dutton.
I was just about to buy this book, but the title bothered me so much I put it back down. I thought He was coming from the angle of what they had to teach us about ourselves, not actually picking out ‘traits’ as being useful…I’m glad, for all the reasons you outline here i did not buy it. It’s too serious to get wrong. End of.
“Dutton finally specifies what he regards as enviable, advantageous psychopathic qualities, the only caveat being that they should be expressed in good, balanced measure. They are ruthlessness, charm, focus, mental toughness, fearlessness, mindfulness, and the propensity to action/decisiveness”
So, am I the only one who actually envied the spath’s abilities (at one time) and watched to see how I could become more like him? Of course, that was before I saw the consequences of his behavior.
Ruthlessness: I could be ruthless pulling off a band-aid, making my kids take their medicine, etc. But that was as far as it went.
Charm: Everyone seemed to like him. I didn’t have that ability, in fact, there were lots of people who didn’t like me because I spoke the truth.
Mental toughness: Wow, I really related to this one! I always let my emotions get in the way. Why couldn’t I be more like him, I always wondered? He didn’t let ANYTHING get in the way of what he wanted!
Fearlessness: Let’s face it, I was full of fears! No problem for him. But then he jumped in without thinking, ever, of the consequences and they always came back to bite in the butt.
Mindfulness: ??? He didn’t relate to this one at all, his thinking was very shallow. Unless it means, focusing on one thing and accomplishing that goal. He really couldn’t walk and chew gum at the same time. I, on the other hand, was easily distracted by other issues in life and didn’t always stay focused.
Propensity to action/decisiveness: Oh yeah, he had that alright. Jumped in with both feet and never looked back. (See fearlessness.) The problem with this one was, he never learned from his mistakes by taking such foolish risks. And I mean really harmful actions, not just to himself but the others who depended on him. I always was the one who hung back and presented logical arguments why we shouldn’t do something. He ignored me. So since he didn’t learn, he’d do it all over again the next day! I was exhausted and could never keep up.
But when I first knew him, I did admire those traits in him and wished I was more like him. I don’t now. I saw where having the extremes of those abilities lead…to disaster, to catastrophe. Instead of admiring him, I know what a retarded loser he is! He’s like a wind-up toy that mindlessly keeps doing the same thing over and over, banging little cymbals with the same goofy painted expression on his face. It got really old!
I thank God I am not like him.
I think you can take admirable qualities and apply them to other personality types. Ps do not have a monopoly on these characteristics.
Steve, you’re absolutely right-motivation is the key.
As far as this author goes, there is always somebody out to make a name for himself (or herself) and somebody who wants to be the clever one who upsets conventional wisdom. These books, interviews, and articles about the authors’ egos or narcissism.
As for MDs, in my little town, there is the ex-wife of a head surgeon at our state’s largest hospital who told plenty (and took her ex to court for this) about his physical and mental abuse and his need for absolute control. She lost the case because of “look at all the good that he does-how can you say such a thing?” Somebody even suggested that I include her case if I ever write a book about Ps some day.
In this day and age, people can spin things just about any way that they’d like to make their case. The first-time readers on the subject or those otherwise impressed by his title might buy his stuff, but give him some time. He’ll be forgotten soon enough-unless the Wall Street types and others who thrive on P characteristics keep singing his praises.
For the record, no P that I know of would run back into a burning house to save somebody (not if there was a real risk involved.) Honestly, what P would even consider sacrificing his or her hide for another person unless there would be a big enough and sure payoff of a gain for the P and ultimately, very little risk for the P?
newlife43:
You post dialed in on one aspect of my relationship with my X! husband: the parts of him that I found MISSING in me, and sought to copy and incorporate into myself… AT FIRST.
Yes, he was SO charming, had people eating out of his hand in minutes. ME? I grew up isolated on a farm with a HORRIBLE family. VERY abused. I had poor social skills, learning late how to small talk, etc. So… I did copy behaviors he did to put people at ease.
Also, EVERYTHING my X! did was so easy, so effortless. I worried about things that could go wrong; he had NO pangs of anxiety at all. He bought real estate and flipped it for a profit EVERY time.
He stay calm cool and CO-lected, as he’d say. Planning commission meetings where townspeople objected to his developments? Things got VERY heated. But not him. ANd he’d twist people’s words so that he got approvals b/c of loopholes, or b/c people used ONE word wrong, and He’d POUNCE and “capitalized” on their error.
That’s just three examples: charming people, no fear decision making, and able to remain as if in third person.
Once I understood what was REALLY going on, I got a little paranoid about his characteristics, b/c after 20 years with him, I didn’t want anything of him to rub off on me….esp in those last years. Behaviors that I admired at first now made me feel queasy, and by the time I left him, he constantly reminded me of a snake oil salesman.
There are NO benefits to sociopathic behavior, b/c how could fooling people in order to set them up for a scam EVER be a GOOD thing? Haven’t read the book. Just think the premise is a WTF disconnect.
Katy, just adding my 2p b/c I related to what Newlife43 wrote, and like her, how those “admirable characteristics” turned out to not be so admirable at all.
KatyDid:
We have something in common. I also grew up isolated on a farm with an extemely dysfunctional family.
You know what they say…the things that initially attract us to someone are the things that we will hate about them in the end. That is always what I have heard anyway.
I don’t know about the “admirable’ qualities of a sociopath – the list of things that are to be construed as enviable could be made using ANY argument, but what is clearly a constant with regard to spaths and their “qualities” is that they do not express those “qualities” in an effort to benefit others.
“Fearlessness” is an incorrect assessment. “Fearlessness” is, as G1S noted, an example of someone putting their OWN lives at risk to help someone else without a second thought about awards, accolades, or some sort of compensation. In the World Of Spath, “fearlessness” is actually RECKLESSNESS. Recklessness. Period.
“Charm” isn’t correct, either. They SEEM charming and beguiling. But, if we look harder and longer at that “charming” smile, it isn’t a smile of mirth or joy, but clearly the leer of a predator.
“Mental Toughness?” REALLY??? I don’t believe that wanton callousness can be, in any way, associated with “mental toughness.” Mental toughness translates into doing what needs to be done, even if it hurts OURSELVES. Example: it takes mental toughness to acknowledge one’s core-issues and work on those issues to evolve into a healthier human being.
C’mon……..this is all just claptrap to generate sensation and book sales. Don’t buy into these idiotic views because spaths are not admirable, nor do we ever want to be what they are: callous, predatory, and users.
Brightest blessings
Truthspeak
That’s the point, isn’t it. Words that take on meaning, and it has to be the right word. Charm that switches on/off, isn’t charming at all. As you said, fearless is the wrong word, reckless is more like it. All this concern for the meanings of adjectives to describe positive attributes of a sociopath, and WE know the core truth, that from Title to ending period, the premise of the book is a fallacy, a gushing admiration for a defective “it” that could not care less.
B/c sociopaths aren’t so interested in being admired, sucking up is for narcissists. The sociopath that infected my life was driven by/motivated by being top dog, the ultimate controller, the WINNER… but only as HE defined “WINNING”, not what anyone would find in a dictionary.
The book is pathetic but does us one favor, the author has completely undermined his own credibility and in doing so, we know to ever again see his name in print is moot.
Louise.
How did you learn how to be in public? It took me years to learn to finish speaking sentences b/c it was expected that I’d understand what my parent/siblings were saying and THEY would decide what I was thinking or saying before I said it. That kind of thing PISSED me off b/c they were WRONG, and yet they insisted they knew my mind. (it’s the same behavior my LF nemeisis did to me too.)
KatyDid,
Boy, can I relate to what you just said. My S mother would get into my face with, “That’s not what you think/feel. This is what you think/feel.”
Unfortunately, I didn’t get angry. I got very confused. When I was little, I actually wondered if she had some kind of special powers or if there was a sign lighting up over my head with information that I didn’t know about, but when I got older, I guess I did get angry, although I called it frustration. Then I’d lock horns with her to convince her that she was wrong.
Had I known what I was up against and what was going on, I never would have done that, but there was no information back then about this kind of dynamic. Nobody could have told me what was going on because the behavior hadn’t yet been identified.
Fortunately, I was able to teach my son something different and we never went those routes.
KatyDid, yepper – and, that’s why I would rather use a $20 bill to light my woodstove rather than waste it on the reviewed “work!” LOL!!!
G1S, so you weren’t in line for the “Handbook Of Life” when you were born, too?! Even today, with the explosion of “information” and technology, people are still completely uneducated about disorders and the human condition. It’s not “fact” that we learn, but a system of beliefs, I think. At least, for me that was true.
It’s a good thing that you have an opportunity to educate your son – my son is learning about this, as well, and it’s kind of sad that the world isn’t as warm and welcoming as I was taught to believe. Kids shouldn’t “have” to learn about bad people and personal agendas. Kids should be running, laughing, skipping, and playing with joyous abandon instead of wondering why mommy or daddy doesn’t care about them. (sigh) It’s a hard life for the innocents.
Brightest blessings