John Allen Muhammad, the D.C. Sniper, will die by lethal injection tomorrow.
John Allen Muhammad and his teenaged accomplice, Lee Boyd Malvo, terrorized the Washington, D.C. area for three weeks in October 2002. In the end, 10 people were dead and three were wounded. The victims, selected at random, were shot while doing mundane chores like pumping gas and loading Halloween decorations into a car.
I’m sure you remember the terror of the killings. But you may not realize that the killing spree was an escalation of a child custody battle.
Psychological abuse
Mildred Muhammad, the ex-wife of John Allen Muhammad, spoke at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference in Albany last January. Her story was compelling—and heartbreaking.
Mildred was married to Muhammad for 12 years, and they had three children together. Muhammad served in the Gulf War and when he returned, he became abusive.
“His behavior turned to possessiveness,” Mildred said. “I couldn’t do anything right. He was trained in psychological warfare—he was a combat engineer—and he used me as his guinea pig.”
Muhammad didn’t hit her, but inflicted psychological abuse. “Every emotion I displayed, he used against me,” Mildred said. Finally, in 1999, she asked for a divorce.
Kidnapped children
Before, during and after their divorce, Muhammad threatened to kill Mildred. He drained their bank account and kidnapped the children, taking them to Antigua for 18 months. Mildred was forced to hide in a women’s shelter for eight months in the Tacoma, Washington area.
She could not afford legal representation. So while in the women’s shelter, Mildred taught herself the law so she could represent herself. Eventually the children were located. Mildred went to court, won her case and was awarded full custody. Then she fled across the country to Maryland.
Muhammad found her. And, Mildred says, that’s why he went on the killing spree. Muhammad planned to kill her, and the rest of the murders were an elaborate ruse to cover up her murder. She would just be another of the random victims, and he could show up as the grieving ex-husband, and claim the children.
Want to win
When John Allen Muhammad was brought to trial, the prosecutor put forth Mildred’s contention that the killing spree was intended cover up the eventual death of his ex-wife. The court, however, ruled that there was insufficient evidence to support the argument.
But after all the stories I’ve heard from Lovefraud readers, I think it’s totally plausible. Sociopaths want to win. Nothing else matters to them. I believe John Allen Muhammad was willing to kill 10 innocent people, at random, just to get his way.
If ever there was a case that demonstrated the lengths a sociopath will go to in order to win, this is it.
No conscience
According to the Richmond Times-Dispatch, Muhammad’s lawyers filed an appeal with the U.S. Supreme Court last week, claiming that the killer is mentally ill and delusional.
But Paul Ebert, the Virginia prosecutor who won Muhammad’s death sentence, said, “This guy had absolutely no conscience. He killed people just like they were flies.”
Mildred also does not believe that her ex-husband is mentally ill.
Support for other victims
Mildred has written a book about her ordeal called Scared Silent. She has also founded an organization in Maryland to support survivors of domestic violence called After the Trauma.
“I started After the Trauma because of my own personal domestic violence experience and thought of all the other women in similar situations who need day-to-day assistance, as I did,” Mildred writes on her website. “After the Trauma is women who are transitioning from a domestic violence situation and are ready to take the next step into ”˜freedom.’”
Like many of us here at Lovefraud, Mildred Muhammad has been through an incredible ordeal. And like many of us, she emerged on the other side stronger, and willing to help others along the path to healing.
Jill:
DO NOT EVER DOUBT YOURSELF!!!!!
Speak from your heart and do not ‘own’ anyone elses issues…….
We all come from different places….different hearts and obvoiusly different wounds….we are walking a healing path…..
Be yourself girl! Be yourself!
Heaven:
Please speak kindly of yourself! Don’t let anyone put you down…..
REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE!!!!!
Thank, Skylar. I understand your point and where you’re coming from. I really do try to be authentic and not give too much regard to what people think about me, but it’s hard after being raised mormon and being judged for even breathing wrong within that damaging cult that the ULTIMATE conman, Joseph Smith started. Then, my P made it worse, so now I am insecure. But I’m working on it and I try hard to be assertive and strong. I’m a work in progress, but I’m doing my best, so thanks for saying you think I’m strong.
EB,
That’s good advice and I think I am being myself. I have been pondering this for a few days. It has been on MY mind. I was being myself when I posted these questions. I was being honest and forthright when I said it is triggering, which is the best way to express it on this board when those feelings come up, I think. But great advice for everyone in general!
By the way, I was saying that I USED to hate myself because of all that. I don’t anymore.
Kim,
I apologize when I realize I was wrong. I apologize if I hurt someone and after reflecting upon it, I realize I am wrong.
Other than that, I don’t do it all the time.
I thought I was apologizing to an admin for bringing up a topic that she asked us not to. I didn’t want to disrespect a moderator/admin because I like coming to this board. I thought that the people who write the articles are all some sort of moderator. I was wrong and now I know and I’m not going to say sorry. 😉 That was a joke.
Jill:
Good….
And ……It shows that you DON”T hate yourself, your too giving and loving to others to hate yourself!
xxoo
tOh Jill smith. Your strength takes my breath away. You are the epitome of strength. You are my hero. To be able to leave the mind controll of your entire life, and face losing your entire family in the process….and to do it with a young child….all in the interest of truth….your truth, well, that’s really something.
I do believe you might have a tough row to hoe, though in unlearning some of the principals they drove into you.
You need to give a shit a lot less than you do. JMNSHO.
I think though, that you’re incredible.
Jill, As usual, Kim said it best.
I second it.
I make “good people uncomfortable”?
What on earth are you even talking about? That was mean to say. It’s not true. It didn’t happen. I apologized ONCE to Oxy. If she was so uncomfortable, she would have spoken up and emailed me about it. Additionally, you say I do this all the time. Like when? That is like a P. To take one instance, take it out of context and say it happens ALL the time.
I have never attacked you. Why did you feel the need to exploit a perceived weakness of mine and rub my nose in it? You were harsh.
I have had self-esteem issues in the past. I worked through many of them and am still working through them, as I just admitted and have many times. So, to exploit that isi pretty mean, IMHO.
Goodbye. Done with the dysfunction here. I’m going to go back to my little celebration of my victory with the S. This was NOT the place to come to celebrate my happiness. I don’t think you can let someone just be happy. Good luck with all of your issues. I have been on many boards and have been in many social circles and I have NEVER seen anything like what I have seen on this board. Good riddance!
How’s that for assertive?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
P.S. Oh and I am assertive because I mean what I say when I say I’m leaving. I care about many of you and have appreciated learning from you, but it is officially time for me to move on. This is officially a very harmful environment for me. I wish I didn’t have to go, but I have to choose my social connections wisely and leave when I feel that something or someone is so continually unhealthy. I thought at first it was a coincidence, but it’s not. It’s just on this board, so I have to leave. Goodbye. I hope I can get my happy mood back enough to get some sleep.