John Allen Muhammad, the D.C. Sniper, will die by lethal injection tomorrow.
John Allen Muhammad and his teenaged accomplice, Lee Boyd Malvo, terrorized the Washington, D.C. area for three weeks in October 2002. In the end, 10 people were dead and three were wounded. The victims, selected at random, were shot while doing mundane chores like pumping gas and loading Halloween decorations into a car.
I’m sure you remember the terror of the killings. But you may not realize that the killing spree was an escalation of a child custody battle.
Psychological abuse
Mildred Muhammad, the ex-wife of John Allen Muhammad, spoke at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference in Albany last January. Her story was compelling—and heartbreaking.
Mildred was married to Muhammad for 12 years, and they had three children together. Muhammad served in the Gulf War and when he returned, he became abusive.
“His behavior turned to possessiveness,” Mildred said. “I couldn’t do anything right. He was trained in psychological warfare—he was a combat engineer—and he used me as his guinea pig.”
Muhammad didn’t hit her, but inflicted psychological abuse. “Every emotion I displayed, he used against me,” Mildred said. Finally, in 1999, she asked for a divorce.
Kidnapped children
Before, during and after their divorce, Muhammad threatened to kill Mildred. He drained their bank account and kidnapped the children, taking them to Antigua for 18 months. Mildred was forced to hide in a women’s shelter for eight months in the Tacoma, Washington area.
She could not afford legal representation. So while in the women’s shelter, Mildred taught herself the law so she could represent herself. Eventually the children were located. Mildred went to court, won her case and was awarded full custody. Then she fled across the country to Maryland.
Muhammad found her. And, Mildred says, that’s why he went on the killing spree. Muhammad planned to kill her, and the rest of the murders were an elaborate ruse to cover up her murder. She would just be another of the random victims, and he could show up as the grieving ex-husband, and claim the children.
Want to win
When John Allen Muhammad was brought to trial, the prosecutor put forth Mildred’s contention that the killing spree was intended cover up the eventual death of his ex-wife. The court, however, ruled that there was insufficient evidence to support the argument.
But after all the stories I’ve heard from Lovefraud readers, I think it’s totally plausible. Sociopaths want to win. Nothing else matters to them. I believe John Allen Muhammad was willing to kill 10 innocent people, at random, just to get his way.
If ever there was a case that demonstrated the lengths a sociopath will go to in order to win, this is it.
No conscience
According to the Richmond Times-Dispatch, Muhammad’s lawyers filed an appeal with the U.S. Supreme Court last week, claiming that the killer is mentally ill and delusional.
But Paul Ebert, the Virginia prosecutor who won Muhammad’s death sentence, said, “This guy had absolutely no conscience. He killed people just like they were flies.”
Mildred also does not believe that her ex-husband is mentally ill.
Support for other victims
Mildred has written a book about her ordeal called Scared Silent. She has also founded an organization in Maryland to support survivors of domestic violence called After the Trauma.
“I started After the Trauma because of my own personal domestic violence experience and thought of all the other women in similar situations who need day-to-day assistance, as I did,” Mildred writes on her website. “After the Trauma is women who are transitioning from a domestic violence situation and are ready to take the next step into ”˜freedom.’”
Like many of us here at Lovefraud, Mildred Muhammad has been through an incredible ordeal. And like many of us, she emerged on the other side stronger, and willing to help others along the path to healing.
God, we are all so sensitive and insecure. Heaven, I didn’t get ANY of that from Wit’s response to you. You must remember that in her experience NO ONE GETS IT. I don’t think you hurt, angered or upset her, I think she was genuinely trying to tell you how it is.
I’m not critisizing you. I do this all the time. I always wonder how I’m percieved and think I might have offended someone, and these misunderstandings happen a lot here. I think we are very special people who care a lot about others, and yet our confidence in ouselves has been so damaged…well, I’ll leave it at that.
You’re a very sharp and valued member here. I hope you will consider that you may have misread Witty’s intentions.
God bless.
heavenbound….I am very sorry that I offended you. I was sincere when I said that I don’t believe I could imagine this if this wasn’t something I had personal experience with.
I don’t think I could be capable of imagining it. I didn’t mean to insult you. I think in my opinion it would be like imagining the UNIMAGINABLE….It seems like a nightmare that I should wake up from to me or a made for TV movie. Not a reality.
that is all I meant.
No,no it’s not so much my being offended,,,I was worried I had offended you,,,I just wasn’t sure if that’s what you were saying or what…
No worries,,,as long as I didn’t offend you!
I think I understand what you were saying though
Love, hugs, and prayers to you, heavenbound
heavenbound,
Your post was not in the least bit offensive. If anything, you go out of your way to be extra gentle with everyone, that is a credit to you.
Witsend did a very similar thing. She began her post:
“Forgive me if I am confused because I tried to read alot in a little bit of time. But I believe it was you that asked on another thread about the hate v/s indifference? ”
Everyone IS sensitive on this site so it’s really nice when people use such good manners to make their points. But because it’s the internet we have to read carefully and sometimes between the lines to make sure we aren’t misunderstanding a person’s intentions.
I feel like maybe we are being toooooo careful sometimes and not giving our own opinions enough credit but instead bowiing to the feelings of others. That’s how we got to be P-supply. ALL OF US, were tooooo considerate of others and didn’t want to set boundaries. I’d really like to see us be more assertive while still maintaining proper etiquette and respect. I think we can do it.
heavenbound,
You are a very nice person and this comes through in your post.
I never felt offended by anything you have ever said. And when I did read your post I couldn’t find it again, but I wanted to reply so I did so on another thread.
Kim,
thank you for trying to help,
I wasn’t trying to start a fight,
I agree though that our confidence in ourselves has been damaged,,,at least mine has.
And I am sensitive that’s for sure,,, not anyone’s fault here though and I know that. I didn’t want wit to think I thought I knew more about it then others though, because I don’t in any way and I was afraid I had came across that way and that she was trying to tell me I had. That’s all
Sky,
Thank you for that credit to me. I hope I deserve it.
The rest of what you said…Wow, you are right. I hope we can become more assertive while maintaining proper etiquette and respect as well. That is very well put…
I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to be assertive though not until I’ve finally hit aggressive. I hope someday to be able to but it seems that all I can do is take and take until I blow.
Thank you Wit for easing my mind, you are beautiful! I don’t really know how I come across to others and worry about it.
I would have been sick all night thinking I had offended you if you hadn’t got to respond tonight.
Heaven, I know you weren’t trying to start a fight.
Believe me, I understand. I’m very sensitive too, and I worry about how I come across.
Yes. I find assertiveness a challenge, too. I start out mildly annoyed, and say to myself, “how important is it?” Then, the next time it’s something like, “well, I don’t want to make a big thing about it and ruin the whole night…..Then I’m pissed but just keep my mouth shut…..and finally I assascinate the fucker. (Sorry. My vocabulary far out-weighs my ability to spell. It really sucks.)
Kim,
It’s nice to be understood! Although I’m sorry you have that problem also….It’s a real problem in life I think! Just awful!
I like the way you put it!!
Heaven, I just remembered that you are quite religious. Sorry about my foul mouth. SEE. There I go….
I am sorry though.