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D.C. Sniper killing spree was a plot to win child custody

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November 9, 2009 //  by Donna Andersen//  198 Comments

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John Allen Muhammad, the D.C. Sniper, will die by lethal injection tomorrow.

John Allen Muhammad and his teenaged accomplice, Lee Boyd Malvo, terrorized the Washington, D.C. area for three weeks in October 2002. In the end, 10 people were dead and three were wounded. The victims, selected at random, were shot while doing mundane chores like pumping gas and loading Halloween decorations into a car.

I’m sure you remember the terror of the killings. But you may not realize that the killing spree was an escalation of a child custody battle.

Psychological abuse

Mildred Muhammad, the ex-wife of John Allen Muhammad, spoke at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference in Albany last January. Her story was compelling—and heartbreaking.

Mildred was married to Muhammad for 12 years, and they had three children together. Muhammad served in the Gulf War and when he returned, he became abusive.

“His behavior turned to possessiveness,” Mildred said. “I couldn’t do anything right. He was trained in psychological warfare—he was a combat engineer—and he used me as his guinea pig.”

Muhammad didn’t hit her, but inflicted psychological abuse. “Every emotion I displayed, he used against me,” Mildred said. Finally, in 1999, she asked for a divorce.

Kidnapped children

Before, during and after their divorce, Muhammad threatened to kill Mildred. He drained their bank account and kidnapped the children, taking them to Antigua for 18 months. Mildred was forced to hide in a women’s shelter for eight months in the Tacoma, Washington area.

She could not afford legal representation. So while in the women’s shelter, Mildred taught herself the law so she could represent herself. Eventually the children were located. Mildred went to court, won her case and was awarded full custody. Then she fled across the country to Maryland.

Muhammad found her. And, Mildred says, that’s why he went on the killing spree. Muhammad planned to kill her, and the rest of the murders were an elaborate ruse to cover up her murder. She would just be another of the random victims, and he could show up as the grieving ex-husband, and claim the children.

Want to win

When John Allen Muhammad was brought to trial, the prosecutor put forth Mildred’s contention that the killing spree was intended cover up the eventual death of his ex-wife. The court, however, ruled that there was insufficient evidence to support the argument.

But after all the stories I’ve heard from Lovefraud readers, I think it’s totally plausible. Sociopaths want to win. Nothing else matters to them. I believe John Allen Muhammad was willing to kill 10 innocent people, at random, just to get his way.

If ever there was a case that demonstrated the lengths a sociopath will go to in order to win, this is it.

No conscience

According to the Richmond Times-Dispatch, Muhammad’s lawyers filed an appeal with the U.S. Supreme Court last week, claiming that the killer is mentally ill and delusional.

But Paul Ebert, the Virginia prosecutor who won Muhammad’s death sentence, said, “This guy had absolutely no conscience. He killed people just like they were flies.”

Mildred also does not believe that her ex-husband is mentally ill.

Support for other victims

Mildred has written a book about her ordeal called Scared Silent. She has also founded an organization in Maryland to support survivors of domestic violence called After the Trauma.

“I started After the Trauma because of my own personal domestic violence experience and thought of all the other women in similar situations who need day-to-day assistance, as I did,” Mildred writes on her website. “After the Trauma is women who are transitioning from a domestic violence situation and are ready to take the next step into ”˜freedom.’”

Like many of us here at Lovefraud, Mildred Muhammad has been through an incredible ordeal. And like many of us, she emerged on the other side stronger, and willing to help others along the path to healing.

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  1. ErinBrock

    November 13, 2009 at 12:42 am

    Heaven…..do not worry. Keep on the path YOU are on! Be yourself, believe in yourself and live with your own convictions!
    Continue to post with the love in your heart.
    XXOO
    EB

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  2. struggling

    November 13, 2009 at 12:52 am

    Thank you Erin,,,I will!

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  3. jillsmith

    November 13, 2009 at 12:56 am

    Skylar,

    Hi! I’m so glad you’re back. How are you?

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  4. skylar

    November 13, 2009 at 12:57 am

    Hi Jill,
    I’m okay, I’m having fun but fading fast.
    How are you tonight? and how is your baby?

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  5. jillsmith

    November 13, 2009 at 1:09 am

    I have a victory to share with the board and I don’t know where to do it, so I’ll just do it here, on this thread. I didn’t have anyone else to tell who would understand what a big victory it is.

    It’s long and complicated to explain all of the details. I will later because it’s late and I am trying a sleep medication and I think it just kicked in.

    Anyway, it looks like the exP is not going to be trying to get shared custody or even visitation of my son.

    I always regretted getting the Order of Protection. I was really mad at myself for putting myself through the 4 and 1/2 hours of that hell. I had to sit right next to my ex and hear his crazy lies and watch the judge give HIM looks of compassion and empathy. He was trying to get the judge to feel sorry for him and see him as the victim because I “abandoned my husband”. Gag.

    However, I think it might have worked. I was brave. I spoke the truth. I advocated for myself. I was strong in court. He saw a side of me that he had not seen. I think I sent the message, “Don’t mess with me”. I hope so anyway. This huge victory makes me think so. Even though the court experience was horrible, maybe it was worth it and good after I see these results.

    Anyway, I just found out. I took my son out to dinner to celebrate. I’m so happy. This is so huge for me.

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  6. jillsmith

    November 13, 2009 at 1:10 am

    Yay! I can keep my son safe afterall! That’s all I wanted.

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  7. ErinBrock

    November 13, 2009 at 1:12 am

    Maybe we should be more aware of the triggers…..I see this sparring as unearthing VERY familiar patterns …..once again.

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  8. jillsmith

    November 13, 2009 at 1:12 am

    I’m doing well and my son is doing great. Thanks for asking. He’s at the perfect age right now. I love 18 month-olds!

    Things have been a lot less stressful for me. I am sleeping well about 50% of the time now, which has helped a lot. I just need to turn that 50% into 100%. Yay, right. Ha.

    In what way do you feel like the fun is fading fast?

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  9. kim frederick

    November 13, 2009 at 1:14 am

    Yay, Jillsmith. That is great news. I’m soo happy for you.
    nigh night, little one!

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  10. ErinBrock

    November 13, 2009 at 1:19 am

    Jill:
    This is great news! I know this has weighed on your mind, I am happy your feeling more confident!
    Did you have an extension hearing today? Why is it that you think he will ‘go away’?
    I am really proud of you for standing up for yourself and baby……
    Judges are trained to listen….not council…..and if judge ordered the TPO….then they felt there was a need and YOU were heard!
    Sometimes things turn out much better than anticipated, please don’t ever second guess yourself!
    Stand tall, proud, state the facts and plow forward!!!!
    Keep the balance and get a good nights sleep…..
    Ya done good!!!!

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