By | October 16, 2010 4 Comments

Donna Andersen’s victory is our victory too

By Thomas

Donna Andersen’s ”˜Love Fraud, How Marriage to a Sociopath Fulfilled My Spiritual Plan’ is the third book in the last year I have read on sociopaths. Compared to the previous two it is not written by an academic, but rather by a victim of a sociopath.

The book is very well written for a first book, and the fictional style of writing, coupled with the matter-of-fact narrative makes it highly readable. Many of the people who would of have bought this book in the immediate aftermath of publication would have been refugees from Planet Sociopath themselves and much of the antics and personality traits of James Montgomery will strike a powerful resonance within them in regards to their own personal experience.

But even as sociopaths go, Montgomery is almost spectacular in terms of his proficiency and malicious drive to get what he wanted. Then again, perhaps James Montgomery is a typical sociopath and all sociopaths are this out of control and we never get to see this due to them covering their tracks so well. Donna Andersen kept detailed records and is a proficient archivist and investigator. Unlike most of us she opened a window into the world of her ex  husband and even then concludes that she may have only had a peek inside and much, much more remains undetected.

This will make sober reading for sociopath victims as we turn the pages it becomes apparent just how much we might not know about our own sociopath’s predatorial web of deceit and lies we are oblivious to. But ultimately, no matter how slick and manipulative the predator is,  it all ends in failure  – as like all sociopaths Montgomery’s actions are typical of the sociopath’s life long death spiral into oblivion and decay. This is brought home in the beautifully composed Epilogue at the end of the book which leaves the reader feeling a sense of shared victory which we the collective victims of sociopaths all desire.

Some people may take issue with the New Age aspects of the story. I consider Donna Andersen’s spiritual outlook to no different than any other religious viewpoint, but having said this, I can see some strict traditional religious folks and atheist readers having difficulty with her beliefs. She is entitled to them and the reader should try to understand this. They should also bear in mind that victims of sociopaths cling to whatever gets them through the ”˜dark night of the soul’ and if channelling spirit guides and looking at past lives works for them, then it is perfectly legitimate and deserves respect.

The only criticism I can give of the book is that it perhaps a bit too long and there could have been more information on sociopath’s common traits. This might have broadened the overall appeal of the book in terms of reaching people who have not been touched by sociopaths (yet!), but should be on the look out. Some of the parts were slightly over written I felt, such as the history of the Titanic could have been left out. Even though the metaphor of the “unsinkable” ship deliciously runs as an ironic thread through the remainder of the book. HMS Montgomery, the ship that in his own mind cannot be by sunk, ends up wrecked on the rocks of his own toxic coastline. As all sociopaths are destined to end their sorry lifetime’s trajectory of pernicious voyages though the lives of decent and kind people.

I very much enjoyed reading Love Fraud the book, and I admire Ms. Andersen’s courage and honesty in putting her experiences (some of which are deeply personal) out there. That takes guts, but after one has been to hell and back with a sociopath it becomes an obligation both to yourself and the world at large to spread the message about these sadistic predatory lunatics.

I myself feel there is a sort of psycho-spiritual revolution taking root in the world these days and the sociopaths are on the run. The One Hundred Monkey effect is generating a collective consciousness awareness and more and more people are waking up to Labyrinth of the Psychopath which so many of us are trapped into, often unknowingly so. ”˜Love Fraud, How Marriage to a Sociopath Fulfilled My Spiritual Plan’ will just have the sociopaths running faster. The game is up. Thank you for writing this important book.

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Wow, I am the first to post? Maybe I shouldn’t?

I am tongue-tied cause I’m the first to post.

Ok, I will throw something out there.

I am amazed at Donna’s courage just for displaying his legal name.

If I did that to Jim, he would sue me for every dime I don’t have.

I understand Donna kept a diary of events. I didn’t do that.

It is he said/ she said, and I lose.



I so understand. We each do what we can within the limitations set by knowing what our specific spath is capable of. If they are capable of murder, or of physical harm then we must be careful. If they are sufficiently brazen to convince many that their masks are real, then we have to deal realistically with that. You know yours would sue you, so you are wise to be careful.

Donna has done so much for so many. Her book is stunning in its calm rational descriptions of ’her’ spath and his crimes. The detail is excellent. It is so difficult to describe the activities of these predators calmly and without getting so emotional that the truth is sometimes hidden. Donna has meticulously recorded the details of her ordeal in such a way that we can read it as it is: fact.

I see the lack of knowledge about sociopaths / psychopaths as parallel to all scientific / medical lack of knowledge. Like the past when no-one understood how or why diseases spread. But spaths harm innocent unsuspecting people who have no concept that such beings exist. And so everything we can do to inform is vitally important. Donna has done so much with this website, with her book. My thanks to you Donna, and my appreciation. You are doing a remarkable and marvellous job.



It helps that I have a judgment against my ex, and a lot of information is part of the court record of my divorce.


Thank you so much for your kind words. My goal was to show how they are in a way that people would remember – and be able to understand.

That’s also why I included so much detail and dates – to strengthen my point that everything I described – as shocking as it all was – actually did occur.

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