Dr. Donald G. Dutton explains that personality disorder is the cause of domestic violence

Yes, it very true that especially three of the Axis II (personality dissorders) Mental Illnesses account for most perpetrators of DV (domestic violence): 1- Borderline Personality Disorder 2- Narcissistic Personality Disorder 3- Antisocial Personality Disorder (Sociopaths – the criminally insane). Ironically though, this does not quite match up to actual surveys and extensive number of studies documenting the solid fact that women commit most dating violence and DV (not men, as is often stated in error).

Yes, it is indeed well known that women have more mental illness overall than men (which is sometimes even ignorantly blamed on men). BUT, of those 3 primary Axis II personality dissorders, only the first is well recognised as being dominated by women. So, it doesn’t match up? Maybe just mental illness analysis is off a bit. Many psychologist argue that though not diagnosed, women VERY often have traits of the latter two Axis II Disorders, maybe even more often than men, which is OK, accepted or often ignored by societal standards of normalcy.

The fact is that you don’t have to be diagnosed or even have all the symptoms necessary to be diagnosed with any of these ailments. You only have to have just enough of the characteristics to fuel the domestic violence. What these psychologists have to say makes sense because it matches up with the fact that women likewise commit more domestic violence and are likewise more often and likewise excused and overlooked for it just the same. In any case, it all fits together, unless,… you ban the facts to fit an endeared agenda.

As supported by the link in my last posting, others and I have observed the DV (domestic violence) establishment (in sheep’s clothing) exploiting and abusing far more men, women and children than they claim and pretend to help (verify this at the archived articles, written by women, at http://www.true-equality.org ).

As I said, I have daughters to defend from domestic violence (defend your sons just the same) and find that the misinformation passed out by the DV Establishment is actually harmful and puts our daughters at higher risk, no lower. Equality and truth are the ONLY things to teach our daughters (and sons) to protect them from DV. The self-serving DV establishment refuses to teach real protection from DV. They NEED victims, not to eliminate them. They refuse to teach us how to really protect our daughters with the following Equality, Truth and Justice:

1- NO DOUBLE STANDARDS, period. Really and fully know what an abuser is, male AND female (the worst mistake is to ignore or excuse female abuse – embracing double standards…). First, do not be an abuser yourself. Second, do not stay around an abuser (yes, you guys too).

2- Never EVER hit a guy. It’s not any more OK for a girl or woman to hit a guy than for a guy to hit a girl or woman. Teaching otherwise WILL put girls and women at highest risk. Teaching only boys to respect girls can be very dangerous and deadly for girls and women. Mutual respect only. Reciprocal actions only. Most women injured in dating or DV are initiators of abuse or start out as the repetitive sole abusers, until he finally hits back. Its too easy to remove this dominant motive and cause behind injuries to women. We have to reject the DV Industry’s lies and abuse to do this.

3- Never EVER make false or exaggerated abuse allegations, especially not to get a protective or restraining order, not even to cover up or “excuse” an affair. I realise this sick and abusive practice is routine, very popular and very accepted today. That doesn’t make it OK to do. It’s abuse, serious abuse, another abusive double standard begetting serious retaliation at times. It’s just sick, wrong, abusive and not worth the risk. Yet, these agencies promote, reward and defend false abuse allegations – this plague of lies is mostly what fuels them. Studies show this to put women at a much higher risk of retaliation and even death in some cases: abuse begets abuse. Tragic examples of this are in the news constantly.

Teach your sons and esp daughters (female voices are better heard on this) to speak out in school when taught harmful indoctrination and double standards, even in an assembly. Truth and reason will resonate when spoken by your child at school and can be backed up by fact sources. Best of all, speaking out like this in school WILL save many other children.

Our abusive, parasitic DV Industry never teaches these most critical DV defense techniques. Truth and help like this is not profitable, but undermines the DV Industry’s agenda, profits and power. It’s frighteningly OK to sacrifice women to fuel the DV Industry: search: true-equality dot org – very useful documentation and full facts on DV (read the mission statement and archived articles, esp articles by women who are onto DV Industry scams.

thanks-

Tom Miller
Advocate for victims of mental illness, and their families. Advocate for victims of abuse (men, women and children), especially the most plentiful victims of all, victims of the DV/Divorce Industry.