Contrary to a prevailing myth, sociopaths are really no smarter than the average individual”¦probably dumber. Sure, a good one can dupe you, but as I’ve written elswhere, this is no great shakes, as most of us can dupe each other if that’s our goal.
That’s because we enter relationships risking trust and faith in each other, which makes the exploitation of our trust and faith really easy. It takes no genius or particularly smart, crafty person to exploit this trust and faith. It’s as easy to do as it’s wrong.
And so, most sociopaths aren’t really that clever, or ingeniously bright. Most make messes not only of others’ lives, but their own too. Many end up in jail, and those who don’t are often finding trouble in other areas, exercising poor judgement all over the map, squandering friendships, family, and all sorts of meaningful opportunities.
By most standards of a successful life, sociopaths live lives of abject failure, accomplishing little more, at the end of the day, than having produced plenty of havoc and pain. None of this indicates that, as a group, sociopaths are smart.
Sometimes the media sensationalizes the sociopath as the dark, brilliantly predatory monster, especially in classic cases of psychopaths like Ted Bundy. But Ted Bundy wasn’t so smart. In the end, he was nothing but a vicious, sadistic murderer who managed to lure young, naïve girls sufficiently into his proximity to then viciously murder them.
How much of an accomplishment was this? To be able to lure naïve girls near enough to his car to then kidnap and kill them? Otherwise, OJ Simpson style, Bundy was ambushing dormitories at night and butchering innocent, sleeping college kids. Not exactly a genius, or courageous guy, at work here. Just a perverse, murderously violent, cowardly man.
Sure, Bundy was reputedly charming and articulate (video of him bears this out). But this didn’t make him “smart.” He was, clearly, adept at “masking” himself. But again, effective maskers aren’t smart; they’re just good maskers. And nonsociopaths routinely are good maskers.
Good masking, good self-disguising is a type of social skill, and not the purview of sociopaths exclusively. Also, many sociopaths are terrible maskers, just as many nonsociopaths are.
My point is that the “mask” is not an indication of “smartness.” It’s merely the case that some sociopaths, and some nonsociopaths, can mask aspects of themselves and their agendas effectively; but bear in mind, just as many do this very poorly.
In the end, sociopaths, as a group, have a poor track record of living effective lives. Rather, they live disruptive, unsatisfying lives”¦fraught with pathological attitudes and empathic deficits that bring misery to others and, correspondingly, much trouble and, at best, empty satisfaction, to themselves.
Sociopaths simply are not successful people. They may (or may not) skate along under the radar for some stretch of time, but this is not a “game” that smart people play, and that smart people get off on.
Only dumb people play this game. Only really dumb people live this way. Only really really dumb people derive satisfaction, for however long they can swing it, from pulling the wool over others’ eyes.
It’s just no great shakes to do this, and it doesn’t make you smart.
LL,
yeah your weiner knows you have an infection.
He’s trying to tell you cuz he thinks you don’t know.
Your doc is not removing the tooth for exactly the reason Oxy said. It could easily spread. to your heart.
For any infection, whether you are taking antibiotics or not, you should also take the amino acids Argenine and Cystiene.
The Argenine makes you body less hospitable to bacteria, it increases your white blood cell count. The cystiene, I can’t remember how it works but it is part of it.
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gotta go.
Dear Me,
(Head shaking here) well if there is a “will” there is a “way to get it messed up” for sure. I really have seen few estates where there was more than one heir that wasn’t a mess….I messed myself up trying to protect my son C from his greedy gold digging P wife, and my P-son from himself. LOL But not gonna worry about it now. Sometimes it is just best to walk away from the estate and not be bent out of shape over it….we’ve all been cheated before, so he didn’t get a “virgin” Me, your brother’s just doing his spathy best to pith you off and it is working! He’s making you miserable, which is the point of it all.
Between greed and malice they screw with our heads….my P sperm donor made a point to NOT even mention me and 2 of the other 3 offspring in the will, just mentioning that his “other children” (unnamed) were purposely left out and “they knew the reasons why”—leaving it all to the youngest who worshiped at P-sperm donor’s feet. (I suspect he is just like him) but I realized that I did NOT waNt his money–or him—and that if he had left me any (fat chance) I would have donated it to some cause he would have hated. LOL But he thought he was hurting me (and I assume the others) but as for me, I didn’t want his blood money. Funny, his obit in the NYTimes was more about his next to the last wife than it was about HIM–his 15 minutes of fame was more on her than on himself. He would have hated that! He always wanted to be the center of attention and wanted people to envy him. Most people who knew him just were disgusted…all the money in the world won’t over come body odor and uncouthness. The man never had a friend in his life. A toady or two, but never a friend.
2 cop, thanks! It’s the WORST pain I’ve ever experienced blahhhh! Now I look like I have half a golf ball on the side of my face. I was told warm compresses? UGH, so I have both ice AND the warm wash cloth going in the microwave lol!!
Ox, YAY! I was so proud of myself! Initially, I got that scaredy cat, this is a corporation, authoritarian institution and there is NO WAY they’re going to cover sedation. So when I called and presented my case, OUILA!! I got it! Know what i would have done before, Ox? I WOULD HAVE SAT ON MY HANDS! I finally am getting over the fear of doing things for myself! I felt SO RELIEVED after I did that!
I do know he may not remove them right away for that reason. I have seven more days on the antibiotics. Been taking them and the pain meds faithfully (took milk of magnesia for the first time last night, I’m so CONSTIPATED-oops too much info), ice, warmth…just taking care of myself….
I’m gettin it!!
LL
Sky?
I have no idea what those things are? In the dark here!
LL
LL-I definitely hope you feel better. I can’t imagine that kind of pain. I had a toe like that one time that ended up with a red streak up my foot, but the mouth has to be much worse.
Dear Me.
**sigh** sounds soooooo familiar. I hear these stories and I think I made the right decision to just bow out. I would have been way too stressed! I’m sorry you’ve suffered so much, going through all of that….
Ox, ya know what my biggest fear is with this abscess? The swelling along the jaw line. I’m taking the antibiotics faithfully, as well as pain meds and ibuprofen to help with the inflammation, however, can this infection still spread? I almost see it like a blood clot…can the infection spread or do the antibiotics stop that?
LL
ok..so this thread’s topic is mainly about how “dumb” sociopaths are. Okay..I realize that, but can anyone address what I experienced with my relatives (who, I don’t know if they are spaths or merely narcissists), and address what I posted in response to what “lesson learned” posted above? Not trying to tangientially change the topic [I know about tangiental responses.. people who get off topic, onto tangients, like SPATHS often do, to avoid their responsibilities], just trying to get to the bottom of this issue, about narcissists (possibly spaths)?
2 cop.
I’ve been through six labors. That was a BREEZE compared to this.
Thanks tho. How’s you and the stuff going on?
Ll Yes wiener doodle’s know when we are depressed, sick, tense, happy, sleepy, angry. My doodle’s would hide under the bed when me and the X faught, poor little things were under the bed alot.. I dont ever want someone living with me again….never…never… never…just like CS says PERIOD~!
LL-Mardi Gras is winding down and will be shut down by midnight, so I’m hoping to get an attorney to pay some attention to me tomorrow. I contacted one on Monday but pretty much knew that she wouldn’t get to me til Wednesday. Her office is right where all the parades were passing through. I’m just praying that I don’t have to lose my home and move. I can’t handle that. I’m feeling pretty horrible about everything-bullied, beat down and intimidated and it can’t be legal.