Contrary to a prevailing myth, sociopaths are really no smarter than the average individual”¦probably dumber. Sure, a good one can dupe you, but as I’ve written elswhere, this is no great shakes, as most of us can dupe each other if that’s our goal.
That’s because we enter relationships risking trust and faith in each other, which makes the exploitation of our trust and faith really easy. It takes no genius or particularly smart, crafty person to exploit this trust and faith. It’s as easy to do as it’s wrong.
And so, most sociopaths aren’t really that clever, or ingeniously bright. Most make messes not only of others’ lives, but their own too. Many end up in jail, and those who don’t are often finding trouble in other areas, exercising poor judgement all over the map, squandering friendships, family, and all sorts of meaningful opportunities.
By most standards of a successful life, sociopaths live lives of abject failure, accomplishing little more, at the end of the day, than having produced plenty of havoc and pain. None of this indicates that, as a group, sociopaths are smart.
Sometimes the media sensationalizes the sociopath as the dark, brilliantly predatory monster, especially in classic cases of psychopaths like Ted Bundy. But Ted Bundy wasn’t so smart. In the end, he was nothing but a vicious, sadistic murderer who managed to lure young, naïve girls sufficiently into his proximity to then viciously murder them.
How much of an accomplishment was this? To be able to lure naïve girls near enough to his car to then kidnap and kill them? Otherwise, OJ Simpson style, Bundy was ambushing dormitories at night and butchering innocent, sleeping college kids. Not exactly a genius, or courageous guy, at work here. Just a perverse, murderously violent, cowardly man.
Sure, Bundy was reputedly charming and articulate (video of him bears this out). But this didn’t make him “smart.” He was, clearly, adept at “masking” himself. But again, effective maskers aren’t smart; they’re just good maskers. And nonsociopaths routinely are good maskers.
Good masking, good self-disguising is a type of social skill, and not the purview of sociopaths exclusively. Also, many sociopaths are terrible maskers, just as many nonsociopaths are.
My point is that the “mask” is not an indication of “smartness.” It’s merely the case that some sociopaths, and some nonsociopaths, can mask aspects of themselves and their agendas effectively; but bear in mind, just as many do this very poorly.
In the end, sociopaths, as a group, have a poor track record of living effective lives. Rather, they live disruptive, unsatisfying lives”¦fraught with pathological attitudes and empathic deficits that bring misery to others and, correspondingly, much trouble and, at best, empty satisfaction, to themselves.
Sociopaths simply are not successful people. They may (or may not) skate along under the radar for some stretch of time, but this is not a “game” that smart people play, and that smart people get off on.
Only dumb people play this game. Only really dumb people live this way. Only really really dumb people derive satisfaction, for however long they can swing it, from pulling the wool over others’ eyes.
It’s just no great shakes to do this, and it doesn’t make you smart.
it was an aftershock
Sky, it is in Arkansas where they are putting huge amounts of water from the natural gas drilling INTO the ground to “bury” it….the process is called “fracking” (fracturing) with high pressure water and chemicals which breaks up the shale and releases the gas so they can capture it.
The “inclusion” wells have been closed here in Arkansas near me and the earthquakes have about stopped. Up north there are some states that have outlawed at least temporarily fracking. One of my friends in South Africa said they are fighting it there at a large natural lake which is being killed by the drilling and fracking.
I realize that we need energy but at what cost? ND is going through a boom of oil drilling using fracking.
http://www.news9.com/story/12550453/is-oil-and-gas-drilling-causing-earthquakes-in-oklahoma
http://www.the-leader.com/features/x1439478064/Did-fracking-cause-Oklahoma-quakes
I guess I’m not the first to think of this. gee and I thought I was so original.
Edit:
Oxy, we posted over each other. They Frack in Oklahoma too, but they are denying that this is the cause of a 10,000% increase in earthquakes in the last 2 years. Well, lets blame it on global warming… or something.
Hens….I think I cursed you!
I’m sorry darlen!!!!
Blame it on EB…….
I have a question.
An old conversation I had with my SPATH’s family popped into my head this morning. When I first met the SPATH, his lies were outrageous, I was trying to understand WTF. I reached out to his ex-wife but was rebuffed (he was still living with her). I also reached out to his teenage daughter, who said this.
“I sadden whenever my father is around”.
“He is less mature than my mother”.
“I don’t know if he doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong, or, if he does, and he just doesn’t care”
” Unfortunately, it runs much deeper than that….It’s partly a psychological issue, and partly how he was raised”
Then I asked her if she thought he had antisocial personality disorder.
She said, without reading the link, “I don’t think he’s anti-social”. But she didn’t read the description, she just reacted to the name of the PD.
When I pressed her, she said, “yuck, thinking about this is like doing surgery on your KID”.
I couldn’t make sense of what she was saying at the time, and I was also unsure of how much normal teenage rebellion was getting in the way of her talking about her father in an objective way.
Now, I know he’s a SPATH.
But my question is this.
This young girl said all these things, which in retrospect clearly point to SPATHHOOD.
How can a family say these things, know these things, and STAY with it? Not say “SPATH” and RUN FOR THE HILLS!
Don’t they get it?
Both parents work and make good money. The ex-wife, the child’s mother, is very bright, fairly normal in her emotional capabilities, but was raised by a N.
EB – ? Do what ? OH well at least you were thinkin of me – I think?
On this subject I would like to add Jon Corzine as the poster boy (re: Dumb Sociopaths). Having personally interacted with it/him several times over the years I find it amazing the continuous dumb moves the guy/entity makes. Maybe this time he won’t be able to buy or lie his way out.
Athena,
I think I have the “credentials” to answer your question. I had a son (notice I said I HAD a son) who is a criminal, and a violent criminal who planned a cold blooded murder and then carried it out, but I loved him. I wanted to believe that things were going to get BETTER. I felt guilty for not being “supportive” of my SON.
Even after I knew what he was, that he was a psychopath, I STILL hoped that even so, he could at least live a crime free life when he got out. IT WAS A FANTASY ON MY PART BECAUSE I WANTED THAT FANTASY, and I over looked anything that didn’t go along with that fantasy, until FINALLY the pain got so bad I had to get out. Some people NEVER GET OUT. They see the truth, they know the truth, but they can’t get away. They are trauma bonded, or fantasy bonded and can’t or don’t break loose.
But I thank God that I was ABLE to break loose, to free myself from that emotional entanglement if nothing else. It isn’t easy, but in order to live a healthy life we must FREE ourselves from the attachment.
Athena,
Unless you know that there are these creatures which exist who don’t feel anything but pretend their emotions, you can never conclude that you should run.
Until I was educated on the subject, I couldn’t even imagine such an existence. Therefore I took everything he presented about himself at face value and I anthropomorphized him, assuming he had the same feelings and motives that I did.
When the little girl said, “I don’t know if he doesn’t know right from wrong or he doesn’t care.” I think I would have said, “He does know right from wrong but he feels it backward. Wrong “feels” right to him. It gives him the satisfaction of asserting his will over social mores and without a conscience, that satisfaction is all he feels.”
Rockden,
Welcome. good luck with that. Corzine will skate, they always do. Spaths don’t begin a con without also planning an exit strategy. They make sure to set up a patsy or two that they can throw under the bus BEFORE they ever begin the fleecing of the sheep. They also make sure to implicate people in high places so that when the shit hits the fan, they know it will behoove those people to protect them if they don’t want to take a tumble off the pedestal.