I first learned about the concept of energy psychology a year or two ago. Here’s the basic premise of energy psychology, according to David Feinstein, author of The Promise of Energy Psychology:
Stimulating energy points on the skin, paired with specified mental activities, can instantly shift your brain’s electrochemistry to:
- help overcome unwanted emotions such as fear, guilt, shame, jealousy, or anger,
- help change unwanted habits and behavior, and
- enhance your abilities to love, succeed, and enjoy life.
The basic technique of energy psychology, or Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), is tapping. By tapping the endpoints of certain meridians in the body, while focusing on an issue we want to change, we can make dramatic changes in our lives.
I tried tapping. It works. This is also the technique that the Lovefraud reader NewLife43 described in the article she wrote last month, Letters to Lovefraud: Solutions to our pain.
This is a holistic approach to changing your life. You can do it by yourself. It’s free, unless you choose to work with a practitioner. It doesn’t hurt. And the results are amazing.
I think energy psychology is the solution to the emotional pain so many of us feel because of our interactions with the sociopaths. I’ve been trying to figure out a way to suggest EFT Tapping to the Lovefraud community. Perhaps the opportunity is here. I just learned that the 2013 Tapping World Summit begins tonight. It is supported by some of the big names in holistic health, including Louise Hay and Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. David Feinstein, the author I quoted above, explains the science behind the technique.
This is a free online audio seminar. Yes, they are trying to sell you transcripts, workbooks, videos, etc., but you don’t have to buy them. I recommend that you check it out. I believe this EFT Tapping technique can help you truly heal from the trauma of sociopaths. For more information, please visit: Tapping World Summit.
Truthspeak
Donna, thank you SO much for posting this article and link. I have heard so much about “tapping” and I couldn’t really get a grasp on this technique. I’m grateful that you’ve posted the seminar site – I just registered and I am anxious to learn more about this.
Anxiety, stress, anger, rage, despair, self-blame, etc…..all of these things factor into recovery from spath experiences and SOME of them seem insurmountable. I’m open to anything that helps me to remove myself from “what he did” and TOWARDS self-enlightenment and recovery.
Again, thank you for this article!!!
Brightest blessings
bluemosaic
Gm,
Thx to those who have suggested EFT. I am doing traditional acupuncture too. Needles in my ears right now…and adding the EFT to it.
My taps for day…
Tap,Tap, …..
“even though I am filled with rage right now, and have beat the sh-t out of my spath in my head, with a big stick…in front of all the women he ever hurt….I love and accept myself. ”
Tap,Tap….
“even though I am afraid of men now, don’t think I will ever be willing to open my life to the possibility of love again, allowed inner child to be eviserated again….and I am considering female circumcision, shaving my head, and joining a monastery as my path for the future…..I love and accept myself just as I am. ”
Tap.
Peace
Blue
kim frederick
Blue, I like you. You are so poetic, and metaphoric, and funny. Keenly intelligent. Witty.
As trgic as it all is, your sarcasm above tickled me. Aint it the truth?
Tap tap tap……
Even though I have allowed myself to be duped and am ruined for life; I haven’t a dime in my pocket, and God is dead, I’m hungry, haven’t had a bath in two weeks, live in a card board box, hate myself and the rest of humanity, want to die…..I deeply love and accept myself….tap, tap, tap…….
And, I am ok, now. None of the above is true, but, at one time I felt like that, and EFT people, I do respect you, just having a little fun, ok. Just being cynical.
I did try EFT for a couple of days. It just seemed so silly, but WTH, I might try it again.
kim frederick
……tap dancing on a land mine…..Aerosmith’s, Ragdoll.
bluemosaic
Kim Frederick,
Your tap made me laugh too…and beleive me, I am a very logical gal, so tapping at one time…sounded like hocus pocus to me. However, it is based on ancient chinese principles of meridians of energy in the body (acupucture too)…and I am pretty sure that it can’t hurt. Preventative, natural -cure type healing kills far fewer people than modern western medicine. No surprises there???LOL If my explanation of EFT and meridians is wrong…plz feel free to correct…I am no wizard at it…I just know a few, well, quite a few people who do this kinda stuff….and they are happier and more balanced than the average soul : )
I like you too…I like most people…..except SPATHaholes LOL
Peace and TAPPITY TAP
Blue
newlife43
Kim:
EFT does seem silly, doesn’t it? I thought it was the most ridiculous thing I had ever seen in my life, but when I got rid of the PTSD that I had had for 18 years, I wasn’t laughing anymore. In psychotherapy, there was no cure for PTSD, you just had to learn how to “manage” it, with drugs or talk therapy. Well, I didn’t want to “manage” it. I was sick of it and wanted it gone! (Just like my spath)
The best part is, that once you get rid of the emotion that is bothering you, you can’t even make yourself feel that way again. I know, I tried! (Talk about silly, but I guess I missed feeling that way, I had had it for so long).
I tap while I read the articles and subsequent comments that follow. Really helps me, because all of YOU come up with the insights, and then I just react to them. And tap on them. Then it goes away. Until something else comes up. But it’s happening less and less. Soon I will be well again. I want to get well. I want to be the person I was before. You won’t forget what happened to you, but you just won’t give a darn anymore.
Hope you try it again and give it a try for two weeks. It really, really works. Best regards to everyone.
newlife43
Blue:
You made me laugh. And your explanation of EFT is pretty on target. When I describe it to someone, I usually say, that it is a “non-invasive accupressure technique” (as opposed to the invasiveness of accupuncture) that resets the emotions in your mind. And it’s free. I really like that part, because some of us were financially devastated by the spaths and have no spare money for the help we need to feel better. You can do it alone or with a friend and there are many therapists who use it also.
But you have to use it. If you’re sitting there crying or feeling sad, you might as well tap on the specific tapping points anyway. It’s the best time, because you are really tuned in to what is hurting you right then. I mean, you can’t be reading the comics and expect it to work!!
Good luck with your recovery.
bluemosaic
Hi Newlife 43,
Thx for your point that that ” we won’t forget…but we won’t give a damn anymore”
That makes me want to tap all day. It makes me nutty that I am still thinking of him incessantly, while he moved on quickly with next victim…I cry and feel soul raped. Ughhhh
I want to be well again too..so this EFT, will be one tool in my box to heal. I will rejoice on the day I wake…and don’t give a damn anymore…that will be freedom!
Blue
kim frederick
Just wanted to let you know, I’m tapping. This is the third day, and it does seem to help. The emotional energy surrounding each issue seems to lessen.
Thanks, Newlife, Donna and others, for the encouragement.
MoonDancer
Tap dancing?