Everyday sociopaths

Millions of everyday sociopaths live among us — you need to know about them 

Donna Andersen, author of

Donna Andersen, author of

I married a con man—a man whom I now consider to be an everyday sociopath, one of the master manipulators that live all around us.

I didn’t know about everyday sociopaths when I said, “I do.” Far too late, I learned that my husband was emotionally, psychologically and financially abusive. I also learned that he’s not alone.

Millions of people have serious personality disorders in which they manipulate and exploit the rest of us. Clinically, they could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline or histrionic personality disorder, or psychopathy. I refer to them collectively as “sociopaths.”

Most people assume that sociopaths are all criminals and serial killers. But the original meaning of the term was, “anything deviated or pathological in social relations.”

We need this word today. We need to be able to describe people who are maladjusted in their relations with others and society, and motivated towards antisocial behavior. We need to be able to talk about them, so we can learn to protect ourselves from them.

Most sociopaths are not locked up in prison or mental institutions. They aren’t necessarily drug dealers or low-lifes, either. They are our neighbors, family members and work colleagues. That’s why you should think of them as everyday sociopaths. You could run into them on the street.

Think you can spot an everyday sociopath? Think again. Sociopaths often blend easily into society. They’re entertaining and fun at parties. They appear to be intelligent, charming, well-adjusted and likable. The key word is “appear.” Because for sociopaths it’s all an illusion, designed to convince you to give them what they want.

Everyday sociopaths are masters of manipulation who target the rest of us for exploitation and abuse. So before you give away your love, your money or your life, read this website.

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