I love my wikipedia. I learn a lot I didn’t know and I refine my thinking by finding fault too. (The problem is knowing what is worth learning and what needs unlearning!)
Consider the wikipedia definition of evil:
Evil is generally defined as any activity which takes advantage of another person for one’s own benefit….(In contrast, good is helping others, even sometimes self-sacrificially; see saint, sainthood.)
There’s something dodgy about the form of this definition and also something very familiar about its implications. For one thing, it fits with the the lable ‘anti-social’ which refers to behaviour which has ill effects, but good intentions – “well, in his culture that behaviour is normal”. Whatever happened to ill intent, though? (For another thing, what’s the counterpart to sainthood?)
According to this view all employers are evil because they necessarily pay their employees less than they earn (‘necessarily’ because otherwise there would be no profit).
The definition attempts to define evil by contrasting it with good. So far so, um, good. But then it weighs them up wrongly, and we are left with a picture of evil that is indistinguishable from graspingness and greed. According to this view evil might have ill effects on the other, but that is not the intention; its primary intention is to gain advantage.
This is a fine example of how thinking about evil can go askew. (And, I suspect, thinking about good too.)
By re-balancing the wording of the above definition another meaning of evil becomes clear.
If good is helping another (possibly involving self-sacrifice) then it follows that evil is harming another (possibly involving self-benefit).
This is all the difference in the world. Now we can see the true intention of evil – it is to do harm. Evil is only secondarily about want, appetite, greed, jealousy; it’s true nature is malevolence, envy, cruelty, viciousness. Indeed, for evil the getting of things is happily foregone if what is primary can be achieved: power over another.
What say you?
Hi All! I was reading online and I was sent this absolutely INSIGHTFUL article: “So, you are the Narcissists New Woman…” It is an amazing article and I do hope you all will read it. You can find it here: http://narcissistic.co/to-the-narcissists-new-woman.html
Much love and wishes ~ Dupey xo
Just sharing a little slip of GREAT NEWS:
http://blog.nami.org/2013/11/new-rule-requires-equal-treatment-for.html
Think of you all, all the time…prayers and good wishes to you all.
Dupey
Hello, My Friends: It has been a while since I have posted. I have been busy ‘living life’; as best I can. Trying to stay on the narrow path, health wise, with my heart and all. It has been absolutely quiet. No more stalking. It has been peaceful. I find it so hard to believe, actually. I am not going to question it, however…I am just going to be grateful for it and for the ‘new lease’ on life that the Great Spirits saw fit to grace me with. The rest is my ‘treat’.
What a long and confusing journey this has been. A very harsh journey that took some of my life from me. But just as it took something from me, it also gave me something…it gave me a very clear and sharp way of seeing these people so clearly now that it is almost difficult to keep myself from laughing and speaking up. I have a tendency to keep to myself these days and I absolutely LOVE it. More for ‘others well being’ than mine, I guess. I so hate ‘user’ people and well, don’t need another heart failure…
Pray for you all, think of you all, all the time…
Dupey
xoxo
Hey Dupey….so glad you are doing well. It’s great to hear you are living life safely and peacefully. 🙂 I think a bunch of you are all over on Skylar’s site. Please give Skylar and the others there my warmest regards.
Dupey – so nice to see you! I’m glad you’re doing well and are living peacefully!
Hi Donna & Stargazer: I guess I spoke too soon. I have been busy which required incoming calls to my new number. So, I turned off my call screening for a month or so until I realized I still had it off. And you know how I noticed? When “IT’S” phone number came through to my caller ID and my ‘privacy manager’ logo was flashing and I couldn’t figure out why until I looked at the details. It was the same number I had stored to be permanently blocked and guess who that belongs to? Hm? Only my number is not listed to me. That is fine. Call blocking is back up and running. It affords me such peace of mind. Truly. It costs a little more with my phone package but it is so worth the $ ~ if anyone is being stalked by telephone, it is well worth the price and effort of having it installed. Trust me.
I am still residing in the same place and I am fortunate enough to still have some pretty amazing “ANGELS” around me almost 24/7. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t thank GOD for the caring and friendship I have found in my local authorities and considering the ugliness which abounds these days, in our world, I think I was truly BLESSED to be living where I am. Truly. I am so grateful, in fact, that there are not words to do the thankfulness justice.
I thought, at first, that getting ‘phone calls’ in my inbox, were just ‘spam’….now I know they were something more. I just deleted them without even listening to them. I don’t have room for anymore ugliness in my life. “IT” just don’t ‘get it’; does it, Donna? I am and have been moving forward with trying to rebuild my health-life and it is a horrible, daunting, experience. I am on so much medication, now, that I have to smoke marijuana to alleviate the nausea and sickness from all the drugs and most times that doesn’t even help anymore. I swell up lots, lately, especially around my eyes. I wake up in the morning and I don’t even recognize myself much anymore. They all lie to me and tell me: “Take your meds, you are doing fine…” Yet, nobody has the courage to tell me what that ‘fine’ is. Other than that, I AM BLESSED. Deeply and truly. I hope you are too.
Just another part of the saga ~ just turning the page in the stalking….
Dupey
xo
I was thinking about the definition of evil just the other day! I agree with most of your logic. I also thought about how non- religious people balk at the use of the word evil in the first place when referring to a sociopath. This is due to the use of the word “evil” in regards to the embodiment of an entity that has more to do with belief rather than understanding. I think you hit the nail right on the head. Without malevolent intention to do harm, one could still be considered good if harm is done by accident. Evil is something deeper and darker than simply contrasting it to good in the first place. The reason being is that true evil is so foreign to most of us, we cannot really understand it unless we experience it firsthand. So its the experience of evil that trumps any attempt to define it. In that case, even the thought of comparing it to good would be considered abominable. How can you compare light and darkness in the first place? They are mutually exclusive and one cannot understand through comparison in the first place. An analogy of the argument between varying definitions, claims that the acorn is not as important as the tree. I would venture to say that the tree is because of the acorn.
truelove: thanks for getting the ‘gist’ ~ there is nothing to compare ‘the true evilness’ TO…comparing ‘goodness’ to the evilness I experienced, felt, tasted and touched, is an abomination in itself, just like you said. It makes my gut wrench with vomit. I can tell you that I was around an entity unlike any I have ever experienced before and there is no other way to describe what I experienced. All of the abominations were there. The only thing missing, when we were alone, was the head spinning around in circles, on the shoulders and it probably did that in the bathroom, when alone. I am not a big believer in things ‘beyond’ but I know what I saw, heard and experienced. And the whole time I was told: “Go tell whoever you need to, they won’t believe you; they will only label you insane and that will be my final justification….” but it’s not. IT didn’t win. “I” did. And all that has done is make it even angrier. That is alright though because I have my armor on now. Completely. Malevolent intention to do harm is what it was. Absolutely. Out of hatefulness and ugliness and bitterness. All the while mocking the person I was and using me and my strengths as a rock to get to where it was slithering to. True evil ~ foreign to most of us…we cannot really understand it unless we experience it firsthand…it is the experience of evil that trumps any attempt to define it ~ THAT is very good. Exactly ~ isn’t that the protection the evil uses? Why, nobody would ever believe something so wicked; right? But, it’s not towards just any ONE individual, it’s towards EVERY ONE. It has caused ME to have heart failure 3 years ago and all my hair went white…where have we heard this before? I know what I experienced. I KNOW I am not safe and never will be again, BUT: I made myself safe by picking up the armor…and that is what one has to do. If you don’t know what I mean by that: research it and learn it. Evil is real. I would venture to say that the the tree is because of the acorn as well. *Blessing truelove*
Dupey, your hair discoloration mimics a character in the Stephen King novel, The Stand. She got involved with the very evil character who appears in all of his novels (the evil one reincarnates across time and location to wreak havoc and cause chaos). Her hair turned all white, too! Apparently, his stuff is not all fiction.
I can’t believe IT is still stalking you. I hope you keep garlic in your house. And maybe a can of oven spray wouldn’t hurt either.
Hello Stargazer: nice to hear from you. I always heard that when you confront evil, your hair is bleached snow white like mine has gotten. I think I have aged 40 years in the past 13. Seriously. Just from association with “IT”. I can’t believe it is still stalking me, either. Since you mentioned the garlic, I have, in fact, always kept fresh garlic in my house, but since you mentioned it, I got the step ladder and I hung some over the only entrance to my home. We’ll see how that works. One thing I love about my local PD, they have started pulling over pedestrians, in my neighborhood and inquiring as to whom they are and what business they have in the area. Needless to say, I am so blessed. I don’t think all the good intentions in all the Heavens will prevent him from getting to me, if and when he truly wanted. Seriously. But you know what? I am not afraid anymore. That is something he never planned on. I have not one fear anywhere in my body. It has taken me the last three years to get myself through a massive heart attack and back up on my feet, emotionally, spiritually and physically, health-wise, I am stealth-ed. Completely. I don’t understand the point ~ other than destruction of me is the point. It isn’t likely that is ever going to happen. There is going to be a loser to this and it isn’t going to be me. I don’t know why he can’t figure that out. Sometimes I think he has a ‘death wish’ and is hoping some one, anyone, would come along and put him out of his misery but he isn’t worth that much. I have never met satan before, but so help me GOD, that is him in the flesh, okay. I know what I saw and what I experienced. I would never have believed it unless I witnessed it for myself. I am never going near that, not ever again. NEVER. If he has ANY conscious SENSIBILITY, whatsoever, “IT” needs to stay away from me. Far, far, away. Hope you are alright. I am doing better, right now, than I have the past ten years. Only getting better and better, day by day. xo
Wow, Dupey, I have always been a Stephen King fan, but I didn’t realize how tuned in he is. It takes an enormous amount of strength to survive what you have gone through. Have you ever read the Carlos Castaneda book Ring of Fire? (Or something like that). Great story about a shaman’s encounter with an evil being (whom he calls a petty tyrant) who enslaved him and held him captive, how he outsmarted the creep and got his power back, and the implications in our everyday lives for dealing with petty tyrants. Your life has actually risen to mythical proportions – you are a living mythical heroine battling pure evil. This is the stuff stories are written about. You could probably write your own.
I consulted a local Indigenous American Indian for how to rid my home of the dark and cold evil that had overtaken it. After I did that blessing to my home, the evilness and coldness left my dwelling as I was told it would do. The devil cannot enter across the threshold of your home unless you ‘invite’ ‘IT’ in. That was my first mistake, the very first time. The very first mistake. The Angels and the Grace of GOD is what has brought me this far. I know I DIED when I had my heart attack and two subsequent surgeries, but my life was given back to me for a reason and the reason was for “ME” to live it void of the evilness. It was GRACE that has given me the courage and strength and power to not only survive all of this but to rise above it.
A ‘living, mythical, heroine, battling pure evil’ ~ well, I don’t think of it that way, but I CAN tell you this, I stopped at St. Catherine’s at least twice a week, when nobody was there, and I splattered myself with Holy Water and knelt at the altar and prayed GOD would see me through all of this. HE put a stop to it all, IMMEDIATELY…didn’t He? And by His Grace, He gave my life back to me…a life that had been stolen and manipulated and was being tortured. I have a new, stronger heart now…new eyes to see different things…things not of this world…yes, the battle of evil and good is still going strong…it almost got me. I won. “IT” moved on…I don’t understand WHY the back tracking? Must have FORGOTTEN to say something; that was always the case before; I am good at shutting the door. Hermetically. Yes, I could write my own story. It isn’t worth the time nor effort. Not about someone/something so inconsequential. In fact, just continuing on about it, the way I do, it doesn’t even deserve that. My counselor/shrink thinks, just like “IT” promised, that I am insane…I tell her things and she nods her head like: “ok, and who am I?”…..I have seen him in the area once…it’s not working for me…but it’s alright….like I told him the last time we spoke, before the cops escorted him out of town: ” don’t threaten me over the phone, just bring it over…..we can do this….” and I really haven’t a clue why this psychopath wants to harm me. I can’t believe I have met a person possessed the way “IT” is. I am done and finished with “IT”…”IT” better be careful around here. It will be staying for a while….it is very difficult to explain pure and true evilness…I have never ever seen or experienced such a thing before in my life…there are ‘bad guys’ and then there are sick and evil people…night Stargazer xo
Dupey, your shrink thinks you’re insane? And he/she helps you…..in what way?
I have had a brush with a sociopath. But I have not experienced evil in the way you have. I got out too soon to be tortured the way you were. And maybe mine wasn’t quite as evil. I will never know. But I’ve seen enough to know that there are some truly bad, bad, diabolical people out there with harmful intentions beyond the scope of my understanding. The heroine in the Stephen King novel eventually died. The evil spath had her hypnotized to where she just jumped out of a window while under his hypnotic spell. This was AFTER her hair had turned completely white. Consider yourself very strong and yes, very blessed that you got out with your life. Yes, Dupey, there are forces of love all around us and within us that can help us just for the asking. It was not your time to die, and there is a higher reason for that – for your being here on the planet.
I am constantly amazed at the power of the human spirit to reinvent itself. I think if my hair had turned all white, my health was failing, and I had no dependents, I would dye my hair purple (it would take very well over white hair), and move (or travel) to a foreign country just for the hell of it. I hope you have a bucket list and can do some wild and fun things while you can enjoy them. And if your health should happen to become completely restored, you will have died and been reborn. Just remember you can choose whatever life you want and be whoever you want to be. Choose well, my friend!
Yes, my shrink thinks I am insane. She has said things like: “Well, you have seen him and he has called on the phone and sent you messages over the internet but he isn’t actually BOTHERING you, is he?” ~ Silly things like that, leading me to believe she thinks I am insane, like he promised. That is alright, as long as I am on my lexapro, I need to see SOMEONE and she is more like a GF than a shrink ~ law enforcement is more ‘in tune’ with what I have going on, than my shrink is and I have 24/7 access. Like an IV line; okay?
This was MORE than just a sociopath; more than a psychopath; I actually had to cleanse and rid my home, spiritually of this being, long after it was gone. Now, anyone can think of me, what they will, but I am here to say that evil DOES exist. It is among us to suck our last breath if you allow it to. And it arrives with a sweet silvery tongue dripping with lies that will snatch your very soul. I learned the hard way but others don’t have to. Turn around and run the other way. If your gut is telling you to run, for GOD SAKE: RUN! There is a reason. If only I had listened to mine in the first place. What they use is our kindness and our deep caring about others to get a foot hold on our very soul. THAT is why it is so hard to ‘let go’. Evil has entwined itself around our very hearts and soul. I WAS COMPLETELY FLOORED when I started putting it all together. How completely DUPED I had been. And for that evilness to actually THINK I would EVER allow “IT” to EVER be back around me, ever again, one more time, well, I don’t think there is a definition for what that kind of stupidity would be called. Not after very chilling death threats and numerous other very inappropriate psycho related ‘happenings’ over a very long time span.
YES: I danced with the devil and “I” won, as long as I keep that door shut and “IT” uninvited, I will continue to win. As long as I continue ignoring and rejecting ~ as long as I don’t give in to those threads satan had tied around my soul, I will win. Those threads are almost non existent now. That is what “IT” hadn’t planned on. “IT” did a lousy job of planting the seeds and spinning the web. Diabolical doesn’t quite explain this kind of blatant evilness. He was trying to drive me to suicide ~ yes, although, I am and always have been way too strong for all of that. I am a survivor, not a victim. Once I get a handle on things, that’s usually it. I colored my hair blonde. 🙂 I was definitely blessed to be given my wasted life back. DEFINITELY. I don’t know how much I have left of it but I am going to live in in the peace and quiet it is suppose to be lived in and not in the shadows of a psychopath and all the drivel and drama that comes with that, know what I mean? I am here and “IT” is there, FOR A REASON. My shrink tells me that all the time: “Consider yourself fortunate that you escaped with your life…” yah, yah, yah, yet the whole time, everyone was having a really difficult time BELIEVING me, just like that evil piece of crap was telling me. Law enforcement believed me…yes, they did and they still do. Very much so. There is not one day that goes by that I am not grateful. So very grateful.
I don’t know what kind of forces of love you speak of, Stargazer, I am not one to speak of ‘love’, either. I haven’t seemed to find too much of that in this life, either. I do believe in Angels and all that they stand for. They have spared my soul again and again and again. I always laugh and say: “I am working on life 12 of 9” and people have not a clue of what I am saying.
My bucket list: I am still quite amazed to be breathing and to find the peace and quiet so comforting. I sit in my apartment, sorting through a lifetime of memories, making up boxes to all those I love, of memories, with their names on the box, for after I am gone…things I want these people to have. It’s soothing.. I want to be ‘ready’. It has been a very long haul coming back from the dead and there are still most mornings, I get up, walk in the bathroom, look into the mirror and it looks like a zombie…that can’t be ME! I am grateful, though. To still be here; to make amends and to find peace in my life for just a little while….that’s the higher reason. My reward. I already have been ‘reborn’ the morning after my first heart surgery….
There is no way I am opening that door again.
NO WAY.
Dupey