Evil exists. If you need proof, just look at the horrific case of little Charleeni Ferreira.
Charleeni, age 10, of Philadelphia, Pa., died on October 21, 2009. Her father, Domingo Ferreira, 53, and stepmother Margarita Garabito, 43, were charged with murder and endangering the welfare of a child.
So how bad was the abuse? The police called it “torture.”
Charleeni actually died from an infection that resulted from broken ribs that were not treated. She had a host of new and old injuries, including a fractured pelvis and a 7-inch gash on her head that had been stuffed with gauze and covered with a hair weave.
For more details, read Signs of Charleeni’s “torture” were hidden, in the Philadelphia Inquirer.
What makes this case so appalling is that a school nurse reported suspected child abuse. In the three years before her death, Charleeni was seen by numerous doctors, a psychiatrist and a therapist. The Philadelphia Department of Human Services (DHS) provided services to the family for five months.
Now, the DHS commissioner is trying to figure out what went wrong.
Bamboozled
Here’s what I think happened: One or both of the parents were sociopaths, and they bamboozled the child welfare workers.
The parents denied any abuse—workers described them as “hurt” by the allegations—but agreed to intervention anyway. After a period of supervision, child welfare workers closed the case. They also recommended that Charleeni’s parents contact a legal aid agency if the school nurse continued to complain about child abuse.
Charleeni herself was also terrorized and manipulated. She told a doctor at St. Christopher’s Hospital for Children that her family treated her “like a princess.” Welts on her hand occurred when she accidentally stabbed herself with a pencil in the dark. She and her parents always had explanations for her injuries, although they didn’t always match.
Perpetrators
Police apparently believe that the stepmother, Margarita Garabito, was the main perpetrator. But the father, Domingo Ferreira, didn’t stop her. In fact, he showed no remorse and fell asleep in the police interview room. Then, Ferreira hung himself in his jail cell.
This, of course, is convenient for the stepmother. Her court-appointed attorney terms the suicide “an admission of guilt.”
See Charleeni’s death blamed on her dead father, in the Philadelphia Inquirer.
I don’t know who initiated the child abuse. Women can be abusive sociopaths. They can also be accomplices, under the control of male sociopaths.
Evil exists
So what’s the lesson here?
Evil exists, but it can be concealed by seemingly plausible explanations.
Evil exists, but it can be disguised by expressions of concern.
Evil exists, but victims can be too terrorized to speak of it.
People who are in a position to see signs of child abuse—doctors, teachers, social workers—need to understand that evil does not want to be discovered, so they must pay close attention to any small clues.
I rescued a stray jdog that had spent time on the side of the highway as a pup, eating leaves and sticks and twigs, and she was neurotic about food and would eat and eat and eat, and she was OBESE unless you kept extra food away from her.
She never would quit tearing into trash because she had truly STARVED as a “child”—-but it was apparent she was getting more than enough to eat because she was FAT. You are so right, if the kids had a problem it would have been apparent because they would NOT have been “skinny”— I’m glad you got them out of her home that is a good thing. Sometimes it takes a while fo rus to SEE clearly, but you did a good thing and whatyever happened to the boys was the best thing that could have happened and I am sure she got NO MORE kids which is a good thing.
Polly, teaching kids “words” for feelings is a point I think we all should make when we are around little kids. Thinking is language oriented and without language it is difficult to form thoughts and concepts, ,so language of emotions is just as important as langage about identifying objects. They, however, have to be age-ready for some concepts and tend to be “concrete” thinkers (black and white) up to a certain age. In fact, some people never pass that stage. I think the Ps because they have words for “feelings” but not the definition of those FEELINGs (if that makes any sense) like they have the word for “love” but can’t feel it, so they really don’t know what it is. Dr. hare says they know the words but not the MUSIC to the emotional song, and I think that pretty well describes it.
Children are egocentric and concrete up to a certain age and can’t really grasp complex vocabulary or concepts, but if we start teaching them early and MODELING the behaviors and concepts we want them to grasp, they will get it sooner and better.
Very true – that is why I am banging on about the body experience – if we teach children how emotions enact themselves in the body and what they feel like then we may have more chance of them truly understanding. Yes the baby Ps may use that as ammo but at least the other children would be somewhat aware that when they got a ‘funny’ feeling around someone they need to pay more attention. I guess I am thinking about it as a personal alarm system. If someone had clued me into it before I met the Lie, I might have stood a chance – then again I might have rationalised the feelings as love or passion or whatever else. I did have an abnormal feeling very early on though now that I look back. He was expert at manipulating and could even conduct arguments by email – had I been clued up about manipulation and passive aggressive behaviour I would have been able to recognise it.
My point is we are not helping children by teaching them to say ‘No! I don’t like it!’ – bullies KNOW they don’t like it – that statement is just fuel for them. I just wonder what the answer is …
About the deprivation in early life … all species have sensitive periods – a period where a particular development must come or it can’t come later – Erikson’s psychosocial theory comes to mind in relation to this. If deprived at an early enough age, the deprivation can become a motivating script even when the danger has passed. I am linking in what I know about PTSD in this as well – even though the immediate danger has passed I still cannot relax – my muscles are all tensed and poised for some danger.
I am still thinking about all this but must now go to work!
Have a great day everyone 🙂
Oops. I spelled it wrong. It’s “Malevolent”
Yes, malignant narcissists/psychopaths are evil, as in the embodiment of the Devil ( yes, he exists!)
I blog on evil and find the most fascinating facet of evil is the fact so few believe it really, truly, horns and all, exists.
RIP
Charleeni
Oh an ddon’tbe fooled by the father’s suicide- psychos kill themselves….too it’s been called “Ecstatic Suicide”
http://holywatersalt.blogspot.com/2009/11/ecstatic-suicide.html
Hello, HWS, haven’t seen you in a while, and yes, I agree, EVIL EXISTS–I think we have all looked into the eyes of pure malevolent evil! glad you are still out there lurking and glad to hear from you!
HWS, yes, evil exists, but don’t say it wears horns. Evil is tempting and appears benign. Our job is to learn to recognize it when it’s not wearing a halloween costume.
Very interesting article you posted on your blog. I was just remembering a story I read by Yukio Mishima. It was about a suicide. From google I found a passage from one of his books. Very interesting how he writes about being unable to move past childhood. Personally I did not enjoy his writings, they were dark and disturbing as well as sadistic.
This man was obviously a narcissist.
“How oddly situated a man is apt to find himself at the age of thirty-eight! His youth belongs to the distant past. Yet the period of memory beginning with the end of youth and extending to the present has left him not a single vivid impression. And therefore he persists in feeling that nothing more than a fragile barrier separates him from his youth. He is forever hearing with the utmost clarity the sounds of this neighboring domain, but there is no way to penetrate the barrier.” (from Runaway Horses, 1969)
Reading through this thread.. I recall that my guy told me that there is no such thing as evil that it all is of God. That it is just man’s ignorance.. and I responded, yes.. it is all under God, but there is evil and he would laugh like I am so stupid…
So, he denied the existance of evil..
and also.. HELP.. am not feeling so well today.. just allergies and a bit under the weather.. but I am missing him .. I am missing the connection.. I could call him and he would comfort me… so I am missing that… HELP!!!! Talk sense into me.. I am not going to call him.. but that pattern is still in me…when I am down..
Of course, you were bonded. He was not. The comfort he offered was not real You know that.
What helps me is to sooth myself, comfort myself. Whatever does it for you…comfort food, a warm bath in candlelight…do it. Give yourself comfort, because ultimately, we are all we can REALLY count out. Be a good friend to yourself.
Also, write a list of the most horrible things he ever did to you. Get mad, that might do away with fantasyland!
No, JAH I must respectfully disagree. remember, getting mad is what a P would do and it’s what they want. They are like vampires that want to turn us into more vampires by making us feel the way they do. They want us to be hurt, angry, envious and vengeful.
Style, a comedy is what you need. Go rent a video. Laugh. make yourself happy.
Or stay on LF for a while and chat, soon all the crazy LF’ers will show up . Henry, where are you with your great stories?
Thanks I ate some comfort food and am snuggled in.. I have written and do write what the relationship really was.. so this has passed…
He was so much into my life and this time last year we were togther planning TG etc.. this month I am hit hard… even though it has been over for awhile.. and you are right.. he has gone.. what also makes it difficult is that we were in my environment so the memories are in all the places that we went and in my house.. where with him .. he is in a whole different state… with a whole new life.. and I am left with those recollections that pop in from time to time..