Evil exists. If you need proof, just look at the horrific case of little Charleeni Ferreira.
Charleeni, age 10, of Philadelphia, Pa., died on October 21, 2009. Her father, Domingo Ferreira, 53, and stepmother Margarita Garabito, 43, were charged with murder and endangering the welfare of a child.
So how bad was the abuse? The police called it “torture.”
Charleeni actually died from an infection that resulted from broken ribs that were not treated. She had a host of new and old injuries, including a fractured pelvis and a 7-inch gash on her head that had been stuffed with gauze and covered with a hair weave.
For more details, read Signs of Charleeni’s “torture” were hidden, in the Philadelphia Inquirer.
What makes this case so appalling is that a school nurse reported suspected child abuse. In the three years before her death, Charleeni was seen by numerous doctors, a psychiatrist and a therapist. The Philadelphia Department of Human Services (DHS) provided services to the family for five months.
Now, the DHS commissioner is trying to figure out what went wrong.
Bamboozled
Here’s what I think happened: One or both of the parents were sociopaths, and they bamboozled the child welfare workers.
The parents denied any abuse—workers described them as “hurt” by the allegations—but agreed to intervention anyway. After a period of supervision, child welfare workers closed the case. They also recommended that Charleeni’s parents contact a legal aid agency if the school nurse continued to complain about child abuse.
Charleeni herself was also terrorized and manipulated. She told a doctor at St. Christopher’s Hospital for Children that her family treated her “like a princess.” Welts on her hand occurred when she accidentally stabbed herself with a pencil in the dark. She and her parents always had explanations for her injuries, although they didn’t always match.
Perpetrators
Police apparently believe that the stepmother, Margarita Garabito, was the main perpetrator. But the father, Domingo Ferreira, didn’t stop her. In fact, he showed no remorse and fell asleep in the police interview room. Then, Ferreira hung himself in his jail cell.
This, of course, is convenient for the stepmother. Her court-appointed attorney terms the suicide “an admission of guilt.”
See Charleeni’s death blamed on her dead father, in the Philadelphia Inquirer.
I don’t know who initiated the child abuse. Women can be abusive sociopaths. They can also be accomplices, under the control of male sociopaths.
Evil exists
So what’s the lesson here?
Evil exists, but it can be concealed by seemingly plausible explanations.
Evil exists, but it can be disguised by expressions of concern.
Evil exists, but victims can be too terrorized to speak of it.
People who are in a position to see signs of child abuse—doctors, teachers, social workers—need to understand that evil does not want to be discovered, so they must pay close attention to any small clues.
I’ve been thinking about the movie, “Life is Beautiful”. Such an awesome film about a man who is determined to protect his son’s innocence from being destroyed during their stay in a nazi concentration camp. He uses humor and games to keep his son from seeing the horrors around him.
It’s not a frightening movie, it’s full of hope and insight.
style1:
Hope this wasn’t the same person…I know how you feel as the person in my life just moved out of state and I’m left in my house, looking at all the same things that periodically would include him, sleeping in the same bed. And I know he already knows alot of people there and he’ll be busy and fine right away, I don’t even know if he misses me at all – if you go by this site and if he really is that disordered, probably not. I read through old journals the other night, so much pain, so much wondering and trying to figure out always the truth of his existence away from me -it was a long distance relationship and for 7 years he was always paramount in my mind, always a source of pleasure when he would appear, but someone who would disappoint me time after time. He’d seem to improve, I still feel like our relationship ‘deepened’ over the years, but there was always this other side and other person I’d be forced to deal with, I was never secure, always on edge with what would come next.
So my headaches seem to be subsiding, saw female doctor for regular checkup – have gone to her for long time and when I recounted everything that had been happening (in addition to his moving and what seems to be finally ‘the end’ – all the other family, health, finances stuff she smiled and said (seriously) well, I’m impressed with all that that you’re still standing! So we might all give ourselves a major Aplus just for our ‘still standing’ status. Right now I don’t know how I’m going to afford more dental work they want me to have, but I’m pacing myself and just have faith I’ll be working something out – I was even able to trade a piece of art for my appointment today!
anyway, excuse me for rambling on – just felt like sharing more tonight. I put up a good front, but lately i do miss him and have to be careful not to get nostalgic for the nice times together. I’ve been thinking of moving, just so I can have even more of a clean slate myself. The journals i ripped up, off today in the trash.
Of all the articles on this site, this one was the hardest for me to read. And it is even harder to post right now, especially since I’ve been having flashbacks the last several days.
I was physically abused as a child, and no one noticed the signs so I was never rescued. I had black and blue welts all over my back and buttocks from beatings. I’m sure it was noticeable when I was changing for gym class. I use to wet the bed when I stayed at other people’s houses because I was terrified to get up and go to the bathroom at night. I got beat for this at home because the sound of the toilet flushing would wake up my stepfather. I even did this at my biological father’s house, and it never occurred to him that this might be a problem. No one noticed. No one questioned. No one cared.
So I want to say to Rosa or anyone else that knows a child in this situation: Do whatever you can to help them. Ask them if anyone is hurting them. It’s sometimes not enough to just give them an emotionally safe place. The reason for this is that once the child makes the decision to shut down her emotions, she will never feel safe anywhere. If at all possible to take her to the hospital, do it. Hospital workers are trained to look for suspected child abuse and have social workers and forensic cameras on hand. They will call Social Services on the spot if they think it is necessary. No child shoud EVER have to suffer abuse.
Hey Star – I wish there had been someone there to rescue you and I as a child. Wouldnt our lives of been different? What happens to a child will shape their whole lives, some damage can never be undone. My state of Oklahoma is one of the highest in the nation of child abuse and neglect. It seems almost weekly there is another child killed or seriously harmed and child welfare just let’s them slip through the cracks. too many social workers are just turning their heads and taking their paychecks.. I think it is a problem that is getting worse instead of better..
persephone 7, you think our guys are the same person?????
Doubt it.. mine was with me for a year.. and we broke up last Feb. He was in Texas with me and is now in Fla.. I am sure that he is looking for another woman with a home..
But we communicated for a few months after and he came to visit me..
He is a spiritual freak and considers himself a guru.. and does yoga all the time. So if any man like this crosses anyones path watch out.. he talks about love love love and soulmates..
Agreed, henry. It seems that no matter how much I feel like I’m recovering, I always get my life turned upside down by these memories and flashbacks. And the worst part is I don’t really feel comfortable enough to talk with anyone. Trust is still a huge issue. I remember just withdrawing from a young age and retreating inside myself. That’s why I think it’s so important to save a child before this process starts. Once the withdrawal starts and the false personality is developed, it’s really hard to undo and for the child to start to trust and feel safe again.
style1: I wasn’t really serious about it being same person, just was relating to what you said about him going to another state, being left with memories in your own home…
false personality – hmm that hit a nerve – I had those same bathroom experience – I was not a bed wetter but one nite I had to spend nite with some folks i didnt know that well and and i was afraid to go pee before bedtime and i wet the bed and my mom was told about it and i was punished – to this day i think about it and dont know why i wouldnt go pee before bed
Henry, do you think there are things you don’t remember or blocked out of your memory? I remember everything that happened to me. But when I have flashbacks, it’s like I relive parts of that time. Not necessarily the beatings (though I’ve been there too) but just that feeling of being scared and having to withdraw to protect myself. I also remember not being able to help my sister (she got the worst of it) and the pain and helplessness of this really kills me. We both withdrew into our own little worlds and never were able to bond. We tried as adults but it just didn’t work. I think she got way more damaged than I did, but we definitely both have major trust issues.
Oh yes i think sometimes kids have to block out thing,s to survive..you know things you just cant wrap your brain around?