After the sociopath, when the fog starts to lift, many of us ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I see what was going on?” According to a new book, we should probably cut ourselves some slack.
Read Book Review: The Invisible Gorilla on Scienceblogs.com.
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ifinallygotthelesson
Dear One Step:
I understand what you’re saying. I am reading “Without Conscience” by, Dr. Robert Hare and I tell you what it is helping me so much! Dr. Hare talks about how he got duped by a Psychopath, very interesting.
Ox Drover
I confess, I got on amazon and was “BAAAAAAD” today, I ordered 5 new books (head hanging here in mock sorrow)
BtW I don’t understand some of the pricing on amazon for used books, and on B&N as well. A friend asked me to order some for her (5 copies) I had ordered her 2 copies a while back, and the cheapest I found a copy was $20+ and on up to 100+ bucks, yet B&N can get them for you for $13.96 (which is what my friend had said they could get them for her.
Also saw 1 or 2 OLDER copies of Dr. Leedom’s ORIGINAL BOOK “Women who love psychopaths” on sale on Amazon used. Keep your eyes out if you are still wanting this book. The one out by Sandra Brown which is listed as “second edition” is NOT a second printing, but has been changed so GET THE ORIGINAL.
Cat, I just keep on reading and reading, and though I am hampered by the STM problems it seems I don’t have them quite as bad in reading as I do in other areas, like where I listen to something, or do smething it is almost instantly forgotten or gone, but reading stuff I am getting more meaning out of things it seems to me. But heck, not sure where perception begins and denial ends! LOL ROTFLAMO
bluejay
Yes, sociopaths test our limits constantly, being perfectly content with breaking the law, making life stressful for the ones’ who are law-abiding, not seeking trouble in any way, shape, or form.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
cat and ifinallygotthelesson – glad to here i make sense.
it was a hard day; nice to find nice notes. 🙂
one/joy_step_at_a_time
http://friedgreentomatoes.org/
interesting site. we are ALWAYS using ‘towanda’ here, so i had to take a look.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
anyone read this one?
‘The Psychopathy of Everyday Life: How Antisocial Personality Disorder Affects All of Us’
Ox Drover
Cat, I just read back over the X wanting to come to YOUR house to “vacation” with his kid. LOLROTFLMAO What balls, what cojones, what gall, what NERVE!!!! I can’t even believe it! Yea, I believe it, but what I mean is I CAN’T BELIEVE IT!!!! BAWHAHAHAHAHA CHOKE SNORT! 🙂
Even Fat and Hairy don’t have that much egocentricity!
bluejay
Cat,
That was pretty funny (agreeing with Oxy) – the ex arranging (in his head) to spend quality time with his son, doing this at YOUR HOME, having access to YOUR POOL (without discussing this plan ahead of time with you, just expecting you to agree to go along with his genius plan). What a swell guy, not grasping the nuttiness of it all.
bluejay
geminigirl,
I have no doubt that you were a wonderful mother to your girls (while they were growing up) and would make a terrific grandmother to your grandkids (if you could have a relationship with them). You sound like you enjoyed being a mother, being a good one. Unfortunately, your daughters inherited a troublesome disorder, sociopathy, spoiling the mother role for you. That is hard on you because you’ve missed out on things that had your daughters been normal, could have brought so much pleasure your way, fun times with your daughters and grandchildren. It’s weird how life plays out for people. It’s hard to accept the way it actually is, being unfair. You didn’t bargain for your own children to be how they are – cold, selfish, unfeeling women.
Ox Drover
Dear Gem,
What Bluejay says is ture, it sure “ain’t what we had planned.” I can’t remember who said “life is what is happening when you had made other plans” but it sure is true. But you and I both have been blessed by God with more kids, just like He blessed Job with twice the wealth he had before…so chin up chickie!
Life ain’t fair, but enjoy your “adopted” kids and probably there will soon be some GKs to go along with too. You are a very fortunate woman, you know, you have your Dave after being married to the jerk and your handsome new adopted kids, and peace finally at last. ((((Hugs)))))