After the sociopath, when the fog starts to lift, many of us ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I see what was going on?” According to a new book, we should probably cut ourselves some slack.
Read Book Review: The Invisible Gorilla on Scienceblogs.com.
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hens
So why do I have a box full of old batteries? Maybe they will get better? Maybe they will recharge on their own? Maybe they will change fron duds to new? Kinda like keeping the old bf around and hoping he would change, recharge and grow wings I guess..gnite crew…
Ox Drover
HOW ABOUT THAT BAG FULL OF OLD KEYS I STILL KEEP? ROTFLMAO Maybe I will get a brain and recall what they went to???? BAWHahahahahahaha! Yea right, about the same time your battery collection starts glowing in the dark!@ Henry, you crack me up!!!!
Maryjane
clever writing and expression of interaction with the sociopaths..
Yep so focused on the trauma or the good that you can’t see what’s real…
http://blog.womenexplode.com/2010/08/29/man-hater.aspx
behind_blue_eyes
Not only was I going to fix every problem, I foolishly fell for his “mask” of innocence inspite of the obvious, not only how many “innocent” gay male flight attendants are there, but I did not even think to ask about his HIV status, even though the savy quickly peg him for being HIV+ by his apperance.
Now, I am actually embarrassed by the way I was played by him…
geminigirl
bluejay and Oxy, Thanks guys. Im getting there, slowly!
Our new ‘kids’ came over on Sunday last for a nice home cooked meal. We had a lot of fun. Theyd brought a Fathers day card for David with
“To the best Dady[sic!} in the whole world, from your children, Roya and AbbasXXXX.”With a primula in a pot,& nice cookies. Very sweet and thoughtful of them, in 26 years mine would NEVER have thought to do this!
So, yes, we are very blessed.
Love,
Mama gem.XXX
kim frederick
How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb?
None. The light bulb has to want to change itself.
how many times have you tried to enlighten a spath to no avail? They don’t even know they’re in the dark and are just fine with it. I won’t waste my time trying to change that light bulb, gonna go find this little light of mine.
bulletproof
How many psychopaths does it take to change a lightbulb?
none, they use gas lighting (groan)
kim frederick
Snort, chuckle, snort. Funny stuff.
How many Narcissists? Only one. They hold the light bulb, and the whole world revolves around them.
pollyannanomore
By blaming us and keeping our total focus on ourselves and how we can improve the situation, psychopaths are able to slip all their sick behaviours past us without us paying too much attention to what’s going on. After all we as targets are the problem – not the psychopath.
hens
Well to those that know my delima with Boo..I dont have money and I couldnt give her sex so I have not heard from her in over a week..I have been warned by the same friend that warned me about the x bf to stay away from her. Creeper’s I thought she was a friend..but as I look back at our friendship it has always been about her drama..I dont need it, bye bye Boo…and I dont need any frickin help changing a lite bulb either I can do it fine by myself.