“Suddenly, everything made sense, I was not crazy, I had been dealing with a psychopath!” explained a woman this week as she told the story of how she discovered “psychopathy” and Dr. Hare’s diagnostic symptoms. With this discovery, she learned that a personality disorder is behind the behavior of people who manipulate and harm others without guilt or remorse. Prior to learning about psychopathy, the woman said she held the view that all people were basically good and needed the same things. Understanding psychopathy/sociopathy gave her the ability to make sense of a world where a small fraction of individuals do a tremendous amount of harm- AND YET THESE INDIVIDUALS ON THE SURFACE SEEM PERFECTLY NORMAL.
As we discussed the kidnapping of Jaycee Lee Dugard, that same woman questioned whether Phillip Garrido (the kidnapper) is “a psychopath.” She tended to think that Garrido, “Is not a psychopath” and that schizophrenia or some delusional disorder was behind Garrido’s monstrous behavior. According to my friend, “a psychopath” is not mentally ill, is in contact with reality, and yet perpetrates evil anyway. For her the appearance of sanity is an essential characteristic of a psychopath/sociopath.
This week I want to discuss Garrido, and Brian David Mitchell (Elizabeth’s Smart’s kidnapper). These two men are strikingly similar. But first I have to tell you about my own moment of awakening with regard to psychopathy. Just like my friend’s moment, my moment made sense of the world, however it came after years of experience with antisocial people and after years of reading about the disorder. In my moment I realized that psychopathy explains evil.
Yes, I said psychopathy explains evil. This statement is true even though people who are not “psychopaths” do plenty of evil. Because psychopathy explains evil, its importance extends far beyond enabling us to identify the most recidivist criminals, or those who we should avoid going on dates with.
How did it come to pass that psychopathy explains evil? My friend is correct in that originally psychopathy (more than 100 years ago) was called “moral insanity.” It was conceived of as a disorder where people who have an intact mind repeatedly violate the rights of others. Then, Dr. Hervey Cleckley intensively studied the case histories of those he believed to be “psychopaths.” From his experience with many cases Dr. Cleckley developed a list of traits he believed could be used to identify those with the disorder.
Dr. Robert Hare took those traits and used them, along with other personality disorder criteria to develop the PCL-R which is now the best way to “diagnose psychopathy.” Forensic professionals have administered the PCL-R to thousands of offenders and to people with substance abuse issues. From these studies we know that “psychopathy” is actually not a category it is a continuum. In fact the PCL-R scores of offenders are all markedly elevated above those of general population samples (like college students). There is no absolute cut-off score that identifies “true psychopaths.” Instead, for every point increase in score the risk of doing evil increases. The PCL-R is a very good measure of an individual’s risk to offend against others and society.
Psychopathy, as currently measured by the PCL-R is then a trait that is present in everyone to a greater or lesser degree. This trait cuts across diagnostic categories. Think of it like you would intelligence as measured by IQ tests. Everybody has an IQ but it is only when the scores are very high or very low that they come to define or categorize a person. Psychopaths are the equivalent of geniuses who score so high and are so different from average that this difference becomes a defining quality.
Scientists use a cut score of 25-30 on the PCL-R to identify and study “psychopaths.” When studying psychopaths scientists exclude from their studies people who also have other obvious defining qualities like mental retardation and delusions/hallucinations. By looking at the “pure” top end of the distribution they can study those who are most prone to doing evil and try to determine the brain disorder that underlies doing evil. People at the top end are more likely to be measurably different from other people.
Since the psychopaths researchers study are free from other disorders, any brain findings can be attributed to psychopathy. In such studies, several brain abnormalities have been found and linked to the behavior of psychopaths. The brain regions found to be abnormal in psychopaths are those regions demonstrated to be responsible for moral loving conduct in all of us. Abnormalities are also seen in those regions where aggressive impulses originate.
Again, using the analogy of intelligence, if we study what makes geniuses smart we learn something about what makes the average person smart. When we study what is wrong with psychopaths we learn something about what causes all of us to express and act on aggressive impulses.
In broader studies, scientists have discovered that the people who score over 25 on the PCL-R are a diverse group. While they share the symptoms of psychopathy, they may differ in important ways including the presence of other psychiatric disorders and mental retardation. Some psychopaths are also mentally ill above and beyond the psychopathy. Some experience delusions, particularly grandiose delusions and some hallucinate. There are many people who have delusions and hallucinations and yet do not harm others because psychotic disorders usually do not impair the moral brain, and the content of their delusions or hallucinations does not produce aggression.
Both psychotic and non-psychotic psychopaths experience increased impulses to harm others and they lack the moral brain mechanisms to restrain these impulses. That gets me to Garrido and Mitchell. Both men have grandiose delusions and have impaired contact with reality. However, both were organized enough to plan and carry out kidnapping and sexual assault. (This is actually evidence for psychopathy since psychopathy has been linked to sexual assault and sexual perversion in many studies.)
Both Garrido and Mitchell are also psychopathic enough so that the cries and suffering of their victims and their victim’s families meant nothing. Both remain self absorbed and have failed to show any real remorse for their actions. In fact, Garrido said in one of his news interviews that we would all come to see his story as “heart warming.” It makes intuitive sense that if a psychopath were to develop delusions, they would be of a grandiose nature since grandiosity is part of the disorder. The psychosis just exaggerates what is already there. Similarly when psychopaths hallucinate, they hear voices that tell them how wonderful and special they are. Of course G-d and angels talk to them!
In summary, I believe Garrido and Mitchell are both highly psychopathic. They both have disorders in multiple brain systems, including those important in reality orientation and those involved in the generation and inhibition of aggressive sexual impulses. One of my supervisors called such individuals schizopaths (combined schizophrenia and psychopathy). Schizopaths are the most dangerous individuals in our society because they have no restraint over the impulses generated by the psychotic process.
On this blog, we have talked about the need for laws to protect society from psychopaths. In my opinion, it makes sense to start with schizopaths. Offenders identified with both psychotic and psychopathic tendencies should be considered a special group. After even one serious offense, these individuals should be kept incarcerated or hospitalized to protect the public. One strike you’re out is justified because of the chronic nature of combined psychopathy and psychosis.
Next week, the female accomplices of Garrido and Mitchell.
Hummingbird,
the theory of narcissism as a state of emotionally arrested development is not mine, that is what psychotherapists say.
N’s never learn to bond with others, they continue to perceive emotionally just like a 2 year old.
But there is controversy because many people see a genetic component in that it runs in families even when the P parent is not involved in the upbringing.
Lastly there is the idea that N’s make a choice to be that way and that is why we call them evil.
I’ve only tied all three of them together in a way that makes sense to me.
Skylar,
You know what? I just found out tonight, that my xP/S is planning on moving in with his new gf (of 4 mths) on Nov 1st. I was with him for 2 years and heard nothing but “it takes me a long long time to fall in love” “I don’t know what I want” blahblahblah. Now she was warned by me of his infidelities…in fact he had been with BOTH of us on the same weekend when the poop finally hit the fan. That was it for me, and she FORGAVE him. Now as much as I know he’s full of crap and he’ll cheat on her, I find myself feeling HURT…terribly hurt…that he wants to be with her in that way, but didn’t with me. Isn’t that crazy? I actually had a glimmer of questioning whether he maybe really LOVES her and just didn’t love me…like he said…I didn’t do it for him…feelings he couldn’t explain. I still wonder if maybe I was wrong, maybe he’s just a real jerk that lies…that just didn’t want me. I was so ready for that “victory” of hearing that their relationship failed already, and here he is moving AHEAD…and I haven’t even been on a date. I hate him for making me feel this way, and I’m so worried about Tilly, I feel guilty for feeling bad about my own situation. Not a good night here in kittyville…lots of tears
This is kind of harsh, and not about P’s , but some of it might help Skylar.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/hes-with-someone-else-why-her-and-not-me/
I like this one better.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/seeking-validation-understanding-in-your-poor-relationships-part-one/
OOPs… I meant Hummingbird
SKylar, I LOVED the analogy about the cow realizing why the farmer has been feeding it all this time. (Sadly, that would be an improvement over how most animals on mega farms are treated today). But the point is, that is EXACTLY how I felt, but I never thought of it that way until you pointed out. Analogies are SO helpful. The Betrayal Bond stresses the importance of developing analogies. That is a GREAT ONE!
Justabouthealed,
Thanks for the site…I’ll try to read more of them tomorrow
Hummingbird,
give each of your kitties a nuzzle around the ears, they know when you are sad and they want to help.
Don’t forget that he isn’t capable of love. He probably figured out that she isn’t as smart as you were, so he can move in and continue his P-behavior right in front of her face and she won’t notice. I WAS that dumb, when at age 17, I moved in with my P and let him continue to wander in at 4AM, while I got off to work at 8AM and he slept in. I get the feeling you wouldn’t have been that stupid…so it was best not to live with you. (Also, I did all the housework and bought all the furniture – I’m really, really stupid)
If you are going to observe his behavior and wonder what drives it, at least try to see it from his SELFISH, NON-ABLE TO LOVE PERSPECTIVE. Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself, “what’s in it for me?” Just like he does.AH
JAH, great links!
The cow analogy hit me when I tried to explain to someone what had happened to me and realized that there were no words in a normal humans vocabulary. So I used the words from an imaginary cow’s vocabulary and I think people got it.
I’ll have to read the Betrayal Bond, it sounds good.
BTW, everyone, there are intralibrary loans that allow you to get a book from college or university libraries sent to your local library. It’s very handy. http://www.worldcat.org
HUMMINGBIRD,
Give it time….He is a LIAR and he is lying to her….. My ex-boyfriend of 3 years (not present SP) and I broke up. He was an alcoholic and a N and I left……He begged me to get back together…..He begged me for 4 months…
Then we met for a dinner…..He told me how he loved me and wanted us to move into a house together…..
3 days later he said he wanted to call it off…….2 days after that when I called him he asked me why I was calling him when he was with his girlfriend……????
…..Then he told me I never loved him and she did……hello……..whatever……..yeah, I was devastated and went through the pain of it all…..
You do get over it you know……Do you really think they will be happy? He told me that when he saw her she was the perfect woman…….I reminded him that is what he told me when we met….
He immediately moved in with her and her kids……I haven’t bothered to follow his life since but one thing I do know……WHATEVER HE DID TO ME HE WILL DO TO HER…..
Like you at first I thought how happy he must be with her…..but wait till the roses hit the fan……wait till he starts his temper tantrums and his alcoholic rages……when he loses his jobs…..
I laughed with glee thinking about how I knew it would happen and how he would treat her…..plus she was a bitch to me on the phone and she was a nasty person like him….PERFECT WOMAN FOR HIM….I imagined with ease how they would fight and destroy each other……..
Then I stopped thinking about them…..I had peace in my life….
Did I think that now he would stop drinking? He needed help and didn’t want to get it…..nothing will change in his life until he gets help….and he can’t do it on his own…..
So he will continue the same way as always and each time with a new relationship….and none will work….ever……
Your P doesn’t know what love is………If he did, he would be with YOU and he would not be a P…….
Oxy: somehow I missed your prior post. Just now read it. It’s a very accurate post. This much truth in one post is valuable.
RE: felony to abuse animals. I helped get this law passed. I am so pleased to see it finally made it after so long. Food animals should be put down in a humane way and it’s so good that you made this point also. Why do we eat animals….well, from the beginning it was not so. Sin and the fall of man caused this to come about. Something has to die for us to live. And….the Bible tells us that it will again be restored….The lion and the lamb will once again lie down together. [This is my belief-I accept the choice]
I wake up around 3AM every nite thinking about the P. Those moments between sleep and waking I’m still thinking in symbols and the picture of a snake with a ragged skin came to mind.
The snake has to shed its skin in order to grow. It sheds the rigid, tattered layer and underneath is a bright, shiny, flexible skin that can stretch enough to grow some more, until it’s time to shed that and grow again. If the snake refused to shed its skin it not only wouldn’t be able to grow but perhaps it would become cramped and deformed as the inside tried to grow but the old skin restrained it. The outer skin would eventually look old and tattered without luster. Tthe snakes bones would deform like the feet of the young chinese girls whose feet were bound to prevent them from growing. It would not be able to slither around and move.
I think of narcissism like that and now I understand the meaning of the words “a victim of his own success”: a strategy so successful that it causes the organism to grow larger than the strategy can sustain. A new strategy is needed.
The P’s strategy for survival – the con – works so well that he won’t move on to a more adult behavior. His choice to continue clinging to infantile thoughts of envy and shame, cramp and cripple his psyche which is trying to grow but has no outlet in the delusional world the P creates. With time he becomes uglier and uglier, more and more delusional. Everyone can see what he is but he cannot. What doesn’t grow, must rot and die, change is inevitable but not to a P. His prison is his mindset: the con, the charm, the pity ploy. Everything he does is just a variation on the same old theme and eventually everyone tires of it. He thinks he is getting more clever each year because he comes up with more elaborate schemes, he adds more props, more perverted sex and wealthier targets. But it isn’t growth because its the same old theme and his psyche is getting more and more uncomfortable like a baby in a womb that won’t let it be born – the end result can’t be good, it is death.
The same thing was happening to us, the N-supply. The moment of crisis, when we ran, was an epiphany, inspired by God or if you don’t believe in God then you know it was fate. It was the culmination of refusing to grow on our part. We wanted to live in the fantasy world that the P created, so we saw and ignored the truth. Now we have a lot of growing up to do.
I used to stand in our old cabin in the woods, which the P would never fix and I watched it rot for 18 years. I often thought, “how appropriate that our home would rot, just as our relationship has and our lives are rotting.”
So sad.
There is an interesting fable that reflects these ideas. It’s called Abu Kasem’s slippers. I finally get what it means.
http://cliftonunitarian.org/sermons/AbuKasemsSlippers.pdf
I forget which LF person had the dream of her P standing in the corner of a prison cell. At the time I tried to interpret it, but now I see a completely new analogy: The P is cornered in a prison of his own making. He appears to be manipulating the guards because he makes the rules in this prison, it is his own, but it is still a prison. Whoever had this dream, your subconscience perceptions are highly acute! Listen to them.