“Suddenly, everything made sense, I was not crazy, I had been dealing with a psychopath!” explained a woman this week as she told the story of how she discovered “psychopathy” and Dr. Hare’s diagnostic symptoms. With this discovery, she learned that a personality disorder is behind the behavior of people who manipulate and harm others without guilt or remorse. Prior to learning about psychopathy, the woman said she held the view that all people were basically good and needed the same things. Understanding psychopathy/sociopathy gave her the ability to make sense of a world where a small fraction of individuals do a tremendous amount of harm- AND YET THESE INDIVIDUALS ON THE SURFACE SEEM PERFECTLY NORMAL.
As we discussed the kidnapping of Jaycee Lee Dugard, that same woman questioned whether Phillip Garrido (the kidnapper) is “a psychopath.” She tended to think that Garrido, “Is not a psychopath” and that schizophrenia or some delusional disorder was behind Garrido’s monstrous behavior. According to my friend, “a psychopath” is not mentally ill, is in contact with reality, and yet perpetrates evil anyway. For her the appearance of sanity is an essential characteristic of a psychopath/sociopath.
This week I want to discuss Garrido, and Brian David Mitchell (Elizabeth’s Smart’s kidnapper). These two men are strikingly similar. But first I have to tell you about my own moment of awakening with regard to psychopathy. Just like my friend’s moment, my moment made sense of the world, however it came after years of experience with antisocial people and after years of reading about the disorder. In my moment I realized that psychopathy explains evil.
Yes, I said psychopathy explains evil. This statement is true even though people who are not “psychopaths” do plenty of evil. Because psychopathy explains evil, its importance extends far beyond enabling us to identify the most recidivist criminals, or those who we should avoid going on dates with.
How did it come to pass that psychopathy explains evil? My friend is correct in that originally psychopathy (more than 100 years ago) was called “moral insanity.” It was conceived of as a disorder where people who have an intact mind repeatedly violate the rights of others. Then, Dr. Hervey Cleckley intensively studied the case histories of those he believed to be “psychopaths.” From his experience with many cases Dr. Cleckley developed a list of traits he believed could be used to identify those with the disorder.
Dr. Robert Hare took those traits and used them, along with other personality disorder criteria to develop the PCL-R which is now the best way to “diagnose psychopathy.” Forensic professionals have administered the PCL-R to thousands of offenders and to people with substance abuse issues. From these studies we know that “psychopathy” is actually not a category it is a continuum. In fact the PCL-R scores of offenders are all markedly elevated above those of general population samples (like college students). There is no absolute cut-off score that identifies “true psychopaths.” Instead, for every point increase in score the risk of doing evil increases. The PCL-R is a very good measure of an individual’s risk to offend against others and society.
Psychopathy, as currently measured by the PCL-R is then a trait that is present in everyone to a greater or lesser degree. This trait cuts across diagnostic categories. Think of it like you would intelligence as measured by IQ tests. Everybody has an IQ but it is only when the scores are very high or very low that they come to define or categorize a person. Psychopaths are the equivalent of geniuses who score so high and are so different from average that this difference becomes a defining quality.
Scientists use a cut score of 25-30 on the PCL-R to identify and study “psychopaths.” When studying psychopaths scientists exclude from their studies people who also have other obvious defining qualities like mental retardation and delusions/hallucinations. By looking at the “pure” top end of the distribution they can study those who are most prone to doing evil and try to determine the brain disorder that underlies doing evil. People at the top end are more likely to be measurably different from other people.
Since the psychopaths researchers study are free from other disorders, any brain findings can be attributed to psychopathy. In such studies, several brain abnormalities have been found and linked to the behavior of psychopaths. The brain regions found to be abnormal in psychopaths are those regions demonstrated to be responsible for moral loving conduct in all of us. Abnormalities are also seen in those regions where aggressive impulses originate.
Again, using the analogy of intelligence, if we study what makes geniuses smart we learn something about what makes the average person smart. When we study what is wrong with psychopaths we learn something about what causes all of us to express and act on aggressive impulses.
In broader studies, scientists have discovered that the people who score over 25 on the PCL-R are a diverse group. While they share the symptoms of psychopathy, they may differ in important ways including the presence of other psychiatric disorders and mental retardation. Some psychopaths are also mentally ill above and beyond the psychopathy. Some experience delusions, particularly grandiose delusions and some hallucinate. There are many people who have delusions and hallucinations and yet do not harm others because psychotic disorders usually do not impair the moral brain, and the content of their delusions or hallucinations does not produce aggression.
Both psychotic and non-psychotic psychopaths experience increased impulses to harm others and they lack the moral brain mechanisms to restrain these impulses. That gets me to Garrido and Mitchell. Both men have grandiose delusions and have impaired contact with reality. However, both were organized enough to plan and carry out kidnapping and sexual assault. (This is actually evidence for psychopathy since psychopathy has been linked to sexual assault and sexual perversion in many studies.)
Both Garrido and Mitchell are also psychopathic enough so that the cries and suffering of their victims and their victim’s families meant nothing. Both remain self absorbed and have failed to show any real remorse for their actions. In fact, Garrido said in one of his news interviews that we would all come to see his story as “heart warming.” It makes intuitive sense that if a psychopath were to develop delusions, they would be of a grandiose nature since grandiosity is part of the disorder. The psychosis just exaggerates what is already there. Similarly when psychopaths hallucinate, they hear voices that tell them how wonderful and special they are. Of course G-d and angels talk to them!
In summary, I believe Garrido and Mitchell are both highly psychopathic. They both have disorders in multiple brain systems, including those important in reality orientation and those involved in the generation and inhibition of aggressive sexual impulses. One of my supervisors called such individuals schizopaths (combined schizophrenia and psychopathy). Schizopaths are the most dangerous individuals in our society because they have no restraint over the impulses generated by the psychotic process.
On this blog, we have talked about the need for laws to protect society from psychopaths. In my opinion, it makes sense to start with schizopaths. Offenders identified with both psychotic and psychopathic tendencies should be considered a special group. After even one serious offense, these individuals should be kept incarcerated or hospitalized to protect the public. One strike you’re out is justified because of the chronic nature of combined psychopathy and psychosis.
Next week, the female accomplices of Garrido and Mitchell.
Twice Betrayed,
After I wrote the “not sweating the small stuff” I later asked myself why I wrote that because it isn’t “small stuff”.
You said ” with my daughter there is no small stuff. She makes mountains outta mole hills and if there are no mole hills she creates some.”
Well, reading your words describes my own daughter as well. I know the feeling of being exhausted….I suppose I was thinking while I wrote those words, to think of it as small but you are right is really isn’t. I meant more of the smaller outburst, sometimes with my daughter I try to “give in” to the smaller insanities and although it doesn’t change much, it helps me to look at it as “smaller”.
You know how in Al-Anon we are told to “Detach!” from the problems caused by the drinker, showing us the futility of keeping up a brave front, being apologetic for the situations not of our making. Holding back from complete involvement from them…..I try as much as it hurts me to detach from her.
I don’t comment or give advise…..I can’t say anything about my gs, or she blows…….So I withdraw or at least try….I try to stay emotionally distant…..It is hard and yes, it hurts…..
It really does help me to be calmer with her.
I went through years and years of this as well…..She had a sociopath boyfriend for a while. Between the two, I slept like a firefighter……Ready to jump and run to rescue her anytime of the day or night….Phone calls like, “Mom, Sally and Susie came over and bashed my head into the front steps and I am gushing blood.”
Me jumping and running. “Mom, I am in the police station and they say I am drunk.” Me jumping and running. Her acting like a wild animal, chained to the chair, frothing at the mouth while her sociopath boyfriend is laughing since he asked her to drive….She going berserk with anger and being jailed for 3 days. Me letting her sit there for 3 days…..
To this day she will claim she was never drunk……
After episodes like these I finally told her that she was on her own. I meant it……I didn’t get the next phone call when she was arrested for pot…
When she became pregnant is when by some miracle, she settled down and being always an animal lover, she changed her ways…..She does take care of her son very well…..I can be thankful for that……
It is just that the outbursts and anger are still there…..
You say how you “have to tip toe on egg shells and then I still get played and nothing I do is right”.and I am bossed/put down and manipulated until I am absolutely blown out beyond sanity. ”
It is the same with me and her…..so exactly the same….
Now after 3 years of being married to a wonderful man, she has been in touch with her sociopath ex-boyfriend, (he looked her up) and more hell will be breaking loose. She just told me now that she is babysitting his two kids today, and he is going to pay her $. He didn’t have anyone to help him…..Yet she cursed me out and screamed at me when I dropped my gs off two days ago because I had a friend with me in the car that she doesn’t like. Saying I am letting people know where she lives and she can’t trust them…..??? But she can trust her psycho ex- boyfriend and talk to him behind her husband’s back?? The one who locked her out of there house, hit her, stole money from me and my friends like about $5000?
Well, I am not paying to get on this roller coaster ride……I am detaching and I will be there for my gs. That is all I can do…..
Vision:
I knew what you meant on ‘small stuff’…you meant from our understanding of life..it’s small stuff….but to them they are going to blow it into a huge drama.
You said: “she settled down and being always an animal lover, she changed her ways”..She does take care of her son very well”..I can be thankful for that—”
Ok, this is my daughter. She is an animal lover…has four dogs, three cats, a ferret, an exotic bird and two horses.
And….she is very good to her daughter. [ I cannot help but think these manipulations and dramas are not good for them emotionally. ] (I would also like to add: her dad’s family all play these drama scenes also. They all feed on this type of thing…and my daughter was not really around them growing up..so I do believe this is heavily genetic)
Also: my daughter has a very good husband as well. And…..she stays in contact with old boyfriends…..her husband is a marine biologist and is gone to sea for six weeks at a time…so she is ‘free’ to do as she pleases….and this includes hanging with male friends….
Mine will not do things that run afoul of the law. She is just like my PX hub….she will walk the edge. Their primary MO is ‘scare’ me to death. Keep me off balance….never knowing just how far they will go. *example-she and her hub ride motorcycles and she knows this scares me to death. One day my daugher, gd and I were supposed to go to dinner/out to a city close by that is kinda an older min-resort city for the evening. I show up and she is geared to ride her motorcyle and me drive with my gd. FREAKED me out just like she knew it would. I, of course, protested…I do not want to see her ride that thing….especially on the freeway right beside me driving! She very quietly took off the gear and got into the vehicle having accomplished what she set out to do….freak me out. Also: mine never raises her voice….she is cool, calm and very calculated. Never blows a fuse and never shows outbursts….always the cool one in any situation and I mean any situation. But, always in control and always running the show -able to ‘bush buttons’ from her ‘throne’.
My PX was the same way. [however, as he got older he began to lose his ‘cool’.
I do understand about ‘detaching’….I am not able to do this really well. Doesn’t work for me… I will react..*they always keep pushing buttons till they get one that I will respond to….
For me: NC is the only way I get any rest, peace or keep my health.
I understand wanting to be there for your grandson! I’ve got to find a way to visit my gd. *sigh* makes me sick just to think about it and the whole situation…………..
Twice Betrayed,
Just before, My daughter pulled up to my house to pick up forgotten stuff of my gs and she had her ex psycho boyfriend’s two kids in the car….
I remained calm since I didn’t want drama esp. with her driving. Then I text-ed her later telling her what I thought but in a nice way. Told her how she was playing with dynamite, the guy is still a snake and how he is lying, using her etc. And she is playing into his hands again….that is all I can really say……how she can blow her marriage…..
How can you visit your gd by finding a way? Does your daughter not allow you to come and visit? Does she just dictate when and where etc?
Vision:
Yes, she dictates where/when. No, I cannot just come by and visit her. She does live about an hour and a half from me. I can call her to go somewhere but if she does not want to…or has something else going on she will not answer her phone. She lives down a long driveway behind a locked/coded gate so I cannot ‘just show up’….and besides I dare not do that.
I could NEVER risk texting my daughter what I think about her/her lifestyle/my granddaughter or anything to do with their lives or I am banished from their lives totally. I mean I have to be a total slave to her-I have to not say anything but what she wants to hear-I have to do what she wants-and PLUS I have to pay for EVERYTHING even tho her hub provides her with three times what I make. She does not have to work–just is working on her master’s in biology-she lives a LAVISH lifestyle yet I have to buy everything…including what she shops for and sometimes I have to buy her supplies…as she has ‘left her wallet’ at home. This includes dogfood etc. So: sometimes I drop two or three hundred dollars or more for a few hours visit! Well, since I basicallly ‘pay to visit’ anyway….I might as well offer her some money to see my gd. The same anyway.
Twice Betrayed:
How terrible for you……Why does she seems to resent you? My daughter does resent me for many things…..Do you feel your daughter is angry with you for the past? Nothing you did but as perceives it…..
I feel for you and I still pay out big bucks for my daughters emergencies as she calls them. They break us down…..
Can you just ask to have a special day to see your gd once a month at least…..Maybe if you don’t call or take calls for a while, she will realize that having her own daughter without her Grandma is denying her daughter……someone she should have in her life…..or you tried that…..
How long has this gone on? Sheeze….It seems you are already banished from their lives…..She might as well have a moat around her castle……and there you are begging to see the princess….wow…..how sad……It seems she wants to punish you for something……??
Vision:
I don’t know if she resents me or not. She’s like this to everyone that does not bow their lives to her…so I don’t think it’s really personal. It’s just the demanding nature of these people. They are extremely selfish. I would suspect the only reason she is so good to her daughter is: she is part of her=an extension of her. This was so of my PX hub[her dad]. He ‘loves’ his daughter as she is part of him…and he is very narcisstic. [believe it or not…..HE bows to her NOW!!!] She became like this after she left home to go to the university. The world, my older daughter, her dad, friends’ attitudes, genetics, etc-helped change her.
LOL-moat around a castle. That’s funny. I laughted at that. Thanks! 🙂
Aw, these folks are always punishing someone. Someone is always banished. I am fun to punish cause I am sensitive, try hard and give a lot of kindness. My PX hub loved to punish me….projection mostly. It works like this: they act badly and then they punish you for not accepting their bad behavior. Even if you say nothing…they are so in tune with reading people…they know you don’t accept. Or..for a lark they act really badly and then stick it in your face….kinda like giving you/life the middle finger. Rebellion. It’s fun for them. They really do enjoy it……….
Skylar
there is no such thing as rules in the game for them! Only rules for you ! they are above the rules and they do not apply to them , only you! The game is theirs and they make the rules for you as they go along!
It is like a poker game where only they know what rules you not them have to follow! We can’t win . we are not permited to win , that is not a part of their game plan!
Slimone:
Yeah, I don’t get it iether. Its what banana says in the post at the top of the page. I just wanted to see if you or oxy got it, because i think he/she was trying to have a go at me. But then, I am paranoid so I could be wrong. lol!
You would love my latest video I have come up with about psychopaths! Its amazing! High Distinction for sure. i get to play it to the class today…that’l stick it up her!
i.e. Revenge by succeeding brilliantly ! HA HA!