UPDATED FOR 2020
A Lovefraud reader who posts as “LadyA” sent Lovefraud the following email. At the end, I suggest how she can recover from the sociopath.
I’ve spent a lot time thinking about my experience with my spath, and how it affected me and the people around me. I have read article after article, story after story. I now fully understand what spaths do and how they do it but I didn’t understand why I don’t feel any better about it. What was I missing?
When I left my spath it was a fairly dramatic experience. He had just been sentenced to serve jail time on the weekends for an obstruction of justice charge. My mom flew into town and in one swoop we packed up everything we could get in the car and left the province to go back to my hometown. I had to quit my job over email and send a goodbye text to all my friends.
I am thankful every day for what my mom did for me. I sure wasn’t happy about it at the time but I knew I needed out and this was my chance. What I didn’t know is how much moving back to my hometown would affect me emotionally. I had originally planned on only being back for six months. Just long enough for him to move on and get me out of mind, but it has now been just over three years and I still haven’t moved back. I got settled in a new job, new friends, and a new relationship. Even after all of this I haven’t been able to figure out why I’m not happy. Until three days ago.
Pride. I was proud of myself for the life that I had built. I moved 1200 km’s away from home right after high school to a big city. I was on the fast track to a strong career in a competitive field. I had a brand new car, paid all my bills on time, and was saving to buy a house. I was independent, reliable, strong, caring, and had a really great outlook on the world. Not many people can say that at 22.
All of that was ruined by a six-month “whirlwind romance.” I’m no longer proud of myself. I feel like I have failed because I came back home with my “tail between my legs” to my mommy. I no longer have a new car because it was repossessed as soon as I got back here. I am jaded, I don’t trust people easily, and I am no longer as strong as the face I put on the outside. I’ve gained weight because deep down I just don’t care anymore. My career is now on a plateau due to the location where I live. I don’t have one reason to be proud of myself right now.
How do I get my pride back when I know what happened? I want to feel proud of myself for my life but I just have zero idea where to start. I’ve thought about moving away again, but I don’t really know if that’s the answer. How can I be proud of what has happened in my life? I’m really honestly just so ashamed.
Donna Andersen responds
Dear LadyA,
I am so sorry about your encounter with a sociopath. Although this is not a normal breakup, the good news is that you can recover from the sociopath.
Right now, however, it does not seem that way. Why? I can see two reasons.
The first is that betrayal by a sociopath is a huge emotional injury. In the beginning of your email you said that, after all your reading, you now “fully understand what spaths do and how they do it,” but you don’t feel any better.
Understanding is a critical first step to you to recover from the sociopath. But understanding is an intellectual process, something that you do with your mind. The wound you experienced is also emotional. It needs to be dealt with emotionally.
How do you do that? You allow yourself to feel the pain of the injury.
This means letting yourself cry. Letting yourself scream and wail. Letting yourself experience anger — I’m sure there is anger — perhaps by working it out on a punching bag.
This isn’t pretty, and you probably want to do it privately, because other people often have difficulty being around this. Or, you may have a good therapist who can help you.
One way or another, any bottled up emotion you have within you needs to come out.
Underestimated the injury
Next you wrote that you identified the reason that you’re not happy as “pride.” But it seems like you are regarding pride as something bad, like one of the seven deadly sins.
You had every reason to be proud, because your pride was based on your achievement. And the sociopath took this away from you.
Here is what I think has happened: You have underestimated the scale of the injury, and the severity of the betrayal.
LadyA, you were building a life for yourself. You went out on your own; you started building a career; you were moving forward.
And some manipulative, deceitful parasite, who did something bad enough to end up in jail, ruined it for you.
Not only did he cost you money and hurt your career, he corrupted your outlook on life. You’re jaded; you don’t trust; you don’t care. You are not the young person you once were all because of the sociopath.
Recognize that this was not a normal breakup after all, you had to flee your home, job and friends.
Your life was shattered. Your psyche was deflated. This is a massive shock to your system. It’s no wonder that you are still struggling.
Drain the emotion
So what do you do? In my opinion, you do exactly what I suggested earlier — allow yourself to feel the pain now, knowing that the pain is bigger than you originally thought.
So you cry. You stomp. You imagine him standing in front of you and yell at him. (Do not, however, attempt to confront him in person. This would be counterproductive.)
The idea is to drain off the negative emotion.
As you drain the emotion, a void will be created within you. It’s very important to fill that void with joy.
This may sound preposterous to you, like you have no reason to be joyful. But don’t look at the totality of your life right how.
Do any small thing that makes you happy: Go for a walk. Play with your pets. Have lunch with a friend. Listen to music.
To recover from the sociopath, it may require many rounds of draining off the negative and replacing it with positive. But with time, you’ll find that your entire outlook will change, and you’ll be able to get back on track.
Importantly, with the wisdom you gained through this experience, you’ll never fall for a sociopath again.
Lovefraud originally published this article on May 12, 2014.
High school boyfriend pursues her, then abuses her
Hanalei
Love the new name you have to me. Warrior, i just love it. That’s exactly how I feel, like a gladiator. I survived his battle and I came out so empowered. I am glad if my story can be inspiration to some of you here.
Taralev
How is everything for you? Hope you are ok.
I woke up feeling gob smacked at the reality of it all.
I’m not sure whether I’m disappointed that I didn’t listen to my instincts as these thoughts of what was really going on, were there right in front of me and now the puzzle pieces fit together perfectly or was I really blind to it all? I’m shaking my head, at myself, as I write this. Wow! I’m truly gob smacked!
Last night his texts had the accusative tone about the disconnection of the phone (I warned him to take over the bills I paid in my departure letter and gave him notice as to when this would happen) he is treating me like I’m the one that has done the wrong thing without paying any attention to what he did and he’s doing. Like he’s throwing off blame to avoid detection or throwing off blame devoid of guilt. No wonder I was so confused during those 14 years!
If I look back now, over the past 6 years, I can see that all he really wanted was for me to leave the house so he could have the opportunity to own it. Those actions now make sense. He secretly wanted out the whole time yet his words sang a different tune – all to look good in everyone’s eyes!
I also discovered that I had people following me on Facebook that he works with. They aren’t my friends! I thought I was the tech head! They no longer can….
I know I should see this as a blessing because I finally know the whole truth but it still hurts…
ironic, hang in there. As more things come to light and more realizations sink in, yes, you will continue to feel gob smacked. Keep in mind that none of this is new stuff, just stuff you didn’t fully know (or know at all), and it will keep hitting you for awhile. The crap you will find out was happening all along, you just didn’t know it until now.
It’s not happening anymore, and you are safe.
This is a time of clarity, and for sure it hurts like hell. Stay strong.
Hanaleimoom
Wise words my sweet – thank you! I feel better already and I’ll now keep that in mind as new information comes to light.
I’m also starting to get a sense of the war that is coming but feeling like I’m changing to battle ready state. I’m donning my amour, I’m standing taller and my demeanor has determination 🙂
need some good vibes sent my way
prayer if you’re so inclined
ive lost my way
and im so tired
Ain’t — sorry I didn’t see your post, HANG IN THERE, prayers coming your way.
Do you know your musicals?
When you walk through a storm, keep your head up high!
And don’t be afraid of the dark.
At the end of the storm is a golden sky
And the sweet silver song of a lark.
Walk on through the wind, walk on through the rain
Though your dreams be tossed and torn.
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart
And you’ll never walk alone
You’ll never walk alone.
I don’t even think I’m afraid of walking alone. I’m tired of it maybe. But being alone isn’t it now. I’m sooooooo overwhelmed. And so paralyzed. And so, therefore, useless.
So tired of crisis. Bonetired. My kids can’t live like this anymore. It’s been a year I’ve been pretty incapacitated. I was for several months before leaving 9 mos ago.
I have got to get centered and STAY centered and able to function.
I’m been looking at Melanie Evans’ stuff and thinking I should just screw the debt I have accumulated in the last few mos before earning an income again and buy her one program. What’s more late fees and interest…sigh
aint, is the program an expensive one? I’ve wondered.
Aintgonnatakeitnomore
Me too! Just blow it and make the life I want…then I worry what’s around the corner and will I afford it when I need it? Just another consequence of the marriage to the spath…
Hi all
How strange this page has been…I haven’t received a notification from LF for two days and figured everyone was quiet and nothing to say…suddenly the last five minutes I got 5 notifications of new posts?? Did something happen to the website I wasn’t aware of?
Naw, I think everyone was just pulling themselves along until Friday Night, now they’re trying to “come back to life” — like a packet of Jello after the hot water’s put in, lol.
It was weird I suddenly got all these notifications at one time. It’s magic hour it seems
I thought the same thing but keep checking my emails but my girlfriend and I moved 10ton of plants yesterday so I didn’t have the energy or brain capacity to post responses until this morning. So you can all blame me for breaking the silence haha 😉
Phew 🙂 thank god there’s now life to LF!
Janedoe
Haha me too! Song lyrics;
I’m addicted to you
I’m hooked on your love,
like a powerful drug
I can’t get enough of… 🙂
Ironic
That sounds like how I’m feeling at the moment
Sounds like I’m addicted to poison…he’s he sicko and mentally disturbed yet I’m the one suffering. F***er!
Janedoe
I ment how I felt about LF…Although I think I’m still addicted to my ex spath as well, the constant monitoring of spyware is telling me that, I am looking to see what he’s up to – sad really but true.
I think everyone just got off work for the weekend!
I’ve had a rough cpl days maybe I can get some perspective on
I will try to explain briefly my situation again sorry to bore everyone 🙂
Have been in a relationship for three years witha man ten years older everything was great. He lived in another country and we managed a few times a year to get in lengthy visits, daily communicAtion through text, Skype, email and phone. So for me it was fine. I always from very beginning noticed he had many social network sites and caught him repeatedly telling women he loved them and wanted to be with them etc…
A year ago he met a young woman from yet another country who is 30 years younger while he was away on a job contract. During his time there he claims they fell in love and were to be married. Communication dropped dramatically during his
Times there. He didn’t answer my messages and when he did they were quite abrasive. He eventually went back to his home claiming the wedding would be taking place a cpl months later. We resumed communicating and he visited me for ten days all the while telling me things were slowing down with this girl. Fast forward to now…and many visits in between which I paid for, he is back in her country for two weeks now, marriage is next wkd and she is pregnant
He made promises right before he was leaving to go there that he and I were to remain together if I wanted but she would be in the picture…at this time he claimed he didn’t know if there was a wedding but he needed to decide what to
Do and fast. He was torn and upset…he got there three weeks ago and I heard nothing until I wrote yesterday. He acted like “hi honey, I’m sorry I guess the things you think about me may be true….you certainly don’t want to continue having
Only part of me? Tell me what you’d like..I’m getting married next wkd I love you and never meant any harm”
I wrote back with all I could think of as to what he’d done in the past year and he responded that “you are hurt and it’s natural to take your anger out on me but if you continue writing long messages I will have to stop this all together, I have too much going on right now…she is pregnant and im going ahead with this. I cant change my intentional harm ive causeed in the past but the future can change. We will be kn touch to communicate intermittently the next cpl wks” Ok yes he was a bit nicer I’m just giving the gist of It.
I reminded him the last year all he did was try to
Convince me that she was an unattractive lowlife, extremely ugly, he showed me pics
Of her which weren’t horrible and when I said that he would say “don’t say good things about her it will make me want to return there”
This is a 60 year old with a 30 year
Old and he has moved from his country to hers and lives with her parents. Basically what I’m saying is he is a sociopath compulsive liar who made me believe he was not interested in being with her and for one year made numerous visits here the last being in April and until three weeks ago, she meant dirt to him…phew ok I feel better a bit. Thanks everyone 🙂
Janedoe
He’s a c-word! Sorry if that offends some people but I’m feeling your pain and thats the space I’m in at the moment.
I hate being conned and your spath is an expert con artist! I’m so angry for you and wish I could turn back time with the knowledge we have now but sadly it doesn’t work that way…
I’m sending you love support and a whole lot of cuddles ♥
me too, janedoe!
Ironic
I’ve been crying on and off all day with the news and now again but a good cry with your post xx
I’m not sure I read about your story and what’s happening at the moment could you remind me pls? 💕
Janedoe
Oh boy where would I start! The *ssh**e does something every couple of days to incite my anger towards him.
Can’t believe I lived like this for so long…
Off to shops to replace some of the things I miss or left and hopefully that will make me feel better in the short term – I wish you sparkle baby xxx
No contact
Thanks so much! I missed these
Posts the past couple days and I needed it too
So glad to meet such nice people 🙂
Jane Doe,
You are going through the trauma of a discard. It’s a bad time when you realize your were deceived and betrayed and everything you relied on and thought was true, was not. It is a lot to grieve, and unbelievably painful.
I am so sorry for your pain. Prayers that you will get through it as best as possible.
AnnettePK
thanks so much for your strong words
I hate him and am trying to find things I can grasp at to remain in that thinking…but I admit I get overwhelmed with the good thought (even though I didn’t know it was lies) and I sometimes will cry…I hope there is a hatred stage because it sure would help 🙂
Anything you feel is a valid stage of feeling. Your feelings, your pain, your hatred, your disbelief, your anguish, your frustration, and whatever else you feel, are right and normal responses to traumatic abuse and evil and someone who has wrongly harmed you. The good memories are your right and normal and loving and positive responses to his deception. You didn’t know it was deception. You loved and committed yourself to the person he said he was. he committed fraud against you, among other wrongs.
Janedoe
When you move past hatred to anger then you’re on the home stretch babe – hang in there because it will happen one day x
Ironic
I feel it
Coming…it’s on the way I know it lol
Janedoe
You’re my hero!
I found something interesting :
Adultery in all of its involvements is always traced to satan and his hosts. In adultery, it’s the ultimate sin, as it involves the whole man, spirit, soul and body. This sin voids any claim of belonging to Christ , it confirms the person is nothing more than a vassal of the devil. Unlike Jesus, who declared satan had “nothing” in him, the fornicator now has something in him which Satan can work-a sin so easily besets.
The exclusion from Christ is to remain in place until such time he repents, and is clearly recovered from the snare of the devil.
With sociopaths it just does not happen, they remain under satans control. This is why you will never hear an apology or explanation from them.
Kaya48
I also believe they will go on to repeat this persona in each and every reincarnation because they will die believing they were perfect – there is no centre of reference when it comes to accountability…the devil has their soul for eternity…
But we children of God will learn to recognize that energy in our next life because we are ever evolving beings.
kaya, we haven’t heard from taralav for quite a while. I don’t like it.
I was thinking the same thing this evening. Wish we could ‘check on’ her someway, to see if all is ok.
Annette- Hanalei-
Perhaps Donna will check on her for you.
Joyce
It’s a thought, but maybe beyond the scope of this blog?
I’ve seen sexual sin mentioned as the sin that involves the soul also so it’s worse for the sinner but sinning against a child seems to carry extra consequence.
Really though, there are no grades of sin, thinking a lustful thot is as committing the act, Jesus says. Telling “a lil white lie” will put you in hell with as much finality as torturing a child to death.
The Law is called a harsh taskmaster but really it’s a blinking neon sign pointing out this is why you need Christ. You can never keep your righteousness. It’s given to you when repent.
The spath won’t.
Aintgonnatakeitnomore
I understand what you mean but I can’t believe that I would be judged for my lessons. I like to think We were given free will to experience what is going to help us make choices, that God does not judge as he doesn’t want us to either (as hard as that is….) so it’s easier for me to believe that some souls belong to the devil.
Well, it is given to man to die once and then the judgement, so it’s pretty much a shoe in that God certainly judges. As we should too…we are to be gentle as doves but wise as serpents, ascertaining all the time that is.
Then again, maybe you mean condemn. Just as a human judge does not condemn a man, he simply applies established law, the natural consequence. So God the Father simply allows the natural consequence when the fool lets himself be led about by the ring in his nose that sin put there. The Father’s will is that none should perish, but if a man insists on going to hell, He stands aside and let’s the fool run pell-mell the rest of the way. Condemnation is always self initiated, we know; and self fulfilled in the end. We condemn ourselves sufficiently ourselves. We need no hangman. God is righteous but He is love also.
Aint
Again I value your beliefs but they really don’t make sense to me as mine are different – not bett just different. My friend always says “whatever floats your boat!” 🙂
Your points are supported by Biblical teachings. The Bible says not to judge meaning not to condemn others, but we are instructed to discern others by the results of their actions. Spaths who fake being religious will pull the ‘don’t judge’ card to try to manipulate their victims not to discern that they are doing wrong and hurting people.
Aint
Now that makes sense – thanks for the translation. I haven’t had my head on straight this week but after this mornings revelations from the spyware I’ve turned a corner. I went from furious to anger to warrior all in one day. Now that my warrior is switched on the spath doesn’t stand a chance but on a positive note, it has heightened my senses so my brain is now working properly and I’m wide awake for the first time in years!
I’m out of routine, my comfort zone seriously lacks comfort! I’ve moved from the luxury of a house that I spent all my money making it a home. My beautiful tropical gardens I’d spend every spare moment tending to, to what? A flat with a small deck of plants in pots, a “what the hell is that supposed to be” kind of kitchen! I was fully Paleo lifestyle and, if I do say so myself, I really good cook but I can’t cook in the kitchenette I’ve inherited. I’m grateful I’ve been able to move into my sisters house and into a small flat under the house but WTF! This is so unfair! End rant, I’m off to the nursery….
I totally hear you. I eat a type of Paleo and moved into a shelter just about. They are morbidly obese here also and think my eating is NUTS. I often deal with incredibly awful temptations. I can’t even eat grains, mind you. Usually I’m ok but when I’m so sad anyway it’s triple quadruple hard. No one will clean up after themselves either so in the mornings I have to take food laden plates off the table, wipe it down and then take pots with food from last nite also from the stove. Wipe the hardened food off the counters and then I can start thinking about breakfast. It’s like this every every every meal. There are a dozen ppl here and I am the only one cleaning. I think I would like a kitchenette at this point. Of my OWN.
And this sadness is killing me. Being aware of it is enlightening, as to what it really is, but knowledge doesn’t seem to be chasing it away at any rate.
I could never live chronically depressed. It’s too depressing!
Aintgonnatakeitnomore
I’m hearing ya! I can’t think about being depressed because it’s too depressing lol must be the Gemini in me 😉
Thanks so much for making my kitchenette so desirable, I’m now in a state of appreciation. I am saddened by your circumstances, here you are taking responsibility for yourself, your health and well being and safety while taking crap from people that sound like they wouldn’t unless someone did it for them….
I pray you win the lottery and you have your dream home and life ASAP!
Aw I didn’t mean to make u feel bad for me. My choices have led to my present.
But I’m glad u appreciate ur present now. That’s all I wanted to make u do 🙂
You did aint
Now it’s your turn xxx
aw, ironic, here is a big hug, wish it could be more: (__)
I’m so sorry about the loss of your home, gardens, and dreams. It IS unfair, but I’m grateful for your sister’s house too, “it could be worse.”
Oh way worse nocontact! Just reading someone else’s story makes me feel blessed. Thanks for the hug xxx
ironic, I know exactly how you are feeling, since I feel the same way. My dream home had my dream kitchen (not extravagant, just to me, what makes a dream kitchen) and in my rental (though I know others would be overjoyed to have it) I have one of those kitchens that look like someone put in some counters in a corner of a room just to have a kitchen. “Open concept” my ass. My cooking and eating habits have slipped tremendously.
I am an outdoors person and love gardening and this place has a meticulously landscaped little yard that overlooks everyone else’s yard – I can’t practically hear the neighbors pee. Where’s my half acre?!
Yeah. I hear ya. I know I’m (we’re) lucky though. We will persevere and have our own kind of homes again.
Hanaleimoom
I nearly cried reading your post. We couldn’t see any houses either but here I can read their newspapers and smell them fart! Bugger! I’ve had to put all my plants on the edge of the small deck to block them from seeing me, I also have to whisper although they are so close I’m sure that makes no difference – they actually probably enjoy listening to me discuss the spath I just left…
My HOME wasn’t an extravaganza of opulence but it was everything I wanted and needed – I was happy to stay there for the rest of my life…sad face…
I really shouldn’t whinge though. Aintgonnatakeitnomore is in a far worse situation than I am so I’ll count that asca blessing and know this is the beginning of a whole new story for me to tell – no one would by the last story…haha
Ironic – I felt ashamed of myself after reading aint’s post. 🙁
We all loved our homes and had poured our hearts and souls into them, no matter what they were, they were OURS.
Today I actually skimmed my phone looking at photos of my old kitchen I took before I moved.
On a side note – wth is wrong with people leaving their dogs outside to bark and cry pitifully?! This happens in this neighborhood regularly. I feel so bad for them. If you don’t want your dog/cat/etc. to be a part of your family and you don’t have time to care for them properly, don’t get one! Dang. Pet peeve.
No no no, no shame. It’s my own fault for where I am.
You will get to that place of “your own” where you are comfortable.
I am just being called to stretch here, not be comfortable. I am learning contentment in the midst of chaos…well I’m supposed to be… lol
Hanalei
I too cringed although she doesn’t want us to…
I’m embarrassed to admit that I’m still allowing my ex to control how I feel. I’m still addicted to knowing what he is doing – this spyware is killing me but I can’t make myself stop looking at it…
We each have our demons to slay…
Ironic,
It sounds like you’re torn between wanting to keep up with the details of your ex’s sickening behavior and wanting to move on. For me, those kinds of psychological conflicts take a lot of energy. Cold turkey works well for some people, and making gradual changes works well for some. Consider assessing how much info you need to know to stay safe and to gather info for the investigators. Can you turn records over to them without looking at it, or do you sift through it all and provide them with info they can use? Consider deciding how much time you think is reasonable to spend, even if you decide to spend more time. Focusing on another project or activity will naturally crowd out the time you spend thinking about the ex.
It really has not been much time since you’ve made this major change in your life. It’s realistic that your focus on the ex will lesson gradually over months as you settle into new activities and routines. What happens in court and when is out of your control, and that is a huge influence on keeping the ex in your mind.
AnnettePK
This morning I was still in this space; I’ve seen enough, I’ve reached saturation point and know enough now. I’ve been monitoring his other secret Life for several years now. I understand it’s early days but this has only kept me in his energy.
This evening it’s a whole different story. Because of what I saw today I’m now able to view it as evidence only, I’ve had a complete shift emotionally today and that is probably what I was waiting for the whole time. I’m going to make sure that he goes to jail so I’ll be watching everything, but from now on its with a different motivation.
Ironic, thanks for sharing the process you’re going through. Now that you’re out, you may pass through various emotions and ‘stages’ on the path to getting totally free when the time comes. Court cases can take a long time, and that could keep you connected for awhile.
Your situation is different than those of us who are just left with loss and grief and nothing we have to do involving the ex. You have a job to do.
Hanaleimoon
I wish for you things get better and soon. We will have everything back with time and we don’t need those as*****es to help us get that
Thanks janedoe! I’m just having a poopy day today. I live alone, don’t have/can’t find a job, distanced myself from my only local friend, have some family drama and can slip into the poop if I don’t force myself to keep moving.
I should have gone to the gym today and worn myself out but let inertia get the best of me. I know better.
Hanalei moon
I hear you all the way…even our closest friends do not comprehend what we feel. I’m the same. I do not discuss with anyone especially since they will all say they warned me from beginning
I’m having a poopy day as well…everything good will
Come to you all at once 🙂
Ironic
I feel for you that’s really unfortunate. I find this situation strips us down to practically nothing. Something that you loved to
Do is taken away as well something that would give you piece of mind and let you relax your mind…so f****ing unfair
Janedoe
Ditto!
Hanalei
I totally agree. We have not heard from Taralev in more than a week. I hope she is ok. It worries me that she does not post at all anymore.
With these evil monsters you just never know. Thinking back now I think my ex enjoyed it when I was hospitalized with high blood pressure. It have me more freedom to see his minions. Yuck. For me thinking about those times I feel disgusted.
How are you doing Hanalei ? I noticed many of us miss our homes, our houses. Its a sad consequence of their actions that we have to “down grade” our living standards while they continue their lives.
Very sad Kaya48…
I do hope that taralav has found some excitement to be caught up in?
kaya, I worry that she let him back into her life – it seemed to me that she might have done that given half the chance.
No judgement, as I myself took my ex back after many mini-discards before it stuck. I just hope that she is ok.
I was thinking the same. If so, it will be a learning experience and part of her journey. I pray that she won’t be more hurt.
Yes, I also thought this was the house I was going to live in “forever”. Not only did he take it away from me,he took it away from his son. One day this house would have been my sons.
I think losing the home was worse than him discarding me. But I am confident that we all will have homes again. Beautiful houses, where there is truth and peace instead of pain and turmoil. My former house was my dream home. But how can it be my dream home when it held so many lies, so many betrayals , so many tears ?
Yes, I gave up my house but in return I received my freedom and peace. I still believe it was a good trade. It is not meant to be like that but given the circumstances I escaped hell. And I sure don’t want to ever go back.
Kaya48
Taking the house from you and your son hs hopefully shown your son exactly what his father is capable of doing and what kind of person he is
In all due time everyone will get back what they deserve and it will be a new beginning without the turmoil that its caused in the past
All the money jn the world is nothing compared to our peace and sanity 🙂
Kaya48
You are right – how can it be the dream home when it held so many lies…