By Joyce Alexander, RNP (retired)
The Italian cruise ship Costa Concordia wrecked a few days ago and early reports said that it had hit some rocks. Quickly though, reports came out that the captain, Francesco Schettino, had driven the ship closer than normal to those rocks on the way out of port in order to show off the ship to the residents. An article from the New York Times gives more details.
More bodies found on ship, as transcripts reveal rebuke to captain
Interviews from some of the over 4,020 passengers of the liner stated in news reports that it was “like the Titanic.”
Only shortly after the shipwreck it was determined that the captain had left the ship early on, and also that he had been seen drinking on the bridge with a young, attractive woman at the time of the crash, and that he had been drinking at dinner before the crash. This indicates to me that the man may have been drunk at the time he made the decision to go closer than was safe to the reef.
Rescue crews had reportedly told the captain to “go back to the ship” and at that time they were in command with the authority to demand that he return. He didn’t return and was subsequently branded a “coward,” as well as taken into custody by authorities for not doing his duty in the time of the wreck. I have a feeling this man’s professional life as a sailor is over, and that he will become an international pariah.
Videos taken showed the passengers lined up, going down the side of the overturned boat on one rope, like a line of ants going to a food source.
The captain finally came up with a story that he somehow believed would show that he was not at fault for leaving the ship early (excuse me if I laugh). He said he had “accidentally fallen into a lifeboat while trying to help rescue efforts.” This single statement, to me, branded the man a psychopath. Dr. Robert Hare said in his book, Without Conscience, that the psychopath’s brain doesn’t work like other brains when it comes to lies. They will tell a lie when there is evidence to show it is a lie right in front of them, they will tell a lie that is so unbelievable that no one would believe it, but they do not “get it” that their lie is totally unbelievable.
Of course a psychopath would also put his own well-being above those of his responsibility, such as the passengers, and would desert a sinking boat on the first available lifeboat. Capt. Schettino leaving first, by itself, would not brand someone a psychopath, when maybe they would only be a coward, or so terrorized that he became unglued and deserted the sinking ship. But being told to “get back on the ship!” and refusing to do so does seem to indicate that he was either totally unglued or had no concern for the passengers.
The other things that the captain did that were irresponsible, like drinking at dinner, and drinking at the time of the crash with the rocks, and steering the boat close to the rocks so that he could show off, all of those things might have just been a day of poor judgment, and would not necessarily make me brand someone with the term psychopath. But those things, in concert with the unbelievable lie, make me think that this man has not only no conscience, but that his brain is unable to distinguish a believable lie from one that is so unbelievable that only a psychopath would tell it.
I’m not sure that there is a lie that would be believable or that would not damn any captain who deserted his ship like Capt. Schettino did. However, a man who was not a psychopath, who had simply panicked and deserted his ship, who otherwise had a moral compass, would show some remorse for what he had done. He would at least show some shame at having failed in a pivotal moment in his life, in which he should have showed some courage and concern for the more than 4,000 lives in his charge.
I think that anyone can “fail” in a moment of horrible terror, in combat or accident. The overwhelming terror of something like a ship capsizing, the panic of the passengers, and possibly also the man being drunk, could account for him deserting the ship early and refusing to do his duty, or letting go of his responsibility. But the unbelievable lie is the one thing, that taken with all the others, that makes me think this man is truly a psychopath.
Here’s another article about the captain by a former commander of the U.S. Coast Guard on CNN.com:
Darwin’s mom
I was hoping someone would come in and interpret it. Many thanks. I still have the website you posted.
I used to have a great dream reference book that gave these kind if symbolic interpretations but it went missing along with a few things that were precious to me.
My son got me a new one for Christmas but it is terrible. Supersticious and could really scare you with it’s interpretations. Doomed in some.
It’s just like watching a good movie. You made me laugh.
STJ
xxx
Dear Sharing,
My plans for the future hold the same alignment as yours do. The further I get away from my ex, the more I realize that I do not want to marry again or live with another man. The freedom I am now allowed is a wonderful thing and I know if I were to live with someone else I would fall right back into the caregiver role. I’d be working as much as the person I am with but take on the bulk of the laundry, meals, etc. I think it’s just part of who I am and probably why I was in a caregiver role to an extreme with my Mom as well….though no regrets there. I’ve definitely had enough of making sure everyone has clean clothes, meals they enjoy, and a clean, inviting home. The more time I spend living alone, the more I like it. This past week I’ve made a conscious effort to get out more and be more involved in life and am feeling much better. Sure do like that when I come home it is to MY own space……and my cat’s. 🙂
Rgarding sleep and spaths, I believe I mentioned already that mine never had a problem sleeping. It was like flipping a switch. An interesting thing for me though is the last 4 or 5 years we were together I could NOT stay in the same bed and stay asleep for more than half an hour at a time. Sometimes it was actual physical pain that would keep me awake. I’d change locations within the house and I’d sleep just fine. Personally I believe my sub-conscious was working away and was fully aware that my ex is a dangerous man.
You stay safe too, STJ.
Be well.
~New
New
I am finding it actually quite fun being on my own. Kids are doing there own thing now and I have very little to do except be there when they need me.
I am also exploring my options with just me to consider and like you I may fall into that caregiver role too easy. I just can’t be bothered with the work to change me, with someone else living with me. Too much effort.
I’l just content myself with caring for me. Sounds good. I have my wee dog and two cats who just love me for who I am.
Last week a pop up came on my PC about Match.com or one of them. For curiosity I looked at the men in my area. NOT one stood out to me of the whole 175 listed. It was quite a weird experience cos the last time I looked around at men I was in my teens. Surreal.
They all looked so old 50’sh. I went in to view the women of this age and they looked great. The times sure have changed.
Anyway enough of that nonsense.
We’ll get there New-After the Great Escape we both are just starting to find our way and see the benefits-we were with them a long time.
Stay strong and safe
STJ
xxx
Sharing the journey,
The internet dating sites are nothing more than sewers for the trolls to look for innocent victims in….they are the “happy hunting grounds” for psychopaths. There is the RARE case of someone finding “true love” on an internet site, but for the most part, they are just psychopaths finding newer victims. It is a shame and would be nice if it were not so but unfortunately it is.
Doesn’t matter if it is a Christian dating site or Match.com…same story.
OXY
I can believe that and truly believe me when I say I am not interested at all.
It was just that I learned that men my age don’t appeal to me and I am not interested in a toy boy.
So it really confirms my status as a bachelorette.
But great points.
Take care
STJ
xxx
Share,
“The Great Escape”, I love it! So grateful to be free. 🙂
~New
The truth is that “older” women have less chance of finding someone in our culture than men. There are many more single women “that age” than there are men, and men can choose from women 10-15 years younger than them, women therefore have to choose from the men 10-15 years older than them in order to “score.” So at my age, 65, that means I have to look at dating men from 65-80, with more toward the higher end of the scale. Well, men who are 80 are generally not great bets because of health issues if nothing else and I’m not interested in finding someone to take care of 24/7, LOL
Men my age are generally for the most part rejects any way….drunks, financially irresponsible, would be party boys, etc. so there aren’t many of the “available ones” that I would be interested in in the first place. I’ve only dated a couple of guys for a couple of dates (since the P-BF) before I realized they were irresponsible or not the kind of person I would be interested in at all. I’ve looked around at several and thought, NOOOOO WAY JOSE! I can’t see them adding to my life at all.
If someone came along that I thought would ADD to my life, then I might be interested, but I’m not going to hold my breath, or let my own happiness depend on it. My life is what I make it.
Right on, Oxy! 🙂
New and Oxy
I have the theme from the ‘Great escape’ as my ringtone on my phone.
Oxy
So true-I was never a one for chasing the boys when I was young and I’m sure not going to start now. I had the dream of one life partner. Not going to happen and I have accepted that.
I think we are the rejectors of the rejects LOL
Take care
STJ
xxx
Darwin’s mom,
that’s a great interpretation of that STJ’s dream!
STJ, your grandmother had the key to wisdom? As you struggle to escape the spath, your innocence is getting more and more tattered. That is such a powerful dream!