A few weeks ago, Lovefraud published a letter from “Kay” —This was all about him and all about what he needed. Kay has written again, with Part 2 of her story.
It’s Kay, I am back with more memories I uncovered which were hidden in my subconscious about this sociopath. I hope this helps Lovefraud readers once again. I have taken the time to re-read some of his emails, all of them actually, trying to piece together an otherwise really, really Long Lie which consumed one-and-a-half years of my life.
Here is one of his emails where he LIES about everything he feels… WARNING — There are TRIGGERS here. I am sure you some of you have heard some or all of this before….
Like I told you the other day I don’t know what it is about you that drives me crazy.. And I don’t want to know.. I just never want it to end.. I love the way you make me feel.. You bring happiness to my life and peace to my soul.. In you I have found my destiny.. My joy.. My love of my life… My bestfriend.. My lover.. My everything.. Your love makes me feel like I’m on top of the world… You are like a drug to me… I can’t get enough of you and your love… I now understand why you sometimes acted the way you did with me.. Baby I am sorry from the bottom of my heart.. That I did that to us.. I will never take you for granted ever again.. Your my world.. Your my everything… And I live you with all my heart… Your an amazing woman and mother… And you’ll be an amazing wife… And I want to be everything that you need and want and desire in your life for ever and ever… I wouldn’t change anything in my life because it has lead me to you…
I love you baby…
Please note ALL THE ABOVE IS A LIE. There was no veracity to anything said in the above e-mail to me. This was his way of “voicing” what he knew I wanted to hear. I was never his best friend, the love of his life, he apologizes only to do it again, he says he will never take me for granted, he left me three weeks after this email was written. He left me once his ex-wife started to suspect something was going on. He quickly flew the coop. He had no intentions of staying with me ever. I was a pawn in his chess game. Only I was smarter than he counted on. I called him on it.
It has come to surface that he was, in fact, leading his ex-wife and me on at the same time. One of my friends casually drove by his home only to see his former wife’s car there just one week after our relationship was over. She was warned. We took the time to warn her. Anonymously, but we did. She is well aware of this behavior and continues to return to this relationship. He is her problem now. I have moved on but continue to heal from this lie. It was a really long lie that I believed. The whole relationship was a lie. I have always taken great pride in my intelligence but I was fooled.
The longer you stay, the longer the lie lives. Delete yourself from the lie.
I share this with you because strength comes with knowledge of the damage these sociopaths can cause. We believe the lies. I believed everything he said to me. Everything.
Hens;
You should call Billy the Exterminator! That guy kills me…
behind_blue_eyes, I remember telling my best friend who used to work where I worked … and knows all the players in the saga of my lawsuit with my bosses. “I hope I don’t get cancer due to all the stress these arrogant airheads are forcing in my direction”. The worst part about where I worked and who my bosses were is that they had access to all the latest info on health issues … aka what causes stress and what stress does to the human body! To me, that’s criminal for them to use this knowledge. But, of course my attorney (who sold me out) didn’t mention this fact to the judge who didn’t want to hear my case (at least that’s what my sold out attorney kept telling me). They actually sent an e-mail around to all where I worked regarding the latest stress motivators. I brought a copy of this e-mail to my attorney … to prove they knew what they were doing to me. I’m sure he deep sixed it as soon as I left his office (the slime).
If I pick up the slightest notion that someone is evil these days … I just walk away. No answers necessary on my part to give to anyone who doesn’t agree with my decision to act like a tree … and leave.
Since I have cleaned out my rolodex of the “fake friends” and others I used to hang out with, I try to spend more time keeping in contact with and fostering the close and good friendships I do have. It is important to me to keep close to those people.
If not visiting, then by phone and e mail. The good relationships in our lives should be fostered and nourished as much as the bad ones should be discarded. It isn’t the number of relationships we have, but the QUALITY of them.
hens….that’s so good you got the injection….hope you are feeling comfortable. It was like reading a comic the way things happened ..I was on the deck laughing and that’s because I have ‘cabin fever’ and need to get out more!! I’d say Harley was looking at you going…wtf…ha ha…no I would not be laughing if it was me…no sireee bob!!!
oh and hens….the sting of being bitten by a spath is THE single most excrutiating experience…mind, body and soul…talk about it more…I would like to hear your story..you can never talk about these spaths too much and everytime you do …you shed them off your psyche….leaving room for a new person
Henry, did he give you an Rx for some epi pens or something for next time?
Glad you did go to the clinic this a.m. though. Keep putting ice on it and elevate it as much as you can. That will help both with the swelling and the pain. and some ibuprophen if you can take it will help too. (anti-inflammatory) but take with FOOD…
Gosh I hate those things…I had the allergy shots for them years ago, but you can’t take them and pollen allergy shots at the same time, so I quit them and went to the other shots for several years. Only lately I have been stung once a year for last 3-4 years and it started to swell a little worse each time….but never as bad as it use’ta be but I don’t take chances. Keep epi handy and take cortisone immediately—-(I can’t take the benadryl for other reasons) it is NOT something to mess around with though.
I don’t want to have to adopt your three weiner dogs cause I don’t have any place for a dog door and it would drive me crazy opening the door for 4 dogs, one is enough! LOL So protect your health!!!!
Hens, Ouch! Glad you are feeling better! My poor Golden retriever picked up a honeycomb when she was just a pup, but too big for me to carry around. She was stung all over head face and neck, and she swelled up like a balloon, vomited, and passed out on the street while we were walking. We got her to the vet in time, but it was so horrible to see her like that. Take care of yourself.
saggee girl – your poor little puppy passin out …Ox yes he did give me Rx for epi pens, and still taken benadril and been nappin off and on this afternoon, i feel guilty for not working today, like I played hookie but oh well I am the boss..BulletProof I have talked about my story so much I am sick of it..ask Oxy she can tell you all about it…after 2.5 years no contact with the twirp sometimes I think I keep him alive in my head via lovefraud – i would rather read others storys and talk about dog’s and bee’s and harrass OXY..
hens you say:
“after 2.5 years no contact with the twirp sometimes I think I keep him alive in my head via lovefraud”
I hear ya, total respect…xxx
Hens…..what oxy was really tryin to tell ya was…..
Hang from the chandelier by your arms……for two reasons….elevation AND decor. (the balloons will look nice and festive on the chandelier)
I’m glad you went in……and I hope you get some relief from the pain!!!
Cuddle up to the poochies and relax….with NO guilt!!! You need this time to ice, elevate and nappy.
I love Billie the exterminator…..I saw him attack a wasp nest on this old couples front porch….they also infested their eaves. You shoulda seen him with the spray……that’s what I thought of when Chic was advised to do it…..they ran so fast!