A few weeks ago, Lovefraud published a letter from “Kay” —This was all about him and all about what he needed. Kay has written again, with Part 2 of her story.
It’s Kay, I am back with more memories I uncovered which were hidden in my subconscious about this sociopath. I hope this helps Lovefraud readers once again. I have taken the time to re-read some of his emails, all of them actually, trying to piece together an otherwise really, really Long Lie which consumed one-and-a-half years of my life.
Here is one of his emails where he LIES about everything he feels… WARNING — There are TRIGGERS here. I am sure you some of you have heard some or all of this before….
Like I told you the other day I don’t know what it is about you that drives me crazy.. And I don’t want to know.. I just never want it to end.. I love the way you make me feel.. You bring happiness to my life and peace to my soul.. In you I have found my destiny.. My joy.. My love of my life… My bestfriend.. My lover.. My everything.. Your love makes me feel like I’m on top of the world… You are like a drug to me… I can’t get enough of you and your love… I now understand why you sometimes acted the way you did with me.. Baby I am sorry from the bottom of my heart.. That I did that to us.. I will never take you for granted ever again.. Your my world.. Your my everything… And I live you with all my heart… Your an amazing woman and mother… And you’ll be an amazing wife… And I want to be everything that you need and want and desire in your life for ever and ever… I wouldn’t change anything in my life because it has lead me to you…
I love you baby…
Please note ALL THE ABOVE IS A LIE. There was no veracity to anything said in the above e-mail to me. This was his way of “voicing” what he knew I wanted to hear. I was never his best friend, the love of his life, he apologizes only to do it again, he says he will never take me for granted, he left me three weeks after this email was written. He left me once his ex-wife started to suspect something was going on. He quickly flew the coop. He had no intentions of staying with me ever. I was a pawn in his chess game. Only I was smarter than he counted on. I called him on it.
It has come to surface that he was, in fact, leading his ex-wife and me on at the same time. One of my friends casually drove by his home only to see his former wife’s car there just one week after our relationship was over. She was warned. We took the time to warn her. Anonymously, but we did. She is well aware of this behavior and continues to return to this relationship. He is her problem now. I have moved on but continue to heal from this lie. It was a really long lie that I believed. The whole relationship was a lie. I have always taken great pride in my intelligence but I was fooled.
The longer you stay, the longer the lie lives. Delete yourself from the lie.
I share this with you because strength comes with knowledge of the damage these sociopaths can cause. We believe the lies. I believed everything he said to me. Everything.
hens
Hi Rosa = It was a client of mine, a little ole lady named Billie..Ivy on houses is very common around here and it’s very destructive..lol how are you ?
Rosa
I’m fine, Henry.
Ivy is NOT common around here, and I am obviously no landscaper.
I thought juniper was a planet, not a shrub.
Was her name really Billie? Hmmm.
learning
A few weeks ago as I pulled into my driveway, I noticed this big green leafed ivy like stuff growing on my wood fence …I thought for sure it was a bad weed because it even had sticky little hairs on the vine (or something like that) sticking to the fence.
So, I pulled, and I pulled and ripped and more and more kept coming through other side of fence… I was determined to get every last bit of it. Literally had a pile in my driveway…I was so proud when I slashed off the last bit of stubborn weed.
The next morning, my neighbor was beside himself…seems he said, deer must have got into his garden…destroyed his zucchini or squash..honestly dont remember what he said because I was in shock at the conversation I was having!!!! I apologized profusely and said I thought it was a weed of sorts… His wife usually bakes and sends over treats in the winter during storms, etc. but I think I wont be getting any more baked goodies this year 🙂
one/joy_step_at_a_time
learning…well, at least not any zuchinni bread….
buy him a nice plant. gardeners are suckers for perennials. pun intended.
learning
haha…will do one step! Good idea…Ive been hiding in shame and embarrassment – so thats a good way to break the ice!
hens
too funny
Ox Drover
LOL ROTFLMAO CHOKE SNORT, Bawhahahaha!!!! (Breathe Oxy!) Oh, I can’t believe the pulling the squash vine through the hole in the fence…..tooooooo much! I swear you know the humor on here and the belly laughs (especially late at night) is enough to make you have a hernia! I can’t remember laughing so much in my life, I HURT! doggone it guys lighten up before you kill this old lady. LOL
Learning the reason we LOCK OUR CARS this time of year is to keep the neighbors from filling them with SQUASH!!!! Last year I was getting 5 pounds a day off one plant! No lie.
I think the LAUGH THERAPY here is better than anything we could do! We’ve cried together, we’ve signed together and we’ve LAUGHED TOGETHER till we peed our pants! What could be better than that!!!! (in Henry’s case his SIZE 32 pants!)
behind_blue_eyes
I told you guys this is going to get interesting. Let me put a face on it all. I will leave them up for a couple days then delete.
J1 was taken Dec. 1, 2008, a couple of hours before Jamie and I went to dinner. The fence makes an X behind Jamie. My apartment building is right there. It still hurts me to see how sad and tired he looks in this picture.
There are five more and I will explain each.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/boyblue29/
super chic
blue eyes, WTF? haha. I was just reading your post to me, and getting ready to thank you… and poof, here you are!
The Jamie/willie story is frickin’ freaky!! I have to agree with you on that one, I mean, what are the chances? 1 in a billion? A coincidence? How could it be? And the other instances you mentioned do make my head spin!
Your post was interesting, I think that’s what’s missing in my life, A REWARD!!! I guess I’ll have make one for myself. You did give me an idea though… I could go to some meetings, just to get out of the house, I’ll have to figure out which meetings would be good for me, there are a lot of them here, I live in a large city like you do, mine is just on the other coast.
Jamie looks so different in each picture… I mean… from photo to photo I don’t know that I would even know if it was the same person (because I don’t know him, does this make any sense?) of course there is a resemblence, but really a different mood in each photo. I look the same in all my photos. X marks the spot.
Frank Lee Speaking
Something to think about.
“The sadistic person is as dependent on the submissive person as the latter is on the former; neither can live without the other. The difference is only that the sadistic person commands, exploits, hurts, humiliates, and that the masochistic person is commanded, exploited, hurt, humiliated. This is a considerable difference in a realistic sense; in a deeper emotional sense, the difference is not so great as that which they both have in common: fusion without integrity.”
(Erich Fromm (1900-1980), U.S. psychologist. The Art of Loving, ch. 2, Harper & Row (1956).)