LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: How sociopaths twist words and actions

Editor’s note: The following was written by the Lovefraud reader “Rochelle.”

As part of the problem with my particular sociopath, the way they interpret behaviors is not like the rest of us. I have a list of examples:

What you do or say and what the sociopath hears

Expressing an opinion or feeling = ranting and anger issues.

Getting angry when he belittles and talks down to me = raging and anger issues.

Doing things for my husband and stepdaughter = I must have an ulterior motive.

Saying I like something in a shop window or magazine = me trying to manipulate him into buying me something.

Crying because I am hurting = drama queen.

Me asking him not to bring up a topic while out with friends = me being controlling.

Taking my husband to the hospital after he filed for divorce behind my back and then taking care of him afterward = me trying to get a better settlement out of him.

Changing my mind on something = hypocrisy.

His unfriending his sisters on Facebook = I can’t stand to hear that I am wrong and will give up my sisters to prove my point.

His being married 4 times = he made the wrong choices and did nothing wrong.

Having a female coworker as his best friend instead of his wife = this woman means more to me than you do.

Direct depositing my own money into my own account = stealing.

Going away for a family wedding and not staying at the hotel with the family because he SWORE I was there = paranoia. I was in another state the entire time.

Not doing things exactly the way he would = me being wrong.

Not liking being controlled by him his female coworker = me being wrong.

Me wanting sex once a week = me being a nymphomaniac.

Me buying a sandwich for lunch = me overspending.

Me loving my husband, washing his clothes, cleaning his house, cooking his meals, being supportive in all aspects of his life = I am beneath him and him not having the ability to show how appreciative he is.

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Glad you’ve decided against using internet sites to find love.The best way to get to know someone is face-to-face,and taking your time.
If they try to rush the relationship,that’s not a good sign.Could just be a sign of immaturity,but get to know the red flags of dating!
Don’t date someone who doesn’t respect your feelings!Someone mentioned here in one of their posts that one should look at a date and consider if that person would be good enough for your friend.If not,they’re not good enough for you!

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