Editor’s note: The following was written by the Lovefraud reader “Rochelle.”
As part of the problem with my particular sociopath, the way they interpret behaviors is not like the rest of us. I have a list of examples:
What you do or say and what the sociopath hears
Expressing an opinion or feeling = ranting and anger issues.
Getting angry when he belittles and talks down to me = raging and anger issues.
Doing things for my husband and stepdaughter = I must have an ulterior motive.
Saying I like something in a shop window or magazine = me trying to manipulate him into buying me something.
Crying because I am hurting = drama queen.
Me asking him not to bring up a topic while out with friends = me being controlling.
Taking my husband to the hospital after he filed for divorce behind my back and then taking care of him afterward = me trying to get a better settlement out of him.
Changing my mind on something = hypocrisy.
His unfriending his sisters on Facebook = I can’t stand to hear that I am wrong and will give up my sisters to prove my point.
His being married 4 times = he made the wrong choices and did nothing wrong.
Having a female coworker as his best friend instead of his wife = this woman means more to me than you do.
Direct depositing my own money into my own account = stealing.
Going away for a family wedding and not staying at the hotel with the family because he SWORE I was there = paranoia. I was in another state the entire time.
Not doing things exactly the way he would = me being wrong.
Not liking being controlled by him his female coworker = me being wrong.
Me wanting sex once a week = me being a nymphomaniac.
Me buying a sandwich for lunch = me overspending.
Me loving my husband, washing his clothes, cleaning his house, cooking his meals, being supportive in all aspects of his life = I am beneath him and him not having the ability to show how appreciative he is.
Blue, yes…..we were ripe for the picking. Low hanging fruit as they say. 🙁
Sucks to be us. Still…….it’s no different in a way that mugging elderly people or sexually abusing children. Just because someone “”” lets””” you abuse them doesn’t make it right.
Spot on Dororthy2, Let us grow to be “top apples” !!!
I will e-m D. Anderson today, see if we can chat : )
Hugs to you too Dorothy!
Blue
The site, I just googled “psychopathyawareness.blog”
and there it was. Early, it talks about the movie 9 1/2 weeks…very disturbing, but accurate….how they hook us. Beware trait of unfufilled “desire”..inroad for them : (
Blue
Blue:
” I don’t want any drama—means, “when I bring on drama and start the de-value phase, I do not want to see any emotional upset from you. I expect you to take your poison and abuse with levity and a smile on your face!!! If you act upset, then you will no longer be good supply, which will piss me off.” LOLOLOLOL”
Levity and a smile!!! Good one! Yes, always remember that they like you better when you are smiling……with blood dripping from between your teeth and out of your shattered heart.
ALWAYS……when my heart would be shattered from the latest episode, he would say, Im sorry you are so angry with me. That was his version of an apology. I’m sorry YOU are so angry with me = damn it She looks hot when shes sobbing and wreathing in emotional pain. I wish she wouldn’t do that though, she knows how horney it makes me and she never puts out when she’s like this. Ill have to wait for at least a couple hours and think of some line of bull sh-t to suck her back in so I can get a BJ. My attention span isn’t long enough to keep this image of her sobbing and wreathing in emotional pain alive though………what a dilemma. See how she is?
Blue, I went to that site early on in Spath research. It takes on a whole new meaning now!! Kind of interesting how that happens. It’s like I’ve read it before but I’ve never READ it before. I guess it was just too early on in the process to really ” get it “. I get it now for sure its a must read article….must read over and over and over, rinse and repeat.
Thanks for bringing it back to my awareness !
D
Spath “You know I can’t help being this way.Everybody mistreated me!I took my frustration out on those cats-the ones whose tails I nearly pulled off.”
“You can’t blame anything on me.I’m physically sick-see my medical records?!Besides when I was little my poor brain was euthanized.Poor me!”
Blossom, I’ve been thinking about how intolerable it must be for them to get old or sick or to have limited mobility like yours. It must be so infuriating for them. Mind you my abuser’s father, who killed his step brother’s cat by putting the animal in a washing machine and made the boy sit on a chair watching the cat drown ie he’s also a psychopath, is now elderly and a wheelchair user but has a new wife (5th) in her 20s to wait on him. How? Some keep on picking up victims till the end it seems
Tea Light,
I can certainly see spath doing just that.He thought I would stay with him,doing all that stuff (ewwww!) ’til the end.This Babe got sick of taking care of spath!As I was taking care of him,he was on the phone talking to a woman he nearly married years ago!And yet he would throw it in my face that I liked someone!But I sure never got in contact with that person!
Blossom, well there’s a limit to how much claw clipping and being rolled out of bed a woman can take after all. He can try his charms out on his carers now. Poor them!
Tea Light,
Lessee,if he finds somebody 20 yrs old,she might have some life left to live when he’s done!