Editor’s note: The following was written by the Lovefraud reader “Rochelle.”
As part of the problem with my particular sociopath, the way they interpret behaviors is not like the rest of us. I have a list of examples:
What you do or say and what the sociopath hears
Expressing an opinion or feeling = ranting and anger issues.
Getting angry when he belittles and talks down to me = raging and anger issues.
Doing things for my husband and stepdaughter = I must have an ulterior motive.
Saying I like something in a shop window or magazine = me trying to manipulate him into buying me something.
Crying because I am hurting = drama queen.
Me asking him not to bring up a topic while out with friends = me being controlling.
Taking my husband to the hospital after he filed for divorce behind my back and then taking care of him afterward = me trying to get a better settlement out of him.
Changing my mind on something = hypocrisy.
His unfriending his sisters on Facebook = I can’t stand to hear that I am wrong and will give up my sisters to prove my point.
His being married 4 times = he made the wrong choices and did nothing wrong.
Having a female coworker as his best friend instead of his wife = this woman means more to me than you do.
Direct depositing my own money into my own account = stealing.
Going away for a family wedding and not staying at the hotel with the family because he SWORE I was there = paranoia. I was in another state the entire time.
Not doing things exactly the way he would = me being wrong.
Not liking being controlled by him his female coworker = me being wrong.
Me wanting sex once a week = me being a nymphomaniac.
Me buying a sandwich for lunch = me overspending.
Me loving my husband, washing his clothes, cleaning his house, cooking his meals, being supportive in all aspects of his life = I am beneath him and him not having the ability to show how appreciative he is.
Tea Light
Dot2, (drugs) – lol. I’m just warming up here.
dorothy2
Tea……take the ball and RUN WITH IT! You are killing me!!
dorothy2
Colorado Kathy!! VERY funny stuff! I know it’s not funny but it IS!!
It IS like passing through the looking glass! Maybe they slipped us some LSD or something? Did the polls shift and I missed the news story? OMG it’s unreal!
Tea Light
Dot2, lolling is both our weapon and our shield x
dorothy2
I think it’s just another way to vent. Anger, laughter…..whatever it takes baby!!
This page deserves to be on “The Best Of Love Fraud”.
dorothy2
TeaLight……I have a visual of your Spath x masturbating in his mothers bathrobe that I will NEVER be able to shake. It’s a keeper as I can so easily insert my Spath x into the image. Hurl!!
Tea Light
Dotty, reach for a bowl with ample capacity. He photographed himself wearing the robe in the mirror and emailed it to me. Aww. He could be so tender that way.
raggedy ann
“My two depressed wives disappointed us both very much.”
Oh man does this logic always put me in touch with my inner violent person. Employers can do this too: do great damage and then discard you for being broken.
Tea Light
Raggedy, yup. How dare you break? What are you? A pathetic weakling or something? Urgh weakness and fragility and gentleness= revolting
raggedy ann
TL, it’s also the fact that THEY are responsible for the breaking. In a shop, “you break it, you bought it.” Elsewhere if you break something you are expected to fix it, atone, something… but,
I discarded you because you had such a loser attitude as I was discarding you…
Bleh.