Editor’s note: The following was written by the Lovefraud reader “Rochelle.”
As part of the problem with my particular sociopath, the way they interpret behaviors is not like the rest of us. I have a list of examples:
What you do or say and what the sociopath hears
Expressing an opinion or feeling = ranting and anger issues.
Getting angry when he belittles and talks down to me = raging and anger issues.
Doing things for my husband and stepdaughter = I must have an ulterior motive.
Saying I like something in a shop window or magazine = me trying to manipulate him into buying me something.
Crying because I am hurting = drama queen.
Me asking him not to bring up a topic while out with friends = me being controlling.
Taking my husband to the hospital after he filed for divorce behind my back and then taking care of him afterward = me trying to get a better settlement out of him.
Changing my mind on something = hypocrisy.
His unfriending his sisters on Facebook = I can’t stand to hear that I am wrong and will give up my sisters to prove my point.
His being married 4 times = he made the wrong choices and did nothing wrong.
Having a female coworker as his best friend instead of his wife = this woman means more to me than you do.
Direct depositing my own money into my own account = stealing.
Going away for a family wedding and not staying at the hotel with the family because he SWORE I was there = paranoia. I was in another state the entire time.
Not doing things exactly the way he would = me being wrong.
Not liking being controlled by him his female coworker = me being wrong.
Me wanting sex once a week = me being a nymphomaniac.
Me buying a sandwich for lunch = me overspending.
Me loving my husband, washing his clothes, cleaning his house, cooking his meals, being supportive in all aspects of his life = I am beneath him and him not having the ability to show how appreciative he is.
Dot2 ‘what kind of man takes a picture of himself in his mothers bath robe?!?’ Answer : the kind of man that leads you to LF! 🙂
MiLo, Earth Angel’s Organic Cleaning?! LOL!
Hanelei, ‘He even went so far as to encourage me to devise my own “punishment” when I was out of compliance ‘…it can be so confusing when they alternate the overt abuse with that kind of generosity. Plus he called you sweetheart, that’s….nice. Lol. Hang in there. x
Imarriedit: “Gotta teach the wife everything, don’t I?” Possible response : ”Physician heal thyself, your grammar and syntax are f***ing terrible”. LOL!!
Oh dear. At least we can all share the insanity and have a laugh at their expense. It’s all they are good for. Mocking.
Wow, a list right from the ex-gf – shepath’s playbook!
According to her everything I did had an ulterior motive behind it. According to her, helping others through volunteer or pro-bono work was done so that I could appear to be a martyr.
Hmmmm….The word, the behaviour is PROJECTION.
One thing that she was obsessed with was having other people believe that she was pure and good. Just like the ton of makeup and meticulous attentionm to detail in her dress – she had a mask that had to be maintained. And as far as Star Trek analogies goes — maintaining the ‘mask’ must have consumed so much energy – like the energy required to operate a Klingon cloaking device. And, boy, did that mask fall off in the end! Wow! I did live and survive long enough to see the REAL person that she is.
After 8 months it still leaves a pit in my stomach when I think of the things she did, the games she played. It is all a part of the sociopath’s campaign to REDUCE others to dust.
Tea Light!
Looks like you’ve got the makings of a great screen play that could really be of service to humanity. And, dare I say, a bit amusing, too!
Yeah fixer laugh at my pain why don’t you Mr. Sensitivity here 🙂 x Oh and I have wondered if media types lurk here to pick up ideas. Not a good thought.
Sorry – but what he tried to do through what he wrote to you is laughable – as is the image of the nut dressing up in a woman’s nightgown. I wish that I could have laughed the shepath out of my life. But, I know the pain and illusions that make that hard to do.
Yes, this aspect of human relations contains a gold mine of material for the big and small (TV) screen.
I recently watched The Incredible Mr. Ripley. Good flick.
bath robe! Not night gown. What are you saying fixer, that he was some kind of …wierdo? 🙂 Klingon cloaking device you say? Take that kind of talk to some site where other posters don’t have to google Pi. * blushing with shame here* . Yes, good flick. Good music.
HanaleiMoon, I’m sorry that you’ve been compelled to find this site, and I’m glad that you’ve been reading and decided to post.
Brightest blessings
Te Light-
Oops! It’s The TALENTED MR. Ripley.
Weirdo? Oh, yes so it would seem.
And, it was Truthspeak that made the reference to Klingons, above.
Fixerupper…..yeah…..Klingon.
I’ve heard tell about “The Talented Mr. Ripley” as a suggested view. It’s on my “watch this” list.
The force is very strong with Truthy, Fixer. I would love to mosaic his face and post that photo, but I don’t know how and it’s not allowed anyway, so I shalln’t. But it’s a brown towelling number, nothing flouncy, it’s the fact that it’s his mothers, and this happy little creepy look on his face as he’s wrapped it around himself. Oh God …. I may vom.
TeaLight, the Farce is strong with me! LOLOL
Yeah…..I used to ponder the exspath and his bloated form stuffed into his rubber suits and participating in expensive bondage group events, and my stomach would literally heave.
Today, it’s a source of hilarity. What a pathetic mass of cellular material he is!!! (guffawing)