Editor’s note: The following was written by the Lovefraud reader “Rochelle.”
As part of the problem with my particular sociopath, the way they interpret behaviors is not like the rest of us. I have a list of examples:
What you do or say and what the sociopath hears
Expressing an opinion or feeling = ranting and anger issues.
Getting angry when he belittles and talks down to me = raging and anger issues.
Doing things for my husband and stepdaughter = I must have an ulterior motive.
Saying I like something in a shop window or magazine = me trying to manipulate him into buying me something.
Crying because I am hurting = drama queen.
Me asking him not to bring up a topic while out with friends = me being controlling.
Taking my husband to the hospital after he filed for divorce behind my back and then taking care of him afterward = me trying to get a better settlement out of him.
Changing my mind on something = hypocrisy.
His unfriending his sisters on Facebook = I can’t stand to hear that I am wrong and will give up my sisters to prove my point.
His being married 4 times = he made the wrong choices and did nothing wrong.
Having a female coworker as his best friend instead of his wife = this woman means more to me than you do.
Direct depositing my own money into my own account = stealing.
Going away for a family wedding and not staying at the hotel with the family because he SWORE I was there = paranoia. I was in another state the entire time.
Not doing things exactly the way he would = me being wrong.
Not liking being controlled by him his female coworker = me being wrong.
Me wanting sex once a week = me being a nymphomaniac.
Me buying a sandwich for lunch = me overspending.
Me loving my husband, washing his clothes, cleaning his house, cooking his meals, being supportive in all aspects of his life = I am beneath him and him not having the ability to show how appreciative he is.
Lol I’m loving this thread, just had to join in with one of my own!
My Mum is texting me = My latest internet date is sending me pictures of her bare breasts!
(At least if it wasn’t his latest date, his Mum had very perky breasts for a woman of 78!)
Hahahahaha knowing the um “unusual closeness” some of them have with their mummy, I’d worry he’d got mummy implants , lifegoeson
Well i didn’t see her face……..lol!
😮 !!
I’m just going out to check the car (every night at 10pm – I was so stupid!) = I’m just going to text my latest date/next victim.
The police were round on a routine visit = I threatened your neighbour and they came round to caution me!
I’ve run out of petrol = You have to get out of bed and come and pay my fuel bill!
Abuser “My cultural life and travel is very important to me and I have always wanted an intellectual partner” = Watching ET and channel surfing under a blanket on holiday in a World Heritage Site and flicking through some old copies of Paris Match (like Hello with a smidge of news) his – you guessed it !- mother gave him for the journey.
Abuser: “my mother is a very nice person darling she just wants to make your acquaintance don’t be nervous” = he drives me to a cemetary carpark where his mother passive aggressively arrives 40 minutes late to let me know who runs the show. I’m then escorted to the grave of her dead husband to “say hello”. Possibly the wierdest day of my life.
Tea Light – Lol! Another one of those wtf? moments 🙂