Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
Onestep and Oxy, Well you two have catulted me from the denial stage into the anger stage…..I’m damned pissed there is no Easter bunny. I was so looking forward to seeing him on Sunday. 🙁 LOL.
Seriously, good list, though. Thanks.
Oxy – i finally copied them to a file, ’cause i kept remembering about half of it. LOL
the compilation is important – it’s the ‘list’ of indescriminantly compassionate foolishness that is blah blahed ALL the time – both inside and outside of my head.
i think one of the first ones i got on this journey, is that in fact there is NO functional good in everyone – spaths don’t make the cut. shocking and profound.
next, would be that there are stories that are outright lies and not to be believed or entertained as being valid, just because we want to live in that wishy-washy piece of fantasy.
and lastly – I am not only better than a pyschopath, but also the bully landlord, the douchebag smokers downstairs, and i am coming into believing that i am BETTER than the systems that protect and revere them.
i am also Better Than my father.
exhale.
KIM! OXY
WAS W-R-O-N-G ABOUT THE EASTER BUNNY!!!
🙂
Well even if there is no bunny, there is enough cheap chocolate in THIS house to make it through the year ahead!
I’m not sure Avalon is really gone either – there is magic in the world – some of it happens here……
All of the traditions of this holiday speak beyond the words I can write and I don’t except the chocolate from that either….
(tee hee)
Onestep, Here is a true story for you:
I went white-water rafting a few times, about 20 years ago.
The second time, the water level on the river was very low, so a little more dangerious. The guide told us, that if for some reason one of us should fall out of the raft, undre no circumstances should we try to stand up in the river, because, if we did it would knock us ass over tea cup. Instead, he said to relax, lean back and let the river carry you down stream.
Well, Yep. I fell in. Immeadiatly put my feet down to stand, and rolled over and over down stream. Finally perched on a rock, and was rescued.
My little allegory, here is, You are in the river. Relax, have faith, enjoy the ride.
You’ll find yourself in a better place later.
Remember, Emergence often feels like emergency.
I was not wrong about the easter bunny, I shot that creature as he perched in my garden eating my produce and crapping those funny multicolored tvrds everywhere! I do not believe the story that he brings candy to good little children, or plastic eggs filled with money either! LOL
Last night, had a long, convoluted dream about my P-son as a child, then later in the dream he had grown up, and I faced him, confronted him, in a venue where there were others present, as well as the egg donor came into this secene as it progressed.
Funny thing was, I was NOT UPSET in this dream, not angry, not terrified, not anxious, just REALISTIC AND CALM, just telling it quietly like it is. The dream was NOT a night mare. Not a frustration dream, etc. Not one whose subject matter I would have CHOSEN to dream about, but not distressing either. HUMMMM?
The times I have dreamed dreams in which my egg donor was present were not pleasant dreams at all, in fact more of the nightmare quality, and have not dreamed of P-son in “the flesh” often at all, and if I did, it was nightmareish, but not this time, so maybe that means I have stasrted to make some EMOTIONAL progress (as versus just RATIONAL/LOGICAL progress.)
Silvermoon, Good news. Small amounts of dark chocolate are actually GOOD for you. OH happy day.
Dear guys,
I have “given up chocolate” not only for Lent but I think for life. I am an addict! and I keep ADD-ing to my asrse if I don’t quit the stuff, so am trying deserately to be good and since there are no little children to DAZZLE with Easter traditions, I figured if I “shot” the little chocolate-pushing rabbit that lived around here, I might be SAFE from getting loaded on chocolate again!
I’ve given up cigarettes AND Chocolate and I have a skillet and several guns, so don’t pith me off guys! Just:
1) Agree with everything I say,
2) tell me how wonderful I am
3) don’t mention it if I repeat things a few times
4) don’t mention it if I repeat things several times
5) agree with everything I say
ROTFLMAO ((((hugs)))
Sorry, Ox. I couldn’t hear you. Could you please repeat that?